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my bff is friends w her bf's bff's girlfriend. we both know that she hates me. she always comes up and takes my bff away from me. we all sit at the same lunch table and this girl always makes me feel left out. she even once made it so i couldnt even sit at the table. every time she takes my bff away it feels like a dagar just went through my heart. i know my bff likes me better but sometimes she has to go w this girl and she has to leave me behind. i feel bad when she does this. sometimes i just want to slap this girl. i dont cuz thats mean but she has called me the b word and called my bff the c word. and the b word. i cant tell if she serious cuz she never is but when she is u cant tell!! i dont want my bff to b hurt but i know she likes this girl. i have tried being nice already. my bff know i dont like this girl but she still has to hang out w her. i think its cuz she wants to cuz her bf and his bff are friends and she thinks that they have to b friends cuz the bfs r friends. my school is going to valley fair and my bff said it could b just us but maybe her bf. but i think if her bf goes the girl and his bff will too. i like my bff's bf and we r like sibs but i HATE that girl. what should i do!!!!!??????

 

Hey girl, that is always tough. I would just try to talk to your BFF about how it makes you feel when she abandons you. Maybe she doesn't realize it. And with some people you just have to tolerate them. It might sound mean but it is true, just be civil if you can. 

MOD! please help . alrightt, so my bff, who i have been friends with since i was 2 is kind of a mega flirt! Seriously, there is a list of 15 guys that she likes or calls them "her man". she thinkks everyone is just in love with her! Im not jealous though, ive got a boyfriend. But it bothers my other friends because she will flirt with guys they like and then get them to like her not them! soo i want to talk to her since ive known her the longest and stuff but i just dont know what to say...?! Please help! Thankks. <3

 

Hey girl,

MOD MOD MOD Hi, I have been friends with my BFFL for 3 years, and this year we entered middle school. Our friendship is still really strong, but I've made some awesome new friends that I love to hang out with too. My BFF has also made new friends, but her relationships with them are not as strong. So yesterday, when my BFF was over my house and we were hanging, my other group of friends called and asked if I wanted to go over their house for a snowball fight. I said yes, and asked if I could bring my BFF too. They said sure. My BFF seemed uncomfortable though, and she said she felt like my other friends didn't like her. (I'm pretty sure this isn't true!) I talked with her for a little, and she even cried (but only a little.) She's afraid that I'm not going to be her best friend anymore, which is so not true. She is probably also worried because if I dump her(it's never gonna happen) she doesn't have many other great friends to fall back on. I realized I was pretty rude for accepting the invitation with my BFF there, but she had been acting this way about my other friends before. So yesterday I made up an excuse not to go, but today I texted my other friends and asked if we could have the snowball fight today instead. They said sure, so I went and hung out with them and had an awesome time. The problem is, I feel like I have to lie and hide things from my BFF because she'll be offended that I hung out with my other friends. I didn't tell her that I went and had a snowball fight with my other friends today. There have been other times that my BFF asked what I was doing when I had been with my other friends and I said I was doing homework or some other excuse. I hate feeling like I have to lie, but at the same time I feel like I have to in order to not hurt my BFF's feelings. I feel like there's two groups: me and my BFF, and me and my other new friends. I've figured out that my BFF doesn't like to hang with my other friends, so I try and hang with them seperately. But sometimes it gets hard. When I had my birthday party this year, I was going to invite my new group of friends, and my BFF, but I thought she would be uncomfortable so I invited just my BFF and another good friend I have. Anyway, the point is, I feel like I'm divided between the two groups, and I don't like lying to my BFF but I feel like I have to. It's not ruining my life or anything, but sometimes I get really frustrated. Should I continue to hide my hangouts with my other friends from my BFF? Any help would be great!! Thank you!! ps-sorry its kinda long.