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Me and my friend have had our on-and-off problems since elementary, but now in middle school it seems worse. She lies about almost everything (what people have said, that she's psychic, what she's said, etc.)and she can also be rude to me and one of her ex-friends (who is one of my best friends, we used to be at trio). I get upset and confront her about these things, but she just denies the lies and begs for me to accept her apology when shes rude. I'm getting really annoyed and frustrated to the point where I don't even like spending time with her much.She even gets upset when I hang with new friends. Should I continue this friendship (we've been close since 3rd grade)?

Hey girlie,

If you're not happy, then there's never any really to stay in a relationship or a friendship. You should never do something that makes you unhappy. If she doesn't change even after you talk to her about it, then I think it's understandable for you to end the friendship or just gradually let it die off. Jordan S.

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I just found out that a VERY bratty girl is going to be in my class this year!I will not be able to stand her another year help!!!!!!!

Hey girl!

The best thing you can do is ignore her. Do everything you can not to let her bratty ways bother you. Surround yourself with people totally unlike her. Focus on what's important: doing well in school!

Rachael A.

by PlushPurplePanda on 6/22/2012 2:08:42 PM

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My friend came over yesterday to hang out, and while my mom wasn't home she told me that she stole things from our local mall. She told me how she took the sunglasses she was wearing, and how she put on like 5 pairs of underwear on under her clothes at Victoria's Secret. I don't necessarily want to tell my parents about this, since I don't plan on staying close with her anymore. I have been in this crowd before and I definitely don't want to go back. How can I tell her I don't want to be friends with her, or how can I slowly give us space so I don't have to deal with her? Thanks xx

Hey Girl,

Yikes! Shoplifting is serious stuff! Kudos to you for wanting to stay away from her behavior. I know you don't want to sound lke her mom, but tell her she needs to stop. If she gets caught, it could go on her record. Does she really want colleges and future employers to see that she stole-- all over $ lipgloss? If she won't stop give her an ultimatum-- she stops stealing, or you stop being friends.

best of luck--

simone s.

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by AvatarTLA on 6/13/2012 8:31:42 PM

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I have all of the signs that I will get my period, plus one year to ALL of them! I am really freaking out, plus I am a year older than my mom was when she got hers. I am worried that I will be caught off guard! But mostly, I am worried about talking to my mom about this, and I am worried about talking to her when I do get it! Help!

Hey babe,

Check out this article: First Period Prep. Unfortunately, you might not have any signs before your first period. Girls have them at all different ages so it's basically unpredictable. Don't be worried to talk to your mom about it - she's been there and done that! You should be prepared with pads/tampons at home for when it does come, so you should talk to your mom about buying some to keep in stock. She will totally understand.

Kelly G.

by mainbunny1 on 6/8/2012 12:37:59 PM

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OMG HELP my friend has depression and she wants to kill herself!!! I'm so scared!!! She says that i'll be ok and that that I won't notice but i will!!! She told me not to tell anybody. But I don't want my friend to kill herself!!! I'm so scared!!! HELP!!!

Hey Hermione,

Suicide threats should always be taken very seriously. You absolutely need to get adults involved- either the parents, or if they won't listen, the police. Try to be there for your friend as best as you can, but remember that this isn't your fault, and she put you in an impossible position. Even if you think she might be mad at you later for telling people about her threat, it's much better to explain your position to her in person, rather than having her go through with it and feeling regret.

If you want someone to talk to, the nine-line is a great source. 1800-999-9999. It's totally free, and they will be able to you help out.

by hermionegirl12 on 6/7/2012 6:59:08 PM

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I have a friend whos been acting different these few months. When my other friends and i befriended her, she was nice and cool but now shes kinda acting weird. During lunch she acts the way we always knew her but during class, she is always bossy and competitive to us and ditches us to hang out with other girls. Also, i REALLY dont like when she kisses the teacher's butts. This all really irritates me but when i tell her, she gets offended. What should I do?

Hey girlie,

She might be feeling pressure to do really well in school - whether it's from her parents, her siblings, or even herself. It sounds like she only gets competitive and "mean" in classes, so she's probably feeling stressed and like she needs to prove something, or at least be the "best" in the class. If her behavior is hurting your feelings, try catching her one-on-one after school and tell her how you're feeling. Don't corner her and don't attack her - just let her know that you feel kinda bad when she says a certain thing or ditches you, and you really value her as a friend so you wanted to be straight with her. Clearing the air is the best way to deal with stuff like this!

Lauren C.

by momo221 on 5/3/2012 7:09:23 PM

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I feel really left out and kind of ticked off at my BFF. We'll be on the bus home from school and she'll start whispering to a girl next to her and basically ignore me all the way home. I also feel like she expects me to do everything for her, and she doesn't have to do anything for me. I love her and everything, but lately she's just seemed different and I don't know what to do about it.
Also, we like the same guy, but she's kind of confusing me over it. Shell say she just wants to be friends with him, but then get really mad when he flirts with someone else. I don't want her to get angry, but this is I think the only one of my crushes I've ever had a chance with, and her past 2 crushes have both asked her out. I'm really shy, so it takes me a while to comfortable around guys and I feel like I've known him forever even though it's only been like a year. What should I do?(sorry this is so long

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She's allowed to have other friends besides you (and so are you!), so try not to let any jealous feelings overwhelm you. I know it can be tough because you want that whispering to be with you, but it's healthy for girls to have more than one friend to swap secrets, gossip, depend on, etc. Expecting you to go out of your way to do stuff for her and working way harder in the friendship isn't balanced though! Since you're feeling weird about the friendship right now, try taking a little step back and spending more time around your other friends. A friend shouldn't make us feel angry or frustrated all the time, so a little distance can help you cool off! Focus on your other friends, your crush (talk to him! Don't let her decide what you do with him), your clubs and sports, etc. After a little time, try going back and hanging out with her. Stand up for yourself and if she makes you do something for her, stand your ground and remember you're your own person. Don't let her push you around! <3 I think you'll be a lot more positive about the friendship if you lay down those boundaries - you can be friends, but you'll also have your own life. It's a good balance and can make dealing with her wayyy easier

by CookieMonster246 on 4/26/2012 9:55:44 PM

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So last year I transferred to a new school. I made a few friends and then during second semester they all started to hate me. I didn't know why. But this year I made a few friends and I like being with them. But one of them told me they heard rumors about me around the school, saying that I was all this stuff that isn't true. and she doesn't believe them. But what should I do about people talking about me behind my back. i hear people sometimes too. It hurts.
What should I do about the rumors and my old "friends"?

Ignore them. Yes it sucks to have them spreading rumors. But theyre not worth your time. They honestly arnt. If you ignore the lies and hold your head high, people will notice how brave you are and respect you for it. Be yourself. The haters dont matter. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

by turdle_eclipse on 4/25/2012 10:10:27 PM

Yes, it does sound like a terrible idea. If she tries to pressure you into stuff like this, is she worth being your friend? Don't do anything you don't want to, just because you feel like you have to.

by chameleongirl on 4/14/2012 4:09:25 PM

I really don't think you should lie to your parents. If she really is your friend, she would never ask you to do that. Just look at the way she treats you. Does she treat you a little different from the time she got the new crowd? Well then she isn't worth the lie... Think about it...

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