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My parents don't know I have a BF. Should I tell them?

I'm seeing a guy and we've hugged and kissed, but my 'rents don't know about it yet...
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Mod. I have my first boyfriend and we've been going out for well today makes it a week over 3 months. It's summer and he wants to take me out to a movie. I haven't told my mom and I really want to. And she said dating was fine, but she'd have to chaperon. I don't want her on my dates and if I tell her I'm afraid she'll want to read all our text messages and want to know what he tells me and ask all these questions and plainly just take away my privacy. I'm 13 years old and she said she doesn't want a boy to take advantage of me that's why she would chaperon but I'm very mature and I do have self respect for myself. I want to tell her but I don't want her to take away my privacy.


Hey leebear, mhmm. Maybe she could drive you guys to the movies, but watch a separate one herself, while you two go into the movie of your choice. This way she's still watching you all, but not up close. See if this works for her. Hope this helps! Xoxo Smile 

Lynae P.

by leebear on 7/30/2013 5:10:36 PM


I'm 13 and I have my first boyfriend and we've been dating for 3 months and a week and I wanted to tell my mom so badly. The first few weeks we started dating I told her about him, but only that I liked him. It's summer and he wants to take me to a movie, but my mom still doesn't know. She said dating was fine, but she'd have to chaperon. I don't want her to be there on our date and if I tell her I'm afraid she might invade my privacy and want to read our text messages and always be asking questions and want to read what he tells me.

by leebear on 7/30/2013 5:00:12 PM


So currently I'm dating when I'm actually not suppose to. I'm 15 now and have been dating my boyfriend for more than a year. I feel really bad for not telling my parents and have tried to reason with them about letting me date ever since I entered high school, especially my mom, but they just won't budge. I'm only allowed to date after high school. I have been patient and don't want to seem naggy but I am serious about this relationship and so is my boyfriend. I really love him. They are worried about me getting hurt and ruining my future I know because they have lectured me about it happening in our family and that I'm too young. However, while dating him I have kept up my grades to a 4.0 GPA as well as doing my best to excel at school. I see no problem, but my parents don't think the same. How can I tell them that I'm dating someone already, or convince to let me date? Help please!


Hey girl! Ask your parents if you can have a calm, mature discussion with them about the situation. Explain that you'd like to stay honest and follow their rules, but you're finding it hard to ignore the feelings you have for your guy. So, instead of letting the relationship go any further, you want to talk it out with them. Be specific about their concerns and how you've avoided those problems. Also, open up to them about how important your BF is to you and the reasons why you want to keep him in your life. If your parents are okay with everything, then great! But if they're still not comfy with their 15-year-old getting serious, tell your guy that you two need to stay BGF- just for now. Pretty soon, your parents will probably come around and let you date before the end of high school. And if your connection with your guy is as strong as it sounds, you'll be back together in no time Smile Hope this helps!



Julie H.

by Love4ever98 on 7/4/2013 1:19:05 AM


MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!!! How can you tell if a boy likes you? I don't think a guy has ever flirted with me, but maybe I'm wrong. This guy I know who is a year older than me always tells me i'm his favorite freshman. (Is he flirting or just joking around? I need to know how can you tell if a guy wants to be just friends or more?


Hey Pugglegirl2008, it can be hard to tell when certain guys are flirting, because different boys have different ways in showing their affections. At the same time, a lot of guys are just natural flirts so you have to be careful of them. Some of the typical signs of flirting include complimenting, asking questions, always making eye contact, getting physical, and always talking with you. Does this guy do or say anything else around you? Pay attention and see if you observe anything else. Hope this helps! Xoxo 

Lynae P.

by Pugglegirl1008 on 2/10/2012 5:17:24 PM


I let my mom figure out this on her own. But sometimes my sister tells her before i get the chance to. Should I tell my mom as soon as it happens?

by cattybug97 on 2/1/2011 4:11:34 PM


I think you should tell your 'rents about your boyfriend. It will be easier for you when your 'rents know. They'll get mad if you hide stuff from them girlie!

by westiekid13 on 1/29/2011 9:59:32 AM


mod mod mod!!!!!
okay so i used to like this boy but then i got over him but i think im starting to like him again and he never stopped liking me, i know that the guy is supposed to ask the girl. thats why im shy about asking him and his bff liked me but i turened him down. i dont know if i should ask anymore because he might have told him that. please help i asked my mom for advice but she just didnt have the right answer my mom even approves of him. please please help

Helen S.

by jjgirl1013 on 1/22/2011 1:53:46 PM


I'll tell her now because she'll find out sooner or later and when she finds out shes gonna be even more mad that you didn't tell her in the beginning.. So I would tell her now and get my punishment over with.. Frown

by lolpop1232 on 1/20/2011 7:18:21 PM


Im grounded because i ahd a boyfriend and we kissed and i didnt tell my mom so ide tell her before she finds out herself

by defyingravity on 1/19/2011 10:13:27 PM


Mod mod mod!!!
So today,
I sawyer crush, I wanted to drop some flirty hints, but I couldn't. I realized I was scared to sent signals to him. I don't want to be rejected, have the whole school know who I like, and feel hurt!!!
Please help!

Hey girl, trust me when I say the whole school isn't going to know who you like or judge you for it. People don't care that much about any other person's love life, despite what TV shows might portray (trust me, I went through middle and high school; they really don't). I think it's perfectly natural for you to be nervous around your crush. For now, don't focus on sending flirty signals to him. Focus on talking to him and getting to know him as a friend. The flirting can come later when you're more comfy with him.

Alyssa B.

by kmn21 on 1/18/2011 10:42:30 PM


I really like this guy and my friend gave me his number. She doesn't know i like him. We talk a lot. How do I get him to like me?

Hey girl, by being yourself and hinting you like him. However, keep in mind you can't make ANY guy like you. All you can do is hint to him you're interested in him and see how he takes it.

Alyssa B.

by shannon5622 on 1/18/2011 10:26:23 PM


i tell my mom evrything. shed be fine if i had a crush nd stuff but shes taught me to not grow up in the drama. mayb if my skool wus a LOT less drama free, things wud be diffrnt...but mom wud be fine wit it. dad is anothr story...lolz he dusnt even kno me, so if he dusnt get involvd, better for me...

by DanceFreak99 on 1/17/2011 10:22:59 PM




by kmn21 on 1/17/2011 6:26:12 PM


think you should tell your parents because the might not ever trust you again

by hotchick 24\7 on 1/17/2011 4:18:33 PM


Mod- I have been talking to this guy and tomorrow we are going to hang out(which i guess you cud call a date), anyway I was just wondering if you think a good hang-out date would be to get coffee at the mall? Also, do you have any tips on what to talk about? We knew each other in grade school, but it has been awhile and we have just been talking over text, so I am worried it will be awkward. I don't have much experience talking to guys, so do you know what guys like to talk about? thank u!


Hey girlie, you can talk about school, after school activities, sports, music 

Paige T.

by Jenster on 1/17/2011 12:22:35 AM


u dont think that you should tell your parents about what has all appened if they wont let you have a boyfriend? but if they do then you should spill the news!! Also maybe if you are "underage" to have a boyfriend you should just talked to your parents about it and tell them then?(:

by fillmore7 on 1/17/2011 12:17:08 AM


well try dont be scared to tell them they'll understand.

by belizeongirl on 1/16/2011 9:53:32 PM


MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!! okay- so i really like this guy and he told me he likes me and we always talk and stuff and he tells my friend like how much he likes me and hows he's gonna ask me out, but i was with my friend at another friend's house and he was at his friend's house (in the same neighborhood) and instead of texting me saying he was at his friend's house he would text my friend and stuff and i felt weird and excluded. idk does he still like me (he had just been telling my friend how much he liked me, which is the confusing part) i feel like my life is like "hot and cold" by katy perry....anyway thanks in advance



Hey girly girl! I would definately talk to him about this. Some guys get scared and shy, so I would tell him how you feel. And, invite him out! Smile


Becca G.

by love2shop3397 on 1/16/2011 5:18:17 PM


MOD MOD MOD theres this guy that i knidof like and i think he likes me back, what if it developes into a relationshipp. My parents are really strict about this kind of thing. I'm 13 almost 14 and never get dates to the dance b/c everyone knows how my parents are. If I tell them they might terminate my relationship. I wont be able to get out of the house, or anything for MONTHS!! HELP ME PLEASE!!

Hey! well just be in the relationship but don't give it a label Smile say you're friends, if you know you like each other that's all you need right? 
Helen S.

by stargirl3887 on 1/16/2011 1:15:25 PM


I had a bf tht I didn't tel anybody about, not my family or even my friends. My bffs found out a couple days later, but I onl dated him a week, he was just so annoying. I only dated him so my crush would be jealous! It didn't work, tht I know of......

by kassanator on 1/16/2011 12:59:27 PM


so... i have this best guy friend who i've known since birth. he's like my brother. he'll always be there for me. but i started to like him... a lot. but he sorta likes my cousin. but knowing her, it won't last long. but i really like him. but i don't want to ruin our friendship or hurt him in any way. i think he sees us as really close friends. what should i do? please help!
- Marie

Hey chica! Let him know that you like him! That's the only way he will know. By just telling him that, you won't ruin your friendship. 
Marly Z.

by CourtMarie4815 on 1/15/2011 11:53:02 PM


In your opinion, do you think a 12 year old girl is too young to go out with a 15 year old boy? Thanks!

Hey girlie, personally, I think that's a big age gap. But it depends on how comfortable you, him and your parents are with it. 

Lauren T.

by myclique on 1/15/2011 8:03:03 PM


I don't think it is really necessary to tell your parents, as long as you aren't doing anything that they wouldn't approve of if they knew you were dating. If you are really feeling guilty but still don't want them to know about the bf/gf thing, just tell them that you like him, but that's it. That way they know how you feel about him.

by emily!!!!!!!!!!! on 1/15/2011 6:33:05 PM


There is this guy i like and whenever my parents bring up the whole Boy thing i just get VERY embarrassed! My mom knows who i like sometimes i wish she didnt because she works with his mom! How can i bring up dating and i am afraid of my dad being all akward or something. What do i do?

Hey girlie, if you're worried about your dad being awkward then start with your mom. Tell her that you think you want to date this boy, but he make sure that he likes you too. If you won't actually have a bf then there's no reason to bring it up yet. Then your mom can talk to your dad about it. 

Lauren T.

by oreolover123 on 1/15/2011 5:48:57 PM


mod mod mod!
when would you say a girl should start dating? not dating dating, just like dating as hanging out with a guy?
also, when would you say it's time for a girl to fight against her parents to start dating? like around highschool right???
plus, how should I know when to start, when my sister never had a boyfriend, that i have known of?

Hey girlie, don't start to fight with your parents about it until there's a boy that you want to date. It's the right time to start dating when you and your parents can agree that you're ready.

Lauren T.

by kmn21 on 1/15/2011 4:54:45 PM


Dear Mod,
My boyfriend is a really sweet guy, but he has missed the last three times we were supposed to go out. He had to bail again last night and now he's beating himself up because he couldn't go. It wasn't his fault, and yeah I was disappointed, but i'm not mad at him and now he won't let it go.
How do I get him to see that it really isn't that big a deal? He keeps asking how he can make it up to me, but I really don't want him to do anything but move on and he wont.

Hey girlie, just tell him that it's not a big deal. Let him know that you understand and you're okay with it. If he really wants to make it up to you tell him he can take you somewhere special the next time you go out. 

Lauren T.

by mylifeissoweird on 1/15/2011 4:46:52 PM




by kmn21 on 1/15/2011 3:11:57 PM


ok so i went out wit this guy for almot a month and we kissed and i got nervous and wanted 2 break up and we did but now i want him back! wht should i do????


Hey girlie, talk to him tell him you were afraid 

Paige T.

by txterluver77! on 1/15/2011 12:07:58 PM


Me and my friend get shaky and weak stomachs everytime i think about my bf and she think about her crush. Is it LOVE?


Hey girlie, it def sounds like love to me 

Paige T.

by snowwysnoopy on 1/15/2011 9:01:21 AM


MOD MOD MOD MOD!!! Please help me! I work with this guy and he is like 5 years older than me! And I think he likes me Frown! I have a boyfriend! And I think he knows that too! I am just being nice to him and the people I work with! I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea! It always seems to turn out this way Frown. Whenever I am nice to a guy or even just talk to him sometimes, he starts to like me D:. I swear I'm not trying to flirt I treat everyone else the same! What am I supposed to do? How do I let him know that all I want to be is co-workers???


Hey girlie, bring up that you have a bf and that your happy with him 

Paige T.

by bittybob141 on 1/15/2011 1:41:37 AM


Mod mod
Okay I just started a new school this semester. I think this one guy likes me ,but I'm not sure. In the mornings, I sit alone because I dont know anyone and he sits with me and talks to me. We have band together and he asks me if need any help with band stuff. One time I said yes, so he held one end of my drum sticks (I play percussion) and i held the other end and he sort of played for me. During my first few days of band, he was really helpful and explained what we were doing. So does he like me?

Hey girlie. It sounds like he is interested in you--whether as friends or more than friends I'm not sure. But you should be excited! Something new and someone showing that they like you.  
Elizabeth P.

by SummerButterflies on 1/15/2011 12:06:52 AM


are you old to have a boyfriend ask your mom when u are allowed to have a boyfriend and then ya

by angel_cake_1 on 1/14/2011 10:55:36 PM


ok so idk who to believe my bf or my friend. lets call my bf "d" and im "her". my friend told me that he saw my bf in the school eating breakfast and he went up to him and was like "ur D right?" and D was like "ya" "oh your dating her right?" and D was like "no" and then when my friend told me i was mad at D. so i talked to D this morning and im like "y did u say we arent dating???" hes like "i havent seen "ur friend" in a while so he must have been talking to the other "D"(who ive never met)" and i told my friend that and he was like "i know for a fact it was ur bf" who do i trust.
p.s. when D said it wasnt him he told me he doesnt lie but he used to in elementary but he made a resolution a while ago.

Hey girlie. That's hard. I mean honestly, you will never know the truth. I would say give your bf more time and see if he does anything out of character that would make you second guess his sincerity to you. 
Elizabeth P.

by sashastar123 on 1/14/2011 10:16:58 PM


hey, i just got asked out by the guy i've been crush'in on for a while i don't know hoe to tell my parents help
i've never had a bf before and the guy who asked me out is a year older then me ans we go to the same really small school and alll of his friends will know by monday how should i act aroun him and his friends

Hey girlie. Do you think your parents will allow you to date? Talk to them about it. As for his friends, at first it may be a bit awkward, but it will fade, trust me. If anything, go up to them and introduce yourself--be friends with them if they are nice guys. This is exciting! Dance around your room, listen to good music and walk with confidence.  : )
Elizabeth P.

by dance4ever_89 on 1/14/2011 9:22:55 PM


Yes, because if he calls ur home fone, and ur parents ask who he is and he says ur bf then they will find out the hard way what is going on. everythi n would be easier if u told.

by marvenmelvin1999 on 1/14/2011 4:59:37 PM


MOD! There is this guy that i have liked for a really long time and i need to get over him since we dont talk hardly anymore and cause he has changed a lot. any advice?? thanks! Smile



Hey chickadee! The best way to get over a guy is to find a new cutie to flirt with. Keep your eyes open, and maybe ask your friends if they know of any guys that they can introduce you to Smile


Becca G.

by albstein222 on 1/13/2011 5:40:28 PM


I can see why you feel that way. When I first started dating I didnt tell my parents but then my mom found out and then my dad did later. He still has a problem with it but my mom is totally fine with it and I can talk to her about anything.

If you are doing intimate things with your bf more than kissing you can or dont have to tell your mom at first. I think after a while they get the idea that things happen so if you wait it may be better but I would tell her you are least dating.

by luckykel on 1/13/2011 4:29:14 PM


MOD MOD MOD This fall I met a really cute guy in a play I was doing. He's definetely one of or *the* nicest guy I've ever met, and we both flirted a lot with one another, texting and in person. Then, he asked out one of my best friends. I'm still obviously really bummed about that even though they've been dating for 2 months now. The thing is, my friend has only met him in person once, for about a minute, the night of the play, and they haven't even gone on a date. Also, my bff can't seem to get the balance of talking about him. She either talks about him too much, or doesnt talk about him at all in front of me and then tells everyone else. Lately, she's saying "I hate my life, I'm so unlucky" and I dont know how to explain to her that she's lucky without getting either of us reallly mad. (She's sensitive.) PLEASE help and thank you SO much!


Hey girl! It's never fun when your crush asks out your best friend, I think this has happened to all of us before! You should always remember that losing a friendship over a guy is never worth it! I am sure that you and your friend will have plenty more crushes in the future! For now, you should sit down with your friend and tell her not to feel upset because she really is lucky! She is especially lucky to have a friend like you! However, if she still seems upset you should speak to a guidance counselor or a parent that can help you! Goodluck! XOXO

Blaine D.

by actress456 on 1/13/2011 11:11:06 AM


You should tell your parents. However, I have this one friend who keeps her bf a secret from her parents. When they first went out in the beginning of their freshmen yr, she told her parents and they freaked out and made them break up. Since they've known each other for a long time and really like each other a lot, they decided not to break up and keep on dating secretly. They're now seniors(still together) and her parents have NO idea that their relationship is still going on.

by Stargirlcandy3 on 1/12/2011 11:49:45 PM


Soo, my parents treat me like I'm 10 still. I have a boyfriend and I'd really like to hang out with him a lot more but I'm too afraid to tell my parents about him. He's told his parents and they're cool with it. I'd hide it if I could, but my mom would call his parents to make sure it would be OK for us to hang out. I'd be scared if Henry's parents brought up us going out. Then I'd be in VERY deep shit. I'm not sure how to approach telling my mom about him. Any advice? Anything is appreciated. Smile

by imakoala on 1/12/2011 11:11:54 PM


ok so theres this guy I like, and Ive recently started txting him. The only problem is that he takes FOREVER to respond! I'm talking if not hours, days, or just doesn't respond occasionally. Its not just me though, he does this to alot of our mutual friends too. He's nice and sweet when we are around each other, but this just kinda bugs me. What should I do??

by Surfergurl97 on 1/12/2011 10:34:15 PM


My BGF and I are really close, we talk all the time, although he is in only one of my classes, woodshop! Anyway, I have started to like him as more than a friend, and I think he feels the same way about me (we sit together, he helps me w/ my project...), but he nor I have ever dated anyone befor, so I have no idea how to tackle this situation! My parents think he is a nice boy, so that is not a problem. I really want to be his GF, is there any hints (maybe not to obvious)that I can drop to let him know I like him??? Any advice you could offer me would be wonderful! Thank you Smile

Well one of the best things to do is ask him who he likes. Obviously hes gonna be a bit secretive about it and prob ask you the same question. One good thing to respond is "im not telling you who..but you know him veryyyyyy well." That will help hint to him that you like him. From there hes gonna be a lot more open in showing that he likes you back and you two can start flirting a lot! Then things should grow from there! Good luck. xoxo kerra
Kerra S.

by star111 on 1/12/2011 10:33:42 PM


My boyfriend's birthday is on the 25th. I don't know what I should get him. For my birthday, he got me a bag of twizzlers(my favorite candy :3), hacked my locker(well, I told him the combination, and didn't think he'd remember), and put them inside. Also, the night before he asked me out(through text, because we are both equally awkward and shy, and he tried to ask me in person, but he was too nervous). So, I don't know what to get him. He likes reeses, and I might get him some of those, but I also want to get him something he will like. His favorite band(s) are The Who, and Pink Floyd. For Christmas I got him a The Who guitar pick necklace, which he liked. So I am stuck x( please help! Thanks!

I think you should get him his favorite candy and maybe a who or pink floyd shirt. Im sure he'll love  it! Good luck! xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by Twizzler on 1/12/2011 10:24:13 PM


Dear,Should I tell my parents about my bf,
Hey! My advice is to tell your parents about your bf. Smile I Don't think you parents would have a problem with it.
Good luck!

K- Girl Smile

by kaylarocks2000 on 1/12/2011 10:00:51 PM


I'm going skating tomorrow with some friends... thing is, they all play on oragnized hockey teams. I don't. I didn't think about it when they asked me, so I just said yes, but I don't know if I'll be able to keep up. :S What should I do?

Hey girl, dont even worry about it so much. Just try and have a good time, that's all that's important. So what if you cant go 100mph an hour around the rink, that's not the point. They're there to have fun with you. Ill tell you one thing, I play hockey, and I definitely can't go that fast or do all too many tricks. haha! =] 

lauren r.

by spacekitty on 1/12/2011 6:22:04 PM



by star53 on 1/12/2011 5:23:04 PM


So this guy i liked asked me out, and i told my mom but said i didnt really wanna be in all the drama, so i asked her to say i wasnt allowed to date so i could have an excuse. i told him that i wasnt allowed to, but i guess we still are?? and so hes been hugging me and stuff but we did that before but then he wanted to hold my hand and now i feel bad about not telling my mom but i really dont want "the talk" wat do i do? tell my mom or say to the guy i just wanna be friends? hes really sensitive

Hey girlie. Do you like him as more than friends or not? If so, then talk to your mom and if not, tell him that you think you are better as friends. It's better to tell him now than lead him to. 
Elizabeth P.

by MalibuCheetah on 1/12/2011 12:26:09 PM


u should tell them cuz my bf at first i didnt tell my parents or sis an i jus called him my "rlly good friend" an hung out w/ him outside of school an hugged kissed etc wit him then he accidently said somethin 2 my sis bout me an him goin 2gether an she got mad so u shuld jus come clean with them an tell them its not lik ur rlly serious but u want them to no...... im so glad i told my parents we get 2 hang out an stuff now an we been goin out 9 months(:


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by Ask Happy on 1/12/2011 11:19:36 AM


So, I go a small school, where everyone knows everyone. I am in seventh grade. There is this guy in tenth. We have been talking. And I told my friends (that we were talking) and I told my mom. Now my parents are freaked out because they think I am dating him. Now, I have a feeling they are going to be very strict with who I date. There is this guy in my grade, and he has a huge crush on me. I don't think I really like him. My parents think I should date him, along with everyone in my grade. I just want to date who I want. What should I dooooo? Thanks! Smile

Hey girlie. We have some great advice on the situation which can be found here:
Jessica W.

by americangrl1998 on 1/12/2011 8:25:52 AM


what if youre parents dont want you to date until college? and they still think im 5? and will freak out if i start? they still think i dont like boys! (most of them are annoying...but if i found one who wasnt i WOULD like them!)

Hey girlie! We have some great advice for your situation which can be found here:
Jessica W.

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