Tough Stuff

How my insecurities made me a better person

Everyone is inecure in one way or another—even those we consider to be near perfect, like Gigi Hadid and Zendaya. Although it might seem like those people are closer to perfection (whatever that is) than others, remember that we are all just humans, and being human comes with flaws.

One thing that I've always felt insecure about—one of my "flaws"—is my weight. I wouldn't call myself 'fat', but I struggle to feel comfortable in my own skin. One of my worst habits? I compare myself to those around me. We are all built differently, but for some reason, I kept finding myself glancing over and comparing myself to people I thought were 'skinnier' or 'fitter'. 

I soon realized, though, that comparing myself to other is another one of flaws. Realizing this made me challenge myself to be a better me for me, not for anyone else. I didn't want to go and lose a ton of weight. I wanted to be as healthy and fit as I could possibly be. I knew that the better I felt on the inside, the higher my self-esteem would be and the more confidence I would show on the outside. So I started working hard and eating as clean of a diet as I can, and with that came results that I was happy with.

Something else changed, too, during this time. I decided to only surround myself with people who made me feel good about myself and loved me for who I am on the inside. It was such a freeing thing to do. Knowing that I had friends who loved me no matter my size was a relief, making my insecurity that much smaller. 

It’s important to remember that your insecurities are what make you you and what make me me. Through recognizing and accepting them, though, can make you love yourself more.

I am grateful for my flaws and insecurities. Why? I am now a healthier and happier person because of them.  

What are your biggest insecurities? How do you deal with them? Tell us your tips below! 

Photos: Ellie Pesetsky


by Ellie Pesetsky | 12/9/2018