Boys
I don't know what it is, but guys just don't seem to be interested in me. I am fairly attractive I would say. I can talk to boys but they think of me as a friend and nothing more.
My friend said it's because I'm too smart. Are boys intimidated by my intelligence or do they just not like me?
Hey Chica,
You're so not alone! I can confidently tell you that there are many girlies who go through exactly what you're going through. And you know what? You can get an awesome guy! Here's how.
Use your brain to get boys
First tip? Forget about being "too smart." If a guy can't handle your intelligence, he's obviously not good enough for you. However, you gotta show guys that being smart isn't something to be scared of. Let them know that you can help them with their math test or their projects in chemistry. Offer some homework help to that hottie in history. That'll give you and the boys more to bond about.
Find a hottie with the same hobbies
And seek out some new studs. Total math geek? Join the mathletes. You'll meet guys who are just as dorky about dividing decimals as you are. Dream of being a defense attorney someday? See if your school has a debate team. Doing something you love will up your confidence even more. Guess what? Dudes always dig a gal who's happy and havin' a great time.
Just be good ol' YOU
Don't forget to relax. Sometimes guys simply don't see what's right in front of them! Just be yourself and allow them to see your chill side. Guys can definitely sense that you're worried or awkward around them. So just let everything roll naturally. Every girl has her Prince Charming...all you gotta do is believe!
Best Wishes,
Jeannie
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/6/2009 7:00:00 AM 121 COMMENTS
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This boy and I are going to a dance together, but I'm not sure if we are going as friends or as more than that. He asked me to go homecoming with him because he heard that I liked him. When I asked him if he was going with me because of that, he said of course not. At sports games, we act like a couple and flirt the whole time. At school, we walk with each other, and at parties, we pretty much hang out the whole time together.
The only issue is that I don't know if we really are a couple. Sometimes he will flirt with me nonstop but the next day he'll avoid me. I almost feel like I like him a lot more than he likes me. He has even talked to my girlfriends about asking meout and his friends always tease me about him. How do I tell if he likes me more than just a friend? I'm so confused.
Hey girl,
I totally know how you feel. It's SO frustrating when boys circle around their feelings and never make it clear. But you know what? It just
might be that your almost-BF is confused just like you! He could be wondering right now, "does she like me or not?" So in order to solve this messy puzzle, here are some tips that will get you and your boy together for good!
Make sure this is ONLY about you and him
When you want a guy to know how you feel and you want to know what he feels you can't have the whole "she said, he said" deal. In other words, he shouldn't hear things through your friends and you shouldn't tune in so much to what his friends have to say about you and your guy. It should be simple: you talk to him; he talks to you. When word travels through a grapevine, it gets a little too crazy and sometimes too much for a person to handle.
Make the first move
If this guy asked you to homecoming, it¹s a pretty good sign that he's interested in you. So the first move was taken care of by the guy. But let's face it: homecoming is a HUGE event and it gets hectic. If you really want to get closer to him or at least know what's going on in his mind, make the next move and ask him out. Watch a movie, grab something to eat, and just make sure the entire school isn't around. It'll give you more one-on-one time to REALLY talk.
Don't panic over his little actions.
It's great to flirt and hang with the guy you like. But just because he doesn't act into you every day or all the time, does NOT mean that he¹s trying to avoid you. Like any person, your guy probably needs some space and time. Who doesn't? If you keep it cool and let the flirting happen naturally, he'll like how chill you are. I know these tips aren't drastically big steps, but that's all you'll need in this crush-mess. He'll have the chance to really get to know you and appreciate you more than he ever did. And that will undoubtedly let your
guy realize what he's gotta do. ;]
Best wishes,
Jeannie
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/30/2009 7:00:00 AM 82 COMMENTS
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I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend. All my friends have, and I’m not sure why I haven’t!
Is there something wrong with me?
-Still No BF
Hey girly! At your age, lots of guys and gals start dating. Ya know, relationships that are a bit more than just waving and smiling from across the classroom. But just because your besties are getting BFs doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you!
All the single ladies
It’s totally normal to feel left out when your gal pals are off with their BFs, but there are tons of pluses to being a single sistah. You don’t have to stress about your first fight. Love talking to that guy in your English class? Chat away without worrying about a jealous boyfriend. And, most importantly, you have more time for Y-O-U. Spend that spare time trying out new hobbies, perfecting skills and doing stuff you love.
Ask HIM out
I’m not gonna lie to ya, it can be a lot of fun to have a BF. And newsflash: you can have an adorable date without having an official relationship. Ask a cute guy from geography to meet you at the pizza place to help you with your HW. Once you get to talking one-on-one who knows what will happen from there?
Not that kind of girl
But beware of dating a dude just 'cause all of your other chicas are taken. Tons of gals start dating before they’re really ready. That girl who’s already had 15 BFs since school started? Believe me, you don’t want to be her. If you’ve dated a ton of guys, you won’t be taken seriously. Relationships aren’t meant to last only two hours…or even two days. Since you haven’t had a BF yet, your first relationship will actually mean something to you.
Don’t worry, be happy!
For now, just sit back and enjoy! Talk to guys, get to know them better, make guy friends, and see what happens. Relationships that start out as friendships are often the best ones. So don’t fret! You’ll find your Prince Charming when the time’s right! 
Xoxo,
Kristen Y.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/23/2009 7:00:00 AM 138 COMMENTS
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I am dating this guy. He is amazing, don’t get me wrong, but I am “technically” not supposed to date. At all. We have gone out once and we talk ALL the time. He knows that I cannot date and he’s cool with it, but I just do not think I can do it any longer. I mean, if my parents ever find out, I’m dead.
So, should I let him down easy or just try and work it out? Should I maybe tell him we should cool it until I can date? He thinks he can wait that long, but it could be a whole year! What should I do?
-'Rent Trouble
Hey girl,
Sounds like you have a pretty sweet relationship with a bitter twist. It stinks when mom and dad don’t approve of you dating—a girl needs her parent's support so her relationship can be its very best. The thing you’ve gotta keep in mind though is that your ‘rents aren’t trying to lock you up like Rapunzel: they’re looking out for you and want to make sure you’re mentally ready for a BF. But no worries, princess. I’ve gotta couple ideas that’ll help you please the king 'n' queen and keep the Prince Charming.
With the ‘rents: try compromising
Sit down with them and ask them why they don’t want you to date. Chances are it’s ‘cause they don’t think you’re “mature” enough. But prove them wrong. Have a civil talk with them (no arguing or whining, girlie!) and see if you can reach a middle-ground. Maybe you’ve gotta go out with this guy in a group. Perhaps they wanna meet your potential BF first. Keep their feelings in mind—it’s a good way to show you’re compassionate, mature and can handle all the responsibility that comes with a relationship.
With the guy: introduce him to the folks.
Mom and pops want to be involved in your life, and what better way to let ‘em get to know your main squeeze then having him meet them? I know, I know—major move if your ‘rents don’t approve, and I don’t suggest doing it pronto. Talk with your BF about your expectations for the relationship and sitch at home. Make sure he respects your boundaries. Get to know his folks, and see if his folks will talk to yours—that way there’s more communication between families and your darling mom and dad might be willing to bend their rules more if they see this guy really is one-in-a-million. When you’re ready, introduce him to the fam after he’s been played up, of course!
Keep in mind, li'l Juliet, that the reason your parents want to keep the leash on that Romeo is because they really are just looking out for you. Yeah, their rules may seem harsh, but they’re doing it with you in mind. Be happy they care enough, but know that with a li'l luck and persuading, you’ll def find that happy medium. Love always finds a way, girlie, and I’m confident that it will with you too if you take the right steps. Good luck!
Infinite xoxo’s,
Alyssa B.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/16/2009 7:00:00 AM 117 COMMENTS
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