How to balance your bae with your besties


You’re dyin’ to spend every second of every day with your new boo, but you know if you did that you wouldn’t have many friends. And your girls did know ya first. Lucky for you, there is a way to balance both without getting out your scale. Here are seven tips to keep up with your besties and still have plenty of time with your sweetie.

Keep Those Fingers Still

When you’re hangin’ with your besties, don’t text your BF the whole time, and vice versa. The time you spend together will seem like more if you’re focusing your whole attention on the person you’re with. So before you go on a date or meet your buds, let the others know that you’re busy. Or just apologize after when you do get a chance to respond to their texts.

Reality Check

So you’ve been thinkin’ of asking your boy to hang on Friday night, but then your girlies invite you to come to a sleepover. Not sure which plan to pick? First off, if you’ve told either you guy your gals that you’re definitely in, that’s who you’ve gotta stick with. But if you haven’t made a choice, it’s probably best to go with the one you haven’t hung out with recently. Been with your dude three days in a row? Chill with your chicas.

Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

The worst thing you can do is lie about where you are and who you’re with. If your gals have been noticing that you’re getting wrapped up in your man, they’re not gonna appreciate it if you start lying to them so that you can spend more time with him. Remember, honesty is always the best policy.

Call Me, Maybe

If you’re just dyin’ to hang with your special someone but don’t have time for a full-on date, give him a quick call. It’s a lot more personal than a text, and you can at least hear his super-cute voice before you go on with the rest of your day. That way, you can also catch up on everything at once, instead of texting him constantly and ignoring the people that you’re actually with.

Save the Date

The best way to balance hanging out with friends and your BF is to plan ahead. Keep track of important dates on your calendar, and stay organized. If you’ve got everything written down, it’ll also be easier to see how many times this week you’ve written down “girl time” and how many times it says “see my sweetie.”

It’s Nice to Share

Who says that your besties can’t be friends with your boyfriend? If a big group of your pals is heading to the pool for the afternoon, see if they’d mind having your honey tag along. Afraid he’s gonna feel outnumbered by all that girl power? Tell him to bring a few friends, too, and make it a party.


If one of your girlies has a break-up or other serious issue, you need to make time for her ASAP. Same goes for your dude. If something goes wrong in his life. Just explain the sitch to your other pals, and they should understand. Don’t cancel on everyone at the last minute all the time, but in rare cases, it’s acceptable. When the sitch calls for it, you’ll know.

So chickies, how do you make sure that you’re not forgettin’ your besties or your boy from week to week?


by Carrie Ruppert | 3/26/2016
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