Is he the one?

I have an amazing boyfriend. We’ve been together about a year, and we complement each other nicely. My problem is: I’m only 16. I’m starting to wonder if maybe I should be looking around, dating other people, and not committing myself to him so early.

He is thinking about going abroad on a program with me this summer, but, to be honest, I’m starting to wonder if maybe I love him only as a best friend and not as a boyfriend. Where’s the line? I don’t want to lose him forever…but I’m not sure I want to be with him forever either.
Dear Is he the one?,
You don’t have to decide yet about forever. One difference between guy friends and boyfriends is chemistry. (Another is commitment.) If you no longer feel like cuddling up with your boyfriend, pay attention to this sign.

Can you tell him you feel ambivalent about his going abroad with you because you think a little independence might be healthy for you both? My guess is that you wrote me because you need some breathing room to figure things out. And that’s legit. Clear the air with an honest heart-to-heart. By the way, some exes do indeed manage to become lifelong friends – it doesn’t always have to be marriage or nothing.

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by Carol Weston | 2/1/2016
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