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5 healthy ways to get over him

Tears, pity parties and Ben & Jerry’s only get you so far. It's time to quit thinking about him and start focusing on Y-O-U.
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my boyfriend is in grade 8 , and for the end of the year field trip , he went to toronto. he ended up kissing his best girl friend, but they both assured me it was in the moment and there were no feelings. after a while, i forgave him . but he got mad at me when i told him that my ex still had feelings for me . he broke up with me in a text the next day, but he said he wanted to "take a break and wait for everything to cool down" . he's usually a really nice guy, and i want to get back together! what does he mean 'wait for things to cool down' ? and what should i do in the mean time?

 

Hey girl!  If he broke up with you, you are free to do whatever you want in the meantime, but if you want to get back together, check with him and see when you guys are going to talk things out.  Maybe he's upset about your ex and he wants to make sure you don't still have feelings for him.  Maybe he's questioning whether he has feelings for his BGF.  Whatever the case, the key is communication with your guy.  Try calling or texting him and asking him to clear things up!  xoxo   


Kate G.

by chewcharm on 7/5/2012 3:37:42 PM

 
 

ok i was thinking about breaking up with my bf, and then he broke up with me b cuz i have more strength. tht kinda stuff. and he was a real jerk and i just couldnt see it b cuz i am going thro something a i felt wanted when i was with/txting him. and my bff txted him and he told her to go die in a ditch somewhere. i feel like i need to show him i will be fine without him. its hard to think about dating because it makes me sick tht i liked this guy. my friends told me, both guys and girls, he was a player and i couldnt change tht. we dated for a month and a few days. i wasted a month and a few days how do i get them back. ps plz dont forget my other questions in the messge

by rockinretro on 4/14/2012 5:20:17 PM

 
 



MOD!!! hey, so im in seventh grade and this eighth grader likes me and everybody keeps telling me he's going to ask me out. my mom says im not allowed to date until im in highschool. what do i do if he asks me out?
THANKS!!!!!




Hey girl,

Just be honest! Blame it on mom - tell him you like him a lot and would love to get to know him better, but it'll have to be as friends for now til your parents give you the OK. Shrug and smile. If he likes you, he'll understand and will hang out in groups, text you, and see you in school to grow closer as friends first! 
Lauren C.

by coldplay12 on 12/15/2011 10:59:16 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD! i did something the caused irreversible damage in our friendship. And then we agreed that we shouldn't be friends anymore because he likes to remember the bad moments in our friendship. About texting him, he thinks that when you're not friends anymore it's complete withdrawal which basically means you no longer do anything with that person. Anyways, what can i do to get over him?




Hey girl, I understand where he's coming from. He's trying to erase you from his life by distance. And if that's what he wants, benefit from it too. Try distancing yourself and plugging yourself into activities with other friends. It takes two to have a friendship and it sounds like he's decided for himself he doesn't want one.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by girlygirl/tomboy on 11/7/2011 5:08:23 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD! Me and my BGF just broke up our friendship. Anyways, now I'm really depressed and I really miss him. How can I get over him?




Hey babe! 

Why aren't you and your BGF friends anymore? Is it something that's fixable, or did one of you do something that caused irreversibly damage in your friendship? Chances are, he's missing you too. Why don't you text him to see if he wants to meet up and talk about how he feels? Let me know what happens! xoxox 
Devin A.

by girlygirl/tomboy on 11/7/2011 4:46:33 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD There's this guy that I liked a lot in the beginning of school, and he liked me back, and we started hanging out a LOT and acting like we were dating but it wasnt official. We met up at the park one day and I had my first kiss with him, but now, things have happened and I just don't like him anymore. He tells me he loves me all the time and I say it back, but I only love him like a good friend. He tells me he would get absolutely destroyed if he ever lost me, but I don't want to be with him anymore. How do I break it to him that I just want to be friends... with no "benefits"?

 

Hey girly, aww this is a tough sitch. When you break it to him you need to be as nice and clear as you can. Tell him the way you would want someone to tell you. I suggest you either tell him in person or on the phone, but not through a text message or another person. Try saying something like "I really like you, but I think we would be better just as friends. Our relationship would be much stronger and closer if we were just buddies." Hope this helps girl!!! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by wolfwing on 11/5/2011 4:58:29 PM

 
 

I been through a bad relship but the week we broke up he asked my bff out and keep giving her notes I feeltb so jelouse it” s been a year seans we broke up but i.can” t ge ov er him and my bff aways has guys nm on her no fair what shoud I do HELP ME

 

Hey girly, I would say something to your BFF. Tell her you're still not over the breakup and you don't want her flirting with your ex. But be sure to tell her NOT to tell your ex that's the reason she doesn't want to talk to him anymore. He doesn't need to know how you are still feeling. It all gets better with time girl. It's only normal for you to still have some feelings towards him, so give yourself time to heal. Music can sometimes be the best therapy so play some songs that get you feeling good. Hope this helps!! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by PeaceSmg on 11/2/2011 8:30:58 PM

 
 

I was in fifth grade and there was a new kid in sixth grade. My friend and I liked him ALOT. He asked her out and she said no. He later asked me out and I said yes. We dated for about a week and a half. My bestie still has a huge crush on him but I am trying to get over him.I dont see him anymore because he is in middle school and I am in elementary school. Every time I see him with another girl i get REALLY jealous.I see him everyday now because we pass ach other going to the bus. I can't tell if I have a crush on him or not?!?! What do I do? PLEASE HELP!!

by dancemad on 10/28/2011 10:28:39 PM

 
 

Me and my bf just broke up and he put a note in my bff's locker that. He liked her Frown
And she put she liked him back it made me upset because she's my best friend and he's my ex and it's all awkward around me and the guy i like. I don't wanna ruin my friendship with my bff. I told her it didn't bother me but it really does. Wat can I do

by Lukelover<\3 on 10/17/2011 12:42:07 AM

 
 

my bf (now ex) e-mailed me to break up JERK

by millia7 on 10/14/2011 5:35:52 PM

 
 

My boyfriend just broke up with me and he started going out with one of my friends! I don't know what to do without him. I miss him and I can't get over him! What can I do?

by 123dotties on 10/10/2011 4:57:29 PM

 
 

ok, so im dating this guy Jake, and i found out that he's cheating on me. and he moved to Illinois (stupid Illinois) and i can't even talk to him except on the phone, and if i tell him i know he's cheating then i'll only hurt myself, because if we break, then he has someone else to go to and im left alone... what do i do? i can't break up with him, i love him too much, and it hurt to find out he was cheating, but it would hurt worse to say goodbye because when i leave him, i can't go back, and he even sent me a beautiful necklace, and i just don't know what to do! Devin A.

by SetFireToTheRain on 9/26/2011 1:58:13 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!
so i have already written to the mod's asking about this but now its worse... so my story is yesterday i was waiting for my friend to get her stuff (we were going to the gym for volleyball practice) and this girl asks to borrow a pen she got a note from my crush asking her out she said yes and she told him when i was almost at the gym i wanted to cry (she saw it in my face and asked what was wrong i hadn't told my bff that i liked him)...so this is were it gets worse hes in almost all my classes and when i see him im mad but i still REALLY like him at the same time and at recess my friend (the one i told) went up to him i thought she was gunna do me some justice but he asked her if she had kissed her bf and she said if she kisses her bf he has to kiss his girlfriend (the girl he asked out) then she told her bf if anyone asked they kissed now im even more sad what should i do? i don't wanna be over him how can i get him to like me?




Well if this boy has a new girlfriend there may not be much you can do. With time youll get over him, so youre gonna have to give it time. So dont fret! youll feel better soon Smile I know it may suck now but do all you can to get your mind off it, like having girls night or anything fun that can distract. Good luck! xoxo kerra
Kerra S.

by jollymoemoe on 9/16/2011 4:44:47 PM

 
 

i am in sixth grade and i cant have a bf but i want one but i understand reasons why i cant so why do i feel like a newborn baby when my parents don't allow me too hang out with my friends or go to the skating rink with them

by armani11 on 9/14/2011 7:43:16 PM

 
 

Mod mod mod mod mod mod! Ok so I have this her friend (let's call her k.g.) well last year k.g. Acted like I was her best friend and she was mine. She always wrote on my stuff saying like I love you! And ur my BFF! We had every class together and we had so much fun in school! But then sometimes she would make fun of me, and then act like nothing happened. Her birthday rolled around and she said she wasn't having a party. But then she posted a picture on Facebook of her and twenty other girls I know the day after her birthday! It was obviously her party! And I never told her that I knew..and this year she's in all of my classes again! She gives me rude looks and just don't no what to think! Please help me! Thanks a bunch!

 

Hey girly, you don't need her! When she looks at you ignore her and let her know that she has no effect on you. The reason she gives you mean looks is because she knows she can intimidate you, so don't give her that satisfaction. Look proud and confident and if you can stare back. Hope this helps you girl! Smile

Lynae P.

by jbneversaynever17 on 9/14/2011 4:31:40 PM

 
 

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by proarchergal42 on 9/11/2011 12:40:10 PM

 
 



mod mod mod:
its my third day of school, starting tomorrow,, aug.24th. it turns out thees this guy in all but one of my classes, including my algebra 1 honors, as seventh graders. I'm pretty sure hes been flirting with me, we conveniently sit next to each other in almost every class. he handed me his phone in sixth period and told me to give him his number. he's been texting me, and its so obvious, xD. its kinda like hes just desperate though, (its his first year at my school, im a returning veteran). and the though of us going out, as in bf/gf (im not into the dating thing, and our school doesnt have the type of dances you bring a date to anyway) its just awkward, and it was last year too, Ive had boyfriends before, and it didnt bother me, but now it kinda is. sorry about the longness, and im just confused.




Hey, Girl! Sorry for the “stock” message. We’re psyched you’re here but since this is a super busy time, mods aren’t able to answer personal advice or contest questions. We’re approving your comments now so the girls can start offering feedback right away! If you still have questions, please come back, we’re happy to help…or just let the other chicas answer now! (They give awesome advice, trust us!) Love and thanks! ♥, Your Blog Patrol Babes 
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by maddehsaurr on 8/23/2011 8:36:41 PM

 
 

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by basketballcutie11 on 8/22/2011 7:02:33 AM

 
 



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i need some help. i was with a guy for 2 years and i found out he cheated on me more than once. i had proof but he still denied it. were still friends but i cant get over him. i know what he did to me was TERRIBLE but he was my first love and it hurt me so much. i dont know what to do. he says he still likes me but if he loved me as much as he said he did why would he treat me like im nothing? all my friends say im way too good for him and sometimes i think hes right. he told everyone i was obsessed with him when we broke up but i only called him twice the week after. and only to figure out what happened between us. now ive found out hes getting nude photos from a girl he cheated on me with. like i said he was my first love so this is really hard but if he says he still has feelings for me why does he act like this? and should i forgive him? or just let him go and forget about the dirt bag? and how do i get over him? im so confused. and hurt... help!!!





It can be hard to let go of someone who has hurt you, because it's hard to get past the fact that you care so much and that they treated you badly. The thing is, when you find a guy who treats you right, you won't believe you ever liked this guy. Wait for someone who treats you with respect. it's worth it.
Helen S.

by amberbamber on 8/19/2011 7:05:00 PM

 
 

I feel terible!!!
My Ex and I had been dating over a year, and I went to an overnight camp for about two weeks. The thing is I met this great guy ''Jon'' and he made me feel happy, I could be me around him and it felt great! Every Day I fell harder and harder for him, and he felt the same way. When I got home I talked to my ex (Boyfriend at the time) and there were no sparks. I broke up him the next day. He got mad when he found out I met another guy. He asked how I could do this to him. Honestly I don't know. Two weeks later Jon and I started dating. We went to the movies and kissed. I felt soo bad! Two days later school started and my ex and I decided to be friends, but it's awkward for us.. what do I do? I need help please!

by KrazyNProud on 8/16/2011 6:09:20 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD
My ex apologized to me last night about how he acted when we were in a relationship. That was like months ago, and he's had soo many other chances to apologize before, why now?




Hey girl,

He probably had been thinking about how he acted and wanted to get that guilty/upset/"bad" feelings off his shoulders. He could've also been thinking of you - not necessarily that he wants to get back together, but he could've been missing you and used that as a way to talk to you. Either way, just take the apology graciously and move on Smile 
Lauren C.

by baibeecakes on 8/12/2011 7:20:37 PM

 
 

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by LexilicousCandy on 8/9/2011 10:20:55 PM

 
 



mod!
well today i saw my ex boyfriend.... we went out twice. i haven't seen him in months before today but later today he tokd me he liked me and i never moved on. should i ask him out or move on? we have been on and off since march




Hey girlie, if you still like him then go for it! If you're both still interested in each other  then maybe things will work out better this time.
Lauren T.

by iloveicarly1 on 8/8/2011 10:32:32 PM

 
 

MOD so i decided recently that i needed to let go of my crush of almost 2 years because im pretty sure he knows i like him but doesn't like me back. he is a family friend though so i cant erase completely out of my life (i see him around town a lot and we do a lot of annual things with our families like partis and we go on vacation to disneyland every january). ive tried to forget about him but it hurts. I've been in a fog because of it. But one thing that I have done to move on is that I already am looking at other guys. What else can I do to move on already. ps: ive already tried to move on from him after a year of crushing but never really did so I went back to majorly crushing on him. Please help mod, i really need help with this.

Hey girly,
As a girl who has been in this same sitch, I know that the best thing you can do is get your mind off of him and distract yourself. Try hanging out with your friends and telling them how you feel, then let them get your mind off it by doing some fun girl stuff. Also, when you're hanging around him, just keep reminding yourself that you have moved on, even if you haven't. Finally, try to find flaws in him. That makes it easier to get over the crush. Good Luck!


Catie C.

by RainKisses on 8/8/2011 2:18:15 PM

 
 

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by cutiepanda445 on 8/4/2011 2:00:08 AM

 
 

Okay, admit it: Life isn't cake. And sometimes, you need some chica to chica advice. Smile

Well, I'm your girl. I give advice on everything. And yes, this includes the topic you're wondering on.

So if you don't know what to wear that weekend, what to tell that guy, or how to fix that family problem, contact me Smile

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by naturallywonderful on 8/2/2011 7:59:22 PM

 
 

my sistahs like to do a little thing called boy shopping. We hang out in the mall and try to see who can scout out the hottest guy. This always helps with break up troubles.

by thevegienator! on 7/31/2011 6:16:49 PM

 
 



MOD!!!
My bf of nine months and I broke up a few days ago. I broke up with him because he is going to college in a month but i'm only going be be a senior. I still have feelings for him and he still has feelings for me. I've been thinking it through over the past few days and now I'm really regretting breaking things off. He agreed to try to talk things out with me and I really want to try to figure out a way to make this work. I need tips for how to deal with a long distance relationship, help!!!




Hey girl, honestly, long distance relationships are hard. I don't think you two need to break up, break up forever, but it may be a good idea to take a break while he settles into school. College is an entirely different playing field and speaking from my own experience, I saw a lot of friends with high school boyfriends grow apart as they did their own things. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. I think it's just important that a) you talk about it and b) you realize things will change. I can't tell you what the right thing to do is, but I can say that I don't see many high school couples make it but they all share one thing: they try.

xoxo  
Alyssa B.

by crazytheaterchica on 7/28/2011 9:57:30 PM

 
 

MOD!!! Sorry, i think my computer messed up and I didn't finish what i was saying. So, basically my boyfriend and I broke up a week ago and I can't stop texting him or crying. I know i should be happy because he had more problems than i can count. I just wished he would actually feel bad about breaking up but he doesn't. How do i get over this? it was my first relationship. There is nothing to do this summer and nowhere I can find someone to find another crush on until school starts. What do i do? I havent had much contact with my friends and they never text me back. He was the only one I ever texted. I dont know what to do.

 

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by jsquires on 7/26/2011 8:37:59 PM

 
 

So, a week ago my boyfriend and i broke up. So far I have spent my days either crying, planning revenge, or texting him until he either stops replying or my fingers fall off. See, one of the reasons he broke up with me was because I was too clingy. It was my first relationship. I honestly thought it was supposed to be all I-love-yous and flowers and happiness. Not. It takes patience & understanding. I don't think either of us had that.

 

 

Brittany G.

by jsquires on 7/26/2011 8:29:19 PM

 
 

MOD!!
Two Years Ago i really liked this guy. we had the same classes all day and it was perfect. he never asked my out but we held hands and people thought of us as together. then the next year we had no classes and we barely talked. then we both went to the same halloween party and we were together the whole time held hands and even kissed. then again we never talked again except when we were in the same room. I still like him and i dont want to stop thinking about him but i know i need to or talk to him myself. what should I do???

 

 

Hey girl. You've answered your own question. You need to find ways to talk to him and hang out more.  Smile

mary h.

by Emma1221 on 7/26/2011 12:34:14 AM

 
 

Two Years Ago i really liked this guy. we had the same classes all day and it was perfect. he never asked my out but we held hands and people thought of us as together. then the next year we had no classes and we barely talked. then we both went to the same halloween party and we were together the whole time held hands and even kissed. then again we never talked again except when we were in the same room. I still like him and i dont want to stop thinking about him but i know i need to or talk to him myself. what should I do???

by Emma1221 on 7/26/2011 12:25:32 AM

 
 

im moving to a new school about 5 hours away from my old one. im very tall, which, sadly, tends to scare dudes off when you're 5 feet 11 and going into the 8th grade. i've had one bf- we went out for the summer before 7th and on the second day of skool he dumped me for my bff. what should i do? i have no money so i can't really go shopping, i don't know anyone here so i can't ask people for tips, and i get SO nervous around hot dudes. help?!?

by rainbow1317 on 7/25/2011 10:54:41 PM

 
 



Mod Mod Mod Mod
My boyfriend and I broke up two days ago, after five monthes. I loved him but after a few monthes he didn't feel it anymore, and things went down from there. I'm not upset with him because I know he only did what was best for us, but it's very hard for me to talk about it or even hear/say his name. I'm inviting one of my friends over next week to help me get over him completely. But if I cant even say his name, how will I hold back the tears when I see him every day during school? It hurts to even think about it. Do you have any tips?
Thanks so much.




hey! so sorry about that girl, breakups are rough. you sound like you're being very mature about it though. I'm not gonna lie, it'll be hard to see him at first. my best tip is do something fun that doesn't remind you of him. After i had a breakup once i started a new job, and it was actually really relaxing because nothing there had any association with the relationship. find something like that to take your mid off things. good luck! 
Helen S.

by 2sprinkles2 on 7/23/2011 8:05:03 PM

 
 



MOD
Me and my boyfriend just broke up today. i dont know if i should of because hes all sad now. i want him to move on but im scared he wont! my best friend told me not to text him even if he texts me because all get all sad again i dont know what to do........... also this has nothing to do with me and my boyfriend but i really want to talk to a special counsiler about everything i feel like i am holding on to so many things and im going to exploed soon and i dont want to tell my parents i want to just talk to someone about it but i dont know how to tell my parents that.... plzzzzz help!!!!!!!!




Hey girlie, if you're not interested in your boyfriend anymore then you did the right thing. He'll move on, he just needs time. Try talking to a counselor at school for some great advice! They'll help you get the help you need. 
Lauren T.

by glitter123 on 7/21/2011 6:12:58 PM

 
 



Mod
Hey. I havent had a reall boyfriend ever. I really want one. i like a few guys but of course im too scared to ask them out. And im going into 7th grade, i havent even had my first kiss! I want to once school starts. Can you give me your personal tips for getting a BF?
Thanks! xoxo
Ashley




Hey girlie, just be outgoing and flirty! Talk to the boys you like and do things like make eye contact and smile at them in the hallways and touch their arm gently when you're talking to them.  
Lauren T.

by babygirl1265 on 7/21/2011 5:48:08 PM

 
 

There is this boy that I have liked for a long time and we have went out 3 times but the third time he asked me out I said yes and he broke up with me next day and said I don't wanna b in a relationship and I was upset but I still like him very much what do I do?

by kathryn58 on 7/20/2011 6:17:08 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD my boyfriend of almost 2 years when to the river and "fooled" aroudn with another girl. he told me and said he feel so bad about it and thinking about it makes him feel sick. the next day he broke up with me. later that wekk we got back together and he said that he loves me and wants to be with me forever. later that week he breaks up with me again saying "he doesnt feel the same and our relationship is boring." i am a complete reck and every is telling me that i will get over it. but it very hard not to think about him all the time, i love him so much and really want him back, i want him to be happy too so i dont want to force him back with me, but like i aid i miss him so much. should i give him space? and see if he starts to like me again? or should i listen to everyone and just try to forget?




Hey girl,  it sounds like this guy is confused and doesn't know what he wants, and you don't deserve that. You deserve a guy who knows he wants you, not one who wavers. My suggestion is to be fair to yourself: distance yourself from him and work on moving on. You deserve a guy proud to be with you, not one who's confused.

xoxo
Alyssa B.

by mznightmaremaddy on 7/19/2011 10:13:44 PM

 
 

ive been through a lot of breakups and trust me, a lot of them have been jerks! but what i have learned is that they might regret endeing it or they might not. what i do recommend is NOT to "curse out" your ex just for ending it. sure, he might have broken your heart but he still is human and still has feelings, think of a bettr and healthier way.

by chicaforeverr on 7/19/2011 6:31:34 PM

 
 

MOD
my boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me and his excuse was he didnt want to keep looking in the past and niether should i. i called him on his birthday just being nice and we started talking. i know not to go back to him becuse of what he did and im so not going to but he posts things about me on his fb page and all my friends get angry about it and tell him to quit. they all keep telling him i deserve a better explanation because he even told my best friend he was lying when he said that. i dont know what to do but i agree that i do need a better explanation can you help?




Hey girlie,

Breakups usually never go perfectly for us - they always leave us asking questions, wondering why, and there are always more things we could say to our ex. But it's really not worth it to stand in front of him and demand a better explanation - he clearly was uncomfortable with it and, whether he has another reason or not, he might not be able to vocalize it right now. But honestly, it's likely that no explanation - whether it's "good" or not - will seem like enough. It's not worth stressing over! Two years is a long time so it's normal to feel upset or like you need "closure" on the situation, but the best closure you can have is moving on, doing something good and healthy for yourself (like joining a new sport, giving yourself a spa relaxation day, or buying a cute new top), and spending lots of time with your friends. However, what you should do is confront him about the stuff he writes on his FB about you. In person, tell him seriously that you are not together anymore and he has no right posting about you online. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you'd like him to stop, right now. Be firm on this one! <3
Lauren C.

by amberbamber on 7/18/2011 6:10:16 PM

 
 

Mod mod mod!!! My crush was my best friend and then he said that he likes me and I told him I like him back. He was really happy about it, and I guess I am too, but I don't know. Things are all awkward between us now, and I want to go back to being just friends. How can I tell him that?

 

 

Hey chica! I'd be honest with him sooner, rather than later. Let him know that while you do have feelings for him, you miss the way it used to be. He should understand, and it's likely that he may even feel the same way. If you do truly like him, though, I'd give it a little time. Every relationship is awkward at first!

xxx

Becca G.

by spicyllamachick2120 on 7/18/2011 1:08:38 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD! So I just got back from a two week trip to the United Nations. There were teenagers from Canada, the US, Switzerland and the Netherlands on my bus. We all got really close, especially this guy and I. I think I really like him, a lot. But he went back to Switzerland last week. We're keeping in touch over Facebook, but I don't think I'll ever really see him again. How can I stop myself from liking him? Thanks Smile Oh, p.s. On the second last day about 8 of us were playing Truth (like truth or dare but everyone has to answer the question and there aren't any dares), and someone asked "if you were forced to marry someone on this trip who would it be?" He chose me, and I chose him... Help??

 

 

Hey girly! I'd keep in touch, and then one day, go visit! Or, have him come visit here. It's definitely possible! One of my closest friends lives in central Mexico. I've had a thing for him ever since he was an exchange student at my college, and I've been down to visit him. I know how you feel about missing him, and not knowing when you'll see him next. However, I promise, with time, it'll get easier! Smile

xxx

Becca G.

by o1r2e3o4 on 7/17/2011 9:23:59 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD thanks for your time i really like this boy and i might possibly love him .one day i told him i like him and he said he liked me back .i asked him the next day before our student council if he still liked me he said yes,but later on that day at the zoo he said he didnt like me so i finished the day . on monday i asked why he said its better we stay friends (we have known each other since 1st grade)i asked if he liked me he said kinda and then on the last day he said he didnt like me because i joked about him claiming a chair i still like him and he's my facebook friend so i wanted to message him: i know you'll hate this song and me but i feel this way still sorry . so thank for time should i send it please respond soon and i cant get over him i think messageing this is like telling i love him thxs




Hey girlie,

This is definitely a grand gesture and it's sweet of you to think of it, but it sounds like he's going back and forth for more reasons than just the joking around. It sounds like he's hesitant to crush on you and date you because he doesn't want to ruin the friendship you've had for so long! So definitely Facebook message him and give him a heartfelt apology for that whole joking/teasing situation, but try not to push too hard. It's tough but ya gotta respect what he tells you and, if he finally decides it's better for you to stay friends, you have to respect those feelings too <3
Lauren C.

by texastween on 7/11/2011 10:09:10 PM

 
 

Make a playlist of girl-power songs and songs that boys sing to girls when they love them, to make you feel better. Put on a fashion show in your prettiest clothes that make you happy. Sing until your throat hurts. Eat as much ice cream or sweets as you need. Give yourself a spa day. But most importantly, carry your head high, shoulders back, so you exude confidence. It will totes make him regret breaking up with such a self-assured girl.

Now, here's something you should never do: beg the boy to get back with you. Don't. If the guy was a jerk enough to break up with you, you don't need him anyways.

Don't change yourself into some clone of the popular girls to get him back. If he can't accept you the way you are, then he does not deserve an amazing guy like you.

And, focusing on keeping your mind away from him and doing other stuff will help. Flirt with other guys in front of him- show him that you were the best thing that ever happened to him, and he just lost the best girl!!!

by basketballcutie11 on 7/4/2011 7:45:51 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD so i was finally starting to feel a little better after my breakup when he texted me. I know he wants us to be friends, and in the long run i do too, but right now im torn between getting over him and losing him forever, or letting myself get hurt all the time, and being friends with him. idk wat to do plz help! thanks Frown

 

 

Hey babe. You need to take care of yourself. If you two are meant to be friends then he will be there when you are ready. Be nice for now, but look out for your heart.

mary h.

by kguyer123 on 6/29/2011 9:25:00 AM

 
 

MODMODMODMODMODMOD!!!
My crush thinks im a stalker because of my friends stupid sister she stole my phone and got his number and started texting him being like omg she is sooo disappointed u wont answer he didnt answer because he was getting stitches!! I am soo mad she ruined my chance with him how can i prove im not a stalker and still let him know i like him but not obsessed??




Hey girl, by just explaining/apologizing to him your sister's conduct. Then from there, text him in moderation: prove you're not a stalker by your actions.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by sweetbaby12 on 6/28/2011 8:21:28 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD 4 days ago my first boyfriend ever (im 14 hes 13) broke up with me. He says he still wants to be friends, but idk how to go from being his gf back to his just friend again. idk if i should txt him or wat to do and im so sad and hv been not eating crying and not sleeping since then. We dont get to see each other and dont talk on the phone just text. when we were together, id initiate conversations. but idk what to do now. please help me.

 

 

Hey babe. Break-ups stink, but hang in there! You really should take some time away from each other. Hang out with your buds and these feelings should pass. These articles might help: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/03/05/5-healthy-ways-to-get-over-him.aspx http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/02/22/Survive-being-crushed-by-your-crush.aspx

mary h.

by kguyer123 on 6/28/2011 8:56:37 AM

 
 

The Best Way To Get over A break Up is Not cleaning youur Room or Hitting Books. No It's About you having FUN showing Him that your great and fine without Him. Show Him that you don't care anymore or Didnt care at all. The best Way to Get your Ex back or make him Jealous is To Get more attention Then he usally does or Talk to a new guy and make sure your ex is right there. If anyone say OMG josh broke up with you. You say No he Lost His Dream. MOVE ON. There plenty of Guys out there that are better than that. Just search To find the right Guy. Trust Me On this One. Smile






sincerly: octavia

by klassy_wit_a_k_ on 6/26/2011 8:20:44 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!! So almost a month ago, my BGF asked me out. I said yes. It was going pretty good up until recently.. It seems like every time I'm in a relationship, I always seem to want to get out of it around our "monthiversary". It's always different reasons. Sometimes I just loose interest. I really want to keep him as my best friend, but I think I want to he's in NY right now (I'm in Ca) and I find myself openly flirting with other guys and I feel guilty, at the same time. Maybe I'm not "girlfriend" girl? What if I'm "dating" girl? My friends say I just haven't found the right one yet... I j need some advice on what to d

 

 

Hey girly girl! It sounds like your friends are right on this one. I used to have this issue when I dated guys, too. However, I promise you, when the right guy comes alone, you'll know, and you won't want to break up with him! As you get older, commitment won't seem as weird and nervewracking as it does now Smile

xxx

Becca G.

by TrippleThreat13 on 6/18/2011 11:27:42 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
This summer I am doing a youth theater production of the tempest. My ex- crush tried out also. WE had to run scenes and the director chose us 2 to practice the romantic scene between Miranda and Ferdinand. It was really romantic, sweet and totally confusing espially since we had to hold hands and he found out that i liked him. What should I do? P.S. he has a girlfriend




Since he has a girlfriend theres not a lot you can do. Just keep working with him but keep the crush to a minimum because he has a girlfriend already. Good luck! xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by Bluejaye221 on 6/16/2011 12:30:34 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I recently broke up with my boyfriend, because he became obsessed with me and followed me constantly.(I found out today that he has OCD) He was suffocating me and I couldn't stand it. Now he keeps telling me that he doesn't see the point in living without me, and that everyone hates him, that he has no chance of finding love again. And he is being really annoying, because he keeps asking me to kiss him to be sure that I don't still have feelings for him.......I don't know what to do!! He is stressing me out!!!




Talk to your counselor about him. They'll be able to help you deal with this issue and they can talk to him and help him with his issues. Good luck! xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by iluvchorkies on 6/15/2011 10:14:39 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!
oK,So one of my BFFS is dating my old Bf and... im kid of sad even tho me and my bf broke up we didn't stop talking... we're really good friends!!We still seem like we're dating we laugh and talk he sits with me at lunch.....and my friend always looks at me mad...but... we aren't dating! then she told me they were dating and i was happy for her! But.. whenever i talk to her she gives me a mean look! WHAT SHOULD I DO!




hey girlie,

Talk to your BFF and clear things up--tell her what you and your ex's relationship is like now and tell her not to worry (and don't give her anything to worry about).  If it still makes her uncomfortable, then you may have to pull away a bit from your ex for their relationship's sake (since he's not your bf anymore...). So talk to her! 

Ruth S. Ruth S.

by jjgirl1013 on 6/11/2011 1:30:29 AM

 
 

I had a crush on this guy for like six months, i only thought about him all the time and my friends were doing everything they could to try to get him to notice me. Then one day, we had to write a love poem for english class, and mine was really good so my friends told me to give it to him, but im really shy so i had his best friend give it to him, and he toke it the wrong way and now he won't talk to me and I won't talk to him. I was heartbroken and i cried myself to sleep for weeks.

I learned an important lesson that day, you need to be honest with boys, but if your two honest, they will just run and hide.

by kidcincy on 6/7/2011 11:32:27 PM

 
 

i have reacently got out of a six month relationship my first real one and its been devastating espically when he has already got a new girlFrown so im ready to try these tips!

by MightMadiCannon on 6/7/2011 3:41:04 PM

 
 

Mod
Ok so this dosen't really relate to the topic but I have a huge delima. My best guy friend bight have been expelled. Him and another boy got in trouble for accidently bringing a fishing kife to the pentagon, the friend tried to throw it awa ybut the other boy wouldn;t let him because it was expensive. We conviced them the best idea would be to turn it into the teacher. yeah BAD IDEA. I havent heard from my friend since we got back form the trip he hasen't been at school and isent allowed to walk in graduation. I don't know what to do. What happened was so unfair.





I so wish I could offer some great advice. Unfortunately since I’m not an expert on the matter, I don’t want to point you in the wrong direction. Try having a chat with the good old ‘rents. I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to help you get things squared away.     ♥, Your Blog Patrol Babes


Kelly H.

by Hawtchik101 on 6/2/2011 12:41:20 AM

 
 



MODMODMOD
I didnt go to school one day and my two bffs made a lie and said i was cheating on my boyfriend. So my other friend could have him so they got together....i got so mad Frown and i want him back? what should i do major drama! D: HELP!




Hey girlie -- you should confront all those involved and then get new friends.




Brittany G.
Brittany G.

by rawrhannah10 on 5/27/2011 11:25:26 PM

 
 

lol this is my favorite
1.think about your crush
2.make a heart with your hands
3.then kiss your hands still in the heart shape
4.put it where your real heart goes
5your crush will ask you out tomarrow

by magermelody123 on 5/27/2011 4:28:52 PM

 
 



MOD MOD ok so my boyfriend cheated on me and kept tons of secrets from me so we broke up and he wanted me back but i said no. nows hes going out with my best friend but i still have feelings for him but i do like this one other guy wat should i do




Helen S.

by little duck on 5/20/2011 4:22:26 PM

 
 

1. Think of your crush
2. Make a heart with your hands
3. Then,kiss your hands while you are still making the heart
4. Now put the heart where your real heart it
5. Tomorrow,your crush will ask you out!
♥♥♥
THIS WILL ONLY WORK IF YOU POST THIS AGAIN TO YOUR FAVORITE ARTICLE!!!!!!

by twilightlover565 on 5/14/2011 9:25:50 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
So there's this boy at my school who is fairly new who's not in my class, and he added me on Facebook and I accepted. Then he was like "Hey, do you like anyone?" And I was like "Um no"(Total lie) And he was like "Me either" then he logged off...and I've never even talked to him before...what the heck could that mean?




Hey girlie. That's unusual, but it could be that he was asking for a friend. Try and see who he has been hanging out with. Maybe one of his friends likes you Smile 
Marly Z.

by dolcecupcakes on 5/9/2011 6:16:00 PM

 
 

When my boyfriend broke up with me (today) we all planned a movie night Smile

by rawrhannah10 on 5/4/2011 8:25:24 PM

 
 


Yep.....he's gone Frown

by JessJess13 on 5/2/2011 7:28:09 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD
My BF is still treating me the same (like im not important)
so i wanted to break up with him but at the same time i dont and my bff told him i wanted to break up im really sad what should i do?




Hey girlie. I think you need to talk to your bf as soon as possible. Tell him why you have been upset. Maybe he doesn't realize that he's treating you the same. He might fix it if you let him know Smile 
Marly Z.

by rawrhannah10 on 5/2/2011 5:56:17 PM

 
 

**MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD** Okay so a week or two ago I was texting my BF and he told me that he was moving. I asked him where and he said "I'm moving to Ethiopia, in Africa." I didn't believe it, or at least I didn't want to. I asked him why and he said "I have family there that really needs our help." I asked him if he was ever coming back and he said "Probably not." I said "Please just tell me this is a joke." and he said "Sorry, I can't." I cried myself to sleep. Then, a few days ago he called me and said that he begged his mom to stay, and she said yes. I was sooo thrilled, you wouldn't believe it. But then tonight, my friend texted me and said that he told her goodbye. She asked what he meant and he said "Goodbye, have a nice life cuz I'm leaving. My flight is in an hour." I just texted him and he's being all evasive and trying to avoid my questions. I'm confused and so, so scared. What if I don't get to say goodbye??? HELP!!!!!!!

 

 

Hey chica! I'd take this with a grain of salt for now... it seems like he's changing his story a lot. If by chance he is leaving, you can always still talk to him online, and someday you can visit him!

xxx

Becca G.

by JessJess13 on 5/1/2011 11:15:07 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD There is this guy that i liked for a while now and over text i asked him if he liked me..he said yes but that he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. or something like that. How do i get over him???...its tough to see him in school without getting those feelings. Please help!

 

 

Hey chickadee! I'd try to avoid him as much as you can. If you see him in the hallway, walk the other way. And, take a break from talking to him. Meaning, no texts. As time goes on, it'll be better, I promise!

xxx

Becca G.

by nickluverjb on 5/1/2011 9:12:11 PM

 
 

check out my page . i'll help you through the bad times with guys and friends and mean girls . (:

by farmer's daughter(: on 4/28/2011 2:57:39 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD
Me and and my bf have been going out with like two months but yesturday was the two months and he dumped me because he still loved his ex girlfriend. That broke my heart entirely. But thing is we started talking less and less and hanging out less and less. But i started flirting with other guys because he would never hangout with me. But once he said he loved his ex gf, i knew i still love him alot. Me and him have been through alot. I sneaked out for him and my parents called the police at me. I been grounded alot because of him. But yesturday he wanted me to hate him. I dont hate him. I just love him still. But he has gotton me through alot. He made me learn that life is worth it. But now hes gone and theres nothing i can do. Its just to get over him now. What can i do now?




Hey girlie -- you need to focus on you and only you right now. Check out this section on getting over heartache:  http://www.girlslife.com/category/splitsville.aspx.




Brittany G. 
Brittany G.

by sweetliksugr23 on 4/23/2011 8:44:31 AM

 
 

ivive tried these tips but non of them work for me I think it's cause he's just so hard to get over and at one point I thought we were perfect for eatch other but he has a girlfriend and he says he's so in love and he's got it right like in that taylor swift song tear drops on my gutair I think it's exactly like that I just can't get him out of my head and I know he is a palyer but it's so hard to get over him I think I fell to in love with him to get over him I need help and fast should I just deal with being in love with him for the rest of my life or do something about it

by lovemybff on 4/22/2011 7:02:01 PM

 
 

HELP! I recently broke up with my bf and and he sits next to me in like 4 classes and all he does is annoy me!!!!!!!! I can't take it any longer. He takes my things kicks my chairs slams my locker door shut and makes fun of me. I think its becuz I broke up with him and he still likes me. Idk how to make him stop. I've tried ignoring him, but it doesn't work. And I've asked him to please stop. He says he will but he never stops. HELP! WHAT DO i DO????????????

Bonjour chicky! Uh, can you get a restraining order on this guy? JK. Don't worry, we have ways where you can get this boy off your back here: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2010/08/06/de-crush-that-boy.aspx

Jessica W.

by kay24april on 4/21/2011 10:25:52 AM

 
 

MODMODMODMOD MOD!
PLEASE ANSWER QUICKLY. so my boyfriend was cheating on me. and he started hugging the girl he was cheating on me with. and i got so mad so obiously we broke up but i cant get over him i kinda have alot of feeling for him. then he told me he wanted to get back together with me and i didnt know what to say but i really do like him but im not ready to get my heartbroken. WHAT SHOULD I DO!




Hey girlie. I think you said it yourself that you're "not ready to get heartbroken." Go with that. He clearly didn't realize what he had and how do you know that he won't do it again? I think you're better than that. I know it's hard now but there will be so many other guys out there who will be so good to you and treat you like you should be treated.  
Marly Z.

by little duck on 4/13/2011 6:47:10 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!
Hey! There's this guys I've liked for an extremely long time. Recently, I discovered that he has known I like him for a while, and doesn't feel the same. He's a really awesome person, and I'm having trouble stopping like him. It's been a month since I was indirectly rejected. Any hints? Also, once I'm over him, I would really like to be friends with him...how can I do that without it being awkward?
Endless thanks!!




Hey chick. I know rejection is hard but you will get past it. You just have to concentrate your time on something else. You can def be friends with him later on. Just give it some time and it won't be awkward. 
Marly Z.

by kendopolis on 4/13/2011 4:45:44 PM

 
 

NEED ADVICE PLEASEEE! VERY CONFUSED!?!?!?
My best guy friend (who is in grade 8, im in grade7) is amazing. We have life chats and I can tell him ANYTHING!
But I started liking him, and he started liking me, so we decided to start dating. We had barely been dating for like 2 and a half weeks and things were awkward. It seemed like he didnt like me anymore. So I asked him and he said he thinks we should just be friends! We are best friends now and he is sosososo sweet and kind and amazing and I don't know what I would do without him!? But I think I still like him. Its been about 3 weeks since we "broke up", and im falling kinda hard after I just finished convincing myself that I should move on and stop liking him and things didnt work out. But he acts like he likes me still too!? He says i'm beautiful and that he loves me <3. But how do I find out if he likes me without ruining our friendship!? HELP ME PLEASEEEEE!!!!!!! SO CONFUSED!?!?

by katrinagrace13 on 4/12/2011 8:49:25 PM

 
 

So my boyfriend and i broke up like 2 months ago and i still cant get over him. we r friends but i never see him mainly bc he goes to a different school and his parents try to keep us apart now. i want to get back together with him and i think he knows that. is there any way for me to get him back without his parents getting mad? i still really like him and i just wish we were together again. is there anything i can do to get him back?

by volley J on 4/12/2011 6:19:47 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD
My boyfriend cheated on me. He even admitted it. But I really liked him. We were dating ALMOST two months, and then he just stopped talking to me. And finally when he did he wanted to end it. Because he couldn't take the guilt. I talked to his best friend in the hallways and he said that my boyfriend didn't even feel guilty and that it was totally worth it. But I don't really wanna break up. What should I do?




Hey girlie. Although you really liked him and didn't want to break up, try thinking of it as you are too good for him- because you are! You don't deserve to be cheated on. You will find someone who will never cheat on you and treat you like a princess.  
Marly Z.

by farmer's daughter(: on 3/28/2011 5:59:07 PM

 
 

MOD
my boyfriend broke up with me back in november, & no matter how hard i try, i just can't seem to get over him. he was my best guy friend, too. he unfortunately doesn't want to try to be friends & it totally breaks my heart. i've tried the things on this list & nothing has worked. any more suggestions?

 

Hey girlie, I think the best way to move on is to keep yourself preoccupied find new things to distract you a new hobby a new club a new guy friend it may take time but you will move on 

Paige T.

by mknatlxlove on 3/27/2011 10:12:27 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD!!!!! I need some help with my best firend! She had a HUGE crush on this guy!Then i found out that guy she has a crush on actually liked me!I could telll she was hurt! But i dont like him like that so we just reminded friends! But she cant seem to get over him! I can see why though....They hang out all the time and they are always laughing together and look like they are having a great time! Everyone at school thinks they are going out, even a teacher asked them if they were! SO why cant her crush like her????? She was trying to get over him because he didnt return her feelings, but she is still crushing on him!!! She even told him about her feelings!!!I think he is such a jerk to be flirting with her everyday, but then wont even go out with her!!! She is asking me for advice, but i dont really know what else to tell her!!!! Help plz!!!




Thats a tough situation. I think the best thing for her is to stop flirting with him so much. Its just going to hurt more the more she does. By removing herself from his presence that will help her move on. Also maybe just maybe by not hanging around him so much he'll realize how much he likes having her around or something. But yeah she should stop hanging out with him so much. xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by JayJay J. on 3/27/2011 2:24:05 PM

 
 



MODMOD!!Whenever i sit next to a boy in class i end up liking him but when class is over and i don't see him anymore we don't even know each other are there. My friends all have boyfriends and i'm really jealous of them but i've never had a boyfriend before. I have high standards for my first boyfriend and i don't know how to lower them, my mind is set on one thing. I don't want to look back and regret ever dating that person first. HELP!




Hey girlie, if your concern is keeping in touch with your crush, try getting to know him during class. That way he won't just be the guy sitting next to you, but someone you can talk to Smile




Brittany G.
Brittany G.

by moosempepper on 3/26/2011 11:42:27 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. And I never felt this way about a guy so fast. He makes me feel so spechial. But of course he has a couple flaws. He loves to party and he goes to huge parties with drinking every weekend. His friend told me a couple of weekends ago he got drunk and cheated on me. (his friend lies alot and He also likes me) and now more people are sayign he cheated on me! When I ask him he says he loves me and he could never do it. But I always see pretty girls writing on his facebook wall. And he is super secretive with his phone, but he always goes thru mine. And lately he has been super moody. Now his two bestfriends are saying he cheated.. What do you think I should do?




Hey girl, I think if he's going through your phone, you have every right to go through his. It sounds like there might be some merit to what his friends are saying, but remember, it's important to let your guy defend himself: innocent until proven guilty. Don't let him go through your phone and tell him you need to talk to him. It sounds like above all you're having trust issues, and you need to sort those out. And if he won't? It may just be time to leave him behind as hard as it is. With his partying path, it sounds like he isn't going to the best place anyway.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by ashhagan104 on 3/24/2011 11:43:33 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD
Okayy so about a week ago, my boyfriend (of almost five months) texted me and said that he's been thinking & he doesn't know if we're still right for each other. When I called him that night, it ended with him saying he wonders if he still loves me or not after he went off on the whole "it's not you, it's me" tangent. He's been texting me and calling me all week like he normally does, although he's acting really strange and I can tell he's being kinda reserved. Last night my friend texted him something that really pissed him off and now he won't talk to me.
He has a tendency to be really sensitive and overreact about a lot of stuff but I REALLY don't want to lose him. We're perfect for each other... Or at least I thought.
Any thoughts on what's going on or what I should do?
Thanks.




Hey girlie. This is definitely a convo you need to have with him. Talk with him to see why he thinks this and what changed. Tell him that you still feel the same way about him and don't want to lose him. Good luck!
Marly Z.

by emilyroxmysoxoff96 on 3/23/2011 5:27:40 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD! My BF dumped me after 3 and a half months. He was my first love and it totally caught me off guard. He couldn't even say it to my face! He had to text me instead. Just when I was starting to feel better, he completely stabbed me in the back and tried to ruin my relationship with one of my best friends! Why would he do that! I never did ANYTHING to hurt him, but for some reason he just keeps hurting me. And I still can't get over him! I need to get past this! help

 

 

Hey girly! This guy sounds like a complete JERK! If you feel comfortable doing it, I'd confront him about everything and ask what his deal is. Make it clear that you do not want to get back together with him, but don't understsand why he's trying to sabatage you. If he's nice and sweet again... don't fall for it. Avoid him as much as possible, and make sure to surround yourself with friends and other people who love and care about you. Also, keep busy, so that you have less time to think about him. Trust me girly... you are WAY better off without him.

xxx

Becca G.

by shannnon16 on 3/20/2011 5:07:31 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMOD!!!
I guess I wasnt clear in my last post. Its not that I'm having problems getting over him, I just want to talk to him. Am I wasting my time waiting for him to talk to me?

Bonjour chicky! Sometimes guys can be just as nervous as girls when it comes to these things. Just try to start a simple icebreaker with him such as asking about his classes or the weather to get him to start coming out with his true intentions

Jessica W.

by dancerchick96 on 3/18/2011 1:23:02 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMOD!!!
My ex bf and I broke up over 3 weeks ago. We dated for almost 11 months and were super close. Things ended really quickly (I'm still fuzzy on what happened) and we haven't spoken since. Some of our mutual friends have tried to get him to talk to me, but that tended to end badly with him getting upset. He said at one point that he was tired of not talking to me, but he still hasn't said anything. I'd break the silence myself but I'm trying to give him space and time to think. I really miss talking to him even though I don't regret the break up. How long should I keep waiting before I try to move on?

Bonjour chicky! The time it takes to get over a break up depends on the individual - for some it takes weeks, others months. If you need some tools to help in the healing process try these out: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/03/05/5-healthy-ways-to-get-over-him.aspx

Jessica W.

by dancerchick96 on 3/18/2011 12:32:57 PM

 
 

i luv this this really helped thnx girlslife!!Smile

by beckysue789 on 3/16/2011 9:45:09 PM

 
 



MODMODMOD
so my boyfriend (now ex) and i broke up last thursday...he dumped me outta
nowhere and is being a total jerk. i've talked to so many people about it....they
say it's the way a guy does when he's newly single...that he still really cares
about you, but is trying to convince himself otherwise, which supposedly won't
work. is this true?




Hey girl,

Guys act all different ways after a break up, depending on their individual personality. It could be this way, but it could also be that he just wants to put distance between you two so he can get on with things. Whatever the reason, it's not worth trying to analyze his behavior and hoping he comes back. Instead, focus on your friends and your hobbies. Stay busy and, when it feels ok to do so again, keep an open mind about potential new crushes Smile No break up is easy - trust me, I understand that one. But the best way to pick up the pieces and move on is to show yourself you can be happy without him, not dwelling on it <3
Lauren C.

by mckenna1234 on 3/14/2011 9:49:11 PM

 
 



MOD liked this guy for 4 months but he was 16 and im 14 and 2 weeks ago we were texting and he was like do u still like me and i was like maybe and he was like please do and i was like y and he said i like you enough to tell you i love you i love you enough to miss you when your not with me and i love you enough to maybe date you. then we got in a fight because i had his bff take his blankets and tickle him with a feather at like 2am and he was like ill get u back and i convinced him to tell me what he was going to do and hes said kiss me then walk away and not come back i got mad because it was "that time of the month" and we got in this huge fight but then he said i love u can we please make up and i agreed and told him i loved him too this was a 1.5 weeks ago. a few days ago he told my bff that he wants me to stop liking him and he doesnt want to be friends with me. when i asked him he said no i just dont want u to like me. idk what changed we havent talked since HELP idk what to do




Hey girlie,




He might be going through some personal stuff and can't handle dating or being in a relationship with someone.  Maybe he thinks that being with someone may mean more drama in his life that he just can't handle right now.  Let him know that you apologize for the fight and that you're not always mad (since you were acting that way because of that "time of the month," right?).  Prove to him that you can be a good friend and drama free.  If he likes you, he will make an effort to get in touch with you and make things happen.  Just do your part and see what happens!
Ruth S.

by esc123 on 3/13/2011 12:53:51 AM

 
 

my ex broke up with me back in November and I'm over him by now, we wanted to stay friends but he wouldn't talk to me when I tried so I figured it just wouldn't happen. Well up until last Friday he came up to me and said, "I need to talk to you." He was being all friendly and asking me who the person was that was bugging me (apparently one of my friends told him that some guy I know has been annoying me lately and my ex decided to finally talk to me.) It's as if now, after about 4 months of not saying a word to me, now he wants to be in my life again. My parents told me not to be his friend but deep down inside...I still want him to be in my life, he's a nice guy and very sensitive but...I don't know what to do anymore. Please help me!

by firecracker_3 on 3/12/2011 2:59:32 PM

 
 



Please help me!!
Mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod!!!
Please help me!
So I was in love with this guy, but now, I realize he and I won't workout
IT KILLS ME INSIDE to think about him.
I do I like someone else, but I hardly know him.
The problem is that, he is my partner
In a sports program.
I don't want me to fall for him just because I am around him!!!
What do I do???




Hey girlie! You have to be on your guard -- a rebound is never the way to go  Just be nice to him and work together, but don't push any of the nice things your ex did off on him.




Brittany G. 
Brittany G.

by kmn21 on 3/12/2011 2:13:15 AM

 
 




MOD MOD MOD
I'm still in love with my ex! i dated him for a year and then a year later i dated him for a week he cheated on me both times but other than that he treated me right i really miss him and today i got this weird joy in my gut when he got a mad expression on his face cuz i was having a tickle fight with my BGF. IDK what i should do.... i read this but none of it works is my pain over him because i feel like i can't get a guy (he was my only bf) please help?




Hey girlie, try reading this article: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2010/01/13/getting-over-breakup.aspx While it's about 2010, the rules still apply Smile




Brittany G. 
Brittany G.

by mckey101 on 3/11/2011 11:36:01 PM

 
 

mod mod modI really like this guy and I think he likes me too but the thing is my othr friend likes him too so whenever I go to talk to him she always interrups me and starts flirting like crazy . I don't want to to tell her to stop because she likes him too and I also don't want to hurt her feelings . He doesn't her as anything more than a friend and her told her that but she won't give up .




Hey chica. Sometimes you just have to let everything fall into place on its own. Since the guy doesn't see her as more than a friend, she will eventually get the picture. 
Marly Z.

by Likatruzippo7 on 3/9/2011 3:15:01 PM

 
 

Hey Girlies,
I need some help. There is a guy I like and he may like me back, but I am not sure. My friend thinks he likes me back. Should I tell him I like him or just stay being friends?

by keh105 on 3/8/2011 6:01:37 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
my mom's in the hospital with depression, she's been in the hospital for about 2 months now. My dad is getting mini panic attacks so went to the doctors and now has medication to take care of it. I'm worried that my dad, brother or I could possibly get depressed b/c of her. Will this happen?




Hey girlie. Depression is a scary thing. Just because your mom has it does not mean you will, so don't worry too much about that.  
Marly Z.

by qtpie42 on 3/7/2011 8:26:02 PM

 
 

mod mod mod mod! please give me advice! i am really confused. because my crush has a girlfriend. and last friday, my friends celebrated my birthday. so we are doing an afterschool sports program. and we were doing the draft. and out of no where, he gave me a present. i was so surpriseed that he would give me something, even if he just found it on the bottom of his locker. and it was still in good shape. i would never had guessed that he would even say happy birthday to me, since he if popular like that. so why in the world would he give me something. we hardly know each other, but we are partners in the sports program, but still, it doesnt add up for me.

 

 

Hey chica! It's possible that he may think you're pretty awesome, and may like you as a friend. Or, he could be a flirt. I'd be careful though, since he does have a gf. Keep talking to him and building a friendship!

xxx

Becca G.

by sjz2016 on 3/6/2011 10:31:47 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
me and my ex broke up last year after going out for like a month, i rly liked him and i think he rly liked me too, then i got my phone taken away and he broke up with me, i still havent gotten the reason why. now i like him again but we havent talked in forever although i still like him i wouldnt mind being friends. how should i go about doing this?!?!?!?




I think maybe you should try talking and catching up. If you do that, you can go from there based on what happens. xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by kutie12 on 3/6/2011 3:10:44 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
I really need help on this one. You see, I have a crush on this guy and he's so great! He's unlike all the other guys I know and I think he likes me back. But.... he dated one of my friends. She used to text me all the time complaining about him and how hard it was to get over him. We're not THAT great of friends, I mean we don't hang out much out of school. But we hang out at our brothers' baseball games all the time. I don't know what to do!! Help!




I think maybe you should tell her you like him. See what she says. If shes super mad then maybe you should avoid it. Drama is never good. However if shes just a bit upset then do what you would like because youre not too close to her. Its a tough situation but when you tell her youll know what to do after that. xoxo kerra
Kerra S.

by purplewriter5 on 3/6/2011 1:47:01 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!
hey i have a problem. i started textin ma ex on friday n today we were talking bout who we liked. idk why we were tlkn bout another one of ma exes bt thn he told me tht he liked me n i told him tht i liked him. i texted him tht i didnt want things to be awkward n he didnt txt back. do u think its awkward now? ohh n i have another problem...one of ma friends likes him too. what should i do cuz i dnt want drama to start. thanks(:
---basketball luver---<3




hey girlie,

I think you should talk to him!  Figure out what you guys want, whether it's a relationship (again) or just a friendship.  Don't linger in the territory where you don't really know, or else someone will get hurt (whether it's you, him, or your friend that likes him).  You guys can avoid drama by being clear about your intentions and feelings! Smile
Ruth S.

by basketball luver on 3/6/2011 12:33:41 AM

 
 



MODMODMOD
Help, s'il vous plaît! Smile
Everyone at school thinks i like this guy, E, and that he likes me back. Well I think he might like me, but im not sure if i like him back. but i think i might. Anyways, we're friends, hes cute, hes athletic, and hes christian which is a huge plus for me. Problem is, he's my friend's ex. Shes way over him, but I dont want to make her feel uncomfortable. What should i do?




hey girlie,

Sounds like he's a great guy, but it's very important that you talk to your friend!  What were some of the reasons for their break up?  Is there something you should be careful about?  Make sure he's not known to be a cheater or treats people badly.  Hopefully he proves himself to genuinely be a good guy that he will be worthy of you! Smile
Ruth S.

by MalibuCheetah on 3/6/2011 12:28:51 AM

 
 

wow ma problems r kinda like moe4321. weird!(:
---basketball luver---<3

by basketball luver on 3/5/2011 11:48:44 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!
Say, you try all of this and you still can't get over the jerk that stole your heart? It's been years! Frown




hey girlie,

Heartbreak may never be easy to get over, but you can learn so much from it.  Honestly, now is the time to focus on you.  What do you want your life to be like (without a boy)?  What are some of your career goals?  Focus on defining who YOU are without trying to shape yourself to cater to a boy.  You'll realize there is so much to think about and focus on than boys! Smile

 
Ruth S.

by ilovehearts13 on 3/5/2011 11:09:20 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD
All my friends are either dating someone or have already had atleast two or more boyfriends, while i've never had one. How can I find a guy and get him to like me?




Hey Girlie,

Don't worry so much about getting a boyfriend right now.  Honestly, these things will naturally happen in your life.  I know there may be a lot of pressure, but at this age it's important to figure out who you are and what you like and what your hobbies are.  Learn to feel comfortable in your body and maintain a balanced diet and lifestyle! Boys will naturally be drawn to you when you are confident and comfortable with who you are Smile
Ruth S.

by peachylil on 3/5/2011 10:35:36 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
my best guy friend got a girlfriend.
i seeriously am not jealous....... i dont think
shes perfect, and funny, and now shes decided to sit at OUR table. I dont want want to be jealous... but its grasping me like a cold hand




Hey girlie!

I know it can be weird when there's a new addition to the group, but if your best guy friend likes something about her, you should give her a chance. Make sure you get to know her first before jumping to conclusions about her!  She might be a great gal that can make your guy friend happy too.  Try to find activities that you guys can all do as a group and have a good time together!
Ruth S.

by phixxee3 on 3/5/2011 9:53:15 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!
ok i kinda like this one guy, and my friends think he likes me too. the problem is hes kind of a jerk. not towards me, but he told one guy with an accent to go kiss a guy, and he called my friend little emo girl and told her to go cut herself. but he really seems like he likes me and i kinda like him, and i need a date to the 8th grade dance. its in about 3 weeks. should i just ignore the fact that he can be mean or should i find someone else? if so, how can i meet other guys? he needs to be at my school.




Hey Girlie! How a guy treats others says a lot about him, so if he isn't treating others nicely, he's probably not the best person to hang out with.  He doesn't seem like a guy with great character, so move on to someone else who will treat you AND your friends with respect.  You can meet many great people when you get involved in different extracurricular activities or clubs...or just through different friends.  But most importantly, don't worry so much about finding a date to the dance.  Just think about having a good time, even if it's just with a group of fun girlfriends.  In the end it's not which guy you went with that counts, but how much fun you had!
Ruth S.

by karategirl78 on 3/5/2011 9:20:21 PM

 
 

this is pretty good advice! Some other ideas are to watch some comedy movies with your friends, or go out and party it up!! ;p

by soccer28q on 3/5/2011 6:54:43 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMODMOD!! Ok so i kinda like this guy, and people tell me he likes me, but i don't thinks so. We used to have two classes together, and in the first class we would always talk and people would make fun of us saying we were flirting. When they said that he should ask me out his face got all red, and he said that "he wouldn't let that happen." then when they wouldn't stop he made gagging noises. and in the second class we would talk all the time too. but now hes not in my second class and we don't sit by eachother in the first because we have new assigned seats. but now after about 3 months of not really having anything to do with each other, he's starting to stare at me a lot, when we 'popcorn' read he calls o me, and talk to me. and when i would flirt back he will blush. my friends say he likes me but from the comments earlier i'm not sure. sorry it's so long!

 

 

Hey girly girl! I would definately start initiating convo with this guy again. He was probably just super embarrassed in front of his friends!

xxx

Becca G.

by soccerstephy13 on 3/5/2011 5:20:52 PM

 
 

MOD, Hey! I need some help with a few things! 1st: I share a room with my sister and i have a really small portion of the room, I was wondering, what are some good organizers or containers that look good but work? 2nd: I have really like this guy since the first day of school and I told him. He said he liked me as a sister and we have been best friends...I thought i got over him, but I can't find any other guy who I would even think about liking- none of them compare...How do I get over him? Thanks!

 

 

Hey chica! As for your first question, you could always go to Target and get a few plastic storage containers to stack on top of each other. They make big ones, and you can decorate the outside however you want. With photos, paint, etc Smile

As for your second question, check out this article!  http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/03/05/5-healthy-ways-to-get-over-him.aspx

xxx

Becca G.

by rlitke13 on 3/5/2011 5:01:58 PM

 
 



MOD!MOD!MOD!
In about a year I'm going to high school. I have to choose between two different ones; one is in the top 25 schools in the country the other is very artsy and still decent. Alot of my best friends are going to the really good school, then like a liittle bit of my friends are going to the artsy school. I take honors classes, but I love theater and soccer. How do I choose which school I go to?




Hey! your friends are your support system through school. if you can get an awesome education at either, go to the one with your closest friends 
Helen S.

by jello4eve on 3/5/2011 3:49:26 PM

 
 



Mod,Mod,Mod. Say you are on a date how do you ask to use the restroom without sounding gross?




Hey! Just say you need to find the restroom, there's nothing gross about that Smile 
Helen S.

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by emmiecandy on 3/5/2011 3:14:28 PM

 
 



MOD!!
what is modding?




Hey! modding is short for moderating and that's my job. it means I answer questions when the comment starts with "mod" and I also screen comments to keep things safe and friendly on GL Smile
Helen S.

by brummitt06 on 3/5/2011 3:13:55 PM

 
 



MOD!!!
so there's this guy. we dated for about 6 months and stopped talking when we broke up. but last week he started texting me telling me he wanted to be friends i sed okay and weve been talking. he told me he liked me but he sed he also likes this other girl. im cool with it and were just friends still but idk if i should still try to flirt or just play it cool. please help!




Hey! well if you like him, flirt away, but if you wanna stay friends play it cool. good luck! 
Helen S.

by moe4321 on 3/5/2011 2:51:25 PM

 
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