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Dear Dave

Why does a guy flirt with you if he's going out with someone?

 

Dave: Because he's a guy. But a variety of reasons could be at work:
1) There's always a chance-an ever-increasing one, by the way-that if he keeps up the flirting, he may soon find himself without a steady. So he's probably making sure he hasn't forgotten how to woo. Wooing takes practice. One cannot woo on cue.
2) Perhaps he's attempting to make his significant other jealous. Are you a friend of hers? Does he do it in front of others-or the poor girl herself?
3) He's a jerk.
Don't invite the attention and remember that flirting is usually harmless. Take it as a compliment.

Bill: Guys flirt because they can. The attention span of your average guy is only as long as the next moving object. Like puppies, guys have to be nurtured and trained. And scolded, especially if they chase after a car.

 

Dear Dave
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BY ANDREA T. ON 4/19/2008 1:33:00 PM 337 COMMENTS

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!!!!!!yay!!!!

first comment. i dont know what the big deal is really

Posted by: carrie on 4/19/2008 1:34:41 PM

just wanna say in the quiz about your body...alaska is NOT ALWAYS COLD!!!!its not warm like washington and hawaii or florida in the summer and it might get like below zero int he winter, so what wear a coat! but you could say like the north pole or something then descriminating about a state cause you dont know what its really like~~!!!Smile

Posted by: carrie on 4/19/2008 1:37:00 PM

Guys are jerks. Well some of the time. LoLz!

Posted by: ZiZee on 4/19/2008 1:59:56 PM

sometimes the guy can't help it, or that's my ex- boyfriend's excuse.

Posted by: writerchickwithfeelings on 4/19/2008 2:06:12 PM

Carrie-

Do you live in Alaska? I've never been there b4! That's so cool!

Posted by: ZiZee on 4/19/2008 2:09:27 PM

lol Bills funny

Posted by: BasketballGirl on 4/19/2008 2:27:28 PM

People of the world!!! How are you doing???


I'm doing well! How are you doing? -Cindy

Posted by: writerchickwithfeelings on 4/19/2008 2:28:10 PM

omg my ex-bf flirts with me all the time! he had a crush on me for a long time after we broke up but now he has a gf and he still flirts with me!

Posted by: megger17 on 4/19/2008 2:39:58 PM

im bored does anyone want to talk?

Posted by: megger17 on 4/19/2008 2:40:35 PM

******MODS!*******
Help! I think I just got my period, but I'm not sure because it's brown, not red. Does this mean I have an infection or is it really supposed to be brown? I haven't had any cramps or anything all day so I'm not sure. Please help!


I think it might be because it's dried.  Tell your mom and she'll teach you the ways! =) -Cindy

Posted by: snoopy on 4/19/2008 2:42:05 PM

Mod, I doing fine. Just hanging out, and seeing who wants to talk. What's it like to be a mod???? I've always wondered that...


It's good! It gets pretty crazy around here though because there are a ton of comments! -Cindy

Posted by: writerchickwithfeelings on 4/19/2008 2:46:57 PM

Mod, Cindy.
I bet!! So much to read, huh??? So little time.


Yeahhh so do you write a lot? What's the story behind your username?

Posted by: writerchickwithfeelings on 4/19/2008 2:54:02 PM

Mod, Cindy.
Well, Yeah, my username.
I write a heck of a lot. i mean, I've always been writing. I read a lot too. I write stoires... i mean, i have like 100 major novels in the making and like, 1000 diaries that i write in. I mean, I'll finish some stuff someday, and i plan to publish like, new book of poems every year. I think that would be cool. I want to be an author, but if you're not majorly succsessful, well, you can't eat all that much. My parents and stuff tell me that i need to think about the money and stuff, but there is nothing i find more enjoyable besides writing. I have some of my poetry in the comments under the poem light, whenever you have a moment to spare!!!!!


You could also submit some stories you think are good to Andrea to be featured on the site to Andrea@girlslife.com. You ambition is eally amazing! People who love what they're doing get farther in life than those who do what they do not love to do.  If you love to write, puruse it, becoming amazing at it and you won't have to worry about the money aspect. -Cindy

Posted by: writerchickwithfeelings on 4/19/2008 3:01:10 PM

hey cindy, thnx!!!
I get that a lot from my teacher who i show my stuff to. I don't know why im so good, i mean, it just flows from me. It's almost like I'm just writing for the story itself, and not writing the wtory. Do you see what I mean???

Posted by: writerchickwithfeelings on 4/19/2008 3:10:43 PM

thats kool

Posted by: emclax8 on 4/19/2008 3:35:00 PM

waz kool???

Posted by: writerchickwithfeelings on 4/19/2008 3:58:41 PM

hola, any1 here?

Posted by: kk! K{i}K{i}! on 4/19/2008 4:14:07 PM

hwuh? wheres my post?

Posted by: kk! K{i}K{i}! on 4/19/2008 4:14:49 PM

man, this thing is broken.the lil internet icon thing b4 it says where u r on tabs keeps freakin out...

Posted by: kk! K{i}K{i}! on 4/19/2008 4:16:57 PM

hurray! it's kind of working now. hey, who's modding?


Cindy is modding.

Posted by: kk! K{i}K{i}! on 4/19/2008 4:17:58 PM

yea most of the guys at my school flirt with other girls while they are going out with some other girl so dont worry you arent alone!

Posted by: joejonaslover1996 on 4/19/2008 4:34:28 PM

***MOD***
Hey so me and my boyfriend have been together for a week (we liked eachother for like 2 months before we went out) and he says hes in love with me!
how do you know if your in love?


It is really hard to know if you're really in love. The first thing you need to do is ask your parents about it and tell them how you feel. Your parents have experienced many things and should be able to help you understand what love is, and if you're in love.


~Cindy

Posted by: starbucks<3 on 4/19/2008 4:41:53 PM

cool

Posted by: starbucks<3 on 4/19/2008 4:53:14 PM

i really like this guy but his not in my class and he nos who i am but that is about it anyone have any advice about it i desperatly need help

Posted by: volleyballgal on 4/19/2008 5:14:04 PM

my boyfriend and i have been dating for a month, and my mom doesn't want me to date yet. she won't talk about it to me whenever i bring it up, and if she found out i would be in serious trouble. she won't let me go out to the movies or newhere w/ anybody alone either. how should i go on a date with him then? plz and thxx for ne suggestions


Maybe you guys can go with a bunch of friends so it won't be just you guys. Other than that, maybe you can keep talking to your mom about this issue and show her that you're ready to date.


-Cindy

Posted by: alwayshavinfun324 on 4/19/2008 5:16:08 PM

Does anyone no how to make a profile ?


This feature is not yet available.


~Cindy

Posted by: volleyballgal on 4/19/2008 5:17:05 PM

MOD
If a guy flirts with you a lot and always stares at you (especially when you put your hair. idk why. lol) does that mean he likes you? I'm just wondering cause there are at least 3 guys in my class that do that to me. It gets old after a while.


I think guys are just intrigued by long hair and just watch girls put up their hair. If you guys talk to each other and he flirts with you then that might be something.


-Cindy

Posted by: GoldenGirl9595 on 4/19/2008 5:26:26 PM

MOD
I need some help. I'm trying to get over my friend who i still like but am having trouble getting over him. My friends tryed to convince me that he was a player, i just didn't believe them and see it. Then, i found out that he WAS a player and freaked. I'm really upset because i still really like him but he has NO idea that i do. What should i do?


You should just distract yourself with your other hobbies and find new friends and people to hang out with and like. =) -Cindy

Posted by: DC Girl on 4/19/2008 5:31:08 PM

MOD
I'm having trouble getting over my friend but i still like him. My friends tryed to convince me that he was a player but i didn't believe them and didn't see it. Now i found out that he IS a player and am really upset. The problem is, i still really like him but he has NO idea that i do. He just thinks we are FRIENDS. What should i do?

Posted by: DC Girl on 4/19/2008 5:34:23 PM

MOD
I need some help. I'm trying to get over my friend who i still like but am having trouble getting over him. My friends tryed to convince me that he was a player, i just didn't believe them and see it. Then, i found out that he WAS a player and freaked. I'm really upset because i still really like him but he has NO idea that i do. What should i do?


You should distract yourself with your hobbies and other extracurricular activities.  You should also rely on your friends and try new things and meet new people and just have fun! -Cindy

Posted by: DC Girl on 4/19/2008 5:36:12 PM

MOD
I need some help. I'm trying to get over my friend who i still like but am having trouble getting over him. My friends tryed to convince me that he was a player, i just didn't believe them and see it. Then, i found out that he WAS a player and freaked. I'm really upset because i still really like him but he has NO idea that i do. What should i do?


 

Posted by: DC Girl on 4/19/2008 5:39:38 PM

MOD
I need some help. I'm trying to get over my friend who i still like but am having trouble getting over him. My friends tryed to convince me that he was a player, i just didn't believe them and see it. Then, i found out that he WAS a player and freaked. I'm really upset because i still really like him but he has NO idea that i do. What should i do?


 

Posted by: DC Girl on 4/19/2008 5:42:51 PM

Dear DC girl,

Try forgetting the boy and move on.Plus, once a player, always a player!Besides,he's NOT the only boy out there! Smile

Tons of hugs,
GLfan

Posted by: GLfan on 4/19/2008 5:53:58 PM

hi

Posted by: sports1 on 4/19/2008 5:57:56 PM

hi sports 1!!!!wanna chat!?

Posted by: GLfan on 4/19/2008 6:04:59 PM

okay, I know this is stupid but, does any of you gals watch South Park? It's my favorite! Smile

Posted by: GLfan on 4/19/2008 6:06:54 PM

who's Kristin? is she new?!


Hey girl,
No, I'm not new, I just only mod on Saturdays!
~Kristin

Posted by: GLfan on 4/19/2008 6:09:09 PM

***MOD*** i have a problem, i dont feel comfortable talking to my parents about being in love Tong what should i do?


Hey girl, you don't have to talk to them about it if you really don't want to. You can wait until you're ready to and then bring it up otherwise just talk to your friends!
~Kristin

Posted by: starbucks<3 on 4/19/2008 6:17:04 PM

MOD Sorry for submitting my coment soo many times. I didn't think it was working. I'm trying my best to ditract myself. Well..truth is, he was my #2 guy (whatever you want to call him). I really like my other guy friend, let's call him, Pancho. I've tryed hinting to him that i like him. I went to his wrestling matches, and i try to talk to him when i can. We don't talk in class very much (not as much as we used to) and i don't like it. Most days go by with us just saying "hi" if that or him asking me about an assignment. He claims that we are friends but i don't know. Can you give me some advice on how to get my flirt on or atleast on improving our friendship?


Hey girl, you should just start talking to him about his weekend plans or something fun that happened recently. Find out how his latest assignment went or a recent test. Just mention anything that you guys have in common and you'll be dating before you know it!
~Kristin

Posted by: DC Girl on 4/19/2008 6:19:04 PM

**MOD** OMG, i've had this happen to me about four times now. Guys keep looking at me! This one guy kept turning around and looking at me during the WASL. Every time i looked up for about 5 minutes he was looking at me. Secon time: I was waiting for my mom after going to a wrestling match and i was looking out the window. This guy walked by outside and kept looking at me. He would turn around and look in my direction. When my Mom came to pick me up she asked who he was and i said, idk some random kid. She agreed that he was looking at me too! Three: I was on a school trip to NYC and we were eating dinner. There was this guy sitting across from me and my friend right next to me. I was mainly turned towards her but occassionally i would look straight ahead. Then the guy was like, "why do you keep looking at me?" "i don't know what u r talking about." i replied. "Why do u keep looking at me like that?" he said. "i'm not looking at u any certain way!" i said. Fourth: Some random kid at a wrestling match kept waving at me. I had no clue who he was but then decided to talk to me. WHAT IS UP MOD WITH THESE GUYS!!


Hey girl, this probably means that all these guys think you're pretty. You should be flattered!
~Kristin

Posted by: DC Girl on 4/19/2008 6:34:04 PM

MOD!!! and girls!! please help! My neighbor told me that his brother likes me. he is a really sweet guy and hes funny and cute and smart and i kinda like him...but he's 2 years younger than me! do you think i should just try to find someone my own age? I've never had a boyfriend before because guys at my school dont like me...please help me!! <3 tennisgrl10


Hey girl, you should only go for this guy if you like him back. If you don't then don't worry about it and just give it some time and before you know it you'll find the right boy!
~Kristin

Posted by: tennisgrl10 on 4/19/2008 6:44:57 PM

DC girl

ya g2 move on...i kno its hard but...ya g2 do it


and p.s.- im a DC addict too!!!

i got brown ones, love them!!

peace love and nanners

annamariedex

Posted by: annamariedex on 4/19/2008 7:20:26 PM

Does it count as a date if you go as a group?because my mom wouldn't let me go on group dates either...because my bf got kinda mad...i don't blame him bc he cud date...i am 12 and he is 13...do u think that is to young?just wondering and i think that is the reason y he broke up with me!! =[ and my mom can trust me 2!!!! i've never done anything to break her trust! please write back! and i talked 2 her about it like 2 or 3 times!

Posted by: Redray1996 on 4/19/2008 7:40:42 PM

MOD My 'rents are really annoying. they think that two sleepovers in a row is too much, and stuff like that. if i talk to them nicley bout it, i still get grounded. its like forbiden social life. im gonna b 13 in a few weeks, and im not aloud to see pg-13 horrow stuff!!!! my 'rents are too overprotective..... HELP!!!!! thnxs ya's


Hey girl, you should write them a letter and explain everything. Tell them why you wnat to do things and explain why you think you're old enough. You could even suggest doing more things around the house so that they see you're trying to be more responsible.
~Kristin

Posted by: ieatedchocolate on 4/19/2008 8:45:10 PM

hellooo? any1 still there?

Posted by: happyheathylove on 4/19/2008 9:15:45 PM

its a little late but...?

Posted by: happyheathylove on 4/19/2008 9:16:02 PM

? any1?

Posted by: happyheathylove on 4/19/2008 9:16:16 PM

hey mod I really want to start drivers ed! all of my other friends are starting this year, but i won't start drivers ed till my Sophomore year( i started pre-k early). my dad says he might not even let me start to drive then! how can i just stand by and watch?! love crosscountrybabe1


Hey girl, unfortunately there's not much you can do. You should find some other friends you have who are also younger and you guys can bond and complain about it together!
~Kristin

Posted by: crosscountrybabe1 on 4/19/2008 9:27:38 PM

MOD Yea I have got a major guy prob. So here goes: So there's my boyfriend and carpool named Cameron and a good guy friend of mine named Jeff. Cameron is reeeaally cute but he is so shy! The only time he's not is when we are watching movies or at a dance. At school he ignores me a bit when he's with his friends. Okay then there is like one of my closest guy friends ever, Jeff. I ask him everything and there is no limit to what we can talk about. He's a softmore but hes definately not as cute as Cameron. He talks to me nonstop, over text, which is a lot more than cameron does. And before Cameron got mad i would hang out with Jeff everyday afterschool. Jeff told me he loves me. I kinda like Jeff but obvioiusly i like cameron,too. mmmaaannnnn what do i do?? o yea and they both hate the guts out of each other.


Hey babes, it sounds like you have better chemistry with Jeff. Being cute isnt the thing you should base your relationships on, follow your heart to who makes you feel happiest and most comfortable. You dont have to like Jeff right away but at the same time I would give it a try, you want a guy thats going to talk to you and make you feel like you can say anything, not someone who notices you when its convenient to him

Posted by: kittie on 4/20/2008 5:32:05 AM

Mod I was chatting with my BGF Zach who's my secret crush at lunch on friday and I noticed that on his right arm,it had my name surroned by a heart.My friend Megan noticed it to.Well she told me that he wanted her to tell me he likes me and if I can go to Skateplex next weekend w/ him.I want to go but my mom won't let me go 'cause she thinks that I'll probably come home pregnant.Any advice?


Hey babes, why dont you wait until he actually asks you before you start to make plans. If you think he likes you and you definately like him, then ask him to do something instead of waiting for the invite to the skateplex. Then try to compromise with your mother, maybe have a group of kids go so its not just the two of you, she will be comfortable with that

Posted by: cookies on 4/20/2008 6:18:36 AM


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