How can I be more like my sister?
I’m just OK in school, I have friends but not like her, guys rarely give me the time of day and I'm curvy instead of skinny.
I know that people always say not to compare yourself to others, but I can't help it. I'm 5’6”, 120 pounds and have D-cups which I hate. I'm sick of finding cute clothes that I can't wear because of my body. How do I become more like her?
Hey there, girlie. Sorry to hear about the rough sitch. It’s way tough to walk in someone else’s shadow. I know it’s super hard to not compare yourself to her, but the sooner you do, the better you’ll feel.
It may seem like your big sis has it all, but no one is perfect. Most people are their own worst critic, so even though she seems perfect to you, she probably sees flaws in herself. The secret to her popularity and bright smile: confidence.
You can be who and whatever you want to be. Wanna be more outgoing? Start small by just saying “hi” and having nice convos with those around you, then work on putting yourself out there more. It’s hard at first, but no one will fault you for your stellar personality.
As for not liking your body, trust me, you’re so not alone. No one is 100% happy with how they look—even your sis. Instead of concentrating on what you think are negatives, focus on the positives. To name just a few, you’re a great height, you’re healthy and you’re def not overweight. When it comes to shopping, not everything is going to look good because everyone has diff body types. It’s all about finding something that you feel great in and flaunting it.
Talk to your sis and let her know that sometimes you feel insecure next to her. She’ll be able to let you in on her tips to social, romantic, academic and style success. And who knows, maybe you’ll find out she has a few insecurities of her own. But, you aren’t your sister, so stop comparing yourself to her! I know it can be hard to see, but you are absolutely beautiful the way you are.
~Kristen Y. <3