Kiss Conflict

My BF and I have been going out for over 3 months. I asked him why he hasn't kissed me yet, and he say's he wants to plan for the PERFECT moment. I've told him repeatedly that I don't care about it being perfect, but he won't listen. Every time he "plans" for kiss, it never goes the way he wants it to and we wind up not kissing. I'm getting tired of waiting. Help!

Hey girl, I totally understand where you're coming from: first kisses are a big deal and to have the moment delayed because things aren't quite perfect to your BF can be really frustrating.

Confront Your BF

I know this may seem like an awkward subject to bring up, but it's important you talk about this kiss conflict. Let him know how you're feeling; chances are he has no clue. Part of the reason he's planning this kiss might be because he thinks you'd want it to be flawless. Let him know that the moment doesn't have to be staged to perfection; that just being with him and sharing your first kiss with him is perfection enough. The strongest couples communicate and are always in touch with how the other is feeling.

Embrace Imperfection

Here's a li'l secret: things will never be quite perfect, but it's the imperfect moments that are most special. Your first kiss isn't going to be Hollywood magic like your BF may want it to be, so explain to him that there's no pressure. Let him know that you just want to share the moment with him, and you'll be happy with whatever happens.

Don't Overthink It

In the end, it's all about going with your feelings. Sometimes overanalyzing and obsessive planning can rehearsed and awkward. Go with your feelings and if the moment seems right, don't be afraid to initiate this kiss yourself. Your BF sounds timid, but your bravery can do one thing his planning can't: make this moment special in its unpredictability and unforgettable in its sincerity. Best of luck!
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by Alyssa Bailey | 2/1/2016
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