G-Blog’s Guide to Giving the Googly Eyes
We’ve all been there: spotted a hottie, but not known how to get his attention, or really liked a guy in class, but not known how to show him we’re interested. Every single day we hear about problems like this on the G-Blog. And no matter what the sitch is, if it has to do with you, a guy, and sparking a ‘more-than-friends’-ship, the answer is always the same: you gotta get your flirt on!
Say it with your eyes
This is my all-time favorite way to flirt, because it works whether you know the person or not, and it can be a great way to entice a guy to approach you. Here’s what you do: when you see your cutie in the hallway or you’re sitting across from him in class, catch his eye and hold eye contact for just a second (not too long – you might creep him out). Give him a friendly (dare I say even slightly embarrassed, as if to say, “Oops, you caught me admiring your adorable dimples…”) little smile, then look away and put your focus on something else, like the teacher or a book. Don’t just la-dee-da into space, because it might either make it look too obvious or make him think you were just daydreaming instead of looking at him. This technique is especially effective when you use your eyes to relay an understanding or agreement on something – like when the teacher unknowingly says or does something funny and you both laugh silently at him/her, or when that super hard pop quiz is finally over and you both roll your eyes at each other in despair.
Say it with your smile
Flattery will get you everywhere
Everyone likes compliments, even guys. Boosting his confidence might help in the long run when you’re trying to get him to ask you out, and it’ll definitely help drop subtle hints that you like him (that way he won’t be as shy to ask you out because of his fear of rejection). So tell him you like his new haircut. Or point out how smart that answer was that he gave in class (and maybe ask him to help you with your homework!). In general, being nice is always a good option when you’re trying to make a good impression on anyone.
Show him your playful side
NO, not like that! I mean touch his shoulder when you’re laughing at his jokes (which you should do anyway so he can see that beautiful smile of yours), or playfully mess up his hair or something. One of the most common problems between guys and gals is getting stuck in the “friend zone” – and trust me, once you’re in that zone, it’s tough to get out. So a little physical flirting can be a way to give him that extra little bit of attention needed to push you past the “just-friends” stage. It’ll help him picture you more as a girl he could date instead of just “one of the guys,” so try to be sweet and feminine about it – don’t hurt the fella!
Ask a question, any question
Of course, this list does not exhaust all the ways of flirting, and some techniques work better for some than others, so don’t limit yourself! Do only what you’re comfortable doing, because if you’re comfortable, cool, calm and collected, you’ll give off a much better impression. And remember, you definitely don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard or make yourself too accessible (read: don’t follow him around like a pathetic love-struck puppy dog). Guys like a little bit of a chase – they might be a little turned off if they think you’re desperate. Flirting is a cat and mouse game – and it works best if you take turns being both.