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I really want a cell phone, but my parents refuse. I’ve tried everything. They say they trust me but just don’t want me to have one.
How can I persuade them to get me one?
Pinpoint the precise reasons your parents don’t want you having a cellie. Are they worried you’ll spend time chatting or texting instead of doing homework? Do they want to track who’s calling you to make sure you stay out of trouble? Once you know their concerns, try to reach an agreement. Maybe you’ll only turn your cell on when you’re out (mention that they’ll always be able to reach you!), talk for a set amount of time per day or let your parents monitor who you’ve been talking to.
If you’re willing to compromise, your parents might come around. It’s possible, though, that they can’t fit it into their budget. If that’s the case, have patience and, for now, enjoy the feeling of not being connected 24/7.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/22/2009 7:00:00 AM 115 COMMENTS
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My little sister throws tantrums. If she doesn’t get her way, she hits or kicks me. It doesn’t hurt, but it gets annoying.
I talked to my mom about this and my sister stopped for a while, but she’s started back up again. Help.
Over time, your sister is likely to grow out of throwing such baby-fied temper tantrums. But these episodes are bothering you now and making it tough to get along with sis. Hitting and kicking simply aren’t acceptable behaviors—even if it doesn’t hurt. Talk to your mom again. Let her know how you feel when your sister acts like this. It’s her responsibility as a parent to discipline your sister.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/15/2009 7:00:00 AM 95 COMMENTS
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My mom wants to talk to me about tampons, boys, sex and other embarrassing stuff. We have a great health class in school, and the teachers cover everything.
I don’t want to talk about these topics with my mom. How do I get her to stop?
It’s truly great that your mom wants to talk about this stuff because then you know that if you ever want—or need—to go to her about anything, you can. If you don’t want to chat about tampons and boys in everyday conversation, though, tell her that. Let her know you appreciate her openness but that it makes you uncomfortable when she brings this stuff up.
Tell her you’re learning about these things in school and that you’re glad you can go to her if you have any questions or need to fill in any blanks. You might want to throw in that maybe you’ll become more at ease talking about such topics with her once she lets you bring them up.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/8/2009 7:00:00 AM 124 COMMENTS
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My friends all have BFs, and I feel majorly left out. They talk about how sweet their boyfriends are and how much fun they had on dates.
It makes me want a BF. What can I do to get the guys to notice me?
It’s never fun to be the odd one out, so it’s understandable that it bites for you to see your friends writing love letters in study hall and holding hands with their BFs between classes. Instead of focusing all your attention on snagging a guy of your own, though, take this opportunity to dive into extracurriculars and do all the things you always say you want to do but never quite get around to doing.
Get involved in French club, try out for an a capella group, buy some fabric for the dress you’ve designed, take yoga classes, learn to knit, take up guitar—you get the picture. When you have a full, fun schedule, you’ll see that you don’t need a boy around to have a good time. And when the right dude does come along, you’ll have even more talents and interests to share with him.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/1/2009 7:00:00 AM 144 COMMENTS
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