Hi, I have a question for you. Actually a couple questions lol okay, so my bestest friend and I were bullied badly emotionally/verbally last year. It really knocked down my confidence. It's kinda hard to tell if the bullying is still going on or if I just have a lack of confidence But anyways because I have low confidence, it caused me to have self-worth issues. I have always been kinda shy, but it's really bad now. I feel like my opinions never count at school. Like not really in class but during break when i'm around my peers and friends. I don't talk to anybody unless they start the conversations. This is an exception to my best friends, but my guy friends, and the girls one grade higher and lower than me who I am friends with. I feel like every time I say or do something, someone judges me on it or talks behind my back, which was probably a result of the bullying, when this was how I always reacted, not to say or do anything . Actually, the funny thing is, that I know that all my friends love me and wouldn't talk behind my back or judge me. But it feels like no one understands my problems except my bestie, and they're driving me insane, and I'm just itching to tell someone about them (besides my bestie), but I'm scared they won't care or they'll tell me to grow up or they won't believe me... And to make this whole problem worse, I belong to the "nice girl" group, and people take advantage of me. Like this one girl who I really don't like but don't ever tell her that, and she's not my friend, and she never, ever talks to me unless she needs something, came up to my friends and I today and asked if she could borrow one of our calculators for a math test. She also once came up to me and said hi and just stood by me and texted while waiting for the bus, so that she didn't look like a loner. Actually a lot of people do that to me and my friends. This doesn't really do anything good for my confidence, I just feel like a second friend and i hate it. How do I raise my self-worth, confidence get over these feelings? Also, do you think I should tell someone about it? And what do you think I could do to stop people taking advantage of me? I'm really sick of being in a little slump walking down the hallway cause i think no one likes me at all. If you could help me in anyway that would be so appreciated thanks PS sorry for the long question

marshmelo on 11/18/2011 7:45:14 PM

Hey @lynette!

Sorry to not post on your profile but it says it's not publicly visible so I can't see it.

So about your current stich, you said that you don't have classes but you sometimes pass by him? Whenever you do that you should wave or say hi and smile since he has already said hey you need to return the favor!

And as for crying in front of him, don't be embarrassed, it jus proves to him that you're a real person and sometimes ya just gotta cry. Don't think too hard about that anyway, crying doesn't make you less attractive to guys unless you are crying every second. mmk?

Good Luck! Hope this helps! <3

inluvwithboyz on 10/15/2011 6:21:45 PM

Hey! okay! so im the new girl at school-_- and well theres this guy. hes a jock. just typical jock. ha! well anyways he never noticed me until a couple days ago. but all he said was "hey how are you?" and shot me a smile. well today he didnt say ANYTHING to me.The worst part is today i started to cry because of some family stuff andd i was talking to my bestfriend on the phone and crying to her and he saw me! i was totally embarrassed! i dont know what to do! i want to get his attention! HELP?!?!!(:
thank you!

lynettee on 10/13/2011 11:57:39 PM

hey i LOVE Ellie Goulding as well!!! isnt she the best? lol =D

soccer.rox.26 on 8/24/2011 5:26:01 PM

Thanks for all the kind comments!

@lala2hip178- I can't access your account so I will answer you here.

Hey hon, I totally get your situation, I've been in something like this before. I think the best idea is to let him down easily... Maybe some day walk up to him and say "Hey, I heard a rumor that you like me" and see what he says, if he actually get's the courage to say he does like you, I'd say something like "I'm so sorry, but I think we are better as great friends, is that ok with you?" Hopefully he'll be totally cool with it! GOOD LUCK!!!

inluvwithboyz on 3/6/2011 7:48:10 PM

hey i love your profile pic! so cute! if you need some advice on how to ask out the guy you like, I can help you (I've had tons of experience with that kind of stuff)

ask anju on 1/19/2011 11:40:34 PM

COOL PROFILE! I LUV YOUR PIC!
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

katiekakes8 on 11/25/2010 4:57:36 PM

Hey girlie! Thanks for the question! Soory Im a little late on getting back to you.

Well, I think that you should tell him in person that you like him. That way he knows for sure that, that is truly how you feel and not some rumor that his friend made up. Though Im thinking that yous should tell him after the tutoring session, so you can focus on your studies. ;) I do believe though, that you should tell him how you feel. I had a crush on my guy friend for the longest time, and I never told him. And now he has a girlfriend so I missed my chance and I regret it big time for not speaking up about how I feel. Just remember, that even if he doesnt feel the same way, there are plenty of other guys out there, and you'll eventually find the one that adores you.

Hope this helps!! Let me know!!!

Hugs and kisses, Sophie ;)

stellarsophie33 on 10/19/2010 6:34:02 PM