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Best Of: Friends

Too Friendly: How to tame the flirt… before someone gets hurt

 

What’s up with your BFF? Lately, her clothes are super-tight, she’s an eyelash-batting pro and a little too touchy-feely with every boy on the basketball team—including your BF!


Hey, Whaddup?: Is your pal ultra-friendly by nature? What might appear as in-his-face flirty may be her innate Miss Congeniality personality. She could be fishing for attention, too. Either way, she probably doesn’t realize others get the wrong impression. Give your girl props for her warm ways, but gently tell her some of her moves (the playful arm grabbing or shirt tugging) cross over a line into a guy’s personal space.


Peeps are Chirpin’:  People in and out of your circle are talking about your girl—and it ain’t good. As a loyal BFF you’ve got her back, so bring the buzz to her attention. But do it with love. Let her know she can exit-ramp off the road to Bad Repsville by acting with tact and dressing appropriately (raid her closet—and yours—to show her that she can be tasteful and still look super-hot!).


Draw the Line: Point out to your pal that other girls (and even you) may be jealous of the face time she’s getting with the boys. Be sure she understands there are lines she should never cross. Warming up to the newly single class prez? Nice! Flirting with your guy or someone else’s? Not so much. If she cares about her friends, she won’t move in on already-claimed territory. She should practice her skills on a guy who isn’t off-limits.


Lighthearted Fun: Flirting can be harmless—as long as it’s done subtly. Coyly shooting a half-grin at the cutie in trig is a lot more appealing than tackily displayed booty. Give your girl snaps for having the guts to go after a guy, but even more props whenever she catches his eye without eliciting any unwanted attention along the way.


Be her No. 1: Be sure your bestest knows you’re her cheerleader in life. You want her to be who she is and be there for her in a sec if the time calls for advice or support. It’s important she knows you’re not criticizing—you just care about her.


-Patricia McNamara

BY ANDREA T. ON 4/17/2009 7:00:00 AM 18 COMMENTS

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I used to be like best friends with this girl, but then she got her first boyfriend. I was best friends with her through that time period of the breakup, but soon she started to get more... different. Slowly from bffl, to bff, to good friends, to friends, and now we are like barely friends. We are keeping in touch with her but she's not the sweet girl she used to be.

She's gained weight, and now she's wearing shorter tighter clothes, as well as being flirty as ever. She's boy-crazed and the ultimate flirt! I guess people change, and that sometimes you can't always trust girls.

I try to drop hints, but she just doesn't notice or gets angry.

simplyjustkelsey on 7/3/2009 8:19:09 PM

i had a friend like that and i tried to give her a hint and she didn't take it and i talked to her about it and she didn't care and then i couldn't stand to be around her anymore so we quit talking, but now we are (very) distant friends, but we like to hang out w/ a group of people together.

bluebirdprincess on 5/25/2009 1:35:07 PM

my friends the same way

peace.out.☺. on 5/20/2009 3:47:56 PM

ha ha! my friends think i flirt too much...

Volleyball_lover_12 on 5/17/2009 7:41:44 PM

MOD~ literally every girl is in love with my bf. hes tha perfect guy & totally a ladies man but im not comfortable with this cuz wen i tell a girl who im datin she sayz ooh hes fine or sumpin like dat...

 

Hey girl! Take it as a compliment! You're the one who's got him! They're all just jealous.

Jess H.

kkblondi.funsize on 4/27/2009 4:34:00 PM

MOD
My frann is just like that!! When i was dating this guy she was all over him! What should i do?? Should i tell her to stop or just not be her frann?




Hey babe, check this article out: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2009/04/16/BFF-stole-my-BF.aspx. 
katelin s.

SoccerCutie13 on 4/22/2009 6:54:05 PM

I have a friend like that her clothes r getting tighter and her makeup it wayyyyyyy to much and she's on every guy i'm here like hold up wat happened 2 u

Sarah Breezy on 4/21/2009 8:01:34 PM

peace out to every girl tht is staying single u guys rock dont let guys ruin ur life im saying this because me and my BBBFF dont talk tht much i mean less and less everyday because i always talk to my bf

tennisplaya on 4/20/2009 9:01:30 PM

me and my friend acts like were bffs and we are but 2 day we didnt even talk alot 2 each other we have every class togeter and we sit by each other in every class but we jus didnt talk y does this happen

tennisplaya on 4/20/2009 8:59:52 PM

wow thts interesting

tennisplaya on 4/20/2009 8:58:14 PM

~~~~~MOD~~~~~
My and my "bff" got into a big "fight", and had some issues about a month ago(won't go into detail) so basicaly we're not friends anymore, and i havn't been sitting at our usual lunch table, or hanging out with my "group" cuz she's always w/ them and it totally bugs me, cuz i can just see that the same thing that happened to me and her is gunna happen to them. i don't want to lose my other friends just because of her. wut should i do????????




Hey babe, just be yourself around the other friends and try not to talk about the drama with your bff. It's not fair to involve your other friends or make them chose so just try to work it out with her and just keep it between the two of you. It's ok to talk about how you feel about the situation with your friends, but don't make it seem like you're attacking her, ya know? 
katelin s.

TwilightIsMyLife454 on 4/20/2009 8:52:21 PM

MOD My friend is kind of like this, except I don't have a BF for her to do this to. But she has had 3 BF's in less than a month. Her first one, Scott, was nice and I have known him for a long time, but the thing is, they met like this year and she knew nothing about him, and two days after they started dating, they were kissing in the hallway. TWO DAYS!!! And then there was Dave, and I can't say anything about him because I don't know him that well, but they only lasted a week and a half because she felt that things wouldn't work meanwhile she was telling him that she loved him!! Now, she has moved onto Cory, and he is mean. I personally dislike him more than anything, because of his reputation with girls, alchohol and his past relationships. He used to date my BFF, but she brokeup with him because he was trying to go too far with her and she said enough is enough, which I am grateful that she did because when she told me what had happened, I hugged her and thanked her for making the best decision to get out of that relationship. Emily is scaring me and I don't want to lose my friend to a boy-crazy thing that has taken over her mind. How can I tell her that she needs to stop without hurting her because she is the talk of the cafeteria, but I can't bring myself to tell her what they are saying. Sorry this is so long** Thanks!

 

Hey girl! You def need to talk to her. Just tell her how you're feeling - that she seems to be going a little boy crazy lately and let her know what happened with your BFF and this guys Corey. Tell her that it hurts you to hear people talking about her so much but you feel like she should know.

Jess H.

canadian_girl22 on 4/20/2009 7:55:32 PM

This sounds kind of like one of my BFFs... Thanks GL

*Out of the Blue* on 4/19/2009 3:09:47 PM

hope ur friend gets better

chocolatelover13 on 4/19/2009 10:57:36 AM

ya my friend is sorta like that

girlzrock07 on 4/18/2009 11:38:56 AM

yikes i only have one friend kinda like this but she dresses okay, she is just really rough with guys... tomboy, more of.

hyperpuppy on 4/17/2009 9:07:32 PM

Good thing my friend's not like this at all

SummerRox on 4/17/2009 4:01:19 PM

first comment.

wednesday1408 on 12/9/2008 2:02:34 AM


    

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