GIRL TALK: Nothing But Trouble
I think I might be in love with my friend's boyfriend. We used to go out, and he told me he loved me. I told him I loved him too. We have quite a history, and he's repeatedly rejected me. Now he's going out with one of my best friends. She didn't even ask if it was okay! I'm a little mad at her, but no one knows. WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?
Let me start off by saying that if he has repeatedly rejected you, do not – I repeat – do NOT waste any more of your time and energy on him. I understand you might still have feelings for him, but he doesn’t deserve you or your feelings. So move on to someone who knows how much you’re worth.
That said, it’s still completely understandable that you’re upset about your BFF dating your ex – especially since she didn’t even ask. You definitely need to let her know that you are upset about that so she doesn’t do it again. But then what? They’re already dating now, so what do you do? Ask her to break up with him? End your friendship? Act like it’s ok? Most of your options risk losing her as a friend…
…None of your options will get you him.
So, you have a choice to make. If you don’t want to lose her friendship, try to be mature about it and accept it. It doesn’t mean you have to act like it’s ok – definitely set some ground rules so you’re both comfortable – but try to make the best out of the situation. If she seems to repeatedly does stuff like this, you may want to reconsider if her friendship is worth trying to keep…
<3 Jessie M.
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