Hey girl,

I submitted my answer to your question a few weeks ago but it looks like it didn't post. So here's take two...

First of all, congratulations on being on your eighth month with your guy! It's unusual to see young couples together so long, so it means you two have really got somethin going.

If you said no the first time he asked to kiss you, it sounds like you didn't feel ready. That's fine--no guy should even try to make you do anything you don't want to do. When the time (and the guy!) is right, you'll know. Always remember, True Love Waits.

If you just said no without giving him an explanation, he may have felt you didn't like him. Why? Because he misinterpreted your “I’m not ready/our relationship isn’t ready for this” as a plain old rejection of HIM, which obvi wasn’t the case.

You sound like a really caring, compassionate person. If I were you, I’d sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your bf about your relationship. Flatter his ego a lil ;) -- Reassure him you DO like him, very much, and that you are attracted to him (hopefully you are! lol), but you don’t feel comfortable taking your relationship to the physical stage just yet. If he doesn’t already know, be honest about your never-been-kissed status—this should make him even more attracted to you, because you’re saving yourself for the right person.

Now would also be a good time to step back and take a look at your own feelings. Do you want to kiss him? If so, why? If you decide to do it, make sure it’s for the right reasons. Because he wants you to is not a good enough reason! lol. Think about how far you feel comfortable going with a guy—now or in the future. The time to figure these things out is NOW, not when you’re “in the moment”.

It sounds like what happened between you and your guy was just a misunderstanding—but hopefully it opened both your eyes to the need to get on the same page about a few things. Share your insights with your bf and find out what kind of physical contact he feels is appropriate in a relationship. Don’t change your standard to suit his!!!, but make sure both of you know where the other person stands. It may be kinda uncomfortable, but it’s a convo deff worth having. That should clear up a bunch of things
Good luck girl!! Hope this helps!!
Xoxo,
Kyra

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