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Dear Wants To Make Everybody Happy,
It’s impossible to make everybody happy. Really. If someone feels jealous or left out, it’s not necessarily your fault…or your problem to solve. Besides, does one girl have to be the “center of attention”? Continue to include the left-out girl in group activities, but drop the guilt. You clearly care about the feelings of others—and friends can’t ask for much more than that.
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BY ANDREA T. ON 4/25/2008 11:24:00 AM 243 COMMENTS
hi
♥outlawbaby07♥ on 4/25/2008 12:11:07 PM
something lk that is happening 2 me as well....
soccergurl94 on 4/25/2008 12:56:07 PM
MOD! I am in a friend group but I'm not sure they like me I feel left out and I don't know what to do. I want to ask them but I am afraid they will say no. MOD HELP! thanks
Hey! Why don't you start to take some control. Start arranging hang outs or invite them over to your house so you can feel more comfortable. Once they see that you're taking initiative, it might change some things.
<3 Laura
cortezandajax on 4/25/2008 1:01:48 PM
MOD! I think I'm REALLY mean I can't stop! Please help!
If you think you're mean, than you can TRULY be mean. For now, why don't you just make sure to think and pause before saying anything. Also, it may sound dumb, but try taking up yoga. It might calm your nerves a little
cortezandajax on 4/25/2008 1:10:16 PM
Mod Not an urgent problem or anything, but I'm going to prom soon and I can't find a decent hairstyle. Do you know of any website that can help me find the perfect 'do?
Did you check out the latest piece on 40's glamour waves on the style and beauty blog? That's a cute one.
JoBromance on 4/25/2008 1:13:33 PM
that is happening to me too but i am the one being left out
stylediva11 on 4/25/2008 1:25:02 PM
MOD, thanks for commenting
cortezandajax on 4/25/2008 1:31:10 PM
****MOD**** I just became a vegaterian. and when i told my friends, they say 'why???' and list all the bad points. Its so annoying how they they wont support me! I don't want to hear how bad it is for me. I heard 10 TIMES!!! Why won't anyone just say "Wow kool." Can you help me stop being selfish and tell my friends how I feel without being mean?
Explain to them why you decided to become a vegetarian. This is a huge step and there must have been some reasons why you became one. Let them know that this is important to you and it wasn't easy making this choice so you'd really appreciate support from the people you care about. -Cindy
kandlesrule101 on 4/25/2008 1:57:02 PM
My BFF moved and I feel sad. Any ideas??
hermione959 on 4/25/2008 2:00:05 PM
I really dont know the same thing is happening to me
Hannah Montana Rockz on 4/25/2008 2:03:38 PM
Cliques are so weird. THey don't like you one day,then the next you are bff's!!!
hermione959 on 4/25/2008 2:04:48 PM
I know you are upset about your friend moving but my sisters friend is moving to India in May.
Hannah Montana Rockz on 4/25/2008 2:05:15 PM
MOD I am part of two different groups of friends. This happened by becoming BFFs with two girls in Kindergarten, and thenone moved across the street but became kinda a brat, and then the other one being in all of my classes. Now, one is my "act totally goofy", "don't care", "weird and loving it" where I have the best fun and the other is my "let's go shopping", sometimes snotty, gossip kinda group. The latter group is the one I don't like as much, but that's the one in my class, and my favorite group isn't. The biggest problem is that one girl from each group hates eachother! When I am with the fun group, Evie will say "Let's go tell Brittany how much we hate her!" and then Brittany will talk to me about how much she hates Evie! I don't like Brittany, but she is one of my neighbors and a kinda part of the group! It's getting really annoying and I don't know what to do! Also, the fun group is in a whole nother team of classes, and they have other friends and boys in there calss that they talk about. Most of the people they talk about I've never even met! I really can't take this anymore!
Maybe next time you guys go out, you guys can invite these people that they're always talking about and you can meet them! Let Brittany and Evie know that you like both of them and it makes you really uncomfortable when they say things like that. -Cindy
aaaabbbbbbbbyyyyyyyy on 4/25/2008 2:11:54 PM
hermione959 my best friend moved 5 states away. Do as much as you can while they are still here. We had her sleep over a few nights while her parents got set up in their new house (it was actually like 10 days!) and while she was here we did tons of fun stuff like going to a photographers in Matching dresses and talking lots of pictures to hang in our rooms, and we painted a little house in my backyard with our footprints and went to a Paintin' Pottery place where we created our own little pottery with our fingerprints on it. Now we have all those things to remember. It was fun!
aaaabbbbbbbbyyyyyyyy on 4/25/2008 2:16:37 PM
i think im in love... he's a gift from above... i first saw him, standin' around, acting goofy, jumpin' off the ground... ___________________________________________ **chours** at first, i didnt know, at first, i didnt care, but now that you're here, hold me near, all i want to do is love you... _________________________________________ ()()()()()()()() i wrote that and i dont got anyore and i know it stinks but who cares
rikusgirl on 4/25/2008 2:47:39 PM
Mod My period is really irregular and has been for a while now. It's starts 3 or 4 weeks late and lasts only 4 to 5 days. My mom had period problems as well and had to have surgery to where now she doesn't have periods. Should I go in to the Dr. to see if I have a bit of a period problem too?
You should talk to your mom about this and maybe go see a doctor but usually when your still growing and your body is getting used the changes, your period is usually irregular for a while. -Cindy
jesusxfreak2 on 4/25/2008 2:50:20 PM
OMG, one of my besties feels left out 2.....
MissGymnast on 4/25/2008 3:03:47 PM
I am feeling left-out the same way and if you look at it from mine point of view, the advice doesn't really help me.
vballchick22 on 4/25/2008 3:12:26 PM
~MOD~ Hi there! I was wondering what you thought is a good age to get a (part-time) job. I REALLY want to work at my library (have you noticed the name? lol) but I dont know if I am to young to work. (I'm homeschooled so it wouldnt really be a problem)thanxs for the help!
I think you can start working anytie you think you're ready but usually you need a work permit if you're under 16 and it also depends on what your parents think. I would say maybe in middle school you might be ready to have a small stressfree part time job. -Cindy
bookworm14 on 4/25/2008 3:14:44 PM
Okay, so I have been wanting to get a lip piercing for a very long time now. My mom, I know, is just the type of person to come up with excuses to refuse. So, I looked up local parlors in my area, found the prices, searched for possible side effects, how to care for it, etc. I can afford to have the piercings done for myself. I asked my mom if I could get them (I even offered to take the choice of getting braces that she's been begging me to get). She said no, 'because it's ugly and disgusting.' I showed her all the info I found, and asked questions to people with experience, but she still refuses. My dad's fine with it, but I don't think it would be smart just to go with him and get it done. Is there anything that I could do to change her mind?
Maybe you could explain to her that even though she might think it's ugly and disgusting, to you, it's not. It's something that you've wanted for a really long time and you don't think you'll regret it (I hope you think this!) -Cindy
Alyss on 4/25/2008 3:36:17 PM
MOD- or anyone else that wants 2 answer- do you think 12 is too young to have a crush on someone? that's what all my teachers say but i really like this guy in my homeroom and people can't help that.
aerogirl1987* on 4/25/2008 3:46:21 PM
Hi mod, When do you post the winners for this week? Thanks ~Erin
Hey Erin! Winners are posted every Friday. -Cindy
whitecoconut on 4/25/2008 3:51:10 PM
mod so i started to like someone new but the problem is i barely know him and i only talk to him once and if i don't talk to him then he won't talk to me. Can u please help me thanks a bunch. xoxo
Well if you like him, just keep talking to him and eventually (and hopefully) you guys will become really good friends so that you won't always be the one to talk to him. -Cindy
daughtry lover on 4/25/2008 3:53:01 PM
for Wnats to make Everybody Happy, u should ask ur friend why she feels that u r center of attention. Then u should think about all ur friends activities from the past & figure out how ur friend became left out (if she really was), why it happened, & if u really were the center of attention, how can u make it better.
milk&honey_baby on 4/25/2008 3:55:34 PM
mod one more problem i like him but i still care about my old crush even though my head says i don't like him my hearts says i still have feelings for him.After the fact that he likes someone else
Hmm.. these things take time so maybe after a while you'll just get over him. =) Good luck! -Cindy
daughtry lover on 4/25/2008 3:59:44 PM
yeah mod but how do i get to know him when i only see him once
use that time to talk to him. Make good use of that one time. -Cindy
daughtry lover on 4/25/2008 4:10:04 PM
******************MODERATOR********************** What do you think of this song its like the first one on the page I know but my older sister had a laptob and I was on her name writting this song but I forgot to ask what you thought of it _________________________________________________ i think im in love... he's a gift from above... i first saw him, standin' around, acting goofy, jumpin' off the ground... ___________________________________________ **chours** at first, i didnt know, at first, i didnt care, but now that you're here, hold me near, all i want to do is love you... _________________________________________
Katie13 on 4/25/2008 4:18:26 PM
i feel soooo left out....my 2 bffs do everything 2gether and totally leave me out...they used 2 h8 eachother but i intriduced them and now ther bffs and they left me behind....
bl0ndieee on 4/25/2008 4:19:08 PM
*MOD* or *GL COMMENTERS lolz Me and my four friends have a group called the Fabulous Five lately my friend Kayra has been having some issues but she refuses to talk about it with ANY of the Fab Five and were her bffs! shes known most of us for abouut SEVEN years! But yet she refuses to open up even though I, and the others, have told her stuff going on in our lives. Do you have any ideas on how to get her to realize she can ALWAYS talk to us and she CAN trust us???? THANKS Hearts&Hearts Love what cha do~* Becca~*
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:19:48 PM
yeah, i know: i crave attention!!
prettycatholicgirl11 on 4/25/2008 4:21:07 PM
hi everyone
Katie13 on 4/25/2008 4:21:29 PM
JESUSFREAK~ I love your screenname on here!
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:22:02 PM
Im a vegetarian and EVRYONE always asks me "WHY WHY WHY" like "DO YOU HATE LITTLE BABY COWS?!?!!" it gets soo annoying. y cant they just say "cool" and MOVE ON?!?! sorry little spazz attack
bl0ndieee on 4/25/2008 4:22:12 PM
******************MODERATOR********************** What do you think of this song its like the first one on the page I know but my older sister had a laptob and I was on her name writting this song but I forgot to ask what you thought of it _________________________________________________ i think im in love... he's a gift from above... i first saw him, standin' around, acting goofy, jumpin' off the ground... ___________________________________________ **chours** at first, i didnt know, at first, i didnt care, but now that you're here, hold me near, all i want to do is love you...
Katie13 on 4/25/2008 4:23:15 PM
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Katie13 on 4/25/2008 4:25:15 PM
AAAABBBBBBYYYYYYYY- Thats great! yaaay my bffs moving to michagan and i live in CA so im sad
bl0ndieee on 4/25/2008 4:25:36 PM
******************MODERATOR********************** What do you think of this song its like the first one on the page I know but my older sister had a laptob and I was on her name writting this song but I forgot to ask what you thought of it _________________________________________________ i think im in love... he's a gift from above... i first saw him, standin' around, acting goofy, jumpin' off the ground... ___________________________________________ **chours** at first, i didnt know, at first, i didnt care, but now that you're here, hold me near, all i want to do is love you... THANK YOU!!!
Katie13 on 4/25/2008 4:26:31 PM
Hey peoples... Im sorta in a clique I guess were called the Fab Five and were 5 BFF's and we hold meetings where we discuss the rumers circultaing around the school and talk about the latest fashions and discuss if there are any issues amung the group like is anyone getting on someones nerevs yadayadaad... yeppers lolz
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:26:42 PM
*Mod* hows life? is it busy right now???
A little. What's up!? =) -Cindy
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:28:23 PM
Hey if anyone could help me with my Fab Five Friend issue lolz please comment! hearts&hearts~*Becca*~
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:29:34 PM
*MOD* are we alowd to put our email adresses up on here??
No sorry!! -Cindy
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:35:51 PM
Hey peoples im getting off in a second
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:36:42 PM
I HAVE QUESTION BECCA_ROX_MORE- so wait....what grade are you in, because it kindof makes a differnece on the Fab Five Clique if your in like 5th grade or if your in like 12th grade so yaa
bl0ndieee on 4/25/2008 4:36:43 PM
BYE GIRLS Hearts&Hearts~*BECCA*~
becca_rox_more on 4/25/2008 4:37:38 PM
MOD I got a job at a summer camp, but because of my age I will be working for my friends. I really don't want to be assistant, what could I do so that i could not work for my friends but still work there.
Maybe you can talk to the supervisor or whoever handles the hiring and human resources. It probably won't be so bad though, working for your friends. You guys can have fun together and its not like they're going to rudely boss you around. You guys can be like a team. =) -Cindy
dancenfille on 4/25/2008 4:54:24 PM
i know how you feel Wants To Make Everybody Happy. Well at school our group of friends is so big that sometimes i get left out.
aegirl6 on 4/25/2008 4:58:51 PM
Hey mod, when are you going to post this weeks winners? Thanks
It should be posted tonight. -Cindy
whitecoconut on 4/25/2008 5:01:51 PM
MOD I just found out this girl at my school cuts. I know it is true because she has cut marks all the way up her arms. How can i help her. im not really her friend but we aren't mean to each other, we just dont hang out together. Help!!
Cutting is a serious illness. Please talk to a trusted adult and/or your parents about this and help her get help. -Cindy
miley girl on 4/25/2008 5:06:21 PM
MOD!!!!!!!!!!111 Sorry to ask another question but, I was talking to one of my "friends" and she said i would be better if i talked more. I want to talk more but I just don't know how.. I don't stop talking at home. How can i make myself talk at school?? --------Ashley
Just relax and say what you want. Don't be afraid of what other people will think and be yourself. -Cindy
miley girl on 4/25/2008 5:08:20 PM
I have this guy friend that is one of my best friends. I recently found out that he likes me. We have gone through going out and liking each other and it didn't work out. I really don't want to mess up our friendship but I don't know how to let him down easy without hurting his feelings or our friendship. HELP!
If he says anything about liking you just tell him the truth and let him know that you really value his friendship and hope that nothing will change. -Cindy
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