ok, I've been going swimming like, every day this summer, and I haven't gotten my period yet, and I always get all paranoid about getting my period when I'm swimming
That would be the most embarassing thing ever. i love swimming (even though I'm not very good) but I'd rather never swim again then get my period in the pool.
People say your period stops when you get in the pool, but is that only if you've had it before and wear a tampon?

*confuzzled*

by indigo_chick on 6/20/2008 11:51:29 AM

MOD

Okay, so i get that I will sound obsessive and all, but this one guy and i texted a lot during the school year, and became pretty good friends. Then as soon as summer comes, he texts me somethin like hey, and i text back within 5 minutes and he doesn't reply! I think he is doing this on purpose, but I don't know why! Maybe he heard somethin? What do I do???

by katlovessoccer on 6/18/2008 11:08:53 PM

okay i have a question i am 14 and i have had my period since i was 12 well when i first got it it came every month for 5 to 7 days than over the summer going into eighth grade i stop getting it in August and didn't get it till October than i didn't get it again till February than i got it march and April but i didn't get it in may i am i late in June but when i do get it i only bleed for like 3 days if i am lucky. i asked my mom and she said i was okay but my friends all get it they say i am the lucky one because i never get it. than one day in science class my teacher was talking about missing periods when people are pregnant and my one friends screamed my name out loud sooo now like everyone know that i never get my period and they always seem to crack jokes it doesn't really bother me but is soooo annoying. i know i cant be pregnant because i have never had sex sooo what is wrong with me

by bLoNdE07 on 6/11/2008 1:01:29 PM

MOD- a few mods r saying that your period kind of stops in water, so would it b ok 2 not use a tampon or pad while swimming?? b/c im really scared 2 use tampons.

Hey Girl, Yea that is true, but it is best to use a tampon just to be on the safe side. You will most likely get it pretty soon after your done swimming (when your on your period). Dont be scared to use one either, they are totally safe, and the directions are there on the box. *Cara T.*

by aerogirl1987* on 6/4/2008 11:52:12 AM

hey mods!
im going out with this guy....every time we break up i start to lyke him again! i feel bad whenever that happens and we always end up back together. but...theres this other guy who [rumor has it] will ask me out on friday! i really [i mean REALLY] really lyke this guy....but i dont wanna break up with my boyfriend! but...my bf said tht im the only reason that hes going 2 our graduation dance...i dont wanna b the reason that he misses his last dance! plealse help! ur help will b much appreciated!
thx...savvy

hey Girl, You to decide who you really and truly like. If you are into this other guy then you should prob end things with your BF because you cant lead him on. Tell him tho that you still want to be friends and that he still needs to go to the dance to have fun with everyone. Just try not to keep going back and forth, becuase it will only make things harder for him. *Cara T.*

by I <3 The JoBros on 6/4/2008 7:51:51 AM

one thing... my mom won't let me use them because they break something that only sex breaks so i can't use a tampon!

by x_livin_the_life_x on 6/4/2008 6:39:43 AM

I got braces my teeth are really sore the next day tho!

by flipmonkey24 on 6/3/2008 5:30:18 PM

MOD-
i want my teeth 2 b shiny white!
like celebs.
how can i get those?
my teeth r kinda turning yellow,
but i brush my teeth every single day.
i do use teeth whiteners,
but they don't really work.
what should i do?

hey ! 

You can buy whitening strips from the market and using whitening tooth paste to help make them whiter. Ashley<3

by Buh-Bah on 6/3/2008 5:22:06 PM

Mod Mod Mod Mod Mod
Thank you so much ashley!!! I just have one more question...how do you become a mod???? I give my friends advice all the time and I would really be interested11!!!! ET BACK TO ME ASAP!!
lUV yA!

hey! YOu have to be either in high school or college to be a mod. Ashley<3

by xohollistercalixo on 6/3/2008 4:04:17 PM

hello

by xohollistercalixo on 6/3/2008 3:43:05 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
Ok.well my mom is taking me to get a bra dn i figured out that i am a 28a....very small....when i went online to the store that we are going to...they only have their bras in a size as small as a 30a. Will I fit into a 30a? I dont care if it is a tiny bit big...but i dont want it so big where it looks like I stuff my bra. Will it fit??
Mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod mod or anyone else that can help!!!!!!

hey! The best thing to do would be to talk to the lady at the store, because she knows best. Ashley<3

by xohollistercalixo on 6/3/2008 3:40:04 PM

***mod***
i've been reading up on the nair products and my mom said that they burn,but it was like probably 10 years ago when she used them.I really want to wax,but i don't knowhow to be convincing enough.any ways to convince her

Hey Girl, new Nair products aren't painful, especially the newest line they just came out with called Nair Pretty, made just for teens! Don't buy anything without asking your mom first. And as far as waxing goes, it's really expensive and pretty painful to go through. I'm sure you'll be fine with regular razors or using Nair.  ~Callie R.

by squirrly girl on 6/3/2008 8:07:01 AM

Thanks for answering my question Jana^^ But I don't want to go to a professional to get my underarms waxed (can you say awkward?), is there any really good way I can do it myself?

Besides using Nair, I really dont think you should try to wax or anything, I bet people dont even notice. xoxo JANA

by kaattiiee on 6/2/2008 5:23:04 PM

hey anyone here?

by kaattiiee on 6/2/2008 4:59:03 PM

hey idk y evry body is making such a big deal over braces- u can always just get invisibrace or
except it and get bright colors and make them match your personality... plus they dont hurt at all... maybe a little when your getting them on but i think that is because you have to keep your mouth open for a while so your lips get all dry.. so just wear a lot of lipgloss.
other than that they are completely pain free. also peoploe exagerate that you cant eat certain foods. u dont have to follow those guidelines, i eat every thing and the food cant litterally break the brackets. food just get stuck in them and it is a pain to get out some times. thats all i can think of about braces and dont listen to most people cause people exagerate ALOT and you can get wrong information

by got2cheer195 on 6/2/2008 3:47:04 PM

dear volleyballlx3
i think that you should just explain to hannah that you dont like him like you thought u did. she might be mad at you for a while but then she should understand what you mean and what you feel. then you should tell ryan. say that hes a really good friend and you did like him but you think you would be better off as friends. they might be mad at first but you dont want to hurt them later on and hurt them worse.
hope i helped

by vollin_bballin_soccerchick on 6/2/2008 3:17:45 PM

*********************mod*********************** HELP! i'm sooo sad!i haven't stopped crying all day! one of my three dogs died!well we had to put him to sleep.he had a stroke last night,and this morning he used the bathroom in his bed(which he never does),hes eyes were rolling(which made him dizzy),he couldn't walk,and he could barely breathe.he was 12 in human yrs. when they put animals to sleep,do they burry them,or do something else.please help me.i haven't eaten much today,and i think i may starve myself(i've been suicidal for like months) please please help

Aw girl, I am so sorry. We had to put our dog to sleep last year and it was HORRIBLE. Just cry yourself out. It gets better but it takes a while. Hurting yourself wont help anything and it will add stress to your family. Talk it out, everyone knows how hard it is to lose a pet, they are part of the family and those things take time to heal. xoxo JANA

by squirrly girl on 6/2/2008 2:34:16 PM

Mod, I have these weird redish-purplish dots on my foot. They almost look like a rash but they won't go away. It's kind of embarassing when i go bare foot because some people think they are warts, but i know they aren't.It's been about three weeks and they still won't go away! Do you have any advice??

Hey Girl, to be honest I'm not sure, I would check it out with your doctor. *Cara T*

by allidocious on 6/2/2008 12:45:01 PM

why cant they get a chatroom here, so that people aren't just talking bout their problems when NOBODY CARES!

by CurlyQ on 6/1/2008 7:42:26 PM

I just Brush everyday. ORLANDO BLOOM!!! <3

by jujubugs on 6/1/2008 5:48:29 PM

MOD

i like a lot of guys but i am to shy to guy out with them. How can i build up my confidence?

by fortunecookie07 on 6/1/2008 4:23:24 PM

this is good to know!! I have this little stain on one of my teeth (I was born with it) that maybe I can try to whiten... I'll have to ask my mom! Yay!
L
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♥, Cassi

by miss_sunshine on 6/1/2008 11:18:14 AM

o.... i forgot to add.......
HE LIKES MY BEST FRIEND AND IT BREAKS MY HEART!!
:sad: *tear tear*

by vollin_bballin_soccerchick on 5/31/2008 8:29:49 PM

MOD! i have a major problem. i know its long and im sorry if the site is busy so take as much time as you need.

okay well there's this guy named "ryan" and he asked me out 3 times in the past couple months. i said no each time cause i didnt want a boyfriend. but on the 3rd time, i started to like him the next day. so later on my best friend "hannah" starts going out with him. i was okay with it but at my 13th birthday party they KISSED. and thats a huge thing at my school. i couldnt take it anymore so i told my guy friends that i liked ryan and they told him. i was texting ryan the next day and we were talking about how i liked him and then he told me that he likes me more than hannah. so hannah pretty much gave ryan to me. she was upset and mad at me and i felt like a horrible backstabber. thankfully, we are back to being best friends again. i told ryan that we have to wait til summer so hannah can get over him. but hannah is already cool with it. so last night, a huge group of my friends went to the movies. and me and ryan were sitting next to eachother. and i ended up having my first kiss. i was really happy at first but i went to my friends house and i felt like i didnt even like ryan anymore. its so weird. im not even going out with him and i dont even think i want to. i feel like i have to go out with him because after all that hannah went through and all that ryan went through. i really dont want to kiss him again. but hannah told me that she will never talk to me again if i dont go out with him [she doesnt know about me not liking ryan though] so i have absolutely NO CLUE what to do. i just want to get out of this situation so badly. and i feel so stupid for even interferring with hannah and ryan in the first place.

can you give me any advice?

THANKS

by volleyballlx3 on 5/31/2008 7:30:05 PM

**********************MOD*************************Hey ashley! help me! my school is having a swim party and i really want to go but i started my period today! Now I can't go swimming because i'll get blood in the pool!

by x_livin_the_life_x on 5/31/2008 5:51:31 PM

Mod?~? i need to ask you something: Ok. So my friend is going out with a guy named Connor, but she doesn't like him. She only said yes to him because he's really nice, and because Connor's friend told her she wouldn't regret it. Now, she knows it's wrong to go out with Connor when she doesn't even like him, even though he is really nice. If she breaks up with him, everyone will get really mad at her, but she needs to know a way to tell him the truth and to break up with him in a nice way. HELP!

She just needs to sit down with him and tell him that she isn't attracted to him.  It's going to hurt him, but she needs to do it asap so that he isn't hurt even more later on. -lauren

by x_livin_the_life_x on 5/31/2008 5:35:29 PM

*Mod* What ARE good brands of teeth whitners? I'm thinking of getting some after I get my braces off this summer

hey! crest has good ones! xoxoashley

by crazybananas16 on 5/31/2008 1:10:25 PM

Ugh.. I could use these at least for important things like concerts, But I can't because of my braces

by xmary101 on 5/31/2008 10:47:50 AM

ok well most whiteners are good but some can be bad go to your dentist and he should give you the right whiteners

-advice giver

by england on 5/31/2008 7:29:54 AM

I love crest whitening strips...i actually have some on right now!! they make a real difference

by paulnringoluver on 5/30/2008 7:14:34 PM

******************mod**************
i went to Blue Bayou (a water park) yesterday and i was wearing some new shorts.I've lost some weight in my thighs and so they kind of rubbed together,and i think the short-shorts made it worse,so now i have a red protruding rash in between my thighs,and it burns when i try to put lotion on it.is there any way i can make it better?

by squirrly girl on 5/30/2008 8:12:09 AM

****MOD******* I totaly just ruined my first oyfriend i was about to have! i said to all my firned that i didnt like this guy but i do!! and now i cant tell them i lied i am just going to have to get over with it becuase i know he likes i ask 3 differnt mods about the same stuff and diff stuff they ll said I thiknk he likes you or Wow you are in luck! and now i ruined it! what should i do

hey girl! im sorry to hear that, but maybe it will get better.  you could just say that you didnt mean it and maybe it will pass and go back to normal.  its kind of an unpredictable situation, sorry i cant really be of more help!

--Avery

by jenny on 5/29/2008 8:00:34 PM

thx Ashley!!!! You helped a ton!!! I had no idea that it would stop in the water. But I do have 1 more question...(SORRY! I'm sure u r busy) What about the time when I'm not in the water? won't it make a mess?? I'm so scared!!

hey girl!

Just make sure you have extra pads with you at all time, or you can try using a tampon. Ashley<3

by LYC13 on 5/29/2008 3:49:47 PM

Bunhead-
don't worry about the braces. my brother got his this year (as a junior) and they are already off. but the time varies for ppl so idk. also lots of people in my grade (freshman) got braces this year. like EVERYONE, really. except me, I have some other thing and I would way rather have braces.
they also have those braces that are tooth colored so you can barely see them. or maybe u could get invisalign... a couple of my friends have that...

by M... on 5/29/2008 3:31:25 PM

MOD!!
I like this guy in my art class and he's really nice to me, but seems like a slacker in school a bit. HE made a huge mess today I started to clean it up, he helped, then more people joined in and he said we could finish it. Whenever he makes jokes he looks at me afterwards. He talks to me a real lot. How do I know if he's flirting with me or just being nice? Also how do I flirt back without being mean or a know it all?
P.S He's also popular and I'm not.

hey girl!
Just keep talking to him and see if you get the feeling that he likes you. Also, see if he talks to you alot or other girls also, that way you can tell if he likes you or not. BUt it sounds like he does! Ashley<3 

by bubbilyspaz3 on 5/29/2008 2:48:55 PM

So wait.....I'm twelve and my teeth are yellowy (just cuz they grew in that way- allergies and vegitarianism together did it.)
My mom says that white strips strip the enamel off your teeth and that they aren't healthy or anything. But people have been noticing my icky teeth.
Is it O.K. and how do I convince the maternal unit??? (mom)

by imastermind on 5/29/2008 2:18:35 PM

Hey Mod!!!!
Ok I am like, thirteen and a half. I basically have no boobs and am generally not very developed. I am been having (ewww I know this is sooo weird) reguler discharge (gak!) for a little more than a month. how long will it be til i get my period. do some ppl get their periods before boobs? thanks!

Hey Girl, every girl's body is different so there aren't any 100% sure signs for when you'll be getting your period for the first time. And yes, a lot of girl's don't develop until after they get there period, it just depends on your own body's order of things. In fact, a girl's boobs might not stop growing until her early 20s!  ~Callie R.

by brunettebombshell on 5/29/2008 9:51:49 AM

MOD MOD MOD MOD...
Okay well i know u are supposed to like your body b/c everyone is different but i dont like alot of things about my body that my mom says everyone wants. Like, i have a hourglass figure, also i have big lips that my mom says ppl are getting injections for, and thick hair which i hate. Pplease help me to forget about these things and like them.

Hey Girly, I can promise you that your mom is right about all of those things but I understand if you're not happy with your body right now. Try to wear clothes or style your hair in ways that make you feel comfortable. The next time you're out shopping, buy a new lip gloss for your pout or a funky headband for your hair and I bet the compliments you receive will make your confidence sky rocket!   ~Callie R.

by FriendsAreMyLife on 5/29/2008 8:14:24 AM

I have not had my period yet and I am 12.is that normal? All of my friends have had one and said it really hurts, is that true? Should i be scared to have my period? how do I kno when I am having it if there is no blood? Should i use tampons or pads when i get it because my friend said she uses pads and her sis says that tampons are a lot better.

Hey Girly, it's totally normal not to have your period yet at age 12. You shouldn't be scared to get it, all girls get it eventually. When you do get it, you might have cramps which can be painful but just ask your parents if you can take a pain reliever (ex: aspirin, tylenol). Using tampons or pads is totally up to you, whatever you feel comfortable with. You might want to start with pads if you're too nervous to start with tampons.  ~Callie R.

by i_love_monkeys on 5/29/2008 6:55:40 AM

Mod??? I need serious help!!!!Ok so I like this guy. He sits next to me in science and we talk a lot. He always laughs at my jokes. He has the same gym period as me but we are in different classes. We go swimming in gym and we have to go check in with the teacher first before we can swim. He is always looking at me when we do this. Yesterday he was walking around the gym with the Special Ed kids( he helps out in their PE class) and he kept watching me. As he rounded the corner he looked over his shoulder and then turned around so he could watch me. He also starts talking to me when I go to my locker. My friends say he likes me and I think so too. I want to ask him out, but we only have 2 days left of school (today and tomorrow). Should I ask him out now or wait until next year???
PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!

Hey Girly, it sounds like you two like each other but if you're not going to see him a lot over the summer, maybe you shouldn't jump into a relationship too quickly. Exchange screen names or phone numbers and talk over the summer so you stay in touch. And if you live close enough, ask your parents if you can hang out with him and other friends. Then when next school year comes around, it won't be the first time you've talked to him in 3 months and you can get to know him outside of school.  ~Callie R.

by ilovetanner125 on 5/29/2008 5:30:46 AM

MOD
for the first time ever, I actually don't like anyone. a guy asked me out and I said no and a big drama started. since then, for the first time since like 1st grade ( i kno, sheesh! ) I don't like anyone. I've been making friends with a lot of cool guys and I think some of them are crushing back. is it just because I'm not liking any1 that I notice? or are guys just kinda jokingly friendly and I'm mistaken?

It could be both. It could be that since you're not "trying" for anyone, you're able to be more yourself and guys are more attracted. Who knows. But there's nothing wrong with not having a crush on anyone -- enjoy your ability to be friends with these guys and be yourself! Most girls can only wish they could have that.

<3 Jessie M.

by blubryblast on 5/28/2008 8:12:13 PM

I actually use strips. Thy work really good!

by *DubbleDipped* on 5/28/2008 7:32:51 PM

*****Mod*****
What is the best way to get a guy to admit to you who they like....i think he likes me and I asked another mod and she said that she thought he liked me.....so how can i get him to tell me?

Well, it's less likely he'll tell you if it's you! lol Cause regardless if he likes you or not, he may not have the guts or be ready to tell you. If you like him, it might help him feel more confident if you hint that you like him back...

<3 Jessie M.

by TulipRoxMySox on 5/28/2008 7:16:28 PM

MOD
hey...ok whats a nice way like idk how to say it like i guess let your friend know thats she needs to give it a rest like shut up!! not to be mean!! my friend keeps talk and talking about this guy she likes and i like him too and i never said anything too her about him but it makes me really uncomfortable!! like just in general. idk its always about her it seems like she'll be all hey how are you? and then before you get a word in shes already on to talking about herself... or ok how bout how do you let her know youve already heard something!?!? like ok she tells me the same story 10-20 times and im like oh yeah and shes like wait let me finsh my story your the only one who will listen!! when i try like change the subgect towards me or my life!! its getting stressful!
please help!
love you GL!♥

Sounds like you need to have a talk with her. One of those, "I'm your friend and I love you, but I want to be honest with you" kind of talks. Just let her know that sometimes it bothers you that she always tends to turn the convo around to her -- that it makes you feel like she doesn't care about what you have to say. And when she's telling you a story you've already heard, just say, "Yeah, I remember you telling me about that!" and give a little more of the story so she realizes you already know.

<3 Jessie M.

by x0crazycurls0x on 5/28/2008 6:37:00 PM

***MOD!!!***
HELP! I know that we're supposed to accept our bodies, but it's SO hard for me. See, I have really wide hips, but a tiny waist and the smallest possible size in bras and a jeans size of 7/8 and I always feels self concious about no chest and huge ugle thigs and if I eat it goes straight into my thighs but if I go on a diet I lose more of my chest and I barley have any. HELP!!!!!

You have a pear shape, it sounds like. Every girl is shaped differently, and sometimes you just have to accept it and dress to make what you have look awesome. Not all clothes are created equal, so try to learn about what is flattering for your shape and stick to those principles. If you make what you have look great, you won't feel as self-conscious.

<3 Jessie M.

by Creationistgirl on 5/28/2008 5:51:22 PM

Mod*******
My bff's parents smoke- a lot. It's terrible! They are killing themselves and their only child (secondhand smoke). I always turn down offers to sleepover because her house smells like smoke and I can't stand to see her parents smoking! She gets mad and I feel bad, but I just hate smoke! And we just learned about it in Health and how you can stop your parents from smoking and she still didn't do anything about it!!!!! Is there any way I can save my friendship and her parents? Are there any ways to get them un-addicted? Your help is appreciated!!!

Unfortunately it's one of the hardest habits to quit, and though it's nice that you care, it's technically not your place to try to get them to quit, you know? The only thing you can really do is nicely tell your friend that you're sorry, but the smoke really bothers you and that's why you don't sleep over. Make sure she understands it's nothing personal against her.

<3 Jessie M.

by GeM&C on 5/28/2008 5:30:34 PM

HEY ASHLEY!
i got a question for you, if you dont mind!
Ok, so i'm really sad because my crush wont talk to me. Its not what you think... ohkay so since the begining of the shool year, my crush has liked me BFFL, i dont mind because i get lots of time to hang out with him we recently after his dad died, he wont talk to me or her! i mean once in a while he sais hey and gives me a hug from behind but i miss the real him. we never talk or hang out and i MISS HIM!!!!!
any ideas?
oh yeah,
he just started going out with the most popular gr 7 in school :S

hey! since right now he is taken, just try to be good friends with him! in a time like this he needs support! just get to know him better right now and see where it goes. xoxoashley

by emma.xo on 5/28/2008 5:06:11 PM

hello every1!!!

xoxo.love.xoxo.

by vollin_bballin_soccerchick on 5/28/2008 4:44:55 PM

MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!
and any1 else who wants to help....
kk......me and my bf have been going out for a couple months and we have kissed 2ce. the last time when we kissed we thought we got caught and havent kissed sense. i really want to kiss again but im afraid to kiss him but not if he kisses me...... i know lame. but what should i do??????

PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ HELP ME!!!!

xoxo.love.xoxo.

by vollin_bballin_soccerchick on 5/28/2008 4:29:42 PM

BANANALOVESJACK

what whiteners do u use? How long do they hurt 4? IDK if my mom would let my use them but i really need them when i get my braces off in august I AM SOOOO HAPPY IM GETTING THEM OFF I ONLY HAD 2 HAVE THEM 4 1 YEAR BUT STILL WOOT WOOT

by beachbabe2606xo on 5/28/2008 4:16:13 PM

Mod***
Help! All of these girls in my school (it's a very small, private school) are super super skinny. Some of them look practically emaciated or anorexic (even though they aren't!)!!! All of the boys fall for them when I probably have a better personality then half of them. It's not fair! Help! The other thing is that I am kind of overweight- strictly speaking, 145 lbs.!!! And I'm only in 7th grade! It's terrible I've been on diets and I'm on two softball teams, and these skinny girls don't excercise at all (no sports) and eat all of this junk food!! Help me!! Your help is appreciated***

hey! if you are worried about your weight, try doing more cardio and sit up s and crunches. it sounds  like you are active and can handle it! It sucks sometimes because some people have really high metabolism and others dont. just try to eat healthy and exercise a lot! and for the boys, they are just immature. wait for a guy who likes you for who you are! xoxoashley

by GeM&C on 5/28/2008 4:02:52 PM

I h8t whiting stripes!

by Clique_Poseurs on 5/28/2008 3:51:28 PM

I'm getting braces in two weeks! Do they hurt?

by kelly94 on 5/28/2008 3:37:47 PM

ohh and another thing is that this summer i wanna get really tan (because im like really pale) so ill have like pearly whites and a cute little tan and then ill get my jack!! iloveehimmm. (: <3

by Bananalovesjack on 5/28/2008 3:09:52 PM

umm brushing doesnt always make them white. i brush 2 times a day and i wish i could use strips or something because i dont have pearly white teeth.

by barefoot4ever on 5/28/2008 3:00:18 PM

hey hey!!

by ieatedchocolate on 5/28/2008 2:54:32 PM

i use teeth whiteners. I'm a teen and they work really well. I recently got the braces off and your teeth sometimes don't come out as white as you want them to so I really recommend them!

by Bananalovesjack on 5/28/2008 2:51:57 PM

ew, why would you want to use teeth whiteners when you could just brush your teeth

by shoppergal523 on 5/28/2008 2:43:08 PM

First Comment!!!!

by SportGirl22 on 5/28/2008 2:29:41 PM