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So there's this guy that I have liked for 6 years, and i'm just starting 2 become friends with him, and my friend tells me that he likes me, then after SHE starts liking him (even though I liked him first but she says " I can't help my feelings") she says that she forgot, his COUSIN told her that he likes her. Plus my parents won't let me date. (Even the only-label kind) So now i'm confused! I don't know if I should back off bcuz my parents and I don't know if my friend's lying (cuz she'd do that) or if he really does like me! Help! Please! Girl crisis goin' on here!!!

Pinkeypie2001 on 10/12/2012 10:34:36 PM

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I was the new girl last year, and so the popular girl took me under her wing. Me and her had great times together. But, last spring, she said she was to popular for me and stop hanging out with me. I was so hurt and it took me a while to get over it. Now she keeps texting me and asking me if we can hangout. I have my guard up around her so I always use some excuse. I miss the times we shared and now I don't know if I should forgive her. P.S. word got around that I didn't invite her to my b-day party and I kind of want to, but she ruined my last party. So should I give her another chance, I just dont wanna her hurt and should i invite her to my party??

kenny_peace_panda22 on 10/10/2012 6:02:14 PM

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OK so I have a little prob. I just started middle school and there's this guy that I am looking into to be one of my future friends. He's funny, (although people don't see him that way - they see him as annoying sometimes) and he's sometimes dirty minded, and sometimes swears but I'm OK with that. Anyways, he just seems like someone who can be one of my friends (I've had a friend who was like that before but didn't swear as much and wasn't as dirty). I don't know how to break the ice, although I kinda did today (we had to interview someone and he was the guy that I interviewed). He's on my bus for both morning and afternoon, but it seems weird for me (currently) to join his group of grade 8 friends that he talks with (they're in my class so eventually I will know them better). Another ice-breaker that I will have is that I want to play the clarinet which is what he is playing, and the grade 8s teach the grade 7s so I will be talking to him then. I just don't know what I should ask him as I get to know him better (such as, "Do you want to be friends with me?") and I don't know what he thinks of me, like if he wants to be friends with me or not. I just don't know where we stand at, so could you please give me some advice on what to do, ice-breakers, and signs that he wants to be friends with me? Thanks a bunch!
SecretID

Hey girl,

You don't need to come out and tell him - "Listen, I think you could be cool and we should be friends." You can totally be more subtle than that! Smile at him in the hallways, wave as you pass him on the bus, and take advantage of convos with him whenever you can. Be calm while constantly focusing on opportunities to ask him a question about himself/his thoughts, to insert your own experiences, etc. It's all about keeping the convo going and learning about each other! Don't expect one conversation to make you besties though - it takes time to grow closer to someone! Don't pressure yourself into becoming friends by a certain date. Just let it happen naturally and show him that you're genuine, friendly, and open-minded when it comes to making new friends. <3

SecretID on 9/8/2011 5:26:47 PM

Thank you so much for the help on my comment I made earlier. I am glad I have people that care about me. Right now I am just trying to keep my 11-year-old brother from finding out. I am praying that God will produce a mericle, but I understand that if that doesn't happen, then God has a different plan for me! Thanks so much!

Ggnyooa on 7/23/2011 6:25:40 PM

MOD! MOD! Please Answer Quick! It's important! I'm in a bad sitch. There are two boys. They're both friends with me and with eachother. They both like me. One of them,

is my first big crush. I've liked people a little before A, but not with the same feelings. I know A likes me, but I don't know why he does. I want to know what he likes me for. He has told me that I'm his best friend, his favorite one out of my friends, and the nicest. (We are really close friends, too.) And B. B was my small crush. I liked him for a little. But definately not as much as A. 2 days ago, me and A were Skyping. (He had his other friend, C) They told me that B liked me. And A said something like "Wow, B is such a perv." I asked "Why?", because B is never perv-y around me. He's usually a funny, nice guy. And they said almost all he wants in a girl are big boobs. I do have the biggest chest in my grade.

I wasn't flattered at all. I was creeped out. I don't know if A likes me for the same reason B does. I hope not. A is a really nice, smart, caring and genuine person so I hope that even if I don't go out with him or something like that, he is always a really nice guy. Who would you choose? What should I tell them? I don't want stuff to be awkward. I hope you can tell me quickly! This is important! And would what A said about B make you feel weird? I have been told I'm a good person who is well rounded. I don't want my love life to revolve around my chest! All the boys in my grade look at my boobs when we are talking too. I makes me ashamed to have a big chest. None of my friends understand because they don't have much "up there". THANKS SO SO SO SO MUCH! -Tricia<3 -Tricia

Hey chica, It's really your decision. If it were me, I would date the guy who I like the most and who treats me with respect. I don't know exactly how the situation will play out, so I'm not sure what to say. If the one you don't choose asks you out, tell him you care about him, but only want to be friends. If you decide you're ready to reveal a crush, go for it! And I can understand why that would make you feel weird. You are more than your chest, and the right guy will know that. Good luck, chicky!

SuperrGirliie on 7/23/2011 12:17:28 PM

MOD MOD MOD I have 2 questions/problems that need help with: 1. What is the easiest and fastest way to lose weight? I really want to be skinny, and I can't find a way to lose weight quickly and keep it off. 2. My bra makes me uncomfortable in the terms that it's a lightly lined style, which makes me look a little bigger than I am, and I'm the smallest size. The reason I'm uncomfortable is because it makes me look bigger, I'm worried when I'm around the boys. I fear that they're looking more at my body rather than my face. (I fear - not that it's actually true). One of my BGF's exs said that he chatted online with the ex's friend, and that they discussed two girls. What he said (my BGF) was kind of disturbing for me, because he basically discussed who has a better butt or chest-area. This makes me feel really insecure. What do I do? And I don't think I can change my bra because since I'm small, and it's the smallest size and not a push-up (it's hard to find non push-ups) it's hard to find another one. Thanks, SecretID

Hey girlie!

1) I have a few things to say here. It's really important to talk to your doctor before you try to lose weight. It can be super-unhealthy to lose weight when you are still growing. Additionally, any plan that makes you lose weight fast is probably not a healthy one. Talk to your doc, and if you really do need to lose weight, he or she can help you come up with a healthy plan that fits your life.

2) I think you should try to forget what the guys said. Sure, some guys may be immature like that, but that doesn't mean that every guy who talks to you will only be thinking about/looking at your body. If you do catch a guy talkin' to your chest (hey, it does happen!), you can always throw in a quick, "Hey buddy, eyes up here!" then get back to the convo. But really, try not to let it bother you, and wear what you are comfortable with. xoxo

SecretID on 7/6/2011 8:03:42 AM

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So today I just got my period, and I've been experiancing some stomach cramps that are really uncomfortable. Ibuprofen doesn't work right away, so that's not instant but I can take it and it should last for half the time I'm at school. Is there something that I can use/take while I have to do my chores around the house?

Hey girlie--try Midol.

Brittany G.

SecretID on 6/7/2011 7:03:34 PM

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**MOD** Hi Marie H., i get stomachaces all the time but ever since i got my period i cant tell if its a stomachace or cramps. is ther a way to tell?

Hey girlie,

Sorry, Marie isn't working at the moment - but I can answer if you don't mind Usually, cramps hurt lower down on your stomach (like where the band of your underwear comes up to) and feel the same each time - deep and achy, kind of an intense pain that makes you tingle at times. Stomachaches can happen all over (and if they're gassy pains it can be even harder to distinguish them), but with time you'll learn to tell a little better!

Korky on 5/28/2011 9:17:30 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD! My sister always hurts me. Got any advie to help me stop her?

Hey Girly,

Try calmly telling her to stop. If she keeps hurting you, just don't react. I know this might sound hard, but if your sister isn't getting any reaction from you, then it won't be interesting for her to hurt you anymore. If these ideas don't work, tell your parents. I'm sure they can help you out.

Good Luck!

dancingirl1613 on 5/18/2011 3:28:31 PM

MOD MOD MOD! Hey can someone please help me!! Okay so ive had my Period for about 3 years now and its always been pretty heavy but ive always been really active, and this year my pe coach made us do a lot of excersizes but the past few months we havent p doing anything and the last two months my periods have only lasted 3 days, its super light and a brown color. Is that normal or am i like messed up or something??? Please please helP me!! Im really freaking out

. Im that type of person who goes all drastic but still. To freak or not to freak??

Hey chica! Sorry for the late response - I'm just signing on to mod! It doesn't sound "messed up" to me - if it's still coming regularly and isn't causing you serious pain, it's probably just fine. That being said, you could ask your doc at your next check up. She can give ya the scoop on why it might be lighter.

xoxo

Marie H.

Jollyrancher1 on 5/17/2011 11:51:30 PM

thanks so much Marie H.!!!

frenchblondie on 5/16/2011 10:29:26 PM

Hey! Thanks so much for your advice. =)

spacekitty on 5/15/2011 2:09:18 PM

***MOD*** Hi Marie H.! I hav question about guys. So 5 guys hav a crush on me right now (1 is 1 o my bestfrends lil bro and the other is my younger buddy so those 2 i dont really care about). but i like 2 o thm bak, 1 of thm we both tots hate eachother but tots hav a crush on eachotha (neither of us admit tht we like eachotha but he used to openly hav a crush on me but now he denies it but every1 says he still duz), the other 1 we'r really good frends (he duznt no i hav a crush on him or tht i no he likes me). im really conflicted rite now.

Hey chica, Wow, that is a lot to think about! Your best bet is to just take it slow, and get to know all of the guys you're interested in. I know it doesn't help with your confusion right now, but I promise - you will know who you like when it's right. xoxo

Korky on 5/14/2011 8:45:28 PM

MOD MOD MOD So last year in 6th grade I was considered one of the weird people because I just got nervous around people and now this year I'm better about it, but people still see me that way, how do I make them think I'm not crazy or "looney" (One guy called me looney

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Hey chica, I know you've probably heard this before, but I think your best bet is to ignore them and keep going on as you are. It sounds like you've gotten a lot more confident and made positive changes in your life, so don't let a few people bring that down! Keep being friendly and working on your confidence, and stick with people who like you for the real you. Don't worry about what anyone else says. xoxo

sarahismspettyfer on 5/14/2011 5:32:17 PM

MOD MOD MOD (sorry I forgot a Q in my previous one) My chest-area lately has been feeling pretty hard, where you're supposed to develop, except in a small area. Now, I don't know if this is normal or not 'cause you're supposed to develop breast buds before the fat fills in, but what's going on with me? Thanx.

Hey chica, I'm sorry, but I really don't know the answer to that one! If it's not causing you pain, it's probably totally fine. But I would check in with an adult you trust (like your mom) who can help you check it out and decide if you need to make a doctor's appointment. xoxo

SecretID on 5/10/2011 7:23:42 PM

MOD MOD MOD OK, thanks for answering my previous Q. We worked the sitch out, turns out that he's just pretty shy about our relationship. I have a Q about another one of my BGFs. I've been nervous about one of my BGF, and only recently (like a couple of days ago) I overcame the barrier - like I couldn't be near him or I'd start to act weird and lose my head. So now I can sit beside him and all, and I'll be fine. But the prob is, he can't get TOO close. For instance, one time after we left the computer lab, I was the first person in line and he was the second, so we were side-by-side. He kept getting close to me, and I'm not used to have boys really close to me - I get really uncomfortable. However, now I guess I can. But, he was really close, like if he would move a little to the left we would be touching. So, I'm uncomfortable about that and also the fact that whenever I step a little to the left to give myself some space, he fills in that gap quickly. He dated two other girls so I guess that he's more comfortable around girls. What's a nice way I can tell him nicely on chat or face-to-face that I don't want him to be that close when we're in line or something of the sort? (For seats it's different, 'cause there's a limit to the space that you have and that you can move in.) What do I say? Also, is it normal for an almost-grade 7er to be dreaming about having a romantic and sweet BF? And one last Q: Can you give me some warning signs that I might have when I'm into a guy? Thanks a bunch, SecretID.

Hey girl! I'll start with the last two, since they're easiest: it is totally normal for you to dream about a romantic and sweet bf! That's not a bad thing at all. Of course, guys are still just figuring out how to do the dating thing, too, so they might not have the romance thing down. But you can (and definitely deserve to) find a guy who is nice and sweet to you. As for how to tell you might be into someone, that's hard to say exactly, because it's different for everyone. You might find yourself thinking or talking about him a lot, getting excited to see him, or feeling your heart beat faster when he's around.

As for the too-close guy sitch, I'm not sure exactly the best way to deal with it. It might be best to say something when you're in-person together, one-on-one. You don't have to make a big convo about it, just say something like, "Hey, could you scoot over a bit? I'm sorry, I just have a weird thing about space." The advantage of saying it that way is that it shows him that it's not him - it's just how you prefer it. If that doesn't work, you can try to talk to him about it again, more forcefully. xoxo

SecretID on 5/10/2011 6:48:25 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD HELP!!! Okay how do I mod, like give advice? I'm totally new to this website and I love giving advice! Do YOU have any advice? I really appreciate it --Linnea

Hey chica! To be an actual mod, you must be 18 or older and apply for the job. You can get the LD about it here: http://www.girlslife.com/page/Intern-at-Girls-Life.aspx. If you just wanna be an advice-giving chica, you should def consider making an Advice Queen profile! It's easy, free, and anyone can do it! Get more info here: http://www.girlslife.com/page/welcome-to-GL-advice-queens.aspx. Let me know if you have any more questions, and welcome to GL!

xoxo

Marie H.

luhnaynay9 on 5/7/2011 6:18:13 PM

MOD MOD MOD OK, so I have a guy sitch. Here it is: I have a great BGF, and I knew him since SK and I'm almost in grade 7 now. I pretty much knew (and know!) him for half my life. So last night, I was hanging out at his place, and I asked him a Q. I asked him "If you would go on a date, who would you choose?" and I gave him a choice of a pretty girl at our school (my old school) and me. He chose the other girl. It kind of hurt. I think it was because I knew that he had a crush on me, in grade 3, and now he has a crush on a girl, who sounds like me. Might not be, though. I also think it was the rejection that hurt. I don't know if I'm falling for him, but I think I slightly might. But I just don't get how he would pick a pretty girl at my old school, his current school, over me, someone he knew (and once again, knows!) for half his life and trusts. And the dates don't exactly have to have kissing... How he could pick her over me?

Hey girl, It's tough to say exactly why he made that choice. It would be really bold for him to say he wanted to date you, especially if he wasn't sure how you feel. It could be that he's feeling the same way you are - not sure if he just wants a friendship or something more. Keep feeling the sitch out, and you'll get the answers eventually. If you decide you do want to date him, maybe you could talk to him about it. It sounds like you guys have a solid relationship where you can talk about almost anything! xoxo

SecretID on 3/17/2011 9:58:14 AM

MOD MOD MOD I feel like my friends arent including very much anymore. Like at the lunch table i am always wondering what they are talking about because they are talking times when i wasnt there...and they are always whispering...any thoughts??

Hey chica! It's hard to say exactly without being in the situation and seeing what you're seeing... If you come up and they're whispering, you could always just ask. Keep it light and say it with a smile, like "Ooh, what's the gossip?" so they don't feel like you're accusing them. If you feel like you guys aren't hanging much outside of school, try initiating some plans yourself, like a sleepover or a trip to the mall. If they still leave you hanging, it may be time to look for some new buds to spend time with. xoxo

mpm1998 on 3/1/2011 8:00:15 PM

MOD MOD ok i know you just gave me advice on what i should do about this guy but i am afraid to talk to him..and when do i talk to him because it seems he is always around his friends and i dont know the right timing

Hey girl, When you do go for it, just take a deep breath and put on a smile. It is way nerve-wracking, but if you just get the first "hey, how's it going?" out there, it will get easier. You can ask about classes, or his plans for the weekend. As for when, that just depends. Look to see if there is any time that you can catch him alone, like between classes or after school. If not, you could always go with a friend or two and chat with his whole group. Good luck! xoxo

mpm1998 on 2/28/2011 10:08:30 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!! So as of two days ago my breast started hurting, but it's only one of them. I'm 14 so I wasn't sure if puberty might have something to do with it. It feels like there is a knot underneath it and it hurts really bad if I accidentally hit it or run into something. Is this normal? Please help me!!!

Hey chica, some soreness or tenderness is definitely normal as you're developing. You might want to read this: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2009/09/08/boobs-problem.aspx. But don't be afraid to check in with an adult about what you're experiencing. If it keeps up, let someone know and you can make an appointment with your doc to check it out. xoxo

sparkleandglam on 2/28/2011 9:59:42 PM

MOD MOD MOD OK, thanks for the advice. It worked out in the end. <3 But I have another prob., and this is serious too. So I have a BGF. And there's lately been this rumour that I have a crush on him, which I don't, because I hang out with him a lot (I think it's 'cause they don't know that there can be a friendship between a guy and a girl, only dating) and now there is a rumour that "I am madly in love with him". When I first heard that, it hurt a lot. It isn't true, though. I don't know who started it, why, and why people think that - if I denyed having a crush on him, shouldn't that mean that I'm not "madly in love with him" either? I really don't know what to do. Tomorrow, I am going to talk to my teacher and class about this, but I have no idea how to solvev it - and how to stop the rumours from coming. Can you please help? XOXO Thanks for all of the great advice. SecretID

Hey chica, it's really good that you're going to talk to teach and your class about it. That should help a lot right there. And, I'd also talk to your BGF about it too, and see how he feels. Let him know that they're just that... rumors, and you don't want them to get in the way of your friendship at all. Unfortunately, rumors start out of boredom and jealousy. I know it's no consolation now, but people will get bored quickly and move on to someone or something else. In the mean time, don't let them know that it's getting to you. When they ask you about it, flatly deny that you're into him, and don't let them see how hurt you are. Laugh about it. That'll help.

xxx

SecretID on 2/27/2011 7:28:09 PM

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Hey girl, I'm sorry to hear about the serious sitch, I understand why that freaked you out. I think you should talk to your friend about this. It's important to make sure that she's alright. Talk to her in private and let her know what you heard, and that you were worried about her so you had to see if she was okay. Let her know that you are there for her. If she is dealing with some serious stuff, you could offer to go with her to talk to an adult about it. Wishing you both the best.

xoxo

Marie H.

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pinkypi26 on 2/15/2011 6:40:51 PM

MOD MOD MOD OK, so there's a guy in my class. I know that he has a crush on someone, but I never dreamed it might be ME. Anyways, I don't look at him as a BF. But he's really kind and when I go through touch situations, he's there to back me up, thus making him my BGF. The thing is, though, I don't know what to do. My friend told me (not implying anything) that he'd make a great BF, which I thought so too, even though I'm not dating. My other friends don't really like him, and this is strange for me too. It was a sudden friendship. So what do I do? 1. I like him now as a BGF 2. My friends dislike him 3. He's always there and gives me kind and sweet advice. I talk to him on chat and stuff, not really in public. Also, his crush on me kinda makes things akward - he doesn't know that I know, but I do. Thanks!

Hey girl, That does sound like a tough sitch! I wish I could give you a perfect answer, but of course, only you can decide what's the right next step. You might want to think about why your friends dislike him - is it a dealbreaker (like, they think he is mean or disrespectful), or something that's no big deal (like, they think he's kinda dorky)? If he hasn't told you about his crush yet, I think you don't need to worry too much. He might not be sure what he wants either. Try not to let yourself feel too awkward, and keep getting to know this guy. If you decide you want to give dating a shot, that's awesome, but if not, at least you have a super-awesome BGF! xoxo Marie H.

SecretID on 2/14/2011 7:13:00 AM

mod mod mod thanks for the advice!! i never really thought of it that way!

now i know who to send a comment to whenever i am needing some advice! thanks again

You're so welcome! I am really glad I could help.

xoxo

Marie H.

thetwilightgleek on 2/8/2011 7:24:30 PM

omg we are so much alike how old are u i lovvvvvvvvvvve pretty little liars reply on my profile

thesons3 on 1/27/2011 7:55:03 PM

MOD MOD!! I have really dry skin on my face, especially when I wake up or get out of the shower. I use a moisturizer, but I was wondering if there was any other thing I should use or do to help my skin. Also, very off topic, there is this guy I really like and my friends say he likes me back. I have a couple classes with him, and I really want to start up a convo, but i have no clue on how to break the ice! Any ideas?? Thanx. I really appreciate wat u do, helping so many teen girls. I think it really does make a difference

Hey girl! You're right, moisturizer is great. Also, staying hydrated and eating healthy helps. You could also try a cleanser for dry skin, like these: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/01/10/cleansers-for-dry-skin.aspx

The best place to start is to just smile and say hi! You could ask him what he thought of a homework assignment, what his plans are for the weekend, or anything you might have in common. Sometimes the hardest part is just getting the first few words out, then it gets easy.

THank you so much for saying that! I am always so glad to help.

xoxo

Marie H.

chlobobananas on 1/17/2011 11:19:48 PM

MOD MOD MOD OK, So I have a couple o' Qs... 1. People say you start your period after your breasts start developing. Well, my mom needed to get a bra in university, and I'm getting discharge, so that means that my period is close... But doesn't that mean that you need to start using a bra too? 2. I'm going away, a vacation where we are gonna be swimming a lot. I haven't gotten my period yet, but I'm worried that I will get it when we are there. I don't wanna wear a tampon, espescially since I'm gonna be a first-time user, so what do I do? Thanks! SecretID

1) You're right that your breasts usually start to grow before your period begins. You might want to check this article out for more deets on the stages of puberty: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2010/02/02/period-puberty-advice.aspx. But when you actually start wearing a bra is a personal choice. If you are interested, talk to your mom about it.

2) The best thing is to come prepared - stock up on pads or tampons and stash them in your bag, just in case. If you don't want to use tampons, that's totally fine. You'll just have to sit out of the water during that time (but who knows? You may not even get it!). If you do get it and you want to swim, a tampon is your only option. They can be tricky, but this article has tips for how to use them: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2009/06/23/007-Period-Advice.aspx.

xoxo

Marie H.

SecretID on 1/14/2011 11:27:26 AM

haha thats soooo cool we have a lot in common! oh BTW thanks so much 4 the advice

Sarah_Scoop on 1/14/2011 1:03:06 AM

hey i saw your comment on the face wash post about the lip balms, and i have big lips and they always get chapped really easily! so i recommend burts bees, or what i use every day, lip balm with spf. lips can get sunburnt too! (:

ValShmal98 on 1/11/2011 8:58:20 AM

i just posted a Dear Carol Question... where will it show up and when and where will it be answered and how will i know its been answered?

Hey girl, I'm sorry, I'm not totally sure how it works since I don't handle Carol's Q's myself! I know she gets lotsa questions, so be patient! I don't know if you provided contact info, but def keep an eye on the site (and the mag!) for your q. xoxo

e.procinsky on 1/10/2011 10:10:13 PM

Thanks so much!

jesusfreaksaroundme on 1/4/2011 6:01:56 PM

MODMOD! Well I was wondering what's ur story about how you became a mod... I think it interests me...

Hey girl! That's an awesome question! Well, first off I have always been a big fan of GL. For a long time I have been interested in writing, and also helping girls with advice, tough sitches, and just feeling better about themselves. I saw that GL had positions open to be moderators, so I thought, "Wouldn't that be amazing??" and applied for it. So that's how I got here! If you want more info on applying, check this page: http://www.girlslife.com/page/Intern-at-Girls-Life.aspx

xoxo

Marie H.

layla398 on 1/4/2011 12:25:03 AM

How do you MOD? And what does MOD even stand for?

Hey girl!

"MOD" stands for moderator. We are girls that work for GL, help out with the website, and answer questions for you lovely ladies. If you put "MOD" before your question in a comment, we will answer it for you.

xoxo

Marie H.

reneesonglover on 12/29/2010 6:21:50 PM

MOD MOD MOD OK Marie! Thanks for the advice!

No problem, chica! Anytime.

SecretID on 12/23/2010 5:48:01 PM

huff1999 on 12/20/2010 10:02:04 PM

MOD MOD MOD 1st of all MArie thx 4 the advice. 2nd. i have a prob. relating to my previous prob. so i'm TRYING to controll my feelings abour my bff's ex. but whenever i chat with him on gmail, or at skool, i feel all... giddy. what does that mean? like, i feel like i said something stupid, or im overexagerating when im telling him something but i dont want to sound overexagerated. and i feel something in my stomach, like something weighing down, and twisting my guts... like im about to present in front of the whole class and im nervous. what does that mean? and the prob. is, i dont normally find crushes. like, in ur answer, u said for me to concentrate on the other cute guys in my class - but the thing is, this is my first, and prob. gonna b my only crush (if i do have a crush on him) for a loooooonnnnngggg time! i feel so... confused! what do i do? plz help! thx! SecretID

Hey chica!

You're welcome, we're always so glad to help! Those giddy feelings could be in part due to your feelings for him. They might also be nerves, because you know you aren't "supposed" to like him. Sometimes when someone is "off-limits," it can make it more nerve-wracking or exciting to talk to them. Annoying, right? But I really think you can get through this. If you really don't think he'd be a good guy for you, remind yourself of that when you go into crush-mode. Think about the specific reasons. I really don't believe that this will be your only crush - there will be other guys that give you butterflies, eventually. And you deserve to be with someone who not only flips your stomach, but will treat you right and respect you, as well.

xoxo

Marie H.

SecretID on 12/14/2010 8:33:41 PM

lol thank you for the help - i really appreciate it and sometimes i may be vague

yankeedoodle on 12/14/2010 4:19:22 PM

Ok I've had my period for almost two years now. And everytime I get my period it somehow lands on when were on vacation. Of course I can't go swimming because I'm too scared to wear a tampon soo I miss out on swimming.

I hate it and I don't want to be afraid of wearing one. How can I get over this fear?

Hey girl, I know it can be difficult to get started, and of course it's a pesronal choice whether you use them or not. But if you don't want to miss out on the fun, use that as your motivator to get over the fear! Next time you have your period, give yourself some time to practice putting one in (it takes a while to get used to it). Check out this article for great tips: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2009/06/23/007-Period-Advice.aspx. xoxo

cheerfreak on 12/13/2010 10:35:43 PM

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plz help i have a rly confusing sitch.
ok so my bff had a bf, and they brokee up. and then my bff's bf chose someone else over her and it rly hurt her. the prob. is, i think i have a crush on him or something like that. i dont want to fal 4 him b/c i no the relationship will end in tears. what do i do? thx.

Hey SecretID, I recommend you trying to distract yourself with another cute guy at your school. Also avoid ur bff's ex and remind yourself that he is not a good bf for you.

SecretID on 12/11/2010 9:14:37 AM

MODMODMOD i have a crush on a certain guy. ive liked him since late September. he has a girlfriend. he's told me her name but thats all i know. he never talks about her. we had to go to ohio and we got to go to some amusement parks. on the first day he would comfort me and wrap his arm around me if i didn't feel good or if i got scared of a ride. he told me all his embarrassing stories when he puked on rides on i thought we really hit it off. but that night my friend told me she found out he has a girlfriend. she goes to a different school. the next day we talked a LOT on the bus and he would tickle me and tell me corny jokes. the next day we still hung out, but it was distant. after the trip we were still close and he still was affectionate. for about the past week we haven't talked at all. if we did, he would say "Why are you walking with us?" etc. i would start to like another guy, but then i would always start thinking of him. i would NEVER cheat!!! idk how to cope. advice?

Hey girl, I'm so sorry to hear about the confusing sitch. If the guy has a gf, it might be best to just keep it as a friendship for now. That will keep you from getting your heart tied up in a confusing sitch. Spend time with other guys who are single to keep your options open! xoxo

♫RockOn64♫ on 12/6/2010 11:19:24 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD ok so theres this guy that i really like. hes really nice and sometimes i catch him staring at me. my friend asked him if he liked me and he said yes. my friend thinks i should ask him out but im afraid even though i know he likes me. i would ask him out but im not like that and i dont want to be something im not. we dont talk that much because we only have one class but we used to have almost every class together and we talked a lot. should i ask him out or just talk to him? thx so much in advance!! <3 tinkerella13

Hey girl! Sorry your Q got missed! Really, you just need to do with your comfortable with, even if that just means chatting and getting to know him a little better. If you want to step things up a notch, there is a middle-ground option. You could invite him to hang out or go to an event with your group of friends. It shows you want to get to know him better without feeling too bold. Good luck, chica! xoxo

tinkerella13 on 12/2/2010 7:02:25 PM

I just wanted to say thanks for the advice! I did what you suggested, and my other friend (who was being left out) and I just started our own conversation. Eventually, my friend noticed and came to join our convo. The other girl kept trying to get her away, and eventually my friend had to tell her, "Look, I want to talk with them right now. You can do whatever you want but I'm not coming." Eventually, this girl got bored and went off with another friend of hers. Thanks soo much!

puppylover1152 on 12/1/2010 5:54:07 PM

Hey i love paradise island too it was awesome it was literally paradise!!!!

palmtreeluvr on 11/29/2010 7:39:05 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD ok but the only bad part is my mom doesn't even remember when she started and my grandma doesn't remember either lol well thx anyways Luv, Keziyah

Oh, I see. Well, If you're dying to know, you can ask your doc about it at your next check-up. Sometimes they can give you a rough expectation of when you might get it. But really, it's just one of those things that you have to wait and let it come!

Princess Keziyah on 11/29/2010 7:23:44 PM

I mean 2 months ago

Princess Keziyah on 11/29/2010 6:32:01 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD Hi Marie well I just turned 11 about a month and a 1/2 ago and my mo told me i am gonna get my period soon so i was wondering how do i know if i'm starting my period????? Thx Luv, Keziyah

Hey girl! Some girls get discharge a 6 months to a year before their period, and girls usually get it around the same time as other women in their family did. But there's really no way to know for sure when you'll get it! You can always stock up on supplies so you'll be ready when the day comes, if you're nervous about it.

Princess Keziyah on 11/29/2010 6:30:50 PM

Hey, Im new and i have been wondering what is MOD? Thanks Much (: Ronnie

Hey girl, welcome to Girls' Life! "MOD" stands for moderator. We are chicas that help out on the website and answer questions for you lovely ladies. If you put "MOD" above a question, we'll answer it for ya! xoxo Marie H.

Mkbgirl97 on 11/24/2010 12:02:14 PM

MOD MOD MOD! I want a fresh start so that people won't think so badly of me but how can I? I just want them to stop talking about me badly but the only way of doing that is to show them who I really am. But that's hard because I feel like they've already set their minds on me and if I show them my true self, then they're going to think I'm fake by doing that! I feel so self-conscious when I'm around them and I feel so depressed. I think I'm overreacting to this whole situation because there's only 3 people saying this stuff about me but it still hurts because I'm so used to being friends with everyone! I'm starting to think "popularity" is really not that good because it gives me more attention-bad attention! How can I just change their minds about me? (I don't want to confront them because I don't want to make this into a big deal) Thanks so much!

Hey girl,

It is possible that by being the real you some people will think it's fake. But those are the people who aren't worth your time. It's nice to have everyone like you, but it's even better to be comfortable being yourself and have a few people who know and love the real you. It's okay if this is really bothering you, but I would really hope that you talk to an adult you trust who can support you through this difficult period. xoxo

alphabet on 11/22/2010 5:56:47 PM

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