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GIRL TALK: Should I Tell Him I Like Him?

can u guys plz help me w/ this? i like this guy, but he doesn't like me back. i just want to tell him i like him, because it's hard to keep this a secret. but how am i supposed to tell him? anything i can think of would just be REALLY awkward. so can u guys help me? thx!

dRaMaQuEeN'

Hey, DQ!

Here's my advice. Don't come straight out and tell him you like him. I know it's tempting. You're sitting there staring at your crush with a million thoughts racing through your brain.

He's so cute! I love that shirt! Is he flirting with me? Does he like me back? The frustration and anticipation of that last question is enough to drive any girl crush-crazy. But here's the problem: sometimes guys (and even some girls) freak out when you tell them you like them.

Maybe it has something to do with the thrill of the chase. Or maybe it just puts them on the spot. If they don't like you back (or even if they do), this can be an embarrassing moment that makes it difficult to get a straight and thoughtful answer back.

My gut says, if he likes you, you already know it. (This can be a little trickier if he's your BGF or something, because obviously he likes you!)

But if you're fairly sure this guy doesn't share your feelings (at least not yet), there's no point in telling him. The sitch could get awkward and you'll end up closing the door on getting to know him better -- and letting him get to know you!

My suggestion: keep your crush quiet and get your FLIRT on. You may be just one study hall, group date, or pep rally away from catching his attention -- or finding out you like someone else even more!

xoxo,
jessica b.

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BY JESSICA ON 12/9/2006 1:33:17 AM 4089 COMMENTS

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I really like this guy named Eric.... We are best friends. We have been sitting together on the bus since kindergarten. So we are really good friends, me and him bring the guys and girls together in our grade. I REALLY like him , but I know who he likes, and it isn't me, I want to tell him I like him but I don't want our friend ship to be akward. We are in 7th grade, and I'm afraid that when we go to high school we will drift apart. And our semi-formal is coming up, and some girls think that he likes me and that maybe he will ask me to go with him. But he said that he wasn't going to ask ANYBODY!
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!A.S.A.P.

Posted by: Bus girl( that is all I will ever be) on 3/16/2008 6:40:32 PM

Sup!!!

Posted by: gurliegurl123 on 2/15/2008 6:35:08 PM

Hey, be nice a flirtacious, sweet and nice, if he likes u, he will be nice back. But no, don't make it too obvious. Good LUck!!

Posted by: Jess on 12/9/2006 2:40:57 AM

sould I tell nico I like him? he complements me in every thing I do. we know each other for two year, i'm friends with the family and they all like me. what should I do ps I've liked him for months

Posted by: tiffany on 12/9/2006 3:11:59 AM

Just keep it quiet, because you dont want himto be scared. Flirt a little and see what happens.

Posted by: Redsoxlover4eva on 12/9/2006 9:36:16 AM

kiss him

Posted by: anonoymouse on 12/9/2006 9:53:49 AM

I HAVE A CRUSH ON A BOY BUT I HAVE A BOYFRIEND WICH IS WORSE, BUT MY ADVICE IS:
JUST SAY THAT YOU MIGHT WANNA GO OUT SOMETIME TO GO TO THE MOVIES OR SOMETHING!

Posted by: coolio on 12/9/2006 10:02:16 AM

Don't tell him, whatever you do. Last night was actually my school dance, and things got crazy. My crush's friends kept asking if I'd dance with my crush, and I said, "Why?" They said, "Because word down the street is that you like him." I asked "How did you find out?" They pointed to their heads and said, "All in here... He likes you too." Then, I got confused. I didn't know if I should talk to him or what.

Posted by: Josselyn on 12/9/2006 10:10:52 AM

I think it depends on where you are if your at school don't do it if he doesn't like you man embarsment on issle 12!!!!
When you tell them you like them don't go "i like you." Do somthing like this go to one of his basketball games and aftr go up to him and say "Hey nice game (chat alittle more) then go like I was woundering if you wanted to go out sometime." The thing most girls go to is having the Bff tell the you like em for you. Thats a big NO NO. Guy don't like that it makes them feal you can't speak for your self and they find it quite annoying.

Posted by: a friend on 12/9/2006 10:28:41 AM

don't tell ANYONE. just flirt a little bit

Posted by: Candi on 12/9/2006 10:44:53 AM

Hi Drama Queen!!

I kno exactly wat u r going through. Dont tell him. That will just make him not like you. If u r having trouble understanding a unit in class, ask him where u r in the class. Or, if u totally get it, but u just want 2 talk 2 him go 4 it!! Good Luck with this cutie.

Posted by: Kyndra on 12/9/2006 10:45:45 AM

inluvwithhim,

That's not a bad thing. He said he was sorry so I would cut him some slack. By the sounds of it you 2 do sound like a great couple. I would just start to hang with him a little more over time until ur very very close then you can confess that you luv him. Good Luck.

Posted by: Gecko 888 on 12/11/2006 8:03:18 PM

hey y'all. LOOK AT GECKO"S ADVICE! SHE KNOWS THE ANSWERS TO A LOT Of PROBLEMS AND HAS WRITTEN THEM ALREADY! seriously, that gal know's what she's talking about. and if you have trouble talking to a guy? Get behind them in the lunch line. find something in common. they like humor. It worked for me, anyway!

Posted by: Stars* on 12/11/2006 8:03:54 PM

Something specific for Jenna: tell your mom as soon as you can, like when she says goodnight. but don't tell the guy right off that you like him, or he'll freak. entirely. It happened to me, and now I almost never talk to the guy, ever. Do get his phone #, so even if he does live over the rainbow, you two can talk and get together somehow, eventually. If you're shy, use humor. Be spontaneous. And know that even if you think your worst fear is not being good enough, one actually assumes that cuz they are afraid to show how good they really are. Good luck to you.

Posted by: Stars* on 12/11/2006 8:09:47 PM

My friends are trying to get this guy that I like to like me, but they alreay helped me and it turned out awful and then today she told him all these things about me and they say he'll ask me out by the end of the week. I'm so scared. What should I do?

Posted by: help me on 12/11/2006 8:12:48 PM

KITTY: you're in a mess! not to say you don't know already. If I were you, talk to him and apologize for being so abrupt, unless you aren't sorry, in which case try to start over. Ask him what's up? How's he doing? Going anywhere later? Just keep in mind you really had him shocked, so beware of his feelings and good luck!

Posted by: Stars* on 12/11/2006 8:19:27 PM

i have a crush on this guy that is a year older than me, he is the cutest guy in that grade! all my friends know about it and i dont know what to do! should i tell him i like him or wait until a different grade? HELP!!

Posted by: benlover on 12/11/2006 9:07:57 PM

Jenna if you hear long distant relationships dont work close ur ears. you can make it work. if you really like this guy tell him how you feel. With the mom prob i cant help you. I'm not what you call........ the most honest daughter in the world. I dont lie to my mom... persay. I just dont tell her things that might make her worried.Like that i have a boyfriend.

Posted by: inlove on 12/11/2006 9:13:18 PM

can you guys help me? My school has a christmas dance coming up and (u guessed it) I wanna ask my crush (lets call him M.W) to go with me. Were like best friends we laugh at stupid jokes together and talk a lot ! And we'll look at each other and we know what the other is thinking. But he said to this girl ( my friend L.S) that he doesnt want a girlfriend right now and I dont want him to say no. Somebody help me quickly cause christmas dance is friday! Thanks

Posted by: kmpsurfgirl/toughcookie on 12/11/2006 9:17:59 PM

what up i have this crush and believe me he is hot and i dont know if i should tell him cause of the consequences i had a boyfriend that was a total butthole when we broke up and i cant go through that again!

Posted by: J-baby on 12/22/2006 5:34:09 PM

If you reaaly like this guy just tell him. If you end up going out and then break up like with your last bf that's okay. IT's not like your going to marry him.

Posted by: cheerleader15 on 12/22/2006 6:11:59 PM

find out if he likes u 1st!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! be fore u do n e thing! TRUST ME!!!!

Posted by: Jenna x33 on 12/22/2006 6:33:08 PM

well my crush already knows i like him...a boy called him and told him that i liked him. he never really talks to me...i try to talk to him but sometimes i get so nervous that i cant talk...

Posted by: chichi on 12/22/2006 11:24:34 PM

Hey GL girls
I have my own question. How do you flirt? I lie tis guy and sometimes he talks to me but i don't know how to flirt.Please Help.

Posted by: roxychic on 12/22/2006 11:43:47 PM

Some people don't even know when they are flirting. They usually each have there own way of flirting. Some people tease eachother and some people joke with eachother. It is a lot of fun when you flirt!!!

Posted by: cheerleader15 on 12/23/2006 12:41:41 AM

thanx cellfonechick! i really appreciate the advice!

Posted by: Maddie on 12/23/2006 12:45:07 AM

thanks cheerleader15 do you have any other tips to flirt or how to send the message i am flirting

Posted by: roxychic on 12/23/2006 1:41:38 AM

Well, you gotta know that some people flirt and sometimes with the wrong person or they just can't stop once they begin.Everyone has their own ay of flirting.

Posted by: Genelyn on 12/23/2006 2:40:45 AM

I like a boy too. I told him I liked him one day and asked him out. Try doing that maybe he will say yes. If he doesn't, try asking him to give you a chance to get to know you.(That's what I'm doing for my crush =]) Good Luck!

Posted by: Ashley on 12/23/2006 3:22:26 PM

hi drama queen,
i was in your situation last year and then i told him i liked him and now we r best buds. We arent dating, and i am ok about that cuz i have my own boyfriend, but it actuall made us becom really gr8 friends. So my advice is you should give a little hint, flirt and then go from their.
Emma

Posted by: Fashion_Roxxxx on 12/23/2006 4:13:10 PM

Their is a guy who i like and we r best friends and no1 knows i like him. We flirt constantly and talk a lot, (yes i mean ALL the time,)we see each other in skewl and then after that, and i think he likes me 2 but should i tell him??

Posted by: Fashion_Roxxxx on 12/23/2006 4:15:30 PM

i think that you should tell him that you like him because maybe he likes you and then he will end up getting a girlfriend that he really dosnt care for and then both of you will be unhappy. that happened to me and then that guy and me became friends and that made it even more wierd to tell him after like a year of crushin. i liked guy i was gonna tell him a week later he got a girlfriend , spent an ENTIRE summer wanting to tell him insted of being thought of a good friend then i ask him if he ever really liked her in the fall she moves and then we end up dating . just tell him before it is to late. it will make you misreble if you dont

Posted by: redhead on 12/9/2006 11:18:19 AM

i've the same problem. just hang out with him. me and my guy do plays and drama together and hang out constantly. we even go out to eat when we're waiting to have to be there for shows and maybe another friend of ours will come. we can do that b/c he can drive and we have so much fun. just hang out and soon your time will come.

Posted by: a friend on 12/9/2006 11:23:18 AM

hey Drama Queen, I'm going through the exact same thing with this guy that I like but he likes a girl that I have no chance next to her, and she has a boyfriend!!!! He really can't seem to get it through his head that she is taken! well my advice is to not tell him because this guy knew that I liked him at the beginning of the school year, but now I think he thinks I don't. (Well that sounded just a little bit on confusing side huh?) but know since he doesn't know that I like him anymore he talks to me all the time, and FLIRTS with me too! so by me staying quiet it has made him get to know me better and start to give me a chance. I've hung out with him a few times and liked him since forever, and right now it's going good he thinks of me more as a friend I'm pretty sure, but atleast he's not totally freaked out to know that I like him. And you never know maybe this guy that you like already knows that you like him. try inviting him and a bunch of his other friends and a bunch of your friends to do something. My friend did that and know everyone in that group is like best friends and a lot of them are starting to fall for eachother so Go For It and GOOD LUCK!~!
~Jay Jay~

Posted by: Jay Jay on 12/9/2006 11:53:01 AM

but keep an open mind about guys there are millions of them out there that are totally worth a shot!!! hope that my advice helps!
~Jay Jay~

Posted by: Jay Jay on 12/9/2006 11:55:16 AM

go with your gut!

word of advice: 1ce my friend emailed this guy telling him she likes him, and he liked her back but that didn't last long.... you could get one of ur friends 2 say something 2 one of his friends, that mite work!!

good luck!!

Posted by: fashionistaxoxo on 12/9/2006 12:27:33 PM

Yep thats what i would do bcuz if you tell him he will probably get all flustered and be like uhh ok and then that would kinda be ruined so yeah Flirt you heart out!! Good Luck! (1st comment???)

Posted by: StarbucksLuver on 12/9/2006 12:45:05 PM

hey are there people on here?

Posted by: Chelsea on 1/14/2007 10:43:36 PM

im so confused. i shouldnt talk to luke then?

Posted by: cheer_babiix0x on 1/14/2007 11:06:17 PM

Thanks. I have another problem ( smae guy),
So I asked him if he wanted 2 catch a moive w/ me and some friends froma diff school (as friends) and he said sorry but thanx 4 da offa. I don't know what to do. Plus, i just found out i really dont like the guy that much: i figured we'd better just stay really good friends. I think he thinks i was asking him out, but idk. Should I tell him that i dont like him?

Posted by: confused on 1/14/2007 11:20:19 PM

hey dq ive been in the same sitch. just hold on and wait 4 a while and start having conversations. if there is no connection Move On!! im serious there r bttr people out there

Posted by: suthrn girl on 1/15/2007 1:36:54 AM

hey cheer babiix,
give him some time cux eventually he'll pill out who h likes. trust me on this one.

Posted by: Chelsea on 1/15/2007 10:23:37 AM

cheer_babiix0x (or if u prefer tracy),
i say talk to him. He seems like he likes you, but don't make it too obvious. Be sublte, just make eye contact and amile at him. And if you do ask him out, wait until you guys are really good friends. Thats what I did, and it worked! And if you have a language class or you sit next to him for anything, give him a note. That way, he'll be able to respondfaster, and ur most likely not to have his friends all around him. If you already are good friends, then I say, wait a month or two, see if he starts to flirt with u, and maybe he'll ask you out! You never know!

Posted by: 10Schicka on 1/15/2007 11:18:25 AM

hey confused,
think about it for a second. do you really like this guy or are you just rushing to have a boyfriend. then tell him if you like him or not.

Posted by: Chelsea on 1/15/2007 12:09:17 PM

it's me,jocelyn no one has told me what to do andrew and i have been going out for about a month and we go to his house all the time and his dad is their all the time it's his house but all he does is stare at us and give me dirty looks and his dad is a big,strong,and very very very scarey i trided telling andrew to go to my house but it's like his dad can hear everything that we talk about it is freekey.

P.S.PLEEEEEEEASE TALK TO ME SOON WE ARE GOING TO GO TO HIS HOUSE AT 3:30.

Posted by: jocelyn on 1/15/2007 2:20:18 PM

hold up! jocelyn tell andrew about your dad he'll probably do something about it. if that doesn't work well try talking to your parents.

Posted by: Surega on 1/15/2007 3:38:00 PM

COME ON SOMEONE HELP ME WE ARE GOING ON THE DATE IN LIKE 40MINS I DON'T CARE WHO HELPS ME I JUST NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: jocelyn on 1/15/2007 3:50:15 PM

I am so nervous 2 tell him that i realllly like him and he does 2 s i dont know because we have the same reaction towards eachother and we know eachother really well

Posted by: Farah From new jersey on 12/11/2006 9:21:33 PM

Jenna
How bout u think about something you really like,a sport music,etc.) and bring it out in a conversation I know your shy but think of your crush as a big cookie and you really want that cookie , you want it really bad and talk to him like you really want it and after you talk to him. you got your cookie. you go girl

Posted by: kmpsurfgirl/toughcookie on 12/11/2006 9:22:48 PM

tell your mom, jenna.

Posted by: Candi on 12/11/2006 9:31:52 PM

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