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my best friend likes who i like. I was gonna ask him to the dance,but my friend told me not to because she liked him to. I dont think its fair because i have liked him longer. Should i tell my friend how i feel and ask him? Please help ASAP!!!!

Hey girlie,

This is always a tough situation, but you have to sit down with your bestie to figure out what to do. It's all about prioritizing - do you want to put your friendship or your crush first? Can you both vow to not talk about the crush/dating so you stay friends while also trying to get what you want? Will you both decide to let him go, or will one of you sacrifice so the other one is happy? These are all personal decisions that you each have to make. Think about your friendship and how much your BFF means to you - then follow your heart and do what you think is best <3

asha0 on 3/31/2012 9:36:12 PM

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I have a few problems/concerns (: Here they are :
1) My "best friend" seems like shes replacing me annd i dont like it ! I trust her and shes my best friend buut shes hanging out with someone i dont like and i feel like shes like leaving me . We usually talk all the time but now she barely txts me and we can barely keep a convo going . Like a few days ago she said i was her best friend , now im ONE of her best friends . Like am i getting jealous ? because she one of the few girls you can actually trust without gossiping ! so idk /: help ?
2) I have a shadow above my lip like theres not really hair but its a shadow and i dont like it at all ! Haha how can i cover it with make up or anything ?!
3) I'm feeling really down right now and like none of my friends are avaliable to talk and i dont know what to do ! I feel terrible and everyone else is having fun with their friends and stuff over break and im at home by myself and i cant really hang out b/ im still on cruthes , how can i make myself feel better and more positive ? (: Thanks Lauren !!

Hey girlie,

1. Unfortunately, it's true - you are getting jealous. That's totally normal, but try to keep it in check. Instead of obsessing about this, try to remind yourself a couple things. First, it's ok to have more than one best friend. In fact, it's healthy! She's just getting to know other people and bonding with other friends over stuff that they have in common. She hasn't gone out and found another YOU - she's just spicing up her life by having all different types of friends. (Don't forget you can meet new people too, by joining new clubs, trying a new lunch table, introducing yourself to a new neighbor, etc.) Second, I know it's a bummer but people grow up. And sometimes when girls grow up, they grow apart. It's nothing that you did or she did - it's just a fact because your interests change, your personalities change, and you surround yourself with different people. It's important to go with the flow and don't freak out over change - change makes the world go round and can be really exciting! Always try to look at the bright side

2. Check this out for tips: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2010/08/28/hair-on-my-upper-lip.aspx I have it too, no sweat!

3. Don't forget you CAN be active about your social life, even on crutches! Reach out to your friends and invite them over to your house (or somewhere accessible with crutches). Enjoy quality time with your family members. Use your break as a time to pick up a new hobby, read new books, see new movies, or pamper yourself and rest. If you're feeling bored, there's 1,000 different things you can do to get yourself UN-bored. Avoid feeling sorry for yourself - that's the worst way to spend your time! Instead, be productive and you'll feel so much better

ilovepiano15 on 3/31/2012 6:26:48 PM

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That's so sweet! I don't have any sisters either, so I totally understand! <33

asha0 on 3/29/2012 11:17:49 PM

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Ok!!! THANK YOU!!!Your great

You're so welcome! Always here for ya!!

asha0 on 3/29/2012 11:15:08 PM

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Thanks alot!!!! Also, do you think its weird that hes in 8th, and im in 6th?

Not at all! Age differences can feel weird at first, and of course we do draw the line if the gap is too big (usually, 3 years is the max). As long as he respects you, doesn't pressure you into doing anything you aren't ready for, and you have a lot in common - you're good!

asha0 on 3/29/2012 11:10:54 PM

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I have a huggggggeee peoblem, i like my best friends brother!!! Lets call him c. He is in 8th grade an di am in 6th tho. I think he MIGHT like me. He always talks to me, and sits by me, i mean really close. One night i stayed th enight with my friend, and c had a friend to. We were sitting on the couch, well i was with c and his friend. And cs friend said that c loved me, then c got up and walked away and didnt say anything. Later, i was on my nook and c came and sat really close to me an dasked alot of questions about what i did an dliked about my nook. Then i was lay on one side of the couch, c was on the other, his feet were touching mine, you know that kindof tingly felling you get when your crush touches you? Well he felt my feet but kepthis there. I have 3 questions. 1) do you think he likes me? 2) shoul di tell his sister that i like him? 3) what should i do???? PLEASE HELP ASAP!!! THANKs

Hey girlie,

It totally sounds like he's dropping hints all over the place! It's possible that he's just a flirty, touchy-feely guy, but these could all be signs that he's feeling some of the same things you are Let some time pass and feel out the situation a little better. If you get to know him even better, you'll learn to "read" his actions even better too. Then after you enjoy your chemistry for a while and think it could be something more, you can chat with your bestie to make sure it isn't super weird for her. There's no way your bestie can't be involved in this situation (sisters don't go away!), so you wanna put your friendship first, after all!

asha0 on 3/29/2012 10:55:24 PM

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I'm back with the boy problems...
So now my BF and I are on OK terms, but the thing is, my friend (a.k.a. the girl who broke us up last summer) has been bugging me about making a move like holding hands, hugging, kissing etc. Problem? He and I are both really shy and it's not like we get to do it in school becase 1, we'd both get busted and 2, Rumors and gossip would fly around faster than you could say 'but'. I don't get to see him a lot on the weekends either. And the other problem is that my friend is being a little hypocritical. She's had 3 boyfriends in the past year, and she's never held their hands, never kissed, and never hugged any of them. Her idea of going out is texting 24/7 and Facebooking. Plus, she wants to ask out this guy from her youth group but can't find the guts to. Can I find a way to tell her to shut up and leave me alone before things get out of hand like last time?!

Hey girlie,

Don't let any friend (or boyfriend) pressure you into doing what doesn't feel right! She's not in this relationship, so she can't decide the pace that you move. The only people who can decide when it's right to hold hands/kiss/hug are YOU and your BF. Stay strong and the next time she says something, tell her "Please let it go. I like him a lot and we'll do all that when we want to. If I want advice, I'll ask for it." Be firm so she knows you mean it! I know it seems hard to stand up to friends, but you can do it without attacking her. Just be honest <3

HelenaPS on 3/29/2012 8:24:32 PM

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OD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD hey so like im adopted and i know my mom and lil half-brother and stuff but here's the thing- my daddy left me when i was born, i was a mistake when my momma was 17, now im with my adoptive "family". My adoptive dad doesn't understand me AT ALL!I just want him OUT of my life! and my adoptive sis is a spoiled brat, she gets everything she want anytime she wants it, not me, they make me EARN it unlike her. my adoptive mom's the only one who understands me.....but she has no idea how much im hurting. ive been kinda like not cutting, but like i scratch my arm and the pain feels good, like i want to cut so badly but i dont cuz i cant go without short sleeves in the spring/summer and scratching is normal so id get away with it. i wanna just act like none of it ever happened, like i hate my real daddy for leaving me, nobody has no idea where he is, i have no idea who he is, but id never ask, my baby half-brother's 5th b-day's tomorrow and we live in diff states so....and i really hate my adoptive fam, but my adoptive mom is the only one who gets me, my humor, and my personality, but we are NOT close, none of my adoptive family's close..... dont u dare tell me to talk bout it cuz i will NEVER speak of it except here cuz now i need to talk to someone who isnt wit me everyday and stuff......i dont ever want anyone to know......plz.......help............

Hey girlie,

Hold onto whatever helps you NOT cut - even if it's something simple like not being able to wear short sleeves in warm weather. Start small, then start reminding yourself of all the bigger reasons why cutting (and even scratching) is bad. People self-harm because the pain feels "good" in the moment - it feels like they're punishing themselves, it makes them feel less numb, it "helps" them deal with their problems. But then what? Then, you cut yourself...and you feel even more sad, even more hopeless, than you did before. Self-harm is NOT an answer to your problem. Instead, focus on the good things in your life. You said your adoptive mom "gets" you - so try to connect with her more. See if you can spend some one-on-one time together, even if it's once a week. It's ok if you don't feel ready to talk about cutting with your family. But that doesn't mean you can't talk to them, period! There's always going to be parts of our lives that aren't perfect. But that doesn't mean we can't focus on the good things, make our lives better, and remember that going through this now will make us stronger in the future. Even the fact that your little sis gets everything she wants will help you - it'll remind you that hard work is important, and that strength and independence do get rewarded. <3 You can get through this!

clem10 on 3/29/2012 7:20:56 PM

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Is there a way you can add people on here...? Sorry I know I may be annoying because I keep asking questions it's just because I'm new on this site and I'm really sorry!

That's ok! You gotta figure all this stuff out somehow, right? We're glad to answer. Unfortunately, at this time we don't have an "add a friend" feature. You can get to know the other GL.com girlies by posting on their profiles, joining clubs and talking, interacting in the article comments, etc.

CassieMassie on 3/18/2012 12:37:46 PM

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I'm only in middle school and there is SOOOO much on my shoulders. First off, last year I found out that I have dyslexia and I have "emotional disturbance". Then, I get my period (hello extra hormones!). My grades are falling...quickly! I'm being made fun of. Boys are drooling. I'm being sexually harassed. My parents fight. I'm recovering from an eating disorder and cutting on my own. My dad can be abusive. I spend no time at my own house because I hate the yelling. I know my family loves me...but...I'm emotional. I don't fit in. I'm nothing like any one else. I can sing...I can act...I can dance...but I can't seem to find my place in this world of wonders. All my ability's are completely opposite of school related things. I think about suicide daily. I cry randomly. I'm lost. Please.Help.Me.Soon.

Hey girlie,

Suicide is NOT the answer, babe! Please please please promise you'll stop cutting and stop abusing yourself to express these emotions. It's a vicious cycle and will only end up making you feel worse. <3 The best thing to do is confide in someone who can help you. If you don't feel support at home, don't worry - your parents aren't the only people who can help you! Talk to a trusted teacher, a counselor at school, a friend's mom, or clergy person at your local church (even if you aren't religious) about what you're going through. Certain things can be fixed on your own (your grades, etc.) but other things, like the eating disorder and cutting, need to be discussed so you can work through them with someone else! Next, singing, acting, and dancing are amazing talents. Join your school play, a local theater group, or a town dance class so you can work on the skill and get even better. Sure it might not be academic, but being on stage or even working behind the scenes will help you express yourself in a healthy, creative, beautiful way. As for grades, work on your homework with your friends and talk to your teachers asap if you have questions about the material. It might be tiring at some times, but it's worth it to ask those questions - you'll feel SO much better once you clear it all up. It's normal to feel lost and to wonder what you're meant to do on this earth, but tackle your problems one at a time and think about all the ways you can overcome them. Write in a journal when your emotions get to be too overwhelming - and don't forget the things that you love. Your friends, your singing and acting, even the sight of your favorite flower. Life is worth living - and it gets better. <3

dana3477 on 3/18/2012 1:06:13 AM

heyyyyyyy lauren i ahve a question so i like a guy named alex but i heard he had a gf but he hasnt changed his fb status or anything lol hes in my gym and music class and in gym one day he ran towards me and kinda slid to a stopped sitting position lol it was cooler than it sounds (i was sitting down)and he was like ssoo i heard youre single and i had a bf at the time lol and didnt like alex so i jumped up really fast and walked away lol well (btw we broke up about a week after)and this was like a month ago and then a couple of weeks ago in gym i was sitting under one of the goals and he was trying to make it in the goal with a little hackeysack-beanbag type thing and he kept missing (it was pretty funny actually) and then his like best friend justen came up and he had one too and was trying and he also kept missing lol but after it started falling they would catch it and these guys were sitting not to far away that i like to mess with cause they enjoy messing with me and one of them said hahaha look watch one of them miss and hit jordan and alex like dropped down besid me i was sitting under the goal on the wall and he said "dont worry ill protect you" then justen made it and walked off and alex was like "hey so when you asked me out on fb did you really get dared" (my cousin dared me to ask him out at the begining of like february)and i said yes i really did and he said oh and this girl audrey who has a large crush on him came and sat by him and he got up and went on the other side of her and then i cant remember if it was the same day or not but at the end of music one day he came up and put his arm around my shoulders and was like hey baby at the time i was still with my bf aaron (this was actually before the gym beanbag thing)and i pushed his arm off and walked off and he was like "woah what the???" lol and now im not sure if he is dating this girl destiny cause hi ex-gf said so and so did this other girl but the 2nd grl isnt trustworthy and the 1st one kinda is lol i dont know her too well and my bff also like alex but he never talks to her and stephanie and i have a pact to never fight about boys though so she would be okay if i dated him lol so the thing is i was wonderin if you thought i should message him and tell him i like him or ask him if he likes me or something lol lately he hasnt been messaging me back though

so idk lol sorry this is so long p.s the girl hes supposedly dating hasent changed hers yet and to make sure i can always ask my friend to always message her and ask her lol so what do think does he like me???????
should i message him????? if i should what should i say??????????lol sorry if its confuzzling lol thank you lauren you are the best!!!!!!!!

Hey girl,

It sounds like he liked you at least at one point, but if he's got a gf now, you can't date him while they're together. Instead of sending him a Facebook message, try talking to him in person -- it's the only way you can really sort all of this out. Good luck!

jojo79556 on 3/17/2012 6:53:34 AM

Thank you soo much 4 your advice!!!!
XOXO Naomi

Principessa on 3/14/2012 5:34:16 AM

Thank you!!!! ILL use your advice!

asha0 on 3/14/2012 1:12:40 AM

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Hi, there's this boy I like and I've known him for 8 years but we go to different schools so I don't see him that often but we're friends on fb and don't talk that often, soooo should I talk to him first or him me? Please and thank you!!!!!!

Hey girlie,

Talk to that boy! Just keep things casual for now and chat on FB/say hey if you see him in person sometime. Keep the convo light, say something like, "it's been forever! how have you been?" And just see where the convo goes Ask him questions about his life and the stuff he likes, share your own opinion/experiences, and enjoy it

HP_FAN100 on 3/14/2012 12:28:50 AM

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Thanks!!! Do you have any other tips to step the flirting up?

Of course! Check out these two articles... these are, in my opinion, GL's absolute best flirting guides! They might overlap a little, but they'll both give you some good ideas

http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/05/16/The-Science-of-Flirting.aspx

http://www.girlslife.com/post/2007/11/17/Flirting101.aspx

asha0 on 3/14/2012 12:22:14 AM

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Ok, there is this guywho i like, who i salso my bgf. We talk/ flirt all the time. He will take something of mine, and i have to cahse him around,, or the other way around. The other day he pretended that we were dating so i played along. 1) do you think he likes me?2) should i tell him i like him? Please help ASAP!!!!!! THANKS

Hey girlie,

It sounds like you have SUCH a flirty friendship! That's a great sign. Ask yourself one question - does he act like this with other girls? Basically, is he naturally a flirty guy? Or does he only really flirt/tease/play around with you? If it seems like he acts different around you, then it's totally likely! Instead of being so blunt though, I'd probably try to start flirting a little more, complimenting him sometimes, and dropping hints - like after he makes a joke, laughing and swatting his arm while saying, "See, this is why I like you." The physical contact will be great, plus you're showing him you have chemistry. Enjoy that chemistry and see where it goes naturally!

asha0 on 3/14/2012 12:08:23 AM

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Ok, so this time, it's NOT about my XBF problems.
So I know that spring break and swimsuit season are coming up, and I'm not looking forward to it. I'm really unhappy about my body, even though all my friends and my mom say that I'm way skinny and my doctor said that I'm a little underweight. I have a little bit of er...tummy buldge, so I don't exactly feel my best in a bikini. It's not that I don't want to lose weight; I've heard about those girls who get anorexia nervosa and bulimia and I think that's really awful. I just want to get flatter abs. I used to do cheerleading and that was fun for a long time, but the season's just recently ended, so now I don't really have an athletic focus, considering that I am a flop at sports. I sometimes try workouts, but I just kind of...forget about them. Got any tips for getting flat abs before spring break?

Hey babe,

You can take care of your body, develop more confidence, and feel more ready for bikini season WITHOUT having a disorder like anorexia. So don't worry - as long as you don't let it get obsessive, it's natural to want to be healthy! First off, you need to be determined and stick with those workout plans. Head over to our Workouts section and pick out some routines that sound fun to you. That's the first step - you have to enjoy your workouts, not dread them. Next, make a schedule. Grab a planner (your school homework book would work just fine) and map out when you'll do each workout. Mix it up by doing cardio one day, strength/muscle training the next, then cardio, etc. Give yourself some days off each week so you don't overload. If it helps, schedule it into your day by saying, "Tues 4:00pm-4:30pm Exercise." Sometimes, when you give it a specific time, it makes it harder to skip out on it. Next, try to cut down on fast food, junk food, fried food, and eating TONS of cookies/chocolate/other sweets. Basically, use moderation when it comes to the "bad" stuff and focus on the good stuff, like veggies and fruits. If you're committed to the plan, you'll feel SO much better in no time

HelenaPS on 3/13/2012 10:48:28 PM

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Hii I have kind of a problem so i like this boy from like 1 year and a half and till now he never really seemed to like me (PS: he has a GF) so yeah and like a week ago i started walking to school with some boys and this one time he walked in front of us and when he saw me with this other boy he started looking like he is sorry that he "lost" me cause he hurt me and the on skype he said some nice stuff to me anyway he and then at school i was hanging again withe the same boy and when hes saw me he stoped and he was really close so I saw like he was happy before and when he saw me he had tears in his eyes and everytime he sees me he stares at me my friends tell me that he likes me i dont know what to belive... does he like me?
THX really need your help

Hey girlie,

It's hard to tell, because all these silent "glances" at you could mean a lot... but you have no way of knowing for sure. Either way, he has a GF right now, so he's off limits! Try to be confident and go about your own life right now. If he wants to finally SAY something and spill what he's thinking, let him. But try not to go fishing for it - no flirting, no asking if he's happy in his relationship, etc. You wouldn't want someone trying to wreck your relationship, so def don't do it to them. Try to act independent and laid-back - if he is thinking about you, this will catch his eye and might make him speak up.

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hey, so I'm adopted and my parents never told me that my "cousin" Sarah is really my biological mom and her son, my "cousin" Shawn is my baby brother, well, half-brother. My mom told me a few days ago and now I can't even look at Shawnie and Sarah the same way ever again. Its complicated, I was a complete mistake, was never supposed to be born. I was born when Sarah was 17 and my Grandpa, who knows EVERYTHING only knows I'm adopted but has no idea who the mother is, which he must NEVER know, according to my mom, its very complicated. Plus since now i'm somehow a older sister I'm afraid Shawn will start looking up to me and copying me, and I'm not 100% the BEST role model but he's my baby brother! I only see him a few times a summer, what should I do to see him more often? They're never really busy, well, Sarah's quite busy with the insane lil four-year old I now call my baby brother LOL! But my mom said maybe go to the park, go out for breakfast, stuff like that. But what else could I do? I want to hang out with both Sarah and Shawn, but we can't go to the zoo, Shawn gets too hyper. But the park near my Grandpa's isn't very safe, mangled up swings that squeak A LOT more than it should, but then there's a playground, but its huge and Shawn could get lost in the maze they call a playground, they climb all around and I know he'd have fun because there're tons of different nooks and crannies to hide in but he's most likely to get lost and then we would have to search for him, which would not be fun. What do we do? Don't suggest go out to eat because I'm trying to lose weight and if we did my adoptive parents and adoptive older sister would tag along. Yes I did read your answer earlier. You don't understand!!!!! I want to just hang out with Shawn and Sarah ONLY! It's tons more awkward WITH my adoptive parents and adoptive sis than it is without. Plus Shawn can get a lil shy with too many people obsessing over him at one time anyway. What can we do to hang out more?

Hey girlie,

Some people who are adopted think of themselves as being a "mistake," but I honestly look at it differently: you might not have been meant for Sarah, but you made a HUGE impact on the lives of your parents. You're here for a reason! If you want to hang out with them alone, try doing something low-key, like watching a movie together and baking some sweet treats, doing crafts and hanging out, or building with Legos and making cars/buildings/etc. Basically, stuff that Shawn would enjoy so you can bond over that! Just be honest with your parents - tell them you love them and they'll always be your parents. Nothing can change that because they raised you for years and are so important to you! But now that you know about this situation, just tell them you really want to get to know Sarah and Shawn better so you can connect with them too. Family means a lot - you can never have too many loved ones around

clem10 on 3/10/2012 11:32:19 PM

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hey, so I'm adopted and my parents never told me that my "cousin" Sarah is really my biological mom and her son, my "cousin" Shawn is my baby brother, well, half-brother. My mom told me a few days ago and now I can't even look at Shawnie and Sarah the same way ever again. Its complicated, I was a mistake, I was born when Sarah was 17 and my Grandpa, who knows EVERYTHING only knows I'm adopted but has no idea who the mother is, which he must NEVER know, according to my mom, its very complicated. Plus since now i'm somehow a older sister I'm afraid Shawn will start looking up to me and copying me, and I'm not 100% the BEST role model but he's my baby brother! I only see him a few times a summer, what should I do to see him more often? They're never really busy, well, Sarah's quite busy with the insane lil four-year old I now call my baby brother LOL! But my mom said maybe go to the park, go out for breakfast, stuff like that. But what else could I do? I want to hang out with both Sarah and Shawn, but we can't go to the zoo, Shawn gets too hyper. But the park near my Grandpa's isn't very safe, mangled up swings that squeak A LOT more than it should, but then there's a playground, but its huge and Shawn could get lost in the maze they call a playground, they climb all around and I know he'd have fun but he's most likely to get lost and then we would have to search for him, which would not be fun. What do we do? Don't suggest go out to eat because I'm trying to lose weight and if we did my adoptive parents and adoptive older sister would tag along.

Hey girl,

Wow, that sounds complicated! It's super cool that you get to know your biological mom and that she's part of your life already, though -- many adopted children never meet their real parents! You don't have to worry about him copying you if he doesn't know what's going on, and no one's perfect, so don't be too hard on yourself! Your mom's suggestions sound great -- the park and going out to breakfast would be really fun ways to hang out! If you're keeping an eye on him at the park he won't get lost if you stick together. And if your parents want to go with you, that's fine and could be fun! It will make things less awkward if you're all together. It's okay not to have a traditional family life -- all of your parents and siblings love you no matter what, so just remember that!

clem10 on 3/10/2012 10:03:07 AM

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Thanks again ! haha another question: i dont know if you remember a few months ago i talked about this guy how he would sometimes say hi to me and give me hugs well i think he likes me know cuz where ever we are talking hes like asks if me and my boyfriend are still going out, like hes waiting. and when i came to lunch today i was standing by my mom and he came up and was very nice to my mom and me. but i have a boyfriend who i like a lot! and how many crunches should i do?? (: and when will i be seeing results ? (: thanks SO much!

Hey! well there's nothing wrong with having another admirer as long as you son't lead him on. here's the link to our fitness page: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2012/02/21/Two-moves-to-flatter-abs.aspx

ilovepiano15 on 3/9/2012 7:13:47 PM

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hey, so I'm adopted and my parents never told me that my "cousin" Sarah is really my biological mom and her son, my "cousin" Shawn is my baby brother, well, half-brother. My mom told me a few days ago and now I can't even look at Shawnie and Sarah the same way ever again. Its complicated, I was a mistake, I was born when Sarah was 17 and my Grandpa, who knows EVERYTHING only knows I'm adopted but has no idea who the mother is, which he must NEVER know, according to my mom, its very complicated. Plus since now i'm somehow a older sister I'm afraid Shawn will start looking up to me and copying me, and I'm not 100% the BEST role model but he's my baby brother! I only see him a few times a summer, what should I do to see him more often? They're never really busy, well, Sarah's quite busy with the insane lil four-year old I now call my baby brother LOL! But my mom said maybe go to the park, go out for breakfast, stuff like that. But what else could I do?

Hey girl! Pick a place that is appropriate to take a four year old little boy, like the zoo or the library. If you really want to get the full story ask Sarah to go to lunch one day, with out Shawn, so that you two can talk and bond with out having a constant distraction.

clem10 on 3/9/2012 7:12:07 AM

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Thanks so much Lauren ! (: That helped me a lot ! So im wondering what are some good healthy foods i can eat/make ?? And would doing a lot of crunches help to tone ? Thats the only thing i can do that doesnt require walking and bending !! haha annd since i am on crutches its hard to find outfits that are cute b/c im wearing this big ugly black brace from my thigh to my ankle . any ideas ? thanks (:

Hey again,

Crunches are a great way to work on your "core" muscles, aka your abdomen. You could also see if you could borrow some hand weights (or buy them on sale - these are only $7!) and do some arm lifts/curls. You can do it while you're watching TV! Couldn't be easier than that For food ideas, you don't wanna force yourself to eat stuff you hate just because it's healthy. Check out our Eat Right section and our yummy Healthy Recipes to find meals that work for you! Personally, I love when people just wear normal stuff when they're on crutches. Flirty skirts with tanks and cardigans, leggings and an oversized sweater (if you can take the brace off), flare jeans that fit over your brace, etc. The most important thing is to wear it with confidence and rock whatever you wear - because you're awesome!

ilovepiano15 on 3/8/2012 9:04:19 PM

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MOD MOD MOD ! I need your help - please !! My questions arent showing up so ima try to post it here (:
Soo... im on crutches right now and will be for about 40 more days ! I have kinda a muffin top and I WANT IT GONE ! When i get off crutches im going to buy new jeans and clothes and stuff with the money ive been saving up ! So please help me what are excersices i can do to lost fat in my stomach ?? without walking b/c i cant //: please help me.. i already feel self consious and i want to look amazing on my first day without crutches (: and where can i find really cute jeans that have super cute back pockets for pretty cheap ? (: thank you sooo much !

Hey girlie,

Since you're on crutches, the best thing to do right now is cut down on junk food/huge portions. Eat thoughtfully - choose salads, veggies, lean meats, fruits, and nuts over processed mac and cheese, fast food, chocolate bars. You get the idea! That way, you're good to your body even though you're walking around on crutches and not able to work out. Once you're off crutches, you can back up those awesome food choices with a healthy exercise routine! Do what you love - jogging, biking, kickboxing, swimming, pilates, even just playing soccer or basketball with friends. The important thing is getting active! Combined with good diet choices, you can't go wrong As for denim, I love these Mudd skinny jeans from Kohls and ANY of the brightly colored jeans at Forever 21. Details on the back pockets like the Mudd jeans are cool, but colored denim is also sooo in this season!

ilovepiano15 on 3/8/2012 4:11:55 PM

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i have one of those tight skirts that go higher up, like on your stomach. (aren't they called body con skirts or something?) and its tannish, and has pink flowers on it with dark green stems. (its cuter then it sounds!) i want to wear it monday, but i dont know what kind of shirt with it. i have a white v-neck, but i don't like how it looks with is.
any ideas?
thanks (:

Hey girlie,

It sounds super cute! The white v-neck sounds great with it. You could wear a black cardigan on top (since it's school) and some plain black flats. It would look adorable You could also do a black v-neck, gray tank top, or even an oversized sweater/button-down "office" shirt!

friendsrforever on 3/3/2012 10:53:26 PM

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okay i know for a fact that my crush likes me
and you don't want to know the whole story since it will take up about 5 pages
anyway, my BFF thinks i should at least talk to him ( WICH I DO!)but now shes moved on to trying to convince me to get him a easter present anonymously.( by the way don't think my BFF is really pushy or anything but she is pretty romantic!) I'm kind of scared couse we only flirt with each other most of the time
do you think i should take the plunge or wait till were more "friends"?
thanks in advance

Hey girl,

If you're skeptical and think it might be better to stay friends, there's no reason to rush! But if you think he likes you and want to go for it, that could work too. Good luck!

Pinkcupcakekitties on 3/3/2012 12:26:55 PM

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thx for all ur advice!!!

i asked a guy to the last dance. he was my friend before, but now he's all popular and doesn't talk to me much, but i was tired of just waiting and wanted to do something. he lied to me and said he didn't know if he was going, but obviously he was, and he did go.
so then his friends go tell me he wanted to tell me something, so i walk over there and say, "What do you need?" He said nothing and that his friends were just kidding. i asked his friends what was going on, and they said, "Nothing. He doesn't like you." He's also told everyone that i asked him and called me a staulker. i don't think he's worth it, but i can't get over him. my friends say we'd look cute together ... but i want to get over him, i just can't. something's making me suspect he actually likes me, but thinks he's too cool to admit it. HELP!!!!

Hey girlie,

It's tough to tell, because his friends could just be teasing him or they could be teasing him because he likes you. But whichever it is, he's not owning up to it and actually disrespecting you by lying, calling you a stalker, etc. He's not worth it! Get your crew together and watch movies, dish about what you want in a crush/BF, make plans for meeting new guys, get involved in a new activity or snag a new hobby, and spend your time doing other things. It's not easy to get over a crush, but you deserve someone AMAZING!

secondfungirl123 on 3/3/2012 8:47:11 AM

Mod mod! hey lauren

OMG! I REALLY WANT TO BECOME A MOD! HOW?

Hey girl,

Our mods are scheduled to work through June, but if you'd like to apply in the future you can email jessica@girlslife.com.

rubyeve13 on 3/3/2012 7:35:41 AM

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Thank you soo much for the advice!! Really helps!!!! I wish i had come here a long time ago! Hahha!

Haha, we're always here for ya girl!! <333

Principessa on 3/3/2012 4:20:50 AM

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Hi, I thought i would ask you because you give great advice and you answer quick so here goes...
okay i know for a fact that my crush likes me
and you don't want to know the whole story since it will take up about 5 pages
any way, my BFF thinks i should at least talk to him ( WICH I DO!)but now shes moved on to trying to convince me to get him a easter present anonymously. I'm kind of scared couse we only flirt with each other most of the time
do you think i should take the plunge or wait till were more "friends"?
thanks in advance

Hey girlie,

If it were me, I'd probably try to become even better friends first. Chat more, hang out to do homework after school or grab a snack, play a game of basketball with friends (and him obvi) on the weekend, etc. Then, you wouldn't have to do it anonymously - you could get him a little chocolate bunny or something and give it to him, without worrying about it feeling awkward!

Pinkcupcakekitties on 3/2/2012 10:22:39 PM

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yeah I am... but the problem is he NEVER talks too me and he is not in my class... :/ and today he said some really cute things about me and we also met cuz my friend begged me to come to her church coz they need to do like a theatre and the i saw him i was siting right beheind him and he always looked back too me i dont know what to belive anymore plea pleas pleas help me!
thx

hey! If he said something cute that's some talking isn't it ;) Just try talking to him a little more maybe?

Principessa on 3/2/2012 5:08:26 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD so i already told you about my problem bu i will tell u again cuz maybe u forgot...so I like this guy for like 1 year and a half and i just cant get over him!!!! and he also has a GF and he hurt me really bad. thnx for your advice but the problem is that i go too school w/ him and i think he hates me and i dont know what to do but sometimes he just looks really long too me i dont know what to think anymore please help me!!
Thx

hey girl! It may be hard to hear but if he has a girl friend and really seems to not be into you, then maybe you should move on or just try and be friendly with him. Make polite conversation and see when it goes from there. If you are determined to get him to like you, then you have to first get him to talk to you, so chat him up in class or walking through the halls.

Principessa on 3/2/2012 10:36:42 AM

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You are SO awesome and have the greatest ideas I think you are so sweer! (:

<3 Aw, that means a lot! Lots of love, girlie!

pinkbunny888 on 2/27/2012 3:56:49 PM

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MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD Actually I waited a really long time to ask him to call me, like I think it was a little after Valentine's Day I asked him to call, and I just asked again last Friday. Which I already told you. I gave him some space for a week beforehand, but i said hi every once in a while too, and I don't say his name a LOT, only like to get his attention, like you said. But it still bothers me that in the two years I've known him he's never said my name. And I'm not really discouraged by the joke "fail" because that happens to me a lot, I get all my too-terrible-for-words jokes from my dad. Yeah, long story. So anyway, is there like something I could do to get his attention more? Like maybe ask if he wants to study together in a group of mutual friends, like maybe my friend Clarisa, and Bryan's friend Timothy. Who's house should it be at? Mine? Probably, but my parents say no inviting boys over, so Clarisa's house? She lives in my neighborhood so would that work? What do i do???

Hey babe,

Yeah, give that a try! You could meet your study group at the school's library, Clarisa's house, a local coffee shop. It's always great to get together with a crush when you have other friends around (preferably guys and girls, like Clarisa and Timothy). They can help break the ice, keep things chill, and cover any awkward silences! Go with a place that is most convenient for all of you (so your house probably isn't good, since you're not allowed to have boys over). That would give you a way to spend time with Bryan outside of school and in a quieter, smaller setting. It's worth trying to see how everyone gets along

clem10 on 2/26/2012 11:54:27 AM

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MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MODMOD Ok so I've been trying to be cool around Bryan, like acting like I usually would so then I thought maybe I'd ask him to call me (he has my number, but I don't want to ask him for his cuz I KNOW I might end up calling him too much/annoying him) so I did ask him and he's like "I can't, my phone's not working (he doesn't have his own phone) my parents really need to learn how to pay the phone bills." I couldn't take the seriousness anymore, so I put in a joke that my dad's too cheap to update my cell phone hoping to get a laugh, but he just chuckled, he CHUCKLED! Which with this being Bryan we're talking about a chuckle means "that's not really that funny, go away" So I'm like "Ok so, see you Monday, have a nice weekend, bye" and he's like "Thanks, bye" and there's something really bothering me, I've never in my life heard him say my name, EVER! I always start with saying "Hey, Bryan" he's never said "Hey Kristin" or anything close to saying my name so it makes me feel like he doesn't know my name, but last year we were in all the same classes except math, gym, health, and social studies. Well, health and gym were the same thing almost so that counts as one, i guess...? Anyways, I feel like maybe he doesn't like my name....? Or something, he seems to know EVERYONE ELSE's name though. Is that normal??

Hey girl,

He knows your name! He just might not be a person who uses names in conversation - and that's fine! I know I don't - I always figure, the person I'm talking to knows their name so why would I say it a lot? The only time I use it is if I'm trying to get someone's attention who is walking down the hall, or by my classroom, or who isn't paying attention. So I wouldn't let that bother you As for getting him to call you, you keep trying/hinting but it seems like something is always "in the way" keeping him from calling you. So for now, try to play it cool and back off. That doesn't mean become distant and stop talking altogether - just give up the "call me!" part for a while. Let things get comfy again. Don't get discouraged by one failed joke (we've all been there and some convos just go better than others), but also accept the situation for what it is - he might still be feeling awkward because you admitting your crush on him and he might need some time. He hasn't actually said you're bothering him but like you said, that "chuckle" gave off the hint that he was thinking it. So check out this article and take the advice in the last two paragraphs - <333 Lots of love, girl!

clem10 on 2/26/2012 11:04:42 AM

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I love when it always says. Lauren C. Is modding.

lol thanks for answering my questions!

Aww, you are too sweet <3 You're welcome, love!!!

Minaxoxo on 2/23/2012 9:44:35 PM

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I was wondering if you could please please give me some advice. Over the course of the past few months I have grown totally obsessed with a boy in the grade above me. He used to be an aid in the library at my school and that's where I first saw him. After that I went in there all the time and developed a HUGE crush on him. Now he doesn't work in the library but I still see him around sometimes. My friends know about him and we have a code name for him. I can't explain this but I am always on edge of seeing him, I am like afraid of running into him in the halls. I've heard that he's like a bad boy and that he gets bad grades and he's popular. He should know I exist because I told him my name and we've made eye contact just randomly around school. But I really don't know what to do and if you could give me any guidance at all I'd seriously appreciate it.

Hey girlie,

You feel "on edge" and "afraid" because that's part of a crush. Those butterflies are part of the fun! But you can be LESS nervous if you make a plan and know what you want to say around him next time! When you pass him in the hallways, try making eye contact and give him a small smile and/or wave. Does he have a Facebook or AIM screen name? You could try chatting online, to break the ice! Does he do anything after school, like any sports or clubs? You could always go up to his locker and ask him a question about stuff you know he loves! Try to do these things over time to grow closer to him as a friend - and as you get to know him better, you can flirt more, chat more, hang out outside of school (maybe in a group of mutual friends?), and try to take things to the next level! <3

CountryCutie4 on 2/23/2012 8:22:11 PM

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MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD Ok so I tried to talk to Bryan today..........I chickened out! I took one look at those deep brown eyes and I melted. I couldn't speak, I was standing RIGHT NEXT TO HIM and I said nothing. Arg!! What do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? I usually have NO PROBLEM talking to him but now I feel a LITTLE BIT weird. But I know I can always talk to him, but he always has at least one person talking to him every time I go to ask if he likes me! What do I say to him?!??!?!??!?!???! HELP!!!!!!!!

Hey girl,

The only person standing in your way.... is you! Instead of going to ask if he likes you (because you'd rather it be one-on-one, it could be awkward, it could make him feel weird, etc.), try to keep things light and fun right now. Ask him questions about the club he's in or the sport he plays. Tell him you were listening to an album the other night and totally thought of him because you know he loves country music. Even try involving his buddies so you seem friendly, nice to his friends, and accepting. Just try to be flirty and enjoy the convo with him! After giving him that Valentine, it's best to show him you can be relaxed and easy going right now. You don't wanna dwell too much on the crush - he knows since you gave him the gift and the note, so just focus on proving to him that you can be fun and chill too! <3

clem10 on 2/23/2012 6:19:58 PM

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Thanks I'll try that
i like writing persuasive papers i got to write on on Williamsburg for a field trip last year and got an A+ !

Wow that's awesome!! Good job!

Pinkcupcakekitties on 2/20/2012 10:00:34 PM

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Hey there! Just wanted to say thanks again. My formal was tonight and I followed your advice - it worked like a charm! Everything went super smooth and I had a blast. Thanks so, so much!

SO glad to hear it!!! <333

writer_gal on 2/20/2012 1:56:03 AM

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okay 2 Q's
1) you might remember that you answered my question about asking my mom for a phone and i was wondering Do you think i should send her an email or talk to her in the car when we go shopping together without any brothers with us?!
i sent her an email to ask her to let me shave and it worked well.
2)my older bro says that once you get your period you stop getting taller is this true?????!!!!!
i think he was just teasing but he sounded seriousish?!

Hey girl! Sending her a well-written, thought-out email sounds like a good idea. Talking to her alone is a good idea, too, but it could turn into an argument. Make sure you give her all of your reasons for wanting and needing a cell phone. Think of it as writing a persuasive paper for school--check it for grammar mistakes and make it organized. Who will pay for the cell phone and plan? If you can afford to buy yourself a phone, suggest paying for it. Also, set some rules ahead of time so that she knows having a cell phone won't interfere with your school work. Maybe you could make a rule that you'll turn your phone off from 4pm-6pm while you're doing your homework?

As for what your brother told you, it sounds like he is just trying to make you worry. Everyone grows at a different rate and at different times. Height has a lot to do with genetics--not when you get your period, though it does indicate that you are going through puberty. Besides, who cares if you're short?! (I'm only 5'2!)

Pinkcupcakekitties on 2/20/2012 1:25:35 AM

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I <3 NCIS too!!!

Woooo!! Best show on TV! What'd you think of this week's episode?

bandnerds41698 on 2/18/2012 1:19:18 PM

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Lauren,
Thanks sooo much! And defenitly agree and know I should wait till I'm single to get to know him more. Thank you again!
Lauryn

<3 You're so welcome, Lauryn!

Avalon on 2/18/2012 11:19:18 AM

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Hey Lauren,
First of all I love the name! It's mine too :p!
Ok so I have two MODS. My first MOD is there is this boy at school that I like but have never even met him but all my best friends know him. My boyfriend even knows him! He's his best friend! I was just wonderin how i could get him to notice me? Oh, some helpful imformation is that I hate walking up to strangers and starting to talk to them.My second MOD is that I'm going out with the fam and aunts and uncles and grandparents and cousins tomorrow and I don't know what to wear. Should I wear {a navy blue skirt with tiny flowers on it, a denim business like shirt, black pantyhose, and silver jewled cowboy boots}, or should i wear a { purple half sleeve lacey shoulder shirt, dark wash jeggings, and grey mid-calf jewled riding boots}? Also some helpful tips for hair would be nice. I sometimes try to scrunch it but its gets really notty and is hard to comb out. I have also tried the dianna agron sag awards hair styles but it falls out easily unless its wet with lots of hairspray. Also when i wear it straight its really flimsy and its always in a different position and it gets on my nerves. PS i have auburn red straight hair that hangs right above my chest PPS,{} MEANS ONE OUTFIT.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP! Love, Lauryn!

Hey Lauryn,

Beautiful name! ;) Ok, so for your questions....

1. Try using your besties to get to know him better! If they're chatting with him, go up and join the convo. Try planning a group hangout with your crew, some of their friends (including him), some of your friends, etc. Or just try chatting online, saying hey in a class you have together...even smiling at him in the hallway as you pass him is a good start! But A MAJOR TIP if you have a BF... you might not want to come on too strong. You're not single, after all, so you should only be getting to know him as a friend right now! Any flirting/dating/complimenting/crush feelings gotta wait til you're on the market again.

2. I like the second option - the purple shirt, jeggings, and grey boots. It's casual and comfy, but still chic! As for hair, I am loving Ashley Greene's pin-straight look, Rachel Bilson's half-up-half-down hair, and Lucy Hale's messy low bun. They're all easy and so cute! All hairstyles take practice (even the most simple braid), so keep trying!!

Avalon on 2/17/2012 10:57:17 PM

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so 2 times before I got my period I bled a little but it wasn't a period. Is that normal?

Hey girlie,

"Spotting," which is little bits of blood before or after your actual period, is totally normal! If you only bled a tiny bit, it could've just been that. If this keeps happening though and you bled a lot between periods, def chat with your doc. Just want to make sure everything is good

gumdrops321 on 2/17/2012 10:53:19 PM

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MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD But how do I talk to Bryan if I don't have school today? My school has off till Tuesday. But what do I say on Tuesday to him?? Btw, I don't have his phone number but he has mine.

Hey babe,

You could chat online! If that won't work, just try to be patient and wait til Tuesday. Hang out with your fam and friends, keep busy to keep it off your mind, and write your thoughts in a journal so they aren't clogging up your mind. On Tuesday, just try to relax. When you see him, say a friendly "Hey" and smile. Ask him if he had a good weekend, then try to leave it at that. Go about your day, then chat a little later. You don't need to have huge intense convos - just be normal and casual, like friends. If he senses you're relaxed and not awkward/nervous, he'll take that cue and relax too! <3

clem10 on 2/17/2012 10:33:00 PM

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my cousin who is also my best friend live 7 hours away. She recently broke up with he boyfriend and got together with another. The old boyfriend it now going out with one of her close friends. She isn't jealous but the old bf keeps cussing out and tripping her new one. And when she tells her friend what going on she just say sucks for you. Her new boyfriend used to go out with a different friend of hers and that friend keeps punching him (new boyfriend) in the back and giving my cousin evil glares. Also that same girl's boyfriend is being a jerk to them too. She recently went home crying and i feel so bad for her. is there anything i can do or say to help her?

Hey girl,

Your cousin needs to talk to her current BF and figure out a plan for this. They need to stand up for themselves - to her ex, to his ex, etc. You can't really help them with this, but she really needs to be strong and tell her ex that they broke up, they're over, and he needs to move on. He hardly seems like he's over your cousin if he can't even focus on his new GF and has to cuss out your cousin's new BF to be happy. How low is that? As for what YOU can do, even though you're 7 hours away... make sure you support her and she knows you care about her. She's probably feeling overwhelmed, like all her friends are turning on her. If you text her and ask her how her day was/tell her you're thinking of her, you'll make her smile and remind her that there ARE people who love her out there <3

Lillian14 on 2/17/2012 10:06:00 PM

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Just wanted to say thanks for the advice!

You're so welcome! <3

writer_gal on 2/17/2012 9:39:43 PM

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tomorrow im going to the movies with my best friend & a guy she likes, and a guy i like.
im super super nervous.
should i curl or straighten my hair? and do you think a pair of dark super skinny jeans, short gray boots, and a lacey shirt would be a cute outfit?
&how do i stop from looking all nervous?
thanks so much!

Hey girlie,

That sounds super cute!! I'd probably straighten my hair, just because curls can get kinda fussy and you wanna be comfy the whole time. (And not worrying about your curls being perfect, getting tangled, going flat, etc.) As for not looking nervous... take DEEP BREATHS and remember to smile. Try getting popcorn so you have something to hold/play around with if you do feel awkward/nervous - sharing food or drinks is a great way to break the ice, while also giving you something to look at if there's a silence or something. And try asking him questions about himself - that way, you make sure you aren't hogging the convo and you can show you're interested Have fun!!!!!!

friendsrforever on 2/17/2012 9:15:40 PM

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MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD Ok, so like on Valentine's Day I gave Bryan the special valentine and candy and the valentine was a hand-written letter which said that I liked him more than a friend and today I asked him is he read the valentine and he said yeah *awkward silence* (probably because the letter said that I liked him and it had my phone number in it I'm guessing) and stupid Jayson had to come and ruin my chance to say any more. Stupid stupid Jayson!!!!!! Bryan said he'd call me last night. "YAY!!!!" was what i was thinking and I was also thinking maybe I'll finally know if he likes me or not, but he never called. Do you think I maybe made him feel uncomfortable?? Because it was REALLY awkward when I mentioned it and he just said "yeah......" and it was awkward up until Jayson came and ruined my chance to get a word in he started blabbing on and on and on and on to Bryan and I had no way of talking about it in front of JAYSON! But I could still feel the awkwardness between Bryan and I. Did I make a mistake of giving him such a heart-felt letter? *Sigh* he's soooooooooo cute!!!!!! And I stayed up till midnight, five minutes after twelve to be exact and I just kept thinking to myself "Bryan's worth it.......Bryan's worth it......" over and over again and today I asked while we were alone during home room "didn't you say you would call me yesterday?" very casually, yeah, as casually as a girl on the verge of tears could. He explained he went to his grandma's house after school and "for some reason" stayed there all day, I didn't bother ask him to call tonight, I'd rather not cry myself to sleep two nights in a row. What do I do now?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey girl,

You took a risk - and that is AMAZING! The worst thing in the world is to regret something you didn't do. Things might feel awkward now, but they don't need to be. It's your choice. Try going into school tomorrow and being casual, relaxed, and light-hearted. Say hey to Bryan and give him a smile, chat happily with your friends, and try to relax. The important thing is to be in a good mood and look laid-back. Have conversations like you normally would with him and try to show him you can be cool about it (even though inside, you're prob going nuts!). He might be scared about things getting too serious or you having really high expectations - so this will help him relax a little. Plus, you don't know what's going on in his life - he could've really been at his grandma's, he could be really busy right now, he could like someone else. But that's not to discourage you. It's just good to be calm and take things as they happen! Confessing romantic feelings like this is never easy, but it's all still very new so he needs time to adjust to it. Hang in there <3

clem10 on 2/16/2012 8:09:57 PM

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