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Banapple7 on 4/29/2009 4:42:52 PM
Okay I'm warning you, my flirting tips are LONGG! But here they are.
Approach everyone you meet with a smile. Let your face show that you're interested in what people are saying. Let your natural enthusiasm shine through. Look people in the face and show them you are happy to meet them.
Nobody likes a phony. People can spot insincere praise and faked interest right away. Just being yourself is your best bet for flirting success. If you are open to others, they will be able to sense it.
Don't think too hard about what you're going to say - just really listen to what the other person is saying and let yourself respond naturally. Don't worry about what might happen next - live for the moment! You might not get another chance to talk to the person! So go for it!
You can't hear this often enough! A smile makes you look friendly, confident and approachable. People smile at people who smile! So smile! It's contagious!
Make Eye Contact
When talking to a guy, make sure you have good eye contact. You don't have to stare! But don't look all around the room, either, or he'll think you're looking for someone more interesting to hang out with. Let him know with your eyes that he is the person you would most like to be talking to.
You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak! Listening is a true art, and the best conversationalists all have great listening skills in common. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you if you master this simple skill. Everyone loves to be listened to.
Show you are interested in what a guy is saying by asking for more details. If he says he plays baseball, ask what position. If he mentions a movie he saw, ask him to tell you more about the story. You get the picture! Asking questions proves you have been listening, and sends the message that you find him interesting. Guys find this very flattering (wouldn't you?).
Ask Open-Ended Questions
Try to avoid asking "yes/no" questions in conversations with guys. If they're nervous or not great at small talk, you'll end up with a one-word answer, and a stalled conversation. Instead, ask "open-ended" questions that begin with "What do you think about.." or "How did you feel when.." that encourage him to give you more detailed answers.
Use Innocent Touch
When talking to a guy, lightly touch his arm when you're making a point or laughing at something he has said. Don't overdo it, just a few times in a conversation is enough to send the message that you like him. If you have chemistry with a guy, he'll figure it out fast just from the touch of your fingertips.
People are drawn to other people who have confidence. Confidence radiates like the sun - others can sense when you have it. It's all about walking with your head held high and knowing that if a guy doesn't respond to your flirting, it's his loss, not yours. Know you are a catch and you'll send that signal to others.
Be Glad to Meet Him
When you're introduced to a cute guy (at school, at church, at a party, at the mall), always repeat his name and ask him a question. (Example: "It's nice to meet you, Michael. Don't you sit at the back of my English class?")
Compliment Him - If You Mean It
A sincere compliment can go a long way toward making a guy feel good around you. Notice the word "sincere" - don't spread on the flattery like butter, or he'll think you're all talk, or worse, that you say the same thing to everyone. Pick something about him that you can compliment sincerely - try to pick something that's not the most obvious, such as his nice skin or his long eyelashes. These kinds of compliments are the best, because the guy being complimented knows you've really noticed him.
Take Compliments Gracefully
How you take a compliment sends a strong signal to guys. The best response is always a simple "Thank you." Don't play yourself down ("Oh no, my hair looks terrible " or "It's not my shirt, I borrowed it"), which only sends the message that you're not worth his time. On the other hand, don't be conceited ("I know, I am really pretty!"), or you'll end up alone admiring your own self.
Set Yourself Apart
Of course it's much easier to approach a guy when you're surrounded and protected by your girlfriends, but most guys get nervous in front of an audience. Even if you are out with a friend, separate yourself every once and a while to approach a guy you like and say hi, or just to walk past him. A guy might like you but not want to interrupt you and your friend's gab session.
Don't Be a Mean Girl
Treat guys gently and other guys will notice you. If you're at a party or a dance and someone you're not interested in approaches you and flirts - be nice. Let him down easy, instead of blowing him out of the water, laughing or otherwise embarrassing him. You could even help him get talking to one of your friends, who might be more interested in him. Trust us, the other guys - including the ones you like - are watching to see what you do. If you make this guy look like a jerk for approaching you, the others will be too intimidated to bother. (The exception: guys who act like jerks or make lewd sexual remarks to you. In this case, don't hesitate to tell the guy you're not interested, period, and you'd appreciate if he'd stay away from you forever).
Use Your Friends' Eyes
Get a friend to watch while you walk past a group of guys, then fill you in later on who checked you out. (Don't forget to return the favor!)
The Best Line is "Hello"
Don't try to come up with a super-clever plan for starting a conversation. The opening line that works best is still "Hello." After that, let the conversation flow naturally - tell him your name, talk about the surroundings, ask him a question, give a sincere compliment.
Everyone likes being around someone who doesn't take life too seriously. Be playful and light-hearted. Don't cover your mouth when you laugh. Let everyone see you enjoy having a good time!
Give your crush some clues that you like him. There are many ways to do this. In a conversation with your crush, mention casually that you are not going out with anyone. Mention places you miss going to or a movie you really want to see. Talk about things you know both of you would like doing. The goal is to let your crush know that if they ask you out, you are available. (Don't be desperate though - keep it casual). By doing this, you also let him know what kinds of places you would enjoy going on a date (just in case he was wondering!).
Stay in His Line of Sight
Hang out where your crush does. Find ways to spend more time near him during school, after classes or after school. Join clubs he belongs to. Make friends with his sister. The more chances you make for him to notice you, the more likely he will. You'll also get more chances to flirt. Plus - bonus - he'll figure you guys have a lot in common if you're always hanging out in the same places.
Go out of your way to find ways to be nice to the guy you like. Make room for him at your lunch table if the cafeteria is crowded. Help him with homework. If he's alone, get him to join you and your friends so he has company. Show him what a sweet, caring girl you are!
Try to Hide Your Nerves
Don't let fear of rejection or bad experiences from the past make you paranoid about a conversation that's happening in the present. Try to relax and focus only on the person you are talking to. Remember that he is probably more nervous than you! If you have to, fake being perfectly at ease and it will turn into reality.
Accentuate the Positive
Negativity is the enemy of flirting. When talking to your crush, don't whine about what's wrong with your life, how bad you look or how disappointed you are that you didn't make the school play. Instead, focus on something positive - what a nice day it is, how excited you are about an upcoming event, how glad you are that you two finally got a chance to talk. A positive attitude from you gives him the "welcome" sign - it lets him know that you're upbeat and happy around him, a big compliment. Don't get all giggly and silly, but it's nice to let a guy know that you find talking to him fun. He'll get an ego boost and he'll associate talking to you with a feel-good experience (so he'll come back for more!).
Watch the Gossip
If you engage in gossip with a guy you like, you might leave the unfortunate impression that you gossip about everyone - including him. He's not going to open up to you if he thinks you're the kind of girl who'll be blabbing everything he says to the next person you talk to. In fact, guys often complain that girls gossip too much - it's a real turn-off for them. Have only nice things to say about others, and your crush will be impressed by your positive, friendly attitude.
Don't Take Flirting Too Seriously
The best flirts are girls who can do it without expecting anything to come of it. Guys love flirting with girls who seem like they could get anyone they want. Develop that attitude! Try to think of flirting as an enjoyable activity in itself, without always worrying about the final result. It's kind of like shopping - you can have fun cruising the mall and trying on clothes, even if you don't end up buying anything. Of course, your ultimate goal is to score "the perfect outfit" - but don't be in a rush, or you'll scare off guys by seeming desperate. Practice flirting with guys you aren't that interested in, and soon you'll be able to flirt with the guy you adore and still seem casual.
Play With Your Hair
Touching your hair while talking to a guy sends him the subconscious message that you're attracted to him - and you don't have to say a word. Twirl a piece of hair around your finger while talking to your crush, or pause every few minutes to slowly sweep your hair back off your face.
Leave Him Wanting More
The first few times you talk to a guy, be the first person to end the conversation. When you feel like it might be winding up, or after a few minutes of one-on-one talk, break away by smiling and saying "It was nice talking to you. I have to go meet up with (your friend's name) now." This makes you seem in demand, and not desperate to talk to him. Bonus: if you're a bit nervous about flirting with him, it takes the pressure off you to keep it going.
"Leave" a Good Impression
When you're leaving a party or a group of people where you met a new guy, take a moment to go over and tell him you enjoyed meeting him. If you can't remember his name, use that as a reason to talk to him again before you leave!
Don't Wait for Him to Flirt First
Most guys in their teens are notoriously shy about talking to girls, even girls they like! Make the first move. Chances are, he'll appreciate not having to move first and be flattered that you want to talk to him. 95% of teen guys says they love it when a girl makes the first move.
Don't Put It All Out There
A sure way to be a flirting flop is to act overly sexual by talking dirty or hinting at your vast experience with guys. Guys tend to divide girls into two categories - easy to get, and hard to get. Guess which ones they like more? If you seem ready for too much too soon, he'll think you are like that with everyone - not the impression you want to send the guy of your dreams. Be a little mysterious - flirt, show your interest by being friendly, but don't be overly obvious or offer more than you intend to give.
Don't Dwell on Your Performance
If you worry too much about what you're saying and how you're saying it, you'll seem distracted and not very interested in the person you're talking to. Instead of being wrapped up in yourself, focus your attention on the guy who's talking to you. Don't think ahead to what you're going to say next! Really listen to what he is saying and respond with thoughtful answers that show you've been listening.
Look, Look Away, Look Again
This is a flirty move that guys say they pick up strongly as a signal you're up for conversation with them. Throw a glance at a guy who interests you. Then, as soon as he turns to meet your look, immediately lower your eyes. Wait a second and then look back up at him and smile sweetly. He'll get the message!
Don't Panic Over Pauses in Conversation
Everyone, no matter how confident they seem, gets nervous sometimes in social situations. Cut them - and yourself - some slack. Don't flip out if conversation seems awkward at first, especially if you don't even know each other that well. Just remember to keep up eye contact, smile and ask questions about him you really want to know. If you get too nervous to continue, excuse yourself and leave the flirting to another time when you're feeling more assured.
Don't Fake It
If a guy asks you questions about yourself (a sure sign he's interested, by the way!), don't come up with answers you think he wants to hear. There's no point playing a role when he'll just end up finding out later. Be proud of who you are and what you like doing.
Use Your Surroundings
If walking up to a strange guy and saying "hello" seems like Mission Impossible, use your surroundings to give you an opening line that's normal, not cheesy. In a fast food place, ask the cute guy in line if he's tried a certain food (if it's any good), or ask him what's the best thing to order there. At a club, ask him if he knows who the singer is of a song that's playing, or ask him if it's always so crowded.
(My all time favorite!)
Use "Mirroring" Body Language
"Mirroring" is a kind of unspoken communication, where you copy - or "mirror" - the other person's body language. So if he's got his arms crossed, you cross your arms too; if he runs his hand through his hair, you do the same. Don't do exactly everything he does, or you'll end up looking like a monkey! But by gracefully mirroring some of his gestures, his brain gets the subconscious message that you like him. This is a great trick for helping someone relax when you're flirting with them at a party.
For advanced flirters, this is one of the all-time classic flirting tricks. When you're in a conversation with a guy, ask him if you can tell him a secret, then lean in to his ear and whisper a sincere compliment ("You have really good taste in clothes").
This one is so old-fashioned, your mom probably used it. There's a reason it's a classic though - this flirting staple hardly ever fails! Walk past a guy you like, making eye contact with him and giving him a nice smile. Then just when you're passing him, drop something (a book, your bag, whatever). If he's at all interested in you, he'll bend down to help you pick it up- and voila! There's your opportunity to start chatting.
Ask for His Help
Creating opportunities for your crush to "help" you will give him a confidence boost and make him feel more comfortable and assured around you. Pick something you're sure he's good at, like helping you practice a part in a play, showing you how to stretch before running, getting your car started, or solving a problem. Devious? Maybe- but it works!
Repeat His Name
Repeating a guy's name in conversation sends a message directly to his subconscious that you are interested in him. Don't go overboard ("Yes Billy, I agree, Billy, that the mall, Billy, is very fun, Billy!")! Saying his name a few times through the conversation is enough - and a very effective flirting technique.
Ask Questions that Show You "Get" Him
This is an advanced flirting move that, done right, can make a guy think you were made for him. The trick is to let him know you see something in him that no one else understands. To do that, you've got to guess how he sees himself inside, which is usually different from what everyone notices about him. So aim for complimenting the opposite. Is he a jock? Tell him how sensitive or spiritual he seems. Is he a dreamy, intellectual type? Tell him the first thing you noticed about him were his strong arms. Do this flirting maneuver right, and he'll be eating out of your hand!
(My second Favortie!)
Give the Head to Toe Look
When a guy you like is walking towards you or standing across the room, give him a look all over from head to toe. Then flash him your best smile! There's no mistaking this means you think he's fine all over.
Use the Over the Shoulder Look
If your crush is standing behind you, look over your shoulder- and smile at him. This flirtatious move is always a signal you are interested. (Trust us, he'll get the message!)
Have Something New To Do
At a party, be the girl who gets everyone involved in an activity (like dancing) or a game (like "Truth, Dare, Double Dare"). Guys like girls who take charge in social situations. You'll seem like a lot of fun by doing this. Plus, you get the chance to think up something that will bring you closer to your crush!
At a party, in a group of people or even at school, look over at the guy you like, smile and give him a quick wink! Just be sure to follow the Primary Rule of Winking: W.O.O. ("Wink Only Once"). Winking once is a cute way to signal interest, and he'll go crazy wondering if you really did it - a good thing. But if you wink more than once, it looks like you got something stuck in your eye!
Give Him a Nickname
The goal of this flirting move is to create an inside joke between you and your crush. Inside jokes are great for creating a bond and making it easier to connect when you see him again. Does he drink a lot of cola? Call him "sodapop." Does he talk about his car constantly? Call him "hot rod." Make sure it's something flattering or funny, and don't call him anything you'd be embarrassed to say again when you see him in the hall.
Props - interesting items that you carry with you - are great for starting conversations with cute guys. The best props are interesting enough that guys will not be able to help themselves from coming over to talk to you about them. Don't leave home without your props! Great props include a T-shirt with a funny message, a really funky pair of shoes, a fabulous scent, unusual sunglasses, bright neon lipstick or nail polish, interesting jewelry, a great hat, or a cool magazine or book.
TALK ABOUT SCHOOL
What do you think of (a teacher, a class)?
Who's your favorite teacher at our school? What makes them your favorite?
What do you think of schools that make the students wear uniforms?
What do you think our team's chances are this year? (football team, soccer team, swim team, etc.)
Do you do any after-school activities, like sports or clubs?
Prom seems to be a big deal at our school... do you think they're everything they are hyped to be?
Have you ever seen a TV show about high school that is anything like real life?
What do you and your friends do to kick back after school?
Do you plan on going to college someday? Do you know what you want to study at college? What colleges would you apply to? Do you know anyone who's at college? What's it like?
TALK ABOUT YOUR SURROUNDINGS
Have you ever been here (the movie theatre, coffee shop or other setting the two of you are in) before?
(At the movies What do you think they put in that buttery topping anyway?
(At the movies So have you seen any other of (the movie's star) films? Which ones? Which ones did you like or not like?
(At a restaurant Your sandwich looks really good, what's in it?
(At a coffee shop So what's the difference between cappuccino and frappuccino anyways?
TALK ABOUT THE GUY YOU'RE WITH
Have you always lived in (name of your town or city)? How do you like it here? (Or if they say no Where did you live before this? What was it like there? How does this place compare with that one?
Do you ever wish you lived somewhere else?
Does the rest of your family live nearby? (Parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles?)
Do you get along well with your family?
What do you like most about this area?
Do you plan on staying here, or are you going to move away for/after college?
What kind of career are you interested in?
Have you visited the local (park, library, shopping center)? (Talk about the special attractions of your town.)
What do you do when you need to blow off stress?
TALK ABOUT LIKES AND DISLIKES
What kind of movies do you like? What is the worst movie you ever saw? Who is your favorite actor/actress? What do you like about them?
What is your favorite TV show? What is your least favorite?
Did you catch the Academy Awards, (or that new show, or the game, etc.) last night?
What kind of music do you enjoy? Who is your favorite performer/group/band? Who do you think is the hottest this year? Do you think they will still be next year? Who do you think is the most over-hyped?
Do you like to read? Who is your favorite author? What's the best book you've read recently?
Do you read magazines or comics? Which ones?
Do you belong to any local clubs or organizations? What do you like to do in your spare time? (hobbies, interests) How did you get involved in your hobby? What do you like most about it?
BRING UP HYPOTHETICAL QUESTIONS
If you could hang out with any celebrity for a whole day, which famous person would you choose?
If they made a movie of your life, which celebrity would you want to star as you?
If you knew you would be stranded on a desert island for a year, what 5 CDs would you choose to bring?
Well I hope this helps!
reeg-a-lene on 3/28/2009 3:32:23 PM
Ideas to hang out with him more:
Figure out what he likes to do (this can be done, by asking his friends...or "stalking" him on Facebook, Myspace, or Bebo) If he likes to play show up at his games, if he likes art, and is taking a summer art class, go for it (this is especially good, if your not good at art then he can help you ;) If theres a public event going on, go theres a good chance he'll be there. If you guys are in the same History class and have big test coming up ask him if he wants to come over and study.
And a good way to talk to him is flirt. Do you need flirting tips, or conversation starters? I can help you with that.
reeg-a-lene on 3/27/2009 11:58:14 AM
itz okay.Anywayz.........yeah im getting a haircut at 5:30!!
SoccerChamp13 on 3/25/2009 4:05:19 PM
KT21292 on 3/17/2009 5:39:33 PM
Cool, I play trombone.
volleyball forever on 3/15/2009 10:12:37 PM
I play cello in my school orchestra. but I also play the piano, and I just started playing the violin, and if someone asked me to I would be able to play the marimba or the harmonica, but I dont play those regularly. and I want to learn how to play saxiphone and drums.
what instrument do you play?
KT21292 on 3/15/2009 7:58:00 PM
What do you play in band???????
volleyball forever on 3/14/2009 12:25:50 PM
Broadway would be AWESOME! No matter what role you had! Yea, I LOVVVEE country! Like all country music. Right now I'm obsessing over the song "She's Country" by Jason Aldean!! I love that song!!! I'm from Arizona. Where are you from?
reeg-a-lene on 3/13/2009 10:21:34 PM
i know right? hahahah!! anyway, music man is next wek!! OMG!!
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surfchick18 on 3/13/2009 9:07:09 PM
i know, right? (about Robert Pattinson. Swoon.)
kata8888 on 3/8/2009 6:17:54 PM
hey. your icon is so cool. does it count orchestra dorks too? lol.
KT21292 on 3/8/2009 4:16:22 PM
YES I LOVE MUSICAL THEATER LIKE SO MUCH!!!
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surfchick18 on 3/7/2009 11:50:20 PM
I love acting,Dancing, and singing!!!! And I want to be an Actress that's not that famous...Maybe like a broadway actress, they're not that famous yet...still awesome!! I love aero, and I LOVE country music too!
reeg-a-lene on 3/7/2009 12:15:17 PM
oh i love musicals. like tons and tons of musicals. i also like to dance and act. i love to sing too :]]
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surfchick18 on 3/5/2009 10:04:05 PM
lol im more of a performer but i love music. i think its amazing how people can make it.
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surfchick18 on 3/3/2009 9:01:51 PM
oh and i love clementines and volleyball 2!!
babysitter196 on 3/1/2009 10:50:38 PM
yea i go 2 a private school in a small town and we r right cross the road from a public school so we lost a lot of students from our school because they wanted 2 go 2 public school.
babysitter196 on 3/1/2009 10:49:31 PM
thats so kool!! i was in band for a year and i played flute. i learned how to play star wars and pirates of the carribean. im actually watching that movie right now. haha. anyway whats up?
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surfchick18 on 3/1/2009 10:33:54 PM
u r kinda like me! comment on my file plz!
kata8888 on 2/25/2009 8:49:15 PM
heyya i like your profile!! you kinda remind me of myself except i not into band.
surfchick18 on 2/15/2009 7:00:13 PM
Dude tony ain't that bad??Dude i LOVE Tony he is H-O-tripple T!!and by the way i don't mean dude offensively i call all my pal's dude's so dont be offended.Write me back on my pro yo!!
SoccerChamp13 on 2/12/2009 4:04:19 PM
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