It seems girls are much more open about their
opinions of guys. If a girl likes someone, she tells him. But guys either keep
it to themselves or don’t have any opinions at all. Almost every guy in my
class has had a girl tell him she likes him, but very few girls have. Is my
class full of shy guys?
Dave: Your class is full of
normal guys. Maybe it’s the girls who have mucked things up in this case. I’m
assuming your class is pretty evenly split between guys and girls. If every
girl in your class has told a guy she likes him, that doesn’t leave a guy with
much choice about which girl to pursue since they’ve all expressed their
opinions. So what’s a guy to do? Keep his mouth shut, something that’s pretty
easy for most guys.
Bill: There are two theories
of male emotional development: Evolution and Creation. The Evolution Theory
says guys are actually very evolved emotionally, so evolved that they take
rejection much harder than girls. The Creation Theory holds that guys were created
like a lump of clay, and that’s about it. Emotional thoughts just don’t occur
to them. Either way, you get a species that doesn’t deal openly with feelings.
Best bet is to feed them regularly, keep them in front of a sports channel or
video game, and lower your expectations.