I lived in one state for like two years and met my BFF down here. She was nice and really cared about what I thought. Then, I moved away for two years. And even when I wasn't there we would talk on the phone. After a while, I noticed that she was becoming conceited. I moved back and she was sooo self-centered that we always had to talk about her. One day she asked me and a couple other girls to be her posse. I was so fumed! And she's ALWAYS saying how great of a singer she is. Don't get me wrong, she's a good singer, but this is just ridiculous! Every time I say hi to her, she just says hi like I'm just some person and not the girl who's been her BFF since 3rd grade. Now I'm really scared that I'm losing touch with her. She's slowly becoming so conceited and cares about nothing else.
-Katie D.'
Hey Katie. Unfortunately as people grow older, they change. Sometimes it's for the better, sometimes it's for the worse. I guess we can all agree that your friend is the latter.
I have a friend who's just like your BFF. I don't get to see her often, but when I do, it's all about her her her! She'll even ask how I'm doing and when I go to answer, she has somehow cleverly managed to steer the conversation back to herself. So trust me, I get you chickabee.
Friendship though is a two-way street. It ideally should be 50/50, and at the very least you should get some attention here and there. I think you can do one of two things.
A. Let this chica know that the world does not revolve around her and don't let this diva constantly steal the spotlight from you. This may come as a shocker and she may deal with your words in a very un-cool way. But at least you'll bring her back to reality and you won't have to listen to her go on and on about only herself.
-OR-
B. Know that your friend is going through some huge insecurity issues and try to understand. More often than not, she will grow out of this phase and your support could be the nudge she needs. Next time she starts complementing herself (which is so illegal by the way) agree with her. And if possible, go one step further and complement her first. The more secure she is with herself, the less likely she'll be to put herself up on this ridiculous pedestal.
Hugs,
Jiae
BY ANDREA T. ON 4/18/2007 1:01:00 AM 164 COMMENTS