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My BFF is mad at me! My buddy icon is a pic that I Photoshopped. It's really cool and I love it. My crush even complimented it twice. So one day I was chatting w/ her and she asked me to change the pic b/c she thinks she looks bad. I don't want to b/c she looks fine. When I refused, she started yelling at me and swearing. She’s worried people are going to start gossiping and hate her b/c she looks bad in the pic. I told her that wouldn't happen and to stop worrying about what others think. Then! She blocked me! She won’t talk to me till I delete the pic for good. I'm just so sick of trying to please everyone all the time for small things like this. How can I get her to talk to me? I said hi to her yesterday but she slammed her locker shut, stuck her nose in the air and walked away.-TheGreatEscapeHey girl,This reminds me of a similar situation I had with my childhood BFF when I was your age. I sent a picture of us to a crush of mine because (to be totally honest) I looked really good in it. But she didn’t like how she looked and got really upset with me for sending it. She held a grudge for a little while, but you know what? She got over it eventually…that is, until she got mad at me for other petty things.I definitely understand that you are frustrated because you know she wouldn’t show you the same courtesy – but don’t stoop down to her level. If there’s any way you can compromise, try to. Maybe you can crop her out of the picture. Or find a new picture you like just as much. If you are considerate enough to try to compromise, than you’re a great friend and she’s lucky to have you. But, if she’s willing to throw your friendship away over something as petty as a not-so-flattering picture, maybe she’s not the friend you thought she was – and, as with my friend, it’ll probably end up being a pattern with her. Try to apologize to her and give her some time to get over it. But while you should try to be a good friend, be careful that she doesn’t walk all over you. Eventually you may have to put your foot down and tell her she needs to respect your feelings as well.<3 Jessie M.
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BY JIAE K. ON 4/23/2008 12:00:00 AM 136 COMMENTS
Ashley B.! Hey, i don't think we've met, Im courtney! lol haa. I have a question, its sort of akward but I can't think of any1 else to ask. So, im 12 going on 13 in exactly one month and 1 day. (you can say im REALLY excited) and I've had my 1st bras since the summer when I was 10 (theyr A30, im a B now) and I really think I need some new ones. I got them at limited too (but I've kindof grown out of ltd2 since even before I was 10) and most of them are just thin cotton and I have one padded one thats really ready to be thrown out. So the cotton ones are starting to feel a big uncomfortable for me and i feel a bit less "unprotected" with them. I like the padded one better. I want to start getting bras at places like american eagle since I know that they have pretty cute ones that look lasting (and I'm grown out of ltd2 anyways, in fit wise AND as in likeing it. haha) the problem is, is that the american eagle ones are padded AND push-ups. I doubt my mom would even care as long as long as I'm just using the bras for support purposes, not for some reason to get a guy to like me (ew!), but do you think 13 is old enough for a push up bra (even if i have good intentions)? Or should I just stick to the limited too ones that are padded? haha im so confused Thanks so mcuh and thory, my comments so long. hahha woow sry.
TheOrig.TaterTot™ on 4/23/2008 1:01:27 AM
MOD~ Is there a difference between a demi-cup and a push-up bra? haha im so confused!
Demi-cup bras offer less breast coverage than other bras and usually don't have padding, whereas push-up bras are designed to enhance your bust line and have more padding. hope that helps! ~L'Oreal
TheOrig.TaterTot™ on 4/23/2008 1:24:22 AM
hey MOD! How are you today? Could you give me advice about my hair? My mom tried to cut my bangs to make them look sideswept, but she cut them to about my cheekbones, and it stays that length up to my ears. Do you kno any styles that I could use to hide my bangs? Thanks, have a great day!
hmm...when dealing with a bang cut gone wrong, it would look cute if you pulled back all of your hair with a headband or pin your bangs up on the top of your head. ~L'Oreal
adiam on 4/23/2008 4:32:30 AM
****MOD OR OTHER GIRLIES*** My crush in chorus is assigned to sit by me but when we have subs we don't have 2. But my crush said he HAD 2 sit by me, what does that mean? Does he like me? Should I ask him out even though he's more popular than me?
Kalie on 4/23/2008 4:43:33 AM
-----------MOD------------- i like one of my friend guys sooo much but he doesnt like me back. (dont worry i know that for sure) he likes this other girl who doesnt like HIM back and already has a boyfriend. help me this situation is making me rly,rly, sad!
Hey hon, unfortunately there's not much you can do to make him like you. And of course it's sad to watch him like a girl who doesn't even like him, but he has to find that out for himself. All you can do is be a really good friend. There are plenty of guys out there, so don't give up hope. ~L'Oreal
nyc_girl on 4/23/2008 5:28:26 AM
my friend has a myspace and i told her never put me on it! and she never does! but this other girl has all the cheerleaders on hers including me and i look horrible in that picture! and its out for everyone to see! grrrr! oh well!♥
perky on 4/23/2008 5:28:35 AM
First comment!!!Anyone on?
k-girl45 on 4/23/2008 6:21:29 AM
First comment!Anyone on??
k-girl45 on 4/23/2008 6:21:55 AM
1st comment? Wow sounds like something that happened to me. But my friend eventually learned to get over it cuz it was a little thing. We talked it out and everything's good now. i hope i works out for u too
m girl on 4/23/2008 6:28:41 AM
honestly, i think your friend needs to get over herself
you_make_me_wanna_shout! on 4/23/2008 7:16:35 AM
Don't!, if she's going to be like that then shes not wearth it, i mean it's a picture! i've had that happend before but she called me like a month later, She'll come baack [: Don't worry [;
luzbug57 on 4/23/2008 7:45:03 AM
MODS!! OK, i'm going to a girls house(lets call her Emily) to sleepover today. And Emily's mom said she was going to invite my bestfriend (lets call her Cassie) But i just called Cassie and she said she knew nothing about it!! Shold i talkl to Emily? Because i'm shy, and only around Cassie can i be myself. I am soo confused!!! should i just let it go, and get to know Emily better, or what should i do???
maybe you could try talking to Emily to see what's going on, ask her if it's okay you invite your friend. if not, look at it as an opportunity to get to know Emily better, things may turn out better than you think! ~L'Oreal
Littlemissme! on 4/23/2008 7:49:43 AM
*MOD* my friend is going out with this guy who is really mean 2 me and all her other friends which include 2 other girls tht went out wit him. they were going out at the begining of the year and he broke up wit her because she wasnt "cristian enough" she goes to curch and stuff but he also said "youre not the right one 4 me" and then she was crying and a week l8er he asked out my other friend lets call her alice anyways him and alice went out for about 5 months. then he told her (alice) the same things he had told his ex. and went over to his ex and asked her out right after he broke up wit alice. now shes toltally blowing us off and hanging all over him. hes totally violent to everyone but her even his best friend calling him names and jamming his head aginst a brick wall shoving things in me and my friends faces and calling us losers and other horrible things. how can we tell her hes a loser and not thinking were jeolous. we all know tht hes just gunna break up wit her and hurt her. hes already told her he lovers her and shes totally in love wit her saying when he broke up wit her he tor her world down we all think he just has fun hurting people. cuz he went out wit 5 of my other friends and after a few months he harsly broke up wit them and blah blah blah. wht should i do to get her to realize ths b4 she gets hurt again?
Hey hon, it really sounds like your friend needs to ditch this loser. She totally deserves better and you know this, but she may not realize this. All you can do is tell her she deserves someone who will treat her right and this guy is not the one. You can't change her mind for her, that's a decision she needs to make on her own. ~L'Oreal
Lettuce on 4/23/2008 8:00:53 AM
MOD ---------- okay; well this is going to sound like really REALLY really mean but .... okay .. well today this girl Leigh asked me to go over her house tomorrow and i said yes .. but then she texted me saying that her mom woul drop us off at the mall for a little bit ... but shes a real weirdo at our school and i dont want anybody to see her with me@1! i know this sounds horribly mean, but ofcourse im not saying that to her face becuase that would be even meaner ... but im not sure if other girls feel this way...when popular girls walk by me in the mall with boys and stuff i just feel so much smaller and more unimportant than them , you know? yes i know i dont really have much confidence, but how can i go with her feeling good about myself and not being so self - concioussssssss?????????????/
Hey hon, what does it matter what other people think? If the so-called popular girls make fun of you for hanging out with her, then they're the ones with the self-confidence issues, not you. Don't let what they get you down, simply enjoy yourself and have fun at the mall. You'll feel so much better if you just let it go and do your own thing instead of worrying about what other people think. ~L'Oreal
xokatee on 4/23/2008 8:22:55 AM
MOD! ok, so my bff and i (lets call her megan) are usually really really close. our school is divided up into 3 teams, red white and blue. im on blue and shes on white so we never see eachother cept 4 band and gym. well, lately its seemed like shes changed. a lot. we went on a one week school trip with about 40 other kids and she would get really mad at me when i sat with my blue team friends and not with all her new friends that i didn't know. Not to mention that these new friends were really mean to me. I tried to hang out with everyone, but it didn't work. so anyways, i feel like sometimes when i say anything to her she gets mad. I feel left behind in the dust because she's turning into this social butterfly. She wears make up now(tons of it) and hangs out with people that are really mean! Shes said a couple of things to me too, that kind of hurt my feelings.Is it just me? She acts like im 2 sensitive, but I don't even know her anymore!! I feel like im losing one of my bff's!
Hey hon, people change as they get older, but that doesn't mean you two have to stop being friends. try talking to her to let her know where you're coming from and maybe you two could schedule a time to hang out, just the two of you. ~L'Oreal
doyoubeliveinmagic? on 4/23/2008 9:59:00 AM
wheres my comment??
doyoubeliveinmagic? on 4/23/2008 10:00:07 AM
MOD is it L'Oreal modding?
justgottaloveit on 4/23/2008 10:52:50 AM
Wow. I have a friend who doesn't let pics be taken of her- It's kind of a joke, though, cause even our parents tease her and try to take pics! We have about a million of her with her hands over her face. We (including her) always laugh about it after and she turns all red. It's so fun. Sometimes she does pictures. But, like me, the camera hates her. Why must we all look like grinning idiots in photos???
imastermind on 4/23/2008 11:53:20 AM
MOD! Can I please ask you a question? There is this guy (lets call jim Jim) and he has liked me for a while. I told him I didn't like him, but he hasn't given up. He texts and IMs me all the time. I've kinda realized hes really nice and sweet and liks me. NE way he is gonna ask me out on Friday and I don't know what to say. At first I thought no way, but know I'm thinking I may say yes. I mean why not? I think I may like him, but I'm not totally sure. Please help! Thanks
laurlizzy326 on 4/23/2008 11:59:11 AM
thanks for the great advice, u rock L'Oreal!
nyc_girl on 4/23/2008 12:40:17 PM
MOD- I don't know what's wrong with me, but for the past few days I've been getting really mad at my friends. Like today during recess my three closest friends, Kaylee, Hannah, Christie and I were playing basketball. Hannah and Kaylee played by themselves and only passed it to each other. I think it was because I'm not that great at basketball. Christie and I decided to play by ourselves, but I got really mad at Hannah and Kaylee and I felt like crying. Just like that, I get mad at really small things and feel left out a lot. How can I stop feeling so upset and small things?
*burnt_by_love* on 4/23/2008 12:51:54 PM
hello
behind*blue*eyes*aries* on 4/23/2008 1:28:05 PM
I know there are already a lot of unanswered probs on here, but I gotta add another one. Ok, so here is the story. I recently went to Hawaii with my sis and her husband and kids because her husbands Hawaiian and we were visiting all his fam. There is this one boy there that started to like me even though I didn't like him at first, but then the last couple days I realized I really did like him a lot. Everyone could tell that we really liked eachother. But now I'm back in Kentucky and we email and all and I still really like him, but I miss him a tttoooooonnnnn and it just doesn't feel right liking another guy or even thinking ones cute! What can I do to clear my mind??!!! HELP!!!!
Aneal on 4/23/2008 1:31:38 PM
MOD i have an embarassing moment: i was in homeroom and i had my bag for lacrosse that i leave in the room. well i dropped it and my water that was in the bag busted open. so when my friends came in the room they were like "what happened?!" i was like "my water broke" not thinking of what i just said. so after i cleaned everything up my friend derrick was like "katie..dont you have something to tell erin?" (my bf)i looked at derrick and said "what are you talking about?" and he said "you said your water broke...whose the dad?" and everyone laughed. my friends still wont let me live it down today.
awww!!
:] on 4/23/2008 1:49:01 PM
Wheres my other comment? OBTW! Is there a way to change your username?
Aneal on 4/23/2008 1:52:51 PM
I have a problem with my friend. One day we were joking around and then all of a sudden she's like "I hate you." I thought she was joking but then she started giving me mean looks and talking about me and stuff. And I tried to ask her what was wrong but she wouldn't even look at me! She told my really close friends then made them promise not to tell me. She even sent this e-mail to a new girl telling her not to be friends with me! ( I became friends with the new girl anyway, btw)Anyway after like a month she got over it and now she wants to be friends again. I wrote her a note saying I'm not sure I want to be friends with someone who treated me like that, but I'm not sure I made the right choice. I belive in second chances, but does she really deserve one?
StarryEyedGirl on 4/23/2008 2:02:43 PM
I am in the fifth grade 11 and a 36A. My BFF thought i was wearing a push-up bra and made me blush because i was only wearing a padded one!
Bookworm21197 on 4/23/2008 2:10:03 PM
Mod! Hey there girly! What's cracka lackin'? haha just kidding...anyways, could you (and the girls) help me with a lil prop i have here? K. It seems like no matter what I do, somebody always hates me. Even people i don't talk to hate me. I get good grades (4.0!!) people say i'm pretty and popular, and I'm going to be going out with an eigth grader next year. (most likely...I think, if everything goes the way i think it will) Anyways, the little fifth grade girls wrote a note to me, and two of my best friends. Let's call them hannah and lizzie. The little fifth graders said that we call them bad singers in music class (we're practicing for a play right now) and we don't. The music teacher has us go up in front of the class to show them moves and everything, since we're older, and we're enthusiastic. They said they didn't want to do what we did, and we were mean people. We never have called them bad singers, we don't even hang out with them. One of the fifth graders, let's call her Jade, is going out with a guy in my class. She thinks I like him. I don't, and i never have. I like a seventh grader, who i went out with last year, but we broke up, cuz hes in seventh (high school) and so yeah we can't see each other, so we're waiting til next year. People have told her i don't like him, but she still hates me! And they're fifth graders and they're picking fights with us older kids, personally, i don't think thats very smart. Well hannah and lizzie (my best friends) turned the note into our teacher, and he's going to give it to their teacher. But what i want to know is...why?!?! And how can i get people to stop hating me for no reason!??!?!? Thanks a bunches!
Hey! try not to worry about them. If they dont know you that well, then its their problem. if you think a lot of people dont like you, then try to watch yourself how you act around other people and think about how you would feel if someone was acting like that around you. you might not find anything to change, but just be nice to everyone! xoxo
*OrangeFantaLipGloss* on 4/23/2008 2:25:43 PM
:], hahahaha no offense i thought that was funny!!!!!!! But that would be embarassing, but that would be a good joke!!!! hahahahaha!! :lol:
*OrangeFantaLipGloss* on 4/23/2008 2:42:17 PM
Hey I think I sent this one in about 2 months ago too. I found a picture I like better and changed it but I'm not ever going to put any pictures of us together on the internet ever again- good or bad.
SuNsHiNe...the.great.escape on 4/23/2008 2:51:59 PM
StarryEyedGirl- That same exact thing has happened to me before. I was talking with a bunch of my friends and then all of a sudden they were like 'we hate you'. the next day they said sorry. And I never gave them a second chance and I've barely talked to them since. Y'know why? B/c no one should be treated like that and I know from expreiance that is sucks to be in that position, whether to get your friends back or not. Sure, you believe in second chances, but then she might treat you like that again. And again. And again. And everytime she'll want a second chance until you're on your 1893750th chance! (That's a reallly random number). Everytime you give her another chance, she'll step on you more. If she knows that she can get away with treating you like this, she'll do it more and worse. There will be better girls to be your BFFs.You made a good decision not taking her back. Good job. ~Aly
paramore girl14 on 4/23/2008 3:11:26 PM
MOD I'm really sad. Last month before we left for spring break my crush and I got along really well. We'd walk to class together, talk on MSN Messenger, and if I stayed after school until pep band I could go up to him and we'd talk for a while and hang out. We used to pick on each other a lot too (kiddingly, not meanly). Ever since we came back from spring break, he's ignored me. He stopped walking to class with me, pep band is over so we can't hang out then anymore. 2 nights ago, I found this way to check if someone blocked/deleted you on MSN and used to to see if my friend blocked me and it showed that my crush deleted me And since he never talks to me, we don't pick on each other anymore either, which I miss. He basically cut me out of his life. It hurts a lot b/c he just randomly stopped talking to me. Before we left for break, we were good but then when we came back, I was going to walk to class with him, as usual, but he was already gone. And on the bus back from a trip, 2 of my friends were sitting behind him and he was sitting alone and I asked him if I could sit in the seat next to his so I could talk to them and he said he "wanted to stretch out and stuff" (which I understand cuz it was late) and 5 minutes later one of his female friends was sitting with him. I really thought we were friends, and I thought he might even have liked me back. Now he seems to hate me. Why do you think he's doing this? PS- Sorry this is so long!
Hey girl, try talking to him and asking him why he did this to you. If you don't feel confident enough to do that, have a trusted friend talk to him. Boys can be pretty weird sometimes, so if it doesn't work out, just look around for a new cutie.
SuNsHiNe...the.great.escape on 4/23/2008 3:13:44 PM
Aneal- Think about the next time you're gonna see this Hawaiin guy. Is he worth waiting? If you'll see him alot, then next time, talk to him more and see if anything happens. If it won't be for a while, just be friends with him for now and try other guys. Then next time you see him, you can see how things work out. Good luck! ~Aly
paramore girl14 on 4/23/2008 3:14:28 PM
*burnt_by_love*- You're just having some mood swings. I feel like that sometimes, too, only I get mad over the most stupid stuff, like if my brother is listening to our shared iPod when I want to. Just explain to your friends that your moods are getting weird on you so the next time you wanna freak out, they'll no that nothings really wrong, they just need to be a bit more sensitive to your feelings. Hope things work out! ~Aly
paramore girl14 on 4/23/2008 3:17:15 PM
laurlizzy326- If you like this guy even a little, I would give him a chance. If you don't like where things are going with him, you can always easily end it. Its not like your married. You may find out that you really do like him. Its all about taking chances. Good luck! ~Aly
paramore girl14 on 4/23/2008 3:20:03 PM
imastermind- I hate the camera and the camera hates me, too. Some people are just better at taking pictures. Try practicing a natural relaxed smile in the mirror. Soon you'll find your perfect smile and how to keep it, even in pics. That's what I did and I finally got a good school pic this year after seven years of trying! (I don't think your's will take that long if you practice. I didn't practice that often.) Good luck and I hope your next pic is a keeper! ~Aly
paramore girl14 on 4/23/2008 3:23:15 PM
Kalie- If he's more popular or not shouldn't matter. I dated a nerd for a year and four months! If he wants to sit with you when he could sit with his other friends instead, I think he likes you. Try asking him out. If yes, congrats. If no, rejection is just part of life but its not lifechanging. He's not the only guy! Good luck! ~Aly
paramore girl14 on 4/23/2008 3:25:36 PM
haha! thats funny,:]! i love that embarassing moment u posted!
perky on 4/23/2008 3:27:31 PM
wat up?
perky on 4/23/2008 3:28:27 PM
hey MOD MOD MOD i said yes to a guy whose kinda a player when he asked me out today and he hasnt barely spoken 2 meh since should i break up w/ him??? even tho i kinda like him??? XOXO-Susie-la
You don't have to break up with him, but be careful for a while. Keep an eye out to make sure he isn't hurting you. But if you like him, don't stop yourself from being happy
bobwithapickle on 4/23/2008 3:29:26 PM
Okay, thats like the funniest embarrasing moment I've ever heard!!!! ROTFL!
Aneal on 4/23/2008 3:43:21 PM
don't worry i say stupid stuff all the time and my one friend says i have no common sense...hehe
Jenster on 4/23/2008 4:10:23 PM
hi guys!
perky on 4/23/2008 4:11:08 PM
i'm bored here!♥☺☻♦♣♠•◘○
perky on 4/23/2008 4:13:27 PM
what up my homies?
perky on 4/23/2008 4:15:01 PM
MOD About my sitch from before (if it's still the same mod who answered my Q)- 1st of all, thanks for answering my question from before! (: But we don't really hang out with the same people because he's a grade ahead and he hangs out with the popular stuck-ups (he's not stuck up though, trust me) and the friends we do share from being in band together I'm not really that close to or he's not that close to them... kind of a problem ): And I kinda-sorta-really like him a lot and I've tried getting over him and.. it's not working that well. Any more advice?
Hey, it wasnt me, but do you talk to him a lot? what are your common interests besides band? try talking to him before or after band. being in different grades can be kind of hard, you just have to be persistent xoxo
SuNsHiNe...the.great.escape on 4/23/2008 4:18:04 PM
Mod~ Ok so Im pretty short for my age..is this normal? Will I grow to be like taller than the rest? Im so confuzed
It's completely normal to be short for you age. Don't worry about it! I don't know how tall you'll get, but don't be insecure about your height
polka-dot-love on 4/23/2008 4:22:11 PM
MOD, sorry for asking for help so much, but I REALLY hate myself right now. I can't even stand it. I dont want to think about anything or anyone. I don't want to think, period. I want to die right now. (peacefullyish, but NOW.) ~lil
Hey! whats wrong?! why do you hate yourself, you shouldnt. Did something happen with friends?
=] Lillian [= on 4/23/2008 4:23:56 PM
MOD My crush asked me out and of course i said yes! and going out @ my school really means in school dating. This is my first realationship and i have no idea how 2 act!?!??!?!?! HELP ME!!
Just be yourself and have fun!
tnvolsgal on 4/23/2008 4:25:52 PM
MODDDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND GIRLIES REPLY TOO!!! so me and my bff for 9 years are super close, but idk if we're as close as we used to be ever since she got a BF. i don't mind that she's going out with him, it just seems like ever since then, she's so secretive and he (lets call him shane) and my bff (lets call her kara)are always writing notes back and forth and then when she lets me see them, there's nothing secrative on the note! its just so annoying because she ALWAYS has somethig she can't tell me, then she tells someone else like our friend lissy and says "but don't tell anyone!" and then her and liss talk about it all day whispering. and she like NEVER tells liss stuff she always tells me but not anymore! long story short..it seems like she has a whole 'nother life that i dont know about and it makes me feel bad. i haven't done anything to make her not trust me either! has anyone gone through this?!?!?! HELP ♥ ♥ thnx
Hey! you need to talk to her. maybe she is trying to get your attention --obviously not in the best way, but still trying to get your attention. ask her whats wrong because she always used to tell you everything and now she doesnt. hope this helps!! xoxo
leah99 on 4/23/2008 4:33:15 PM
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