LIFE

So, your number one girl now has a guy in her life? Cue all the feelings. You're simultaneously happy for her, bummed that you two are spending less time together and, well, maybe a little jealous that she has a date to *everything* while you're still solo. Here's how to deal with your bestie and her boy.

Try to get to know her new boyfriend

These two might be so madly in love it's a little much to be around, but try to get to know her plus one. If they invite you to join them at the school's basketball championship? Resist the urge to skip out (ugh, third wheel) and plunk down in the bleachers and get chatting. Getting to know him will make you two feel more comfortable and will show your girl that you support her.

Don’t make her choose

The easiest way to make things tense is to make your BFF choose between you two. Don’t put her in any uncomfortable situations where it comes to “Well it’s either him or me.” Don't let your bud blow you off, but if she’s going out with her boyfriend on Friday, then suggest maybe going to see a movie on Saturday instead. 

Suggest group events

If you’re looking to spend time with your BFF, but she wants to bring her boyfriend along, try planning something for all of your friends. And, hey, why not use big outings to get to know his friends, too? Gather everyone up and do something fun, like skating, an arcade, night skiing or even a major game night. Everyone can laugh and talk, no matter who is dating who.

Keep your circle of friends wide

It’s easy to feel lonely when your friend first starts dating. You'll likely see her less and she might be all caught up in talking about her new guy. While it’s important to keep your bestie close, don’t let her new relationship affect your social life. Invite some of your other friends that you haven’t gone out with in awhile to dinner. Have one of your other close friends over to spend the night. Start hanging out with some friends you never see at school due to differing schedules. The important thing is to keep lots of friends in your life...including a big space for your BFF.

Have you ever dealt with a friend's first BF? Let us know below!  

by Victoria Franco | 2/1/2016