Let’s be real, ladies: Bella Swan didn’t just wake up
one morning and transform into a vampire for Edward, and Justin Bieber didn’t
just rent out the Staples Center for a private screening of Titanic for GF Selena Gomez because he was bored. They
talked first! All good things gotta start somewhere—right?—and a li’l
conversation goes a long way. Now, it’s no biggie if you’re not a candidate for
Biggest Flirt at your school because now you have these confidence-building tips to talk to your crush. Even if your intentions are beyond a friendly
chat, your secret’s safe with us.
1. Set the date.
Circle the day exactly a week from now on your calendar so that there’s no way
you can chicken out. For each day from now till then, write something positive
about yourself. By the time that date comes along you’ll radiate with
confidence that he can’t miss.
2. Do your homework.
We’re not talking algebra here. Go ahead and do a li’l harmless creeping on his
Facebook or Twitter to find out his interests and hobbies. We bet you two have
something in common you can chat about. Just don’t confess that you were
reading up on him, unless you want him to defriend you.
3. Know your strengths. It’s important to relax and recognize what
makes you worth his while. If you’re passionate about a certain topic, why not
talk to him about it and impress him with all you know?
4. …And plan ahead for your weaknesses. Tend to get tongue-tied
when talking to a cute guy? Plan an emergency open-ended question in case you
get stuck. “So what are your plans for the weekend,” or “What did you think of
the History test?” always work without fail.
5. Go shopping.
it’s the mall or your BFF’s closet, a new date outfit
brings a new ‘tude.
Choose one that turns heads and drops his jaw (he’s gotta open his mouth to
talk to you anyway, so you’re just one step closer).
6. Remember, it’s not the end of
the world. So what if you don’t snag an invite to the movies
or he doesn’t ask for your number? None of that means you did anything wrong. Most
guys are just shy and you should be proud of yourself for stepping up to make
the first move. If he’s not interested, move on to someone who does respond to
your newfound flirting skills.