Hey girlie! Well it definitely looks like lack of communication is the issue w/ ur guy. it depends on how old u r, but since he can drive im assuming ur about 16 or 17.... so i would say dont be too uptight or make a big deal about going out to eat w/ him. if u make it just a casual weekend lunch date to start then he may be more comfortable & u can get more serious. hope this helps! good luck hun! <3

sparklysydafrid on 8/12/2011 4:38:01 PM

Hey! I would love to be VP! What would you need me to do? Help you give advice? Comment on my profile! Thanx again!

Peace*Love*Converse on 4/9/2011 12:50:05 PM

heyyyy!! i saw ur comment of da guy u like! u should totally ask him out!! and i hurd dat guys like it when girls make da first move! so if u do ask him out then he might think as it as a bold move since u asked him out first!!!! go for it!!!!

JustinBieberluver7 on 2/22/2011 8:32:43 PM

What are your plans for the holidays?

sockmonkey49 on 12/17/2010 9:40:10 PM

Yes I love Christmas
It's my favorite holiday
Kayla xoxo

redsoxlover on 11/14/2010 7:53:39 PM

heyyy! so i mean, like it's weird but it's your cousin. he's not gonna be interested in you like that. as im getting older my guy cousin hugs me more and stuff too. im not trying to be mean but maybe ur cousin is just acting weird. he's a boy yes, but he's not gonna be interested in his cousin. that just wouldn't happen. so u can just be like "whatever his name is knock it off!" like jokingly if u want him to stop and get the point. if ur uncomfertable the only thing thats important is you. not his awkward jokes. not to be cliche but being touched unwanted is harressment even if it's not even supposed to be aimed like that.
GUY FRIEND. um weiiiirrddd. so i think u should just be saying knock it off. he's probably not trying to be weird with you. he's probably just trying to make jokes and be closer family with you and maybe he thinks thats wut he's sposed to do. can't really say because idk the kid but he just seems to be joking around as a cousin
HOPE WE HELPED!
xoxo

RockNRollx3o on 11/5/2010 10:12:58 PM

hey girl!

Okayyyyy, this is a little weird.... i mean he's your cousin and all!! DEFINITELY don't let him touch you if you don't want him to! i can see why you're freaked out being that you're related and all..... you need to talk to him about it. Say something like "Lately, i feel really awkward, uncomfortable, and inappropriate around you. I really just don't like you touching me, so could you please stop? We're related, we're family, and it's just weird and uncomfortable for me." i mean a possibility is that he's in puberty! awkward but true!! either way you definitely need to talk with him and if he continues doing it and it makes you uncomfortable, you HAVE to speak to an adult!

hope this helps! post back!

~Lauren

soccergirl524 on 9/30/2010 7:41:54 PM

Ok, so yeah, this is a little strange. Watch and see if he does this to anyone else that he is really close to. Maybe that is just his way of saying that he loves you (as family, i mean). Another possibility is that he wants to know what it is like to have a girlfriend, and hold a girls hand. He might also have some sensory problems (like he needs to touch things, smell things, and feel things...just because his body has the urge to) If it's bugging you, just say "y do you always touch me?" don't be too serious about it, that might hurt his feelings. If he doesn't do this to others, and it's creeping you out, just walk away or move over. I don't think that this is too serious, though.
Hope i helped =D

mofraser on 9/9/2010 4:35:14 PM

Hey girl you posted a ? on my old profile wich was luvs13.i had to change do to my cuputer but hers my answer(i an the same gall not a creeper).i say high fives are so normal the may seem dorky but actully its cute that he would even high five you in a store he sounds sweet dont fell dorky its tattlly normal. well tell me if this helps luvs♥

luvs11 on 8/28/2010 6:28:15 PM

Is that your cat? Cause it is soooo cute! My cats are adorable, but they're not loving

cats-r-the-best on 8/10/2010 12:53:09 AM

thanks! yeah, we do...

chlojo98 on 8/3/2010 8:18:50 PM

thanks.

i_luv_devin on 7/29/2010 5:46:58 PM

Hey girl! This sounds a little weird to me. Of course, I don't know your cousin or what his intentions are, so I can't say for sure if his behavior is out of line. But the most important thing is whether or not it makes YOU uncomfortable. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of his behavior; if it bothers you, you need to speak up. Start off by going straight to him and telling him that his actions freak you out a little bit, and ask him to stop. If he still continues to do it, every time he does it you have to tell him firmly that he has no right to do that if it makes you uncomfortable. If he still doesn't get the message, you're going to have to go to your parents for help. It may be hard, but you shouldn't have to put up with his unwanted behavior, especially since he's your cousin and there's no way you can avoid him. Remember, no one has a right to treat you in a way that makes you feel threatened. Good luck!
<3 Shannon

supersingershannon on 7/23/2010 11:46:25 PM

Nice pic! is that your cat?
come check out my profile sometime

happehcat on 7/9/2010 3:58:17 PM

hey girl
lol this is funny cause my friend asked the same exact question yesterday . first off his cuteness shouldn't intimidate u . i bet ur pretty good lookin urself ( all shy people are ). ur best bet would be to compliment him first like "hey your report in history was really inspiring " or " your really good at basketball i saw u playin at blah blah blah" than if hes a nice guy he will be all like thanks and ask your name if he doesn't say my name is ( your name) and the convo will just flow from there . hope this helps . if theres any problems with my response comment abott it on my profile luck

themusician on 7/6/2010 10:19:21 PM

ugh i keep trying to post but its not working

cc-time on 7/2/2010 1:05:55 PM

hey girly!
ok so when there is a totally cute guy that i dont really know but i want to know i do this
1.try making a little eye contact. if you catch eyes and it feels right then move onto step 2. but if you cant seem to get him to look up thats ok lol

2.Everyone likes a complement so say wow i really like your shoes or your shirt is really cool where did you get it? that will get your convo going. make sure your really listening and ask question

3.smiling and standing open will make you easyer to talk to you which will make him more confident.

4. Good luck and dont think too much about it or it will just scare you lol so come back if you have anymore question or tell me how it went

cc-time on 7/2/2010 10:25:41 AM

hey girl!
Your definately not the only one with this problem! There are LOTS of girls who get nervous when talking to guys. And i dont think he will think you are stuck up for not talking to him, my guess is he is probably confused about who you are and what your about because you dont know each other. This is also probably the reason why he didnt reply to your message asking him out, you cant take things too quick with guys you barely even know! I suggest putting together a strategy to talk to him and at least introduce yourself so he knows who you are and you can at least be friends until you get to know each other better. I would find ONE bff to hang out with you when hes around in the hallway or at the mall and casually walk up to him and say hi! Ask him if he understood the homework, if hes going to the basketball game this weekend, that kind of thing! just something to break the ice. Your bff is there to support you when you are talking to him so if things get super awkward she can bail you out. or she can encourage you to go talk to him so you dont chicken out of talking to him. Dont push him too far when your talking, just be sweet and funny and calm and be you! If he really doesnt seem like he gets it just say ok well i guess we'll talk to you later and head off in another direction. And remember girlie, if things dont work out with this guy, there are many othes to choose from! Good luck and let me know how it goes or if you have any other questions!
Lots of Love
Ellie

hugatree95 on 6/29/2010 9:42:50 PM

hey girl!

Here are eight ways to tell he’s def into you:

1. His friends get to know you
If your guy’s friends suddenly seem to be everywhere ya go, it’s a good sign girl! Most often, guys will use their friends as a way to get closer to you, whether that’s sending them over to talk to you or playing messenger with a li’l love note.

And don’t be worried if his friends tease him or crack jokes when you’re around. They’re probably just jealous their bud is spending more time with you…and guys are weird like that.

2. He acts interested in your hobbies
If he’s really into you, he’s going to make it show. And what better way to show that he’s fallin’ for you than to dig into your hobbies and interests.

If the guy your eyeing asks how ya spend your free time, or even goes as far as showin’ up at your soccer game, it’s a good sign that he’s most likely into you. After all, he’s making a mega effort by asking questions to get to know you!

3. He treats ya different than other girls
Pay attention to how your guy acts around other girls. If he’s a huge flirt and is talkin’ to just about every girl in class, then I’d be careful. This could mean he likes multiple girls, or just doesn’t know what he wants!

But, if he’s payin’ special attention to just you, this usually means he really likes you. Little things like waiting for you after class, chatting it up with you more than usual and singling you out of your big group of girlfriends means he’s totally crushin’ on ya!

4. Ya catch him glancing your way…A LOT
If ya catch your man glancing at you randomly throughout the day, smiling or staring just a little bit longer than normal, he could be totally into you. This is one of the easiest ways for a guy to show they have a crush on you (especially the shy ones) because they don’t have to say anything!

5. He picks on you
Yes, you heard that one right. While it may sound a little weird, some guys use teasing as a way of flirting with a girl they really like. It’s his own little odd way of showing ya he feels comfortable around you…and trying to get you to laugh is part of his secret plan, too!

6. He invites ya to an outing
Girls, this one is a biggie! When a guy goes out of his way to make plans with you, he’s obvi into ya! A shyer guy may ask ya what you’re plans are for the weekend, but the more bold types will go as far as askin’ ya to a picnic, a b-day party or even the school dance! This shows he likes you enough to go out with ya in public and it gives him the opportunity to show you off to some of his buds!

7. He compliments you
Guys aren’t really known for bein’ sweethearts, so when they start dishing out compliments and being extra nice, it means they’re totally into you!

This could be anything from noticing your new haircut to tellin’ ya how awesome you played at the bball game the night before.

8. He tries to be closer to Y-O-U
If suddenly, everywhere ya look you see the guy you like, that’s no coincidence, girl! When a guy’s into you, he does everything he can to be near you. If he sits at the table facing you at lunch, always waits a little longer after class for you to come or hangs out by your locker, these are all good signs!

as for having a conversation:

Talk to him in person

Instead of always talking to him on Facebook, strike up a conversation in person.

Start with a simple hey and ask him how school is going. If you are walking to class, you will probably only have a short conversation, which is key to making things less awkward between you two. The more short conversations you have with each other, the more comfy you (and he) will begin to feel.

The next step

Once you start talking regularly in person and not just on Facebook chat, ask him out. He seems like a shy guy and he may not know if you still have feelings for him.

Guys don’t want us to know that they are probably more scared of asking a girl out than we are of asking a guy out, so he would probably think you were even more amazing if you took the first step and asked if he wants to grab ice-cream after school or catch a movie on Friday night.


It seems the biggest problem between you two is the lack of real communication. Once you fix that, I bet you will find things are a lot better between the two of you.

hope this helps! post back!

~Lauren

soccergirl524 on 6/24/2010 9:28:48 AM