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Am I coming off too strong?


There's this older guy I met at summer camp. I got his number and added him on Facebook so we could keep in touch. I used to text him all the time and he would answer back until he had to go, but recently he just stopped answering me. Should I just stop trying to talk to him or keep texting/chatting with him even though he doesn't respond? And if I keep texting him, will he think I'm annoying?

His Answer: “ You should stop trying so hard -- wait until he responds. Or if you want to reply, don’t do it all the time, just casually. He might think you’re annoying if you keeps bothering him,” explains Raphael, 12.

Decoded: Constant texting and chatting can be cute, but not if it’s a one-sided conversation. Fact is, guys get bored easily, and if there’s no challenge in winning your attention, he’ll move on fast. That’s not say that you should play hard to get, but if he isn’t willing to make the effort and initiate a conversation, he’s not worth your time.

You Move: Take a deep breath and let him make the first move. You’ve already shown your interest, so if he’s into you he’ll reach out and make an effort to stay in touch. And if the weeks go by and he’s silent? I’m sorry, chica, but some things are meant to fade as summer does.

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by Sarah Goldberg | 2/1/2016
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