Should I go to boarding school?

I recently found out about a chance for me to go to a boarding school. I think it sounds like a great opportunity and it's something that I'm considering (my parents are thinking about it, too). There's just one little problem...it's about five states away from where I live now! I don't know how I feel about moving away from EVERYTHING I'm used to for a whole year (well, except for holidays, but that's beside the point).

I'm really just asking for the opinion of someone not really involved in the situation. What do you think? Do you think it'd be worth it? What could I do to adjust if I do decide to attend? Thanks!

Wow, this sounds like an awesome experience. I know it's a lot to consider, so grab a pen and paper and jot down a list of pros and cons. Would you be happier sticking at home with friends and fam? Or are you more of an adventurer who loves being exposed to new places and situations? Talk it out with your BFF, your mom and your teachers. Visit the school and see if it feels right for you. Talk to students and professors on campus. Do the best research you can before making the decision.

BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/5/2009 7:00:00 AM 42 COMMENTS

SO against dissection

I'm 13 and in seventh grade. I'm also a vegetarian, and a rather strict one at that. I found out from my older brother that this year in my science class we're required to dissect three things: a worm, a frog and a starfish. Obviously, I'm not going to do it. It's 100% against what I believe in (though my beliefs are neither religious nor shared by my family).

Unfortunately, it's mandatory, and very important for the grade I get. Although I still have a while to go, I want to plan ahead. I don't want to fail science, but I really don't wanna go through with it. It will eat at my conscious forever. Please help!

 
Thanks,
Save-The-Squids

Hey girl, first I have to say, “Wow!” I’m impressed with your determination to stand up for what you believe in. A lot of people are content to just go with the flow, but you’re committed to making a difference. I respect you for that.

It’s important for your teachers to understand why you’re against dissecting. You gotta let them know that you’re not just trying to get out of your schoolwork. Chances are, if your teachers understand where you're coming from, they'll be impressed by your maturity and more willing to compromise.

Thanks to modern technology, some schools allow students to dissect animals using a computer program. It’s easy and painless—a plus for you AND Kermit. Studies have shown you learn just as much about an animal from computer simulation as you do when you physically dissect.

If a virtual program isn't an option, ask your teacher if it would be possible to write an essay or work on a project instead. If you stand up for yourself and your beliefs, that will get you a long way—not only in school, but in life, too. I'm already proud that you're sticking by your beliefs. Best of luck, hon!

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/29/2009 7:00:00 AM 79 COMMENTS

Hatin' my high school

I HATE my high school. Hate it! Everyone there uses bad language and has no respect for anyone. I used to attend a private Catholic school where everyone respected each other.

Recently, a boy in my math class kept swearing and I finally told him to hush. He called me a really bad word and told me to mind my own business. I started to cry in front of the whole class. He was mocking me by pretending to cry and no one actually did anything! Not even the teacher!

I hate that place so much and just want to be home-schooled. I haven’t told my mom about the guy yet and probably won't. Help!

Hey girl, sorry to hear about the rough school sitch. I can imagine it must be way hard to focus and enjoy yourself with that kind of negative energy, but are some ways to make things a bit better.

Try to look on the bright side. I know it seems like this is an all-out awful sitch, but brainstorm things to look forward to in your school day. Love that crazy art teacher? Acing a hard bio class? Bravo, girl! It may not seem like much, but try to look forward to these parts of school instead of focusing on the negatives. It’ll make make everything a little easier and make you feel tons better, too. Even though it’s tough and you feel like you’re alone, remember that you’re better than your rude classmates. If you don’t let the haters get to you too much, they can’t touch you.

Is there anyone who seems like they might be in the same place as you? Strike up a convo and make a new friend.  Give people a chance, too. Don’t assume that they’re all rude and immature like that guy in your class. If you’re friendly, you may just find a pal who’s just like you. So gang up in a good way—surround yourself by a pack of positive people who make ya laugh and put a smile on your face. Even having just ONE BFF there to support you will make things seem sooo much better!

If that doesn’t work out, don’t be afraid to talk to your ‘rents. You don’t have to tell them about the guy in your class if you don’t want to, but let them in on how you’re feeling. They love you, and are going to want to help you as much as they can. After all, your parents want their darling daughter to be happy! Sit them down for a chat. If you’re really nervous about talking to them, try scribbling down the things you def want to tell them or even write them a letter.  ‘Rents sooo not into home-schooling? You all can def look into transferring to another school next year. But don't give up on this place just yet. Try some diff tactics and it should get better!

BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/22/2009 7:00:00 AM 68 COMMENTS

No friends at my new school

I have been homeschooled my whole life and I recently started eighth grade at a private school. All the girls know each other, and they never talk to me. I try to be friendly and talk to them, but they just look at me like I'm crazy or something.

Hey there hon, being different is nothing to be ashamed about. You should be proud to stand out from the crowd. After all, no one remembers girls who simply blend in. All you have to do is find some friends who accept you for who you are, which is awesome!

First, you should be honest with your mom and tell her you’re just not that into volleyball. She will understand, especially if you’re not happy. Your mom really does have your best interest at heart—she wants you to make friends.

But the best way to make pals is to find girls who share some of the same interests as you. If you love the stage, join the drama team. If you can’t get enough of Twilight, join a book club. Most importantly, do what makes you happy—this way you'll make some pretty cool friends AND have fun.

And as for your old besties, you’ll find some creative ways to keep in touch. Instead of e-mails, send handwritten letters. Yes, it’s a little old-fashioned, but it’s more personal. And maybe you can get together on the weekends for slumbies and movies. Best of luck, hon!

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/15/2009 7:00:00 AM 69 COMMENTS