Dear Carol

"Dear Carol, I'm stuck in the middle of my two best friends"

Dear Carol,

I have two best friends, and we would always hang out together as the three of us. But now they despise each other and refuse to hang out like old times. Whenever I hang out with one and not the other, they get jealous—and I feel as if they are making me choose. I love them both and don't want to lose them. What should I do?

- Friendship Issues

Dear Friendship Issues,

I'm sorry this is happening—and I can assure you that many other girls have written me with the same question. The solution may be as basic as texting or saying to them separately: "I get that you two aren't getting along, but I like both of you and don't want to have to choose, so I'm not going to. Who knows, maybe you two will be friends again, or someday you'll have a friend I don't like. Anyway, there's enough of me to go around." Then make plans with each of them. Your friends don't all have to like each other—though it's hard since these two once did.  

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by GL | 11/26/2022