GIRL TALK: My BF is a BAD Kisser!

O.K., so here’s the thing: My boyfriend’s a bad kisser. I like him A LOT and I’m more about the emotional parts of relationships than the physical parts. I hate that I feel this way; I feel like a horrible, shallow person. I can’t really train my bf into kissing right because he’s the first and only boy I’ve ever kissed. What do I do? I really really really really really really need help. I don’t want to feel this way anymore and I want to enjoy the few kisses we do have!!!!! PLEEAASSSSSSEEEEEEEEE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's great that you value the emotional side of your relationship. It sounds like you are the opposite of a horrible or shallow person to me, so don’t even think it! It’s okay to want certain things and a good-kissing BF is one of them.
Just because he’s the first boy you’ve ever kissed doesn't mean you can't figure out what you like. And you don't have to "train" him, but since the both of you are newbies, you can figure this thing out together. I think the first thing you need to do is figure out what it is that you don’t like about his kissing and what you think he could do better. Easy, right? Is he a sloppy kisser and after every kiss you have to dry off with a towel? Is he too aggressive and you feel as if you two had just rammed faces? Does he take your face into his hands like Auntie Ida did when you were six, then attack your face like your Pomeranian, Fi-fi? That last one could be a real bummer.
Next, (here is the hard part) you have to tell him. If you never express how you feel, the problem will never get solved. But don’t be afraid. This can actually be pretty painless for the both of you. All you have to do is tell him things that you would like to change as if it were a suggestion for both of you. For example, before you kiss, you could say, “I wonder what it would be like if we kissed like this…,” then explain to him what you were thinking you could try. This way, it doesn’t seem like your BF was doing anything wrong and that the both of you are working on this whole kissing thing together.

-Many kissy-faces to you,

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9/29/2008 5:30:00 PM