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GIRL TALK: Diva Dating Dos & Donts

I just loved these two questions -- and they're both about dating. So let's give DivaChick and Kasey super-twin powers so they can share the G-BLOG spotlight today!

i need advice. when my crush im’s me i have nothing 2 say! i mean there’s like a thousand things i could have thought of but they always end up being something i’d talk about w/ my bff. + when he asks me a difficult question, i freak out. what should i say?

~*DivaChick*~

I need help!!! i need ideas for things to do on a date

--Kasey'

MY $0.02: I've so been there, DivaChick. It's easy to get flustered when you're talking to your crush or a new BF. My advice: ask him questions! Guys love to talk about themselves, LOL! How was your game? Where'd you get that cute shirt you were wearing today? What songs are in your iPod right now? Do you miss your bro since he left for college? And if it comes to it, you would not be the first girl I knew to keep FLASH CARDS with emergency questions near the phone or computer, so you don't forget. BTW: What R these "difficult questions" he's asking you on IM? Let us know! --xo, jess b.

MAKE THAT $0.04: Kasey, I've said it before, but I am all about the group date. It takes the pressure for constant conversation off the two of you -- and can provide some fun distractions, especially if you're guy friends act kinda goofy sometimes. Other faves: mini-golf, movies (followed by the coffeeshop so you can chat about it), bowling, sledding, ice skating (soooo romantic), hitting a football game, holiday shopping (you know he needs your help!), or anything that involves doing, watching or listening to something else. Then you won't have to just sit there and stare at each other for two hours! Although that sounds kinda fun, too! ;) xojb

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hanna on 1/23/2007 9:57:32 PM

yay! thanks u guys for all the different ideas, but i'm gonna stay old fashioned. i went to the movies with my bff, her bf, and my bf. it was great. and now we're going to another movie next friday! woo!

Kasey on 12/30/2006 11:17:51 PM

Kaily 19,
that is pretty tough. Alright, if you don't go out, the guy will still probably like you, and now that you know, it'll be awkward for you, but it is still doable. But if you really like him too, well, i say go for it. High school(or middle school) only happens once, might as well make it memorable. Tell the guy what your feeling. And yeah, if your breakup-yes all relationships come to an end- is smoothe chances are, you can still be friends. Just make the breakup clean, and things should still workout!
Happy new years!
~TGAL~

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/29/2006 10:44:14 AM

I never had anything to say to my bf either. When I'm talking to him I would think of a million things to say but they ended up sounding stupid to me. You could always ask a question like "do you know we have a test tomorrow"? Or anything you can think of. Good luck talking to him!!!

Ashley on 12/23/2006 3:37:08 PM

Oh. I think my mom started phasing into more independence the second half of seventh grade9cuz thats when i got a cell phone) but she was really hesitant about it. Finally I am much more free. Try shwoing your parents that your ready for the responsibility of being out alone with friends. If you work hard enough, you might start getting more priviledges. about the im thing, don't feel bad I don't have it either. My parents think its just a waste of money and that its too distracting(although this site is free but equally as distracting) I'm not allowed to have myspace or anything. so don't feel bad. your parents just want to protect you (I still cant help looking forward to the day when my parents no longer rule my life) But more freedom comes with every birthday, so just be patient. (i know this sounds stupid. if I got this advice Id probably be like, patience. no. this advice sucks. ---and actually it probably does. But then....so does feeling trapped under your own roof...)but yeah I totally can't wait to drive so I can go out on my own to the mall and stuff....just one more year......

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/22/2006 4:00:54 PM

Mighty Quinn,
no you don't don't sound stalkerish!= ) But really, I'm totally flattered that you think so highy of me. Its really cool to know that I'm helping everyone alot. Thanks again!!= ) and btw...happy holidays!!

kungfuqueen,
I love your perspective about the nerd thing! Your parents are isolating you?? that sucks. how come theyre doing it??

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/21/2006 5:18:43 PM

Heyy, well i always wait till my bf starts up the convo and if u cant talk about what he wants 2 then talk about what the heck was she wearing today or dont you think what alexa was wearing 2day was sexy, ect.., it shouldn't be hard, u can do it

Taylor on 12/17/2006 2:34:06 AM

nerdmagnet25,
yeah...the only guys who ever like me are nerds too(so far...I'm very optimistic!!)

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/16/2006 8:10:43 PM

Bee x.o.
No problem. alright, kissing...ahhh.....ok. So many girls get all freaked out, and thats totally understandable. But trust me, if the moment is right, then its like nature kicks in snatches you up in the moment, and like programs your mind with what to do. Instinct kicks in. trust me. but make sure your in a private place (well just incase he rejects you--don't want that happening in public) and also cuz guys are so more likely to kiss you when they know there arent abunch of people watching. But don't worry, chances are its not his first kiss, so let him lead, and you can just sit back(or rather kiss back = ] ) and enjoy!!!

ps. GOOD LUCK!!!

katara889,
ok, the guy who moved...thats tough, but it happens. and well teenage guys usually don't keep their crushes for long once they move(i'm sorry but its true) chances are your guy is meeting new people and forming new crushes. All you can do is try to stay friends,and form new crushes for yourself. Don't mourn him(boys are so not worth crying over) and don't be like, I'll never love again. It was just a crush. I know its hard(I had a crush on a guy for wo years, and I still kind of like him even though he totally used me) but you'll enjoy life more if you find a new beau to pursue. Sorry he moved. = )

as for your friend, tell her. She won't like it, but if shes smart she'll listen. If she doesn't she'll wish she did. Tell her once, and if she doesn't heed your warning, don't keep telling her your opinion. Don't try to plan some set up so she'll see. Say it once. Once is all she needs to understand your feelings on the matter. I hope she is smart!! = )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/16/2006 8:09:17 PM

well if u haf his number call him or email him

jaspreet on 12/14/2006 4:31:38 PM

Kaily19
BRAVO!!! go you girl. wouldn't even tlak to you??how lame!

Bee x.o.
well kissing comes naturally. And if you want lots of advice check out the so you never been kissed blog, and somewhere near the middle or top I wrote alot about it. Can't find any advice there? Let me know and I'll type it up here! But don't worry, it'll just come. let him lead and you can just enjoy!!!

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/13/2006 8:35:56 PM

OK EVERYONE! I'M CHANGING MY NICKNAME, SO LISTEN UP!
My new(possibly TEMPORARY) nickname is...(drumroll please!)...
TotallySmartAndBlonde

I'll be posting this message around so people don't get confused. K?

Candi on 12/13/2006 8:13:11 PM

Does ur guy's bfs talk bout weird stuff??

Shelbi on 12/13/2006 4:01:16 PM

Candi,
I think i answered this on another page...oh yeah, it was on the friend page about the popularity princess hold up let me check the date...dec 12 at 3:45, and its addressed to you and lily, but the as for jared part is to you.So go to that page to read the advice I gave you and stuff. Let me know if you find it!!

P.s if you can't find it, I'll type it here for you, but it was kind of alot, and you can't copy and paste on here, so please check there first! (- ) [cyclops!!]

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/13/2006 3:58:34 PM

TotallyGorgeous~
should I tell Jared I like him? i'm afraid he'll tell everyone and......like me back(i dunno why)

Candi on 12/12/2006 8:47:08 PM

Candi,
no problem. I kinda did the same thing myself on one of the other blogs. = )

Nativangel521,
YOU GO GIRL! guys like that are just immature, and I'm willing to bet that you'll agree with me when i say that we are just way too good for guys like that! Glad I helped! = )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/12/2006 3:59:22 PM

TotallyGorgeous-
Sorry! Hadn't seen yours when I sent my little spiel.

Candi on 12/12/2006 8:37:37 AM

Don't do the dare.

Candi on 12/11/2006 9:31:00 PM

Nativangel521~
alright. Either your guy is way shy, or hes not into the whole dating thing yet. Talk to him, tell him you don't like not talking, and that your relationship isn't going to last if he doesn't start paying attention to you. If things don't change, or he gets mad at you for thinking somethings up, then maybe hes not mature enough for you yet. Talk it over with him, and go from there. Its possible this guy isn't worth all the stress hes causing you.

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/11/2006 4:00:13 PM

can't DECidE,
Ok, 18 kinda harsh. Maybe you could talk to your rents and see ifit would bee ok if you had a borfried in school and only did group dates. I did this and my mom was fine with it. Do not call that kid and ask him on a date when you know you can't. Thats just cruel to him. I applaud you for not wanting to mess up your relationships, and since you can't date, I hate to have to tell you this, but he will get hurt. But by being his friend and being nice to him, and not leading him on when your obviously not allowed to, it'll be alot less bad, so my advice, talk to your parents, and make it clear to him where you stand, and don't play tricks on him or ask him on date when you know you can't follow through. So yeah...hope this helps!= )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/11/2006 3:56:49 PM

kaily19~
Well I'm the same age and I can't "date" until I'm sixteen either, but my parents are like, we don't care if you have a boyfriend. Maybe ask your parents if you could do the same kind of thing, and keep the relationship at school, or maybe do some group dates. But your brother doesnt like him? Ask him why, if its something silly, or its just your brother not wanting you to date, I'd probably say that its not TOO big of a deal(although he is your brother) but maybe your brother knows somethings about him you don't. I suggest you find out, and take your brothers concerns seriously. If your parents say no...well don't go against them. You'll feel really guilty, and they always find out somehow. And if your brother brings up something important and legit, maybe talk to the guy about it. You two can at least try to be friends, and who knows, maybe once your family gets to know him better too, they'll loosen up. Hope it turns out ok!
did i already submit this....?? sorry if i did

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/11/2006 3:50:18 PM

Candi-
I already answered ya babe! = )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/11/2006 3:49:27 PM

Please, help me! I'm kinda really scared!!!!!!!

Candi on 12/10/2006 5:06:58 PM

candi:

well, for starters, it was just a dream. but dreams originate from what our minds have been thinking about, watched on tv, etc. so i wouldn't take it too terribly seriously.

i think that the dream wouldn't determine whether or not u still like him or not -- that's up to you. if jared is nice in person, then why would you be scared?

Gabrielle on 12/10/2006 3:41:45 PM

yankee lover-
glad to help! I bet you can't wait until christmas!= )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/10/2006 12:58:08 PM

Hmmm...ok I don't neccessarily believe that dreams mean a whole lot, but I do believe that when you dream about something(especilly a guy) that its something you were thinking about lately and that it is possibly something that means alot to you. What grade are you in...middle school doesn't have recess and neither does high school so I'm guessing maybe 5th grade?(please don't be upset if I'm wrong) But 5th or even 6th 7th and 8th grade are to young to be kissing anyone, and I applaud you for not being that into guys. But don't take your dream to warily, its possibly just a warning that you need to not get involved in romance, because honestly it really is more trouble than its worth. ( I think dreams are really just warnings and wants or fears that you have subconsciously but don't want to ever admit to or consciously pay attention to-like sometimes if I start sort of slacking off at school, i'll have a dream where I like fail a grade or something, and then I snap myself back on track in real life.) but the point of that story was to say how dreams can be warnings, or reflections. Its possible that your dream wasn't meant to warn you that "jared" is a bad guy, but that you just shouldn't pursue him. Or maybe you already subconsciously know you shouldnt and just needed a reminder. Just remember that even though dreams do reflect on your inermost thoughts, they aren't neccessarily true. I'd go on like normal, but maybe put romance to the wayside for a while, and just remember if that did ever happen, scream "no i won't kiss you!" as loud as you can and run, that way people will hear you and know that some one is trying to do something to you against your will, and that you don't agree to it.(people will notice your in trouble and hopefully help) hope your dream doesn't come true!

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/10/2006 12:56:08 PM

OK, I had a BAD dream that it was recess and "Cody's" friend "Jared" was annoying me, so I pushed him into the fence. Jared caught up with me and said 'for that you must kiss me'. I know I like him, but not enough for THAT. So when Jared leaned in (in front of about 75 kids) I spit in his face and I ran away from him. Then, he caught up with me, pushed me into an 'alcove' like space and told me if I made a noise he'd punch the crap out of me. Jared guarded me so I couldn't leave.
What does that mean? Does that mean I don't like him? Does that mean I should be scared of him? HELP!!!

Candi on 12/10/2006 10:57:17 AM

Ok-Kaily 19,
Do you really like this guy? Ask him on some sort of date, and show him you are serious. Or if you don't want to do that, just find a quiet time when both of you are alone, look him striaght in the eyes and tell him that it is no joke, and that you seriously do like him. And although 3 years is quite a gap, its not "wrong" or anything, its just, don't do it unless you really like him, and he really likes you(and that hes not just into your bod. guys are like that-some of em arent fter your personality ya know) You've got to show him that your not kidding(and having an army of your friends tell him tht isn't the way to go- this ya have to do personally)So go on a "date" or ooo...heres one. Does your family have a tradition they do around the holidays that wouldn't interfere with his own plans? Invite him! he would get to meet your family and realize that by inviting him to be part of something really important to you and your family you are dead serious. Good luck, and I hope he realizes your for real. And never say sorry for asking advice, we are all here to help you, and no onehere will ever get annoyed with you for asking!!So I'm here to help you whenever, even if thats like 24/7!= )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/9/2006 9:45:55 PM

Wow. this guy has class. Man I wish I was in your spot (i'm single and ok with it...but hey who is ever completely happy about being single?) Ok...hmmm...you don't have to get him something expensive for it to be a perfect gift, and chances are hes not lying when he says he'll like whatever you get him. Do you have inside jokes about any movies or songs? Maybe a dvd of the movie you saw for your first date or a cd of your favorite songs...if your still cluless, try talking to some of his friends and your guy friends to find out what they think would be a great christmas present. The present itself isnt the whole thing anyways...maybe just finding yourselves under the mistletoe would make him happy...good luck! and bravo to you for havin such a great guy!

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/9/2006 4:05:24 PM

Hey ya'll well, here is mwas guy advice! you see In the way i See it you need to really try to get to know the guy, don't just think he is hott or whatever, ya know. So, do that then get more advice k.

actress2b on 12/8/2006 10:04:02 PM

Thank you TotallyGorgeousandLovely =)

Candi on 12/8/2006 5:23:16 PM

kaily19,
if i were you i'd tell him how you feel(that you don't really know him) but that your really like to get to know him, and would enjoy hanging out. Take the chance to get to know him, don't just through a great chance away

Candi,
hmm..you spelled your name different...anyways. Ok feel flattered that this guy likes you enough to skip class. But understand, a guy whos putting his education in the trash over a crush is a little immature. If you like "cody's" friend, then tell him that. If you never told condy you liked him, then you have nothing to be guilty over. You cannot help if someone likes you, but going out with them when you really don't like them is horrible and way worse then just lettin them kow you don't return their feelings. and sure, if you like the friend pursue him...but understand he might be true to his friendship and turn you down know matter how much he likes you. So yeah. Glad to help! and sorry it took so long! = )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/7/2006 11:42:29 PM

My 'I Need Advice' call is up a few dozen entries. PLEASE don't ignore me, it hurts

Candi on 12/7/2006 9:21:36 PM

WHY WON'T ANYONE HELP ME?????

Candi on 12/7/2006 9:20:46 PM

hey is jessicab here?

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red head on 12/7/2006 4:42:21 PM

Jessica B. why isn't the whole 'my friend's gay i like her' blocked?

Candy on 12/7/2006 2:54:15 PM

hey LAchic,
hmm this a toughie, dont think of urself as weird, cause ur not, there r a lot of gay ppl out there, and a lot of them r great ppl. is this girl a really good friend, someone u can trust? Because if she is, maybe u could talk to her, and ask her how she really figured out when she was gay, and just tell her ur situation (maybe not that u like her, not yet anyways). She will probly get what ur going through and help u out. hope i helped...good luck.

LiLy on 12/6/2006 6:37:29 PM

HELP, PLEASE!

Candy on 12/6/2006 5:48:49 PM

Lily,
I'm so glad to help! I'm here whenever!= )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/6/2006 5:15:54 PM

~LAchic~
there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Did you know that alot teens do experience an intense interest in the same gender? It doesnt mean that you are gay. and if you are, thats fine. Its who you are, and thats what matters. Your not the first girl to post a comment like this. Check out the Never Been Smooched blog. Go back to November 25th to the comment left by 2scared2tell. I am going to tell you that some people left some pretty nasty comments. Those people are kinda inconsiderate, so just totally ignore the mean ones, but alot of girls gave some great advice, you should totally check it out! But don't worry. Homosexuality has been going on since forever, and your perfectly normal if you are. Besides what is "normal" anyways? So yeah, don't sweat it, it'll be ok. Just love yourself no matter what.

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/6/2006 5:14:16 PM

he even asked my friend to ask me out i really need advice

red head on 12/6/2006 3:28:58 PM

wel li like this guy and he is like my best friend and i'm afraid to date him because then if we break up then we wont be friends any more help plz

red head on 12/6/2006 3:27:18 PM

ok this is a seriously stupid question but how do i post an entry? not just a comment. i cant figure it out and it is really bugging me. yeah i'm stupid but plz help me!

HEY, MOOMOO: Only us GL editors get to "post" entries,
but most of the topics/questions come from the girls on the site.
Here's how to suggest your blog ides!
xoxo, jessica b.

moomoo on 12/5/2006 11:03:22 PM

thanks so much for all ur advice TotallyGorgeousandLovely!!!!

LiLy on 12/5/2006 6:18:07 PM

just curious but i have a question y'all could help me with

ok do you think boys are

A. awesome and totally worth paying attention to. After all boys are the whole focus of life.
B. They're ok. every once and awhile a good one shows up.
C. Boys? Please. They're so immature. There are so many more important things to worry about

so yeah choose the one that fits your opinion the most and leave it as a comment!

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/5/2006 5:43:17 PM

wow. that was really long.i guess i could sum that up by saying, let it all go and just start talking. the only way to open up is to open up right?(did that make sense?) but yeah just start lettin your fabulousness show! and yay for ice cream and slurpees! (by the way if anyone is wondering, a 7-11 hotdog and slurpee is too the best meal in the whole entire world! YAY FOR 7-11 HOTDOGS AND SLURPPEES!!!!)

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/5/2006 5:20:46 PM

ok i know this is harder for you than me(i am so far from shy) but a while back when i was in middle school, i had the same kind of trouble. I was always quiet and i was afraid that if i was my normal loud self that people wouldn't like me(i used to be dead scared about that cuz i was teased when i was little and had like no friends...but its all good now) It wasnt until i joined a club at my school in 8th grade that i really opened up. i would go every morning and just talk to them.after a while it was the funnest time ever(i actually got kicked out because i was talking TOO much) but opeing up taught me that its not worth worrying about other peoples ideas of me, because the fun i get from not worrying about them is soo much better!so start slow. maybe join a club like i did and just learn to not care about anything anyone thinks about you. Now that i don't care i have sosoo much fun. you just have to tell yourself. ok this boy is not my life. if he rejects me just for saying three more words than 'hi', then it is not me, it is him, and who wants to be friends with a jerk anyway? Just recite to yourself this kind of thing like, i'm cool and i know it, and if he can't see it, then hes the one missing out. LEARN TO HAVE CONFIDENCE!!! = ) trust me once you just stop worrying about a reputation and more about having fun and enjoying yourself, you'll find it alot easier to talk to a guy. Like i said before its alot easier to talk about sometihng random than actually trying to have a real meaningful conversation. do you like slurpees? chat about that. honestly whatever random thing pops in your head should do fine. and if he is a huge jerk and thinks your weird, shake it off. honestly i think its funny when people think i'm crazy. its kind of fun in a way. so just through caution to the wind pick a topic gather your courage and start talking! hope this helps!

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/5/2006 5:18:00 PM

thanks for the advice TotallyGorgeousandLovely. It seems like it would be so easy to just go up and talk to him, and thats what everyone tells me, and i have sort of tried, i guess, but i am SOOOOOO shy. U have no idea how hard it is for me to talk to some ppl. I totally freeze up around him, so im more shy than i normally am which is like...mute. How do i open up more??

LiLy on 12/5/2006 5:00:40 PM

Kaily19, already answered it...scroll up. = )

Lily: ok. i had this same problem...sort of. but the best thing you can do is talk to him. TALK TO HIM!! ok in my situation there was this guy that sat across from me in history. well he was hot as heck and i'd been eyeing him for a while. i'm totally crazy and random, so one morning i just asked him if he liked ice creame. We had a simple convo. and the next day i was like yeah guess what i totally had ice cream last night. and another simple convo was born. so yeah the point is that if you talk to him, even if he does think your weird, you'll at least be proud of yourself for being bold and having enough courage to talk to a hot popular guy that you don't know at all. so yeah. go talk to him, even if it is only about ice cream = )

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/5/2006 4:42:21 PM

help me please!! my comment is a little up

Lily on 12/5/2006 3:58:06 PM

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