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My older sister just ran away to London about a month ago. She was never really nice to me or anything but when she left it hurt me a lot. It probably hurt my mom about 10 times more. I have to basically force my mom to eat. My dad doesn't really care and he isn't helping my mom much at all. So I feel like everything has basically fallen on me to take care of. It was really hard having to be in school, and it's even harder being home alone during the summer. My sister still hasn't talked to my family except to saythat she's safe. How can I handle this? And how can I handle my mom? Help please! -AnonymousWow! She ran away… to a completely different continent!? That’s pretty major. I can definitely understand that your parents are upset about it (though they may show it in different ways) and that may put a lot of pressure on you. But don’t take it upon yourself to clean up your sister’s messes. You shouldn’t have to worry about taking care of your mom – just try to help her cope. Cheer her up whenever you can, but don’t become her mom. It’s understandable that she’s upset, but she still has to take responsibility for herself and her remaining family. Just do your best to be there for her and give her moral support because I’m sure she’s extremely worried about your sister. And try not to take it personally, either. Your sister didn’t leave because of you. She most likely left because of her own personal problems and desire to be independent. Just hope that she does ok for herself and learn from her mistakes – learn how to handle a situation like hers in a better way that doesn’t hurt so many people. <3 Jessie M.
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BY ANDREA T. ON 7/17/2008 10:29:00 AM 137 COMMENTS
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<3nicole<3 on 7/17/2008 11:01:08 AM
wow i feel so sorry for you! i wish there is something i could do!
SportyBFF25 on 7/17/2008 11:02:40 AM
wow. im really sry 4 u. how old was she?
larkibabi on 7/17/2008 11:04:10 AM
wow!!!
rising on 7/17/2008 11:16:28 AM
omg a diff continent.....!!! you should just leave your mom aalone.....try not to ask for too much and maybe go to a nice family dinner or trip to change the mood
xglgurllx on 7/17/2008 11:16:40 AM
I hope your sister can still visit you 1 or 2 times a year. Hope it works out. ~FabulousGirl101~
FabulousGirl101 on 7/17/2008 11:17:22 AM
omg im planning 2 run way 2 canda when im 17 1 more year
Augusty on 7/17/2008 11:39:10 AM
AUGUSTY~ AUGUSTY~ AUGUSTY~ AUGUSTY~ why do u wanna run away to canada and i meen why not wait till ur eighteen then its not running away and umm why when ur 17 just move to canada when ur 18 i meen come on u gotta be kiddin me im 13 and im saying this to someone who should be um more smart than that stay home till ur 18 then ur not running away and ur not hurting ur family or friends really and ur not dropping out of school (inless when u get out of school ur 17 thats how my sis is) but anyway u need to think about ur choices befor u do it dont do something that ur gonna regret when u get older and technically when u turn 18 its not running away and i meen ddo u really wanna loose contact with ur family to be able to see em i meen letters and e-mail and the phone is much more different than being by there side and talking to them dont put ur famiy through that i think i speak for all the gl blogger girls when i say this think befor u act!!! ~loves the best
totally-inluv-witdat-brown-eyed-boy on 7/17/2008 12:12:15 PM
y do u want 2 run away 2 canada? Dont u c what u wud b doin 2 ur family? Do u want that 2 happen 2 ur family?
beachbabe2606xo on 7/17/2008 12:18:01 PM
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. That must be tough, but I agree with Jessie M. Good luck!
jonas_brothers on 7/17/2008 12:20:21 PM
i'm sooooooo sorry! i feel so bad!
5dramaqueen on 7/17/2008 12:29:38 PM
wow. and i thought my family probs were bad. im sooo sorry for you and my best advice would be maybe to talk to someone like ur best friend or maybe even consider getting a counselor. they sound scary, but they make you feel a whole lot better.
panic_is_wat_we_aim_for on 7/17/2008 12:34:56 PM
augusty! do not do that! did you even read the story! it will affect your family and friends dramtically. you really should thik about that. you should stay two more years until your 18 and then MOVE there.
got a question? ask me! on 7/17/2008 12:42:16 PM
True dat! Well said totally-inluv-witdat-brown-eyed-boy! Wow, thats a long name. can I just call you TIWBEB? Anyway, your sister ran away! Omg thats 2 bad. Well, you might not think so now but everything happens 4 a reason, and maybe your sister jut needs some time 2 herseft 2 think and stuff. London, though. Wow. Guess she just REALLY needed some space. Don't sweat it though cause eventually everything will fall into place.
Cullenluvr on 7/17/2008 12:44:09 PM
totally-inluv-witdat-brown-eyed-boy I TOTALLY agree with you! I am also 13 and I think that Augusty should put more thought into what she is thinking about doing. ~Augusty~ You should not run away! Do you seriously think that is a good thing? why would you want to run away?? I just have to say one thing: THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU REGRET IT. hope i helped..
Crusher on 7/17/2008 12:44:37 PM
wow thats relly smart but never run away from home cuz in my opinion it would crush everyone in your family n it is dangerous out n the world all by ur self
basketballchic on 7/17/2008 12:56:25 PM
I think that augusty is totally wrong. You don't even know what the girl has been through, so yah
Graciejck on 7/17/2008 12:56:49 PM
***MOD!*** I'm going on vacation tomorrow, and I can't believe I'm saying this, but I need to tone up my thighs. Quick! Do you have any short exercises that can get me fast results? Or even some long-term results that will save me from embarrassment at school? I'm deciding to wait before I put on my skinny jeans. Especially in this weather!
Hey Girl, try doing lots of Squats, lunges, and strertching, also try to do some running too! *cara T*
girlnextdoor123 on 7/17/2008 1:03:33 PM
Wow....that must have hurt...i dont know what to say other than i hope things start lookin up
mozzarellastick9 on 7/17/2008 1:24:05 PM
Wow! I wonder how old she was. If she was like 20 i understand but like 15, that is bad
hermy269 on 7/17/2008 1:33:04 PM
wow......
rmizzy123 on 7/17/2008 1:35:06 PM
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rmizzy123 on 7/17/2008 1:36:10 PM
omg that is sooo sad it is just the oppist for me, my brother went into the airforce, got out, got married (without telling us), and i havent seen him for 5 years. but thankfully he matured a bit and is now moving back into the same state. so just keep hope, your sister will come back sooner or later, she propley just needed to get away for awhile. but she will be back
lea1234567898 on 7/17/2008 1:41:03 PM
i kinda know how you feel a bout 3 weeks ago my left he said he has been waiting til he was 18. so i guess its not running away.but it still hurt especially the he left all he said was im leaving and just grab his stuff and left. and that was it. geez just typing this is getting me teary eyed and i dont even know why me and brother didnt even get along.well yea just wanted to say i get how har it is.
emochick2011 on 7/17/2008 1:49:41 PM
hey anyone wanna chat?
mozzarellastick9 on 7/17/2008 1:57:05 PM
Mod* i have a question what does exfoiliate mean?
Exfoliate means to use a scrub or loofah (with body wash on it) to take off the top layer of dead skin cells. This is recommended to even out skin tone on your face (only using an exfoliator specifically for faces, not body washes) or to make your skin smoother for a more even surface to put on sunless tanner. When you exfoliate, you should always use lotion because the now cells on the top layer are new and fresh and need extra moisture to stay smooth. ~Callie
drama_queen93 on 7/17/2008 2:04:08 PM
**Mod or girls pleeease!** OK, so I looove to sing. I really want to sing musical theater, and this Saturday is my first voice lesson. Even though I'm concentrating on that style, I've been singing a little bit of contemporary (stuff on the radio). I've been getting better, but sometimes when I go to reach the high notes, my voice cracks reeaaally bad. Also, when I sing it's been sounding kind of scratchy lately. Does anyone have any tips or maybe know why that's happening? Thanks!!!
oochrissumzzoo on 7/17/2008 2:26:46 PM
*********************MODERATOR********************** i really really really like this guy that goes to the all boys school across the street from me but im afraid hes only talking to me to be nice. i mean we talk like once or twice every 2 weeks and im almost always the first person to IM him. he talks A LOT though and hes really nice and funny but the fact that he doesnt IM me, makes me think that he doesnt want to talk to me. hes IMed me first 4 times total. also, sometimes he doesn't respond to my IMs. but a few weeks ago he told me to text him and he gave me his number...but then i didnt have a cell phone. i just got mine back today, but im scared to text him!! what if he doesnt want to talk to me?? what do i do????? please help! thanx <3
sweetiehearts1212 on 7/17/2008 2:28:59 PM
MoD!MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my friends has bacne on chest shoulders and back shes been trying this body wash but it doesnt help she doesnt know what to do is it true that if u get sun it will help?
Hey Girl, I havent heard that before, but tell your friend to go to a dermatologist before it gets worse and so she can stop stressing over it. *cara T*
idk9898 on 7/17/2008 2:40:39 PM
Hey, guys! SCHOOL♥TIPPER here.
Hey School Tipper, we love your tips and advice for the girls on the site but we can't advertise your site on the GL website because of safety and legal issues. Sorry girl, but if you can keep it up on the GL website, we'd love you have you, if not, thanks for the tips so far ~Callie
school♥tipper on 7/17/2008 2:52:53 PM
wow, that must be really tough on you! but like the mod said, remember that it's not your fault this happened!!!
sparksgal on 7/17/2008 2:59:59 PM
HEY GIRLS! My tip didn't get posted yesterday so here it is! Look at your desk. Is it clutterd to the MAX? Papers from, last year?? Laundry covering the area? You'll be suprised, how much your grades improve by having a nice workspace! Well here are some tips to get a cluttered free desk! * DAILY TIP * Step one- Get three boxes. Label one, school supplies, another JUNK that DOESN'T need to be on the desk, and then last, school papers/notes. Your desk should be spottless right now.. Step two-- ORGANIZE! Go on down to a target or Kmart or Wallmart, and get a paper rack, one crate, and little cubbies/boxes that will fit in you drawers.. you can get these at the dollar store even! Also, if you don't have a desk lamp, i recomend getting one Step three-- Once your back home, put everything in its place! Notebooks and folders go in a drawer, label them neatly! Put erasers, paperclips, lead etc. in the little cubbies, and place them neatly in the drawer. Put the crate off to the side, and place EVERY SINGLE piece of paper that your teacher hands back, they come in handy for finals!! Place pens, pencils, highlighters in your pencil holder, set that to the upper left hand corner. Then your paper trays, for homework ( please label ) into the center so you can easily reach them. Then your lamp in the upper right hand corner, for those late night study sessions. now... There shouldn't be ANYTHING that can distract you! If your jewelry is on your desk, take it off! Don't put anything on your desk that you wouldn't put in your locker/ backpack!! OH! Before i forget, i recomnet a bulliton board and a dry erase calender to keep your dates!!! MORE TIPS COMING YOUR WAY, ASK AWAY!! ~Schooltipper12466~
schooltipper12466 on 7/17/2008 3:14:11 PM
I'm so sry for you! I'm the oldest kid in my fam so I hope I dont have to go though that or make my fam go though that! PS- It will be okay and dont blame urself!
ChrisBrownlover on 7/17/2008 3:28:21 PM
schooltipper12466 on 7/17/2008 3:29:59 PM
oops i posted that twice!! =)
schooltipper12466 on 7/17/2008 3:35:07 PM
hey schooltipper your advice columns are pretty kool keep up the great work
blond.beauty on 7/17/2008 3:37:51 PM
i hope your mom feels better. hav u girls noticed that suddenly there are lots of ppl like schooltipper and beautytipper and gotaquestion?justaskme giving advice and stuff? that's nice of them, i guess. mod and girls: what's the best advice for when someone is mean to you? like if they call you a mean name, what can you do that they won't use against you??
i'malittleteapot on 7/17/2008 3:40:50 PM
THANKS SOOOO MUCH BLOND.BEAUTY!!! You have no idea how much that means to me!!
schooltipper12466 on 7/17/2008 3:42:06 PM
i'malittleteapot, Hey girl! I know how you feel! I have a REALLY italian last name, and i still get made fun of it!! What you do, you never give the person satisfaction, they want to see you embarrased, what i do, and that makes them stop, I say WOW,seriously?? You need to stop, it's getting old. That or just ignore them. And if someone is making me really mad, and they call me a name, just give them a simple response, like Whatever, i'm over it. And don't talk to them for the rest of the day
schooltipper12466 on 7/17/2008 3:50:33 PM
Schooltipper12466!! Wow! Your REALLY helpful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't wait untill school actually gets in and hear your tips!! And i really need to clean my desk lol!!! YOU ROCK!!! I can't wait to here your future tips!!!!!!!!!
flipflopdiva1234 on 7/17/2008 3:57:33 PM
MODS~~~~~ Hey! I have a pool in my back yard, and school starts on the 15 of August, if i swim in my pool everyday untill the 15th, and excercise in it, can i loose weight? And look thinner?? thanks!!
hey Girl! For sure! Just combine it with eating healthy! *cara T*
flipflopdiva1234 on 7/17/2008 4:04:21 PM
Hi, if you have any questions involving anything at all from fashion to family to boys i can totally help you and give you great advice when the mods are busy and cant get back to you me and the other advice girls can answer your questions! to contact me by email just check out my profile and email me at any time ill get back 2 u when i can and to schooltipper your advice is amazing you're a really nice person to help all those people!
I can answer your questions on 7/17/2008 4:07:45 PM
*********************MODERATOR********************** i really really really like this guy that goes to the all boys school across the street from me but im afraid hes only talking to me to be nice or he thinks im annoying or talks to him to much or something. i mean we talk like once or twice every 2 weeks and im almost always the first person to IM him. he talks A LOT though and hes really nice and funny but the fact that he doesnt IM me, makes me think that he doesnt want to talk to me. hes IMed me first 4 times total. also, sometimes he doesn't respond to my IMs. but a few weeks ago he told me to text him and he gave me his number...but then i didnt have a cell phone and besides...that was like 3 or 4 weeks ago. i just got mine back today, but im scared to text him!! what if he doesnt want to talk to me?? what do i do????? please help! thanx <3
sweetiehearts1212 on 7/17/2008 4:10:42 PM
MOD OR SOMEONE WHOS THERE PLEASE HELP URGENT I'm in a huge fight with my sister and I know she'll just not respond to any apology she'll give me what should i do?
mozzarellastick9 on 7/17/2008 4:19:16 PM
MOD! and girls! ok im going to a gymnastics camp in a couple weeks! well this will b the 4th time i go there. im like popular there b/c of my bro..and that bugs me cu i wish ppl liked me for me not b/c they think my bro is hot n stuff but o well not the point. well this year ik will b the best! all of the guys and me r really good friends, n i get to see my bff there who lives in another state (i drove up to see her with my fam on spring brake n she is a true bff cuz she gave up a trip to paris, london, and some other place to see me 4 one day!) the only prob is, that since everyone knows me i'm the target for LOTS of pranks! like last year i was sleeping n som1 put toilet paper all of my bunk! then a bunch of 18-20 year old guys w/ one to older like in the 40's year old guys put me on a table infront of the WHOLE camp and walked around...against my will! well this year ik that they r gunna do somthing BIG to me and im nervous. if i say dont do anything they will do somthing even WORSE to me! like they will hav a guy ask me to the dance then hav another guy ask me infront of the camp so that i cant say no! or somthing, or they will make me stand infront of the camp and do a dance like they did to me n a friend last year! im really afraid tho that they will take my clothes, makup, sleeping bag, bras, or if the find my pads or somthing! last year they took my swim suit and hid it w/ a good friend of mines. then they destroyd a cabin, and said it was me n the good friend so we had to spend 2 hours picking it up! i mean it was funny b/c everyone knew that we didnt do it, but since i am like roys sis they thot it was funny so i jsut laughed along, but i dont want to do that again. and last year they took some girls bras and put them all around the area we eat! and i dont want them to do that to my stuff! i was gunna just bring 1 bra but its a gym camp so u exercise and sweat a LOT, and im going 4 2 weeks! then there r 2 games we play, 1 is a guy where u hav to go from station to station doing mini games, and on ur way to the next station ppl can com up to u and hit (not hard) with a sack and u and ur partner hav to stay there and yell for a medic, wen the medic comes they put food anywhere! on ur body! (they dont like check out ur privates or anything b/c usually its guys) well they always go hard on me! such as they will team up where a guy hits me, his friends put food all over me, they let me n my friend walk 10 or more steps then repeat. i think its fun but somtimes they will no that im embarrassed to do things so they do them! such as wen i first wore a sports bra they knew i was embarassed about it so they would put stuff down my bak! (the guy would look up so they didnt see anything but i still was nervous! then they hav balloon fites! last year about 10 guys ganged up on me and 2 of my friends, and i was the target! and about 5 of the guys were on a roof! i had bruises on my bak (i was laughing the whole time tho!) im super srry that it was so long but please som1 help me! any tips on what to bring?! and any tips about how not to get pranked/ganged up on (i think its fun but somtimes it gets out of control, and even wen it does i cant help but laugh cuz i love it but i want it to tone down jsut a bit so that i dont hav bruises and get asked for the next 2 days 'if a guy threw me through a tree b/c my bro got on there nerves' or somthing dumb like that.) thank u all for soooooooooooo much ♥
tinkgirly on 7/17/2008 4:20:15 PM
DOSE anyone have tips for boring school lockers especially ideas that show of my love of the joe-bros and naked brothers band. Ha they both have brothers in their names. Thanks
littlemiss139 on 7/17/2008 4:22:09 PM
oochrissumzzoo - ok my parents r singers so i think i can help u. first b4 u sing dont eat any dairy products b4 singing b/c they can make it harder to sing. ur voice make crack b/c u dont hav enough air so u r pushing the notes out (even if u dont know it), or ur vocal cords my b dry so make sure that u always hav water b/c wen i dont hav enough water my throat gets like itchy scratchy-ish and then cracks. it can also b that ur vocal cords r sore b/c if u sing to much u can actually like tire them out or somtimes it can cause u to lose ur voice, and make the notes crack. hope i helpd
tinkgirly on 7/17/2008 4:29:17 PM
mozzarellastick9 , Hey! What happened!? I'm sooo sorry!! Why don't you write her a note? Or talk to your mom/dad and have them try and talk to her? soryy!
flipflopdiva1234 on 7/17/2008 4:29:53 PM
mozzarellastick9 - wen me and my bro hav fights i just leave him alone for a while somtimes like a day or so. if u both hav cells u can text her, or u can write her a note. right now i would jsut leave her alone n let her calm down a bit. hope i helped.
tinkgirly on 7/17/2008 4:31:28 PM
mozzarellastick9- hay i talked 2 u b4! yay! i get into a LOT of fights with my sis. i like 2 wait them out. i stay out of her way for a bit. give us both time 2 vent out. then later, when we r together, we either apologise, or we just pretend nothing happened. like, we'll both b sittin in the living room and we hear somethin funny on tv and we both start crakin up. idk y it works, but then we just start talkin again. idk if this will help or not bcuz the fights i get into with my sis r usually mild. but i wish the best 4 u! ♥ ya! (i happy cuz i can actually do a hart!!!!!)
larkibabi on 7/17/2008 4:33:36 PM
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