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8 types of besties that are actually the worst

 

Sometimes we’re lucky enough to find a best friend who’s seriously our soulmate. Other times, though, we end up with a friend who’s, well, not really a friend. Those types of toxic relationships can be beyond draining...and often hard to identify. If things have been feeling a little off with your bestie lately, you might want to check in with yourself to see if things are veering into frenemy status. Not sure if it's a rough patch or a personality clash? Check out our list of ditch-worthy BFFs below:

1. The BFF who’s a total flake

Are you waiting hours for her every time you make plans to hit up the mall together or constantly texting her and never hearing back? It might be time to call it quits. Sure, she may not understand why it’s such a huge deal, but her flaky behavior means she doesn’t respect you or your friendship.

2. The BFF who only wants to talk about herself

Maybe the last time the two of you sat down for a one-on-one gab session, you spent the entire time listening to her talk about her problems. Or the second you try to bring up the huge fight you had with your BF, she interrupts you to talk about her latest boy drama. Newsflash: She doesn't see you as a soul sister, she sees you as a sounding board. Friendship should be a two-way street.

3. The BFF who loves starting drama with your *other* friends

Just because your BFF and your other buds don’t get along doesn’t mean your BFF is allowed to badmouth them whenever she has a chance. After all, they are your friends, and she should respect your judgment enough to understand that. If your BFF is talking trash for no good reason, she's either jealous or drama-obsessed—neither of which you need in your life.

4. The BFF who goes for your crush

Seriously? Stealing your BFF’s man is a major no-no. Even if your crush doesn’t have any interest in you, that doesn’t mean she’s allowed to take him for a spin. If your bestie would rather snag a boy toy than have your back, you need to dump her. 

5. The BFF who doesn’t support you

You just landed the perfect summer job or—gasp!—a date with the guy you've been in love with forever. If you call up your BFF and she's not off-the-wall excited for you (or, even worse, she changes the subject or say something unsupportive and nasty), dump her then and there. Friends should support each other when amazing things happen—no questions asked.

6. The BFF who’s a taker, not a giver

It doesn’t matter how many times you help her with her chores or lend her money for lunch, she’s never done the same for you. If you’re spending all your time doing favors for a BFF who’s too self-absorbed to do anything in return, she’s not worth it. Believe us.

7. The BFF who is only ever jealous of you

Instead of cheering you on, she’s busy making backhanded comments to tear you down. While the rest of your friends have your back if things go wrong, this BFF would rather be bragging about how well *she* is doing. Friendship isn't a competition, but if it was, she'd be a total loser.

8. The BFF who disappears once she has a new boyfriend 

Granted, sometimes we all get swept up and forget the bestie rule of “sisters before misters." But if your BFF goes MIA every time a new romance is in her life, she’s not worth waiting for. A new boy shouldn’t cause her to completely forget you exist, and she definitely shouldn’t expect you to be there to pick up the pieces when she’s single again. Ditch her before she ends up ditching you again.

Have you ever had a toxic friendship? What helped you see that your BFF wasn't a true friend after all?


 

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by Mallory Walker | 2/1/2016
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