My best friend always tries to make me jealous with her comments and is always trying to "one up" me...why does she keep doing this to me?
BILL: We all experience a taste of jealousy from time to time, that’s perfectly normal—in moderation. But when a bud is deliberately gloating over grades, comparing clothing labels or bragging about her “perfect” boyfriend, she’s crossing a line. And that line is what divides good friends and not-so-good friends. That said, it’s possible your friend doesn’t do this intentionally. If she’s insecure, she might unwittingly try to make herself feel better by trying to get praise from you. Maybe she doesn’t think she’s as great, smart and popular as she pretends.
DAVE: Jealousy usually comes from a lack of self-confidence. Next time she says, “Don’t you wish your hair were as bangin’ as
mine?” call her on her envy-inducing ways. Tell her that, yes, she’s
awesome but, with all her great qualities, you wonder why she has to
broadcast it to the world. If your friend is as great as you think they are, they will be very considerate of your feelings and do everything they can to be a better friend after you call her out.
BY GL ON 8/19/2014 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bff, bad friend, 411 on fighting with friends, dealing with jealousy, advice from Bill and Dave, advice