*MODMODMOD* Okay, so around summer vacation, I umm.. matured. I'm no longer flat but I sort of wish I was. I got measured by VS and turns out, I'm a 36 C, almost a D!! Before, I was an A!! I bought bras that fit me and they push them up so I have a lot of cleavage now.... When a close friend of mine asked me to come to a picnic, I agreed and when I arrived, the first thing they all did (including both boys and girls) was to stare at my body, mainly my boobs. I was wearing an old tight shirt because my mom refuses to buy me anything more open. So, whenever I bent over to tie my shoes or to reach for something, my cleavage would be popping out and attract the attention!! Also, because I'm not used to my new size, people take advantage of me. They ask me to pass something and I have to bend and when I look up, I find them staring. I don't want this and I never asked for it!! What should I do to keep both guys and girls from ogling?? I can't go around wearing a sweater in the summer!

 

Hey! I'm really sorry you have to go through this, but it's all part of the process of learning to love your body and also learning to stand up for yourself. Sure, there are things you could do to de-emphasize your chest, but the point is, just because you have larger breasts isn't an open invitation for other people to stare or do anything that makes you uncomfortable. The next time you see someone doing it, call them out on it. They only do it if they can get away with it, so you'd be blowing their cover and getting them to back off. If someone is trying to trick you into bending over, that is just unacceptable and you should tell an adult. However, since it's also important for you to feel comfortable in your own skin, the next time you get fitted at VS, specifically look for bras without padding that will fit comfortably. Their T-shirt bras are good like that I think. good luck and stay strong!