Help! I'm secretly dating a guy behind my mom's back
My mom said I could start dating at age 16. I'm 15. This really nice guy asked me out and I said yes. I couldn't help myself. What am I going to tell my mom?!
Hey girl! You’re going to tell your mom just what you told me. As long as you haven’t been sneakin’ around behind her back, I’m sure she’ll understand you being excited about a nice guy asking you out (and she’ll be thrilled to hear he’s a nice dude, trust me). After you come clean about agreeing to go out with him, talk to your mom about your options. Could you and your BF go out with a group of friends? Could your guy come over and watch a movie while your parents hang in another room? Your mom might not want you to go off on your own with a guy, so provide her with a couple options that involve you two getting to know each other better in a group.
Here’s the tough part: If your mom still says absolutely no guys for another year, you’re gonna have to let this guy know. If you sneak behind your mom’s back for a couple dates and she finds out, you’ll lose her trust. A few dates aren’t worth that. Instead, let the guy know you’re not allowed to date until next year. He may not be willing to wait (his loss!), but you wouldn’t want to date a guy like that, anyway!