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Letting him down gently...

I have a prob, I have this friend that's a boy and nobody really likes him that much (he's not popular). He is a pretty good friend, but since the beginning of the school year it’s been obvious he likes me but I only like him as a friend, and almost not even that because he is soooo annoying!


He has called me more than 10 times today, three of them in less than five minutes. He is really nice but he also he normally complains about his life when he talks to me on the phone. He is a good friend, but really dorky, annoying and obnoxious. A week or two ago told me he liked me, but I messed up and told him that if I didn’t have a boyfriend that there was a little possibility that I would have said yes.


I want to be his friend but I also don’t. I also feel bad he doesn’t have many friends. What do I do! HELP! HELP! HELP!


- Silentlover'


Come clean with him about your feelings. Tell him very kindly that you just want to be friends with him. You don’t want to hurt his feelings, but you need to honest. You can’t lead him on; it’s unfair to him.


Ask about why he complains about his life so much and see if you can help him make it better. If he really doesn’t have that many friends, he is probably lonely, so he is clinging to you. Ask him to stop calling so often and try introducing him to some more people, so he can expand his social circle. Don’t push him away. Just try to redirect him a little bit. There are plenty of friends out there for him!


Love ya,
Lara


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11/9/2009 7:00:00 AM
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