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I am 13 and I have a problem with my body that I don’t want to ask anybody else about. I think it’s something that I can control, but I am clueless on how.
My armpits sweat so much even though I wear deodorant and shave. Is it just me? I need to know how to stop it and soon!
Today at school I wore a tight orange shirt and I got big wet spots under my arms. It happens every day! It’s not because of heat because I sweat when it is cold. Help!
-Big Wet Spots
Dear B.W.S.,
You can’t control how much you sweat, and shaving does not affect sweating. While you’re waiting for your hormones to settle down, keep taking morning showers, and wear clean cotton or well-ventilated clothes (dampness shows less when shirts are loose and dark or patterned) or wear a light absorbent undershirt so telltale spots won’t show.
Antiperspirants fight perspiration whereas deodorants fight odor, and you can find a product that does both. You can also discuss this with your doctor.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 7/3/2009 7:00:00 AM 76 COMMENTS
Exactly what is a gynecologist?
When do you go to one? I am too afraid to ask my mom.
-Wants To Know
Dear Wants To Know,
A gynecologist is a doctor who specializes in the female body and knows about everything from menstruation to birth control to having babies. He or she has no male patients. Whereas pediatricians are experts on babies and kids, gynecologists know about women, young, old, and in between.
You can start seeing a gynecologist now or during your teens, and especially if you have lots of questions about puberty or s-e-x. Then again, if you adore your pediatrician and he or she treats adolescents, there’s no hurry to switch.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 6/26/2009 7:00:00 AM 134 COMMENTS
My 15-year-old sister ran away.
I know where she is, but I'm afraid to tell because I don't want to get in trouble.
-Confused
Dear Confused,
Some girls rat on siblings to get them in trouble. You'd be speaking up to get her out of trouble. I understand your not wanting to squeal, but think about revealing her whereabouts to a parent, counselor, clergyperson, relative or some other trusted adult. If she is in danger, you could be saving her life. There's a chance that even she will realize this.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 6/19/2009 7:00:00 AM 168 COMMENTS
Sometimes I feel like my parents expect too much and I have to do everything at once.
Be a perfect daughter, super student, great athlete, good friend, and participate in lots of activities, and I get stressed out.
—Totally Stressed Out
Dear Totally Stressed Out,
If it’s your parents who expect too much, tell them you’re feeling stretched too thin. They may love that you’re a good person and an achiever, and may not realize how stressed you feel. You may find, however, that you’re actually pushing yourself, not just getting pushed. For energetic people with lots of friends and interests, life can be exciting—and sometimes exhausting.
Take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, down-time, and nourishment. Remind yourself that you want to enjoy life, not just live efficiently or squeeze everything in or do everything well. Remind yourself, too, that if you’re anxious about the school play or cast party afterward, that is Positive Stress. Too many activities? Which can you do without? No time to get together with friends? Touch base on the phone or on-line.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 6/12/2009 7:00:00 AM 93 COMMENTS