School
I have this friend and she is in love with a senior in high school who doesn’t even know that she exists. We are freshman and she stalks him. She found his paper and she kept it and still has it. One day she even almost got ran over by him and she was fine with it as long as it was him that ran her over. Also, he has a girlfriend and she wishes that the girl would die so that he would be single. She is no longer a fun person because she talks about him nonstop, it is so annoying that sometimes I even block her calls and texts. How can I get her to stop her stalkerish behavior.
-redhead
Infatuation isn't uncommon at this age (which is why so many parents are hesitant to let their kids date too young, for fear of infatuation being misinterpreted as a stronger feeling). She will probably grow out of it, and will actually probably look back and feel silly about it.
But for now, I can definitely understand that you, as her friend, are tired of hearing her go on and on about it. If her infatuation is affecting her to the point that she can't seem to have any fun otherwise, you should talk to her about it.
Don't rag on her for liking him so much when he doesn't even know her. That will only cause her to become defensive and feel hurt. Instead, tell her you understand she likes him, but unfortunately he is taken and she has to accept that and move on. It's not healthy to pine after something unobtainable. Let her know that you are her friend and you are always there for her, but it's starting to affect your friendship because it's really tiring that all she ever talks about is him. See if you can come to a compromise of limiting how much she talks about him around you. Hopefully she'll realize that her infatuation with this guy is causing her to be a bad friend and will make her at least want to refrain somewhat for the sake of your friendship.
<3 Jessie M.
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BY ANDREA T. ON 5/8/2008 7:38:00 AM 77 COMMENTS
On my last report card I got 3 D's and this trimester my mom is making me stay after school on Tuesdays for homework club and making me bring home my homework even though its already finished!!! Also I can only use my cell phone when I need it. She’s driving me NUTS! Do you have any advice for my Momzilla??
-CassieBaby
Sounds like your mother isn't being a Momzilla, she's just being an amazing mom who's concerned about her daughter and her daughter's grades! Getting Ds is not acceptable and isn't showing your mom that you care about and respect yourself. Chances are, had you approached your mom about your poor grades before report cards came out and you had a plan of how to fix them, you might not be in such a pickle right now.
Now you have to step it up. You have to show her that you are mature enough to take responsibility for yourself and your schoolwork. Don't complain about doing homework or having to show it to her afterwards – she needs to see that you are trying as hard as you can to improve those grades. Poor study skills and work ethic is something that stays with you forever. It's getting harder and harder to get into good colleges – the average freshman GPA at many schools is quickly approaching 4.0 (that's straight As!) – so you can imagine how much harder it is to win scholarships as well. It might seem like college is a long way off, but since the day you've been born – maybe even before – your mom's been planning and saving for your future. She just wants to see you succeed, and she wants to see you want to succeed as well.
Once you can prove to her that you can take responsibility for your grades and schoolwork, maybe then she'll begin to trust you again and grant you more privileges, like your cell phone. Right now, the way she sees it is that you haven't done anything to earn that particular privilege. Show her that you can.
-Alli
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BY ANDREA T. ON 5/1/2008 10:40:00 AM 109 COMMENTS
School is a drag for me and I’m always wicked upset on Sunday night. I want to be happy. Have any ideas on how I can have a good time at school? My friends are the only good things there. I’m sick of acting happy when I really feel like I’m being tortured!
-ActressAtHeart
Actress,
School is definitely what you make of it so you need to find a way to make the humdrum boring stuff seem interesting. Classes should be challenging and should make you want to learn more.
School isn't a chore, it's an amazing opportunity that helps you expand your knowledge and helps turn you into an awesome, intelligent individual. You may be bored because your classes aren't challenging enough. Sometimes when classes are too easy, students don't always get straight A's because they lose interest.
Why don't you arrange a meeting with your teachers and parents and discuss moving up to the next level? Being in a class with people who are on your level might be a lot more stimulating and make school seem more entertaining to you.
Also, don't just hang out in the back of your class. Getting involved is what makes things interesting. Listen, and when you have a question or comment, raise your hand and say it! Conversation is a great way to learn and get you involved in class.
-Alli
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BY JIAE K. ON 4/24/2008 12:00:00 AM 154 COMMENTS
I’m in show choir. Show choir has less people than regular choir and consists of the best singers in the school. We get to do songs and each song is called an act. Usually kids get solos, duets, etc., and we have backup singers and dancers. Well I got 1 act while everybody else got 4 or 5. I even went and asked the teacher if there was a mistake and asked her if I could be in more acts and she said no. I feel like I was only put in show choir because I play piano. My teacher makes me feel like I don’t have a good voice and only wants me for my piano skills. It’s like my teacher has favorites and I’m not one of them.
-Loverlygirl
Ugh, it always sucks when it feels like your teacher is against you. You think, "If only she knew how good I am!" Well, if she's not noticing it, tell her. Or better yet, show her. Try not to let it get to you and just do the best you can at what you are involved in. If you only get to do one act, ROCK THE SOCKS off that act! Show her what you can do. Then talk to her and let her know you feel you could handle some bigger parts if she gave you the chance, and ask her what you could do to get a better part in the future.
You also have to have confidence in yourself! How will she think you're good enough if you don't even think you're good enough? Once you believe it, it'll shine through. But most importantly, have fun! If you have too many expectations, you're bound to be disappointed somewhere down the line. So take whatever you get and enjoy it as best as you can while trying to do the best you can. Something like this is supposed to be fun, not make you feel bad about yourself. So hold your head up high and let the Beyonce in you come through.
<3 Jessie M.
BY JIAE K. ON 4/17/2008 12:00:00 AM 143 COMMENTS