BFF trauma: How can I help her?
My best friend was raped a few weeks ago. She discovered
she was pregnant and decided to get an abortion. I understand her choice and
respect her decision, but her parents don’t—they kicked her out of the house.
She’s moved in with my family for now, but I don’t know what to do to help her.
She’s really sad, and it kills me to see her like this. What can I do?
I’m so sorry about your friend. Your friend is dealing with the aftermath of two traumatic events. It is so generous that your family is allowing her live with you, and that you’re there for her when she needs a friend.
Lend an ear
Continue to comfort her and let her know that she can tell you anything. Ask your parents if they’re comfortable with having your friend confide in them and if so, tell your friend that if she wants to talk to an adult, she can talk to your parents.
Get help
Right now, the best thing you can do for her is to be there
for her and help her get professional guidance through this troubled time. I would suggest to your friend to first
talk to your school guidance counselor as a first step. She can receive professional guidance
and maybe even set up meetings with her parents to open the lines of
communication. The counselor could
provide her with a list of professional counselors. Give your friend the number of the National Sexual
Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-HOPE (4673), to find a local counseling center.
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