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My ex-BF flirts with me, and my new BF tells me not to hang out with him.
I like my BF, but I want to be friends with my ex. What should I do?
BILL: You should do what you want to do. The perfect BF cares for you but doesn’t try to control your feelings. Wanting to be friends with an ex is understandable, since you shared a lot of experiences together. Tell your BF to be patient, and focus on creating your own memories together.
DAVE: Solid advice, Bill, but more weight should be given to the current beau’s feelings. It totally makes sense that he’s uncomfortable with his GF hanging with an ex. Maybe if he got an invitation to join the party, he’d feel better about it.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/14/2009 7:00:00 AM 84 COMMENTS
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On a class trip to Ireland, I got close to a guy friend. He confessed that, although he has a GF, he had a minor crush on me.
However, we never discussed it the rest of the trip. I still see him, but we never talk. What’s up?
DAVE: Vacations are prime for flings. But vacations, along with their magic, come to an end. Then it’s back to everyday life. And, unfortunately, that life includes a girlfriend.
BILL: You’ve experienced the RDF (Reality Distortion Field) that often accompanies an intense trip with someone you like. With RDF, the emotional time frame speeds up since you’re away from your normal routine. The result can be intense emotion, which slows down when you return to real life.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/7/2009 7:00:00 AM 104 COMMENTS
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What does it mean when your ex brags and tries to make you jealous?
This guy dumped me two years ago, and now he’s telling me about his new girlfriend. Help!
DAVE: It means he might not be as into his new girl as he was you. Otherwise, why would he bother? You’ve gotten over the breakup, so be silently flattered that he still cares enough to go out of his way to put on such a show.
BILL: Tell your ex to talk to his new girlfriend about how much he likes her, instead of telling you. You’ve been there, done that and moved on. In a way, it’s your turn to dump him.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/31/2009 7:00:00 AM 102 COMMENTS
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My BFF broke up with her boyfriend.
He used to go out with two of my other buds, and now he seems to be hitting on me!
I’m not into him, but what’s his deal?
DAVE: This is a win-win. You can brush this guy aside and be supportive of your BFF at the same time. He doesn’t have the best interests of your crew in mind, only his own. If he gets the cold shoulder from all of you, he might learn to change his ways.
BILL: Sounds like a soap opera. Eventually, everyone on the show dates everyone. But no rule says you have to go out with a guy just because he likes you. Forget about this guy, and go for someone who’s more prime time.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/24/2009 7:00:00 AM 87 COMMENTS
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