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GIRL TALK: Should I Tell Him I Like Him?

can u guys plz help me w/ this? i like this guy, but he doesn't like me back. i just want to tell him i like him, because it's hard to keep this a secret. but how am i supposed to tell him? anything i can think of would just be REALLY awkward. so can u guys help me? thx!

dRaMaQuEeN'

Hey, DQ!

Here's my advice. Don't come straight out and tell him you like him. I know it's tempting. You're sitting there staring at your crush with a million thoughts racing through your brain.

He's so cute! I love that shirt! Is he flirting with me? Does he like me back? The frustration and anticipation of that last question is enough to drive any girl crush-crazy. But here's the problem: sometimes guys (and even some girls) freak out when you tell them you like them.

Maybe it has something to do with the thrill of the chase. Or maybe it just puts them on the spot. If they don't like you back (or even if they do), this can be an embarrassing moment that makes it difficult to get a straight and thoughtful answer back.

My gut says, if he likes you, you already know it. (This can be a little trickier if he's your BGF or something, because obviously he likes you!)

But if you're fairly sure this guy doesn't share your feelings (at least not yet), there's no point in telling him. The sitch could get awkward and you'll end up closing the door on getting to know him better -- and letting him get to know you!

My suggestion: keep your crush quiet and get your FLIRT on. You may be just one study hall, group date, or pep rally away from catching his attention -- or finding out you like someone else even more!

xoxo,
jessica b.

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Give this drama chick some advice that clicks!

BY JESSICA ON 12/9/2006 1:33:17 AM 1069 COMMENTS

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Hey, be nice a flirtacious, sweet and nice, if he likes u, he will be nice back. But no, don't make it too obvious. Good LUck!!

Jess on 12/9/2006 2:40:57 AM

sould I tell nico I like him? he complements me in every thing I do. we know each other for two year, i'm friends with the family and they all like me. what should I do ps I've liked him for months

tiffany on 12/9/2006 3:11:59 AM

I HAVE A CRUSH ON A BOY BUT I HAVE A BOYFRIEND WICH IS WORSE, BUT MY ADVICE IS:
JUST SAY THAT YOU MIGHT WANNA GO OUT SOMETIME TO GO TO THE MOVIES OR SOMETHING!

coolio on 12/9/2006 10:02:16 AM

don't tell ANYONE. just flirt a little bit

Candi on 12/9/2006 10:44:53 AM

i think that you should tell him that you like him because maybe he likes you and then he will end up getting a girlfriend that he really dosnt care for and then both of you will be unhappy. that happened to me and then that guy and me became friends and that made it even more wierd to tell him after like a year of crushin. i liked guy i was gonna tell him a week later he got a girlfriend , spent an ENTIRE summer wanting to tell him insted of being thought of a good friend then i ask him if he ever really liked her in the fall she moves and then we end up dating . just tell him before it is to late. it will make you misreble if you dont

redhead on 12/9/2006 11:18:19 AM

hey Drama Queen, I'm going through the exact same thing with this guy that I like but he likes a girl that I have no chance next to her, and she has a boyfriend!!!! He really can't seem to get it through his head that she is taken! well my advice is to not tell him because this guy knew that I liked him at the beginning of the school year, but now I think he thinks I don't. (Well that sounded just a little bit on confusing side huh?) but know since he doesn't know that I like him anymore he talks to me all the time, and FLIRTS with me too! so by me staying quiet it has made him get to know me better and start to give me a chance. I've hung out with him a few times and liked him since forever, and right now it's going good he thinks of me more as a friend I'm pretty sure, but atleast he's not totally freaked out to know that I like him. And you never know maybe this guy that you like already knows that you like him. try inviting him and a bunch of his other friends and a bunch of your friends to do something. My friend did that and know everyone in that group is like best friends and a lot of them are starting to fall for eachother so Go For It and GOOD LUCK!~!
~Jay Jay~

Jay Jay on 12/9/2006 11:53:01 AM

but keep an open mind about guys there are millions of them out there that are totally worth a shot!!! hope that my advice helps!
~Jay Jay~

Jay Jay on 12/9/2006 11:55:16 AM

Yep thats what i would do bcuz if you tell him he will probably get all flustered and be like uhh ok and then that would kinda be ruined so yeah Flirt you heart out!! Good Luck! (1st comment???)

StarbucksLuver on 12/9/2006 12:45:05 PM

just say what you feel and just ignor the people who laph at u.

OLIVIA on 12/9/2006 1:33:10 PM

I disagree. If you don't like keeping a secret, then you should tell him, because if you tell someone other than him, chances are he'll find out, and you definitely want him to hear it from you, not your bff, the school gossip queen, or your little brother.
But Jessica is right. He could freak out, and that's a risk you have to take. And if he does, cool off the flirting for a little bit. A crush should be your problem alone, not his. But he'll get over it eventually. If he's fairly popular, chances are you're not the only girl who has ever liked him. And if he's nice, he may go with the "let's just be friends" route, and that's better than nothing. Oh, and one last thing-do it over the phone or email. he won't freak out as much, cuz sometimes freaking out just means he doesn't want to be embarassed in front of his pals.
I'm the trickier sitch that Jessica mentioned. I like a guy I've known since kindergarten, and I know he likes me as a friend, and we flirt sometimes, but I don't know if he thinks of me as anything more than the girl he laughs with on the bus (I go to a k-8 private school, so we only have 4 8th graders on the bus). But I'm going to tell him, because I hate keeping secrets, and I haven't even told all my friends about it because if I do, he WILL find out, and I know he's nice enough not to start ignoring me. I'm going to email him as soon as winter break starts, so we have two weeks before we actually have to see each other if he rejects me, and by then any awkwardness should have cooled down.

Kenzie on 12/9/2006 2:11:00 PM

O yea!!!!! 1's comment!!!!!! go natural. stay alert, flirt and all, but DO NOT saü u like him unless u'r sure he likes u. otherwise, bad things can happen

Kit Kat on 12/9/2006 2:49:05 PM

remember my advice earlier well i forgot ot tell you that if you come on to strong he might get scared, and you probebly know that huys are like really imature and they can't handle things like that like we can. dont tell him things like your i love with him cause that makes things wierd btween you and that is the last thing you want!

red head on 12/9/2006 3:51:20 PM

Don't tell. Just FLIRT!!! its satisfying and such a fun girlie thing to do. If you don't think you know how to flirt, think again. We all have little flirtatious things we do whether we realize it or not. Its just some girls are more straight forward with it, and othrs are more charming and subtle about.(trust me though I allways thought, I'm hopeless I can't flirt! until my best friend-who is actually a guy- told me I was a total flirt. It surprised me, and it made me realize that being able to flirt is something that all girls know how to do naturally. The only thing though, is that you need to be confidant with your self-how you look how you feel how you talk dress etc.- The more confident you are, the more youunknowingly flirt and the more guys will start to notice you. but don't take this wrong and start acting slutty. Being all up on a guy IS NOT flirting.) So I hope all this bout confidence and flirting and all makes sense. and especially don't tell him if you know he doesn't like you. But if you flirt and act charming and play up all of your good sides, chances are he might start to warm up to you(and it happened to me-no lie)

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/9/2006 3:59:54 PM

whoa princess, whats with the pointless comments? when someone needs advice you don't just leave posts with smily faces and comments that say nothing but hi. If your bored then don't be immature, give some advice! That is kinda the point of G-Blog if you haven't noticed. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, so I'm really sorry if it comes across as that.

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/9/2006 5:04:48 PM

Hey Chicas-

HELP ME!

I like this boy Connor. I sit next to him in Math, History,Writing and reading.
should I tell his i love him?
My friends say its obvious.

I know his bro and mom & they both like me.

ps: Im in 6th grade

pps: do girls have BF's in 6th grade?

meghan on 12/9/2006 5:12:30 PM

Try to become friends with him by being yourself!!! (and then flirt a little bit with him, start with the good comments about him thing)

kim on 12/9/2006 5:55:30 PM

HELP!!! I kept trying to tell this guy that I like that I like him, and I couldn't. He is sort of one of my friends, kind of. Well he is friends with my bff. I couldn't tell him, so I asked my bff 2 tell him for me. He sits next 2 me in the one class we have together (assigned seats), and that is orchestra. Well, yesterday, we listened to a cd of our concert from the night before, so we didn't sit in our assigned seats. I was late 4 class and I ended up sitting across the room from him. I looked over at him at the same time as he looked over at me. Our eyes met- for just a moment- and I just stared at the floor for the rest of class. He knew that I like him, and I knew that he knew that I like him .I really don't want 2 go 2 orchestra on Monday. It will be sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo awkward!!! How can I make it less awkward?

Marissa on 12/9/2006 7:35:47 PM

i agree!!! u shouldn't tell him it will be really akward. People in my math class told the guy i like that i liked him and now he knows and we moved seats. we are like BFF's but now he knows i sit next to him and we both are acting weird. ADVICE~don't tell ~~~~~~~ becca

Becca on 12/9/2006 7:37:28 PM

I also have this problem once but it turns out he likes me too all the time. Just go straight to him to a private place where nobody can see you and tell him you like him! If he doesn't like you back, just simply ignore him but be happy that you already told him that you like him.

lily on 12/9/2006 7:44:44 PM

Help peeps! I have NO idea how 2 post my own problems! And for the advice for this question, just FLIRT!

Bebe on 12/9/2006 7:50:53 PM

good luck girl! i wish you the best, u know i love ya!
can any1 help me??? i like my BGF, and im not sure if i should ask him out, it may ruin our close friendship, and I DONT want that to happen. if i should, how do i get him to like me in that way? please help me, and try to answer my questions!
XoxO
natalie

natalie on 12/9/2006 7:58:35 PM

I would have to say don't come right out and tell him. Just play it cool and flirt away and compliment him. Hint him in by giving him some u time and get him a xmas gift.
GOOD LUCK!!

GG on 12/9/2006 8:18:08 PM

just tell him!!! it will keep bothering u if u dont!!! b urself. if he likes u back, it needs to be for the way u really r not somebody fake. if he doesnt like u for the way u r, then get rid of him honey!!!

michelle on 12/9/2006 9:13:51 PM

Hey Dramaqween! Here's my advice. Don't just walk up to him and say,"I like you a lot" I mean,give the guy a break! Make your way there. Start with being nice and talking to him. But not to much. Then ease your way into it. You'll know what to do. (Remeber:don't make it too obvious that you like him and don't do what GG said and gi8ve him a xmas gift. WAY to obvious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hollywood on 12/9/2006 9:27:32 PM

thx sooooooooooo much u guys 4 helping i have an idea of what to do now. especially thx 2 MaiMai17,TotallyGorgeousAndLovely, redhead, and Kenzie. the 4 of u gave me some really good advice and so did everybody else!

dRaMaQuEeN on 12/9/2006 10:17:42 PM

Listen girl, I am in the same pickle as you. But definently, DO NOT JUST GO OUT AND TELL HIM! give the guy a good eye contact for 2 to 3 seconds whenever you just happen to walk by him (or you can go and casually find him like a secret agent). Don't like, glare at him though! lol! Add that with a sweet smile, and you are irresistable! Eye contact is so romantic! I'm serious! I give you the best of luck sista!

Rachel on 12/10/2006 12:30:45 AM

get a friend to tell him unless he like hates you or something cuz then that would be weird

taylor on 12/10/2006 12:54:12 AM

THIS IS GREAT ADVICE I THINK ICAN REALLY TALK TO HIM.

DENISSE on 12/10/2006 12:56:35 AM

well i just would tell some friends i like him and frankly they're bad with secrets it would get out and eventually he'd find out. I did that once cause i knew we both liked each other only problem is by the time it got around to him neither of us liked each other anymore! ha!

madi on 12/10/2006 10:00:27 AM

Dramaqueen:
It really depends on your relationship with a guy, and what you know about him, his level on the popularity ladder, and yours (Shallow and sad, but true). Honestly, if you're unpopular (Not saying you are, but you would know if it was true), and he's popular, there's a much higher chance of him freaking out, unless he's really nice. If you know of someone else who has liked him or gone out with him that you feel comfortable talking to about him, then do. I've talked to my crush's ex a few times, and she thinks I have a chance. But just make sure there are no jealousy issues (She dumped him in my case, kinda got bored of him. Sounds awful, but it happens, and what're ya gonna do?)

Kenzie on 12/10/2006 11:45:32 AM

You know u like this guy so dont just tellhim u like him just try flirting with him a little and see if he starts to notice you and if he doesn't he is just not the right guy for you.

Paige on 12/10/2006 1:13:20 PM

I have a problem i like this guy he is really hot and is really nice but i dont know if he likes me or not what should i do help!

Paige on 12/10/2006 1:17:07 PM

I have never had a bf but really want one what should i do

Paige on 12/10/2006 1:19:00 PM

ok same here! i think my crush likes me back too! i think. what i would do is have a bff talk to him (or just talk 2 him yourself). ask him when he is going to ask you out officially or something.

moomoo on 12/10/2006 1:22:27 PM

meghan,
yeah you are kinda young in my opinion. wait until at least 8th grade. even better, high school. You probably don't love him. Thats kind of extreme to say don't ya think? It seems like not many people understand that love is totally serious, not some middle school crush. So slow down, flirt, and if he doesnt respond, don't bother.

TotallyGorgeousandLovely on 12/10/2006 1:27:59 PM

I know 100% that my crush doesn't like me. I really just want to stop thinking about him, I've liked him for just under a year now (pathetic, I know), but I can't! I feel like I'll be able to if I just tell him... Last year I told my crush I liked him, and then he asked me out. But I broke up with him after two weeks because he turned into *insert insulting phrase(s) here*... Urgh! I don't know...

Tess on 12/10/2006 1:31:31 PM

like i sed sunshineluver, i am kinda in a similar situation. by the way my crush lives across the street from me. one day everyone started saying my crush liked me! pretty much everyone thinks we r a perfect couple by the way. he said he would go out with me and stuff. he was really nice to me all of a sudden. we were almost going out! but then one day his bff told me he didnt like me. but everybody still wants us to go out! and i think he does like me he just doesnt know that i like him back. i've been talking to him on IM since then and we have lots of inside jokes now! he is still being really nice to me. i know he likes me, but does he have a crush on me or does he like me as just a friend? this problem is driving me crazy and i neeed advice. plz dont tell me to just straight out ask him because trust me that wouldnt work he'd probably just freak out. what can i do? plz help me anyone!

moomoo on 12/10/2006 1:33:51 PM

Sunshineluver:
Get him to commit to you. As Maureen Johnson (from Rent) says "Baby, all ya gotta do is ask,".
Say something like, "Hey, you seem to like I a lot, and I know I feel that way about you, so how bout we make it official?"

Kenzie on 12/10/2006 1:36:18 PM

hey,
i've been in this situation b4,but just don't go so fast, he may like u, but u don't no it, but what evr u do don't send him a note, it can be interseped by one of his buddies, happened! but play it lo b4 u tell him, good luck, and remember he may like u 2

gabrielle on 12/10/2006 1:41:38 PM

idk what you should do!

Kenzie on 12/10/2006 1:57:25 PM

GOOD LUCK!

Kenzie on 12/10/2006 2:05:47 PM

abigail on 12/10/2006 2:33:03 PM

sunshineluver

if you really like this guy confront him. Say what needs to be said. if this guy really likes you too he'll listen to what you have to say. If it was meant to be you will know.

inlove on 12/10/2006 3:19:17 PM

The first thing I would do is ask someone who knows him. Is there a girl that he tells everything to. Do you have a friend that knows him really well. Then, if they say yes, go ask him. If he's truthful and says yes then you can be really good friends. Who knows, you might know the girl that he likes. You can help him and her get together. If he feels it's none of your business, then stay out. Getting to involved might break you two apart. If it turns out he doesn't like this girl, then you're good to go. But if he does, help him. Just because you don't get him, it doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to be happy. Who knows, if you help him, he might help you with another guy. That's what I would do. GOOD LUCK!!

Jessy101 on 12/10/2006 3:27:22 PM

Ask him. If he feels he knows you well enough to be truthful, then he'll tell you. If he does, help him get together with the girl. Maybe she likes him to. If you help him, he might help you. If he feels it's not of your business, then stay out. If you're to nosy he might not like you anymore. If you're afraid to ask him, ask someone who knows him or is close to him. That's what I would do.
GOOD LUCK!!

Jessie101 on 12/10/2006 3:36:36 PM

I am having the same problem. I always thought that the guy should ask thee girl out. My friends are telling me to do it but I'm afraid of being rejected.

Kassidy on 12/10/2006 3:38:34 PM

I think you should just go out there for him or if your to shy ask one of your bestest friends to ask him for you, heres an example, once i really had a big crush on this one boy wen ever i saw him i would get so nervous even if i wre 10 feet away from him i asked one of my friends,Raquel, n she asked him if he liked me luckely he said yes n now im going out wit him so you should go out there n be your self not some preppy girl doin every thing he likes just be your self n dont be shy cause if you are your never gonna get an answer so take my advice n get that gye.

love ya, from heather

Heather on 12/10/2006 4:01:11 PM

i like this guy, but so does my bff, sometimes i feel like he is flirting, and he recentally broke his leg, so sometimes i help him 2 class. i really like him, but i dont want 2 hurt my friends feelings, i liked him b4 i knew she liked him. does neone hav any advice?

Melanie on 12/10/2006 4:18:01 PM

Sunshineluver: everyone goes through this

Kenzie on 12/10/2006 5:00:22 PM

I would tell him I liked him cuz sometimes if a boy knows you like him, he might start having a crush on you.

Lee on 12/10/2006 6:20:32 PM

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