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GIRL TALK: Wanna Be

When I was in 5th and 6th grade, I was on the top cheerleading squad. It was a BIG deal to every cheerleader. This squad would compete everywhere, and we were pretty good compared to the other elementary schools. Well, in junior high, I decided I didn’t want to continue cheer and so I joined color guard. Color Guard is a completely different sport than cheer and everyone is saying that color guard is full of a bunch of “wanna be cheerleaders” and that we only did color guard because we didn’t make cheer. I’m embarrassed to be on color guard now. What should I say?

-Allison

I think in life it is important to try new things to see if we are going to like it or not. If you aren’t enjoying yourself in the Color Guard, then I think it best to go back to cheerleading. However, if you are really enjoying yourself in Color Guard, do not let your friend opinions affect how you feel. At the end of the day, it’s all about making your self happy. Forget the opinions of others because most likely they are jealous or they are seeking attention in the wrong way. Girl, just tell them you like color guard and their harsh words do not mean anything to you.

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BY ANDREA T. ON 12/18/2008 3:21:00 PM 103 COMMENTS

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Color Guard is sooo not like cheerleading!!!! its actually harder!!!!! you have to be graceful like a ballerina, tough and strong like a lieutenant, and be in pain!!! especially if you get hit with flags sabers and rifles!!!! trust me guard members are not cheer leader wanna bes. plus in my oppinion guard is way harder then cheerleading.

panda_bear on 3/14/2009 10:06:07 PM

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i want to try cheerleading. sign up sheets should be comming up soon. i dont know if i want to do it or not. i go to a privite school and most all of the ppl that try out make it. only like 1 person from my class i kno is doing it and she rly wants me to do it too. ive thought long and hard and i kinda want to do it too! my mom wants me to do something and just not sit in on the bleachers. and im not good a bball! the jv squad is made up of mostly now 7th graders so theyd be on the squad with me. and most are nice. ill prob do volleyball and softball for sure. Can you help? thanks!!!!

14ab14 on 1/31/2009 1:37:36 AM

listen chica.... color guard isnt wannabe cheer squad, it takes a lot more skill and a lot more clothes. you need hand eye coordination and rhythm and color guard is really cool looking from the audience while cheerleading is screaming half naked chicks with pompoms and doesnt look near as awesome. Kudos for switching and dont let people get you down

MissPR2008 on 1/15/2009 12:32:13 AM

Personally, I say to just do what you like and be proud of it. I do a ton of different activities, some of which other people think are weird. I always get weird looks when i tell people that I'm in tumbling. But I absolutely love it, and that's all that matters to me. If you like colorguard, just stay with it and ignore other people who tell you that it's dumb. If it makes you happy, it's great!

SAgirl94 on 12/24/2008 4:29:07 PM

hey floridabeachchica526 color guard is where they use flags and do dances and cool stuff with (i think...im pretty sure)yeah..

mluver17 on 12/23/2008 6:55:58 PM

i wouldnt worry about what other people think just do what you want to they are probably jealous anyway!

Ms.EdwardCullen101 on 12/23/2008 5:57:16 PM

jaymedw, you are stupid. get over yourself. in my three years in high school i have never seen my school chose a cheerleader as homecoming or prom queen. however, one of our homecoming queens was a color guard member, and two of our prom queens were. so get off your little dream cloud and bite me.

tbird2010 on 12/23/2008 3:45:04 PM

Listen: Color Guard is cool. I'm in marching band, and it's sad because a lot of the band don't like the color guard because their popular and cool. but let me tell you that cheerleaders at my school have little to no meaning for us. they run around trying to be cool, and not doing much. i'm a junior in high school, and my sophomore year, one of our guard girls was chosen as homecoming queen. people are probably just jealous. the color guard at my school gets a lot more recognition at my school than the cheerleaders, because we are a top class band that wins all the time. and our color guard gets their fair share of awards. and they have to practice and work 10 times more than our cheerleaders, because their actually good.

push your color guard to be the best. people will respect you and your decision way more. maybe you can work in some super difficult cheerleading stuff in and show those snotty little girls who's boss. but whatever happens, have confidince in your decision and don't worry about other people.

tbird2010 on 12/23/2008 3:41:47 PM

ok i would love to say that color guard is the best thing i have ever done in my life and they are some of the best people you will know so don't listen to the people at your school believe me you will have better memories with this then cheerleading and dont be ashamed since secretly everone think guard is cooler

guardchick17 on 12/22/2008 10:04:41 PM

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Im just wondering if your doctors appt. after youve had your period is any different? what happens? PlEaSeee!!! do they do a pevic exam or whatever and look "down there" at all, or look at your breasts or anything?? pleasee helpp me!!

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eanderson012 on 12/22/2008 9:53:42 PM

who cares what they say? you are your own person with your own ideas of fun. just tell them why!!!!!!!!!!!peace- bre

bubbagirl on 12/22/2008 4:36:45 PM

Idk really...just say i can cheer..i can prove it anyday. and ya..this probly doesnt help much.. but good luck!

ashley4_ever on 12/22/2008 12:22:31 PM

You should do whatever you want! It doesn't matter what other people say about color guard. And they are NOT wannabe cheerleaders!!!

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chocolatelover13 on 12/22/2008 9:24:20 AM

pff, dont listen to them.
theyre prolly just jealous they couldnt make EITHER.
and idk what color guard is, but im sure its just as good as cheerleading.

have fun and if you like it, ignore those people. dont let them effect ur life.

purplecrazed on 12/22/2008 12:15:50 AM

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My friend cynthia and i were thinking about trying out for our school soccer team.(if we can afford it, its $250!) she's not nervous, but ive never tried out for school sports because ive always been scared i wouldnt make it. how can i make the team without being shy/embarrased?

hey girl, Work on some drills together and just sharpen your skills. The try out will probably just be some games and drills with the couch watching so just enjoy yourself and don't be scared! xo Annemarie

Annemarie D.

rockin_chick12 on 12/21/2008 7:59:11 PM

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musicrox on 12/21/2008 7:23:38 PM

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emmy_3 on 12/21/2008 7:23:04 PM

Who cares what they say! HELLO? You were once a cheerleader yourself ... you can;t be a wannabe b.c you are already in the "in" group! so cheer up ... think of the good side ... you might lead into a new trend, first a cheerleader the a color guard! G- luck btw ... wat is a color guard ?

xoxoRLxoxo on 12/21/2008 4:41:46 PM

if u wanna b on the color guard than go ahead i mean it really doesnt matter what the other peeps say cause u enjoy it and u no better than tht. and just think the people who say tht prob wouldnt make color guard n e way

shnitzel on a leaf on 12/21/2008 2:30:48 PM

Just say you like it better, you could also twirl baton.

groovey136 on 12/21/2008 1:48:08 PM

i totally get what you mean. i did chorus as my elective and everyone said it was for dorks but all my friends are in it, and it's so much fun. we hang out with each other and even our other guy friends are doing it! if that's what you wanna do, just do it and don't let others bring down your fun.

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supersweetie563 on 12/20/2008 8:35:30 PM

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voicememos on 12/20/2008 4:03:52 PM

I do color gaurd, and I enjoy it. I have had color gaurd in my genes ever since I was like 6- and I am almost 13 now. I really love it; and can't wait till we have our first competetion.
All the girls are sorta slow though, and I am ahead of everyone; so I am also thinking about quitting. I am sticking to my real sport- soccer.

peytonroxx24 on 12/20/2008 3:52:17 PM

ignore the people who calls you a wannabe, if you like being in the color guard, then be in the color guard and don' t care about what others think!

bunhead007 on 12/20/2008 2:06:32 PM

I did color guard and it was really fun. Don't let other people dictate your choices. Just do what you want to do.

dramaqueen531 on 12/20/2008 1:44:14 PM

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ever since I was 6 I wanted to act, but I never could, we were always kinda short on money to pay for acting lessons. There is a role I want to try out for in the upcoming movie New Moon. (Jane or another person I'm not going to say) anyways do u think I should send in a picture and a resamay? If i decide to, how should I ask my parents?

Lettuce on 12/19/2008 10:42:48 PM

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My friend acts like a We used to be best friends, but because I act more conservatively, she has kind of drifted. I tell her that she is sending wrong messages to people, but she doesn't always listen. This leads to emotional problems, so she calls me and cries, and she calls us best friends again. I have seen what being in young life can get you to when your older (long story) and I don't want her to end up like that. My mom says not to hang out with her because she'll get in trouble, and I'll be guilty by association, but I really want to help her. I know this is a long question, but what do I do? (And please don't say "guidance counselor"; our guidance counselor is not very good at her job.)

I think you should listen to your mom. Mother's know best! L

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dearmeohmy on 12/19/2008 9:41:20 PM

Be proud of who u are. they're just jealous. Color guard is so cool! so is cheerleading, so do what you like!

bandgirl on 12/19/2008 7:26:20 PM

if people are saying stuff like that about you Color Guard girls, then i think they are trying to make themselves sound cool... they are not worth worrying about they are "wanna be" populars, just ignore them. do what you want to, dont listen to them, and find a group of friends that support you and what you do!

addie

i<3ben1486 on 12/19/2008 4:31:21 PM

***singer4evr1494***
your so right. colorguard is probably one of the hardest and best experiences you could ever have, and not many people know that. i just finished my first year of marching band, (i'm a freshman) and it has A LOT of hard that gets put into it, but it was so worth it for all the competitions and football games. you meet a lot of new people, and it really makes you proud of what you do. people think its so easy, and that anyone can do it, when they're actually wrong. it took me MONTHS before i finally got the hang of everything. its sucha great experience, and i know this is something i'm gonna do for the rest of high school.

xX♥jonas♥brothers♥Xx on 12/19/2008 3:19:58 PM

*****jaymedw*****
hey, the comment you made on the colorguard advice, not cool. i'm in colorguard and we're def not geeks. in my high school, we love what we do and are against anyone who hates us and thinks we're "geeks". marching band is actually really awesome believe it or not. and the cheerleaders arent always all that. some of them are nice, but rarely, and in my school pretty much every single one of them is fake and stuck up. watch what you say next time. some of us are in colorguard, and we dont go around calling people "geeks" just because of something they do.

xX♥jonas♥brothers♥Xx on 12/19/2008 3:11:09 PM

If people know ur a really good cheerleader, then don't let the color guard talk get in your way of doing wat u like. ;)

fieldhockjock on 12/19/2008 1:13:01 PM

jaymedw,how do U know who's geeky and who isn't?who are u 2 decide that??????really gurl,kewl down.yeesh.

girlytomboy22 on 12/19/2008 12:42:28 PM

just tell everyone that you were a cheerleader, and you just wanted to do something different. and if you wante to be a cheerleader this year, you would have joined the squad, so basically, you're not a wanna-be.

hello kitty on 12/19/2008 9:50:19 AM

today is awesome!!! i live in the midwest and we don't have school today!!

sk8chick18 on 12/19/2008 9:27:42 AM

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i have a guy question. so there's this boy in my gym class. whenever he sees me, he'll come up to me and playfully shove me. sometimes, he'll even do it outside of gym. do u think he's flirting??

Hey girl, It sounds like he might be trying to get your attention and flirt. xo Annemarie

Annemarie D.

I<3DAVIE!!:) on 12/19/2008 8:02:51 AM

I don't like cheerleading at all.No offense.In my school it's like you have to be a cheerleader to be popular.I'm proud to be myself and walk off with my friends who actually care about me.

And you should continue colorguard if you enjoy it then do it,don't let other opinions hurt you .You're not them you are yourself!

AbercrombieQueenArtist on 12/19/2008 6:45:34 AM

MOD-I'm going to a Christmas party this week at my Grandma's and my cousin always complains to my gram that she doesn't get as much as me and my other cousins.Hers are more expensive then ares because she asked for me expensive things so she gets less.I really don't want to go through this again.
-AbercrombieQueenArtist

Hey girl, Why not give your cousin a card to let her know she is appreciate by everyone and it's just in her head? xo Annemarie

Annemarie D.

AbercrombieQueenArtist on 12/19/2008 6:42:59 AM

well i must say that this conversation has changed so much from the original topic which is very disappointing. I am a sophomore on colorguard. This is my 2nd year. Last year, my team won state champions in winterguard season and it was the first time ever. it was such a great experience as a freshman and when sophomore year rolled around...everything changed. things didn't seem to go well and it was very disappointing, but i realized that if i quit i would lose a big group of my friends. friends that would give me advice about anything, that i laughed until i cried with, that i had a class with every morning, spent most of my weekends with, they were my life. and when i was told that i had to quit to take voice lessons it was heart breaking to me. it was the hardest decision i ever had to make. yet, somehow things didn't let me quit. my counselor wasn't there, i got sick, and finally my band director told me i couldn't quit for certain obligations i had made. i realized then that i was meant to stay on guard. it is such a great experience and so much fun. no one can tell you what to do and you can't let people boss you around like that. stand up for what you want. it's your life.

singer4evr1494 on 12/19/2008 12:13:29 AM

mod mod mod ok so when i grow up i wanna be a news reporter on tv! we ran into when this summer and he said i could shadow him sometimes this christmas, and im gonna on monday!! what do you think i should wear? im not really sure what im doing but im guessing i should look kind of professional. thanks so much! xoxo

Try wearing a sweater and a knee-length pencil skirt with tights and flats. You want to look professional, but you should wear shoes that you can walk around in all day. -lauren

Lauren H.

ixheartxnickxj on 12/19/2008 12:01:11 AM

**MOD** and other GIRLIES!! Okay i have a major problem! I like theses two guys equally one is my boyfriend. but i wanna go out with both of them adn the one that isnt my boyfriend is making me chose between him or my current boyfriend and he was getting tired of waitign (so he says) and that he wants his answer NOW! i told him i would get back to him tomorrow! I got so emotional when he told me to chose! i dunno what to do! could you guys please help me! i am at the point of tears and my friends dont help me any, and its SO Hard for me to chose!! please HELP ME! Lots of LOVE! Reeses31416

Hey girl, you really do need to decide on a guy. It's really unfair to either of them. I know it's hard to do, but it has to be done. I think you need to choose the one you like more. If it helps, make a pro-con list. -lauren

Lauren H.

Reeses31416 on 12/18/2008 11:35:49 PM

mod****** guess what? im gonna be doing flag team in the marching band for my high school, the only marching band chosen from my state, in the inaguration parade (: i'm so excited!! what should i pack? we'll be sleeping somewhere overnight before the parade.

Bring pajamas and your toiletries. Have fun! -lauren

Lauren H.

i.love.cobra.starship! on 12/18/2008 11:18:44 PM

i'm on my flag team and winterguard team at my school, which is very similar to colorguard.

we are NOT wanna be cheerleaders, because the two are not linked in any way.

we fly flags because we love to do it.

so don't let anyone discourage you from being in colorguard. its great.

i.love.cobra.starship! on 12/18/2008 11:15:47 PM

color guard rocks!!! <3

jazzytapper on 12/18/2008 11:12:16 PM

ok...i say u do whatever u want to...my school doesnt have a color gaurd, but it looks SO fun...except im REALLY clumsy...haha...anyway just ignore the ppl who r rude and do what u want 2 do.

Cheerleading_Cutie20 on 12/18/2008 10:46:26 PM

MOD ugh im sooo mad! so i hav been going out with my bf max for a month n a half now. well tonite i had n xmas concert n i called him afterwards (hes a freshman im in 8th grade) well we decided to go out tomorow night or sunday. so i asked my mom which day would b better and she said sunday, then asked where we are going to i said "out to dinner probably" so she and my dad said "oh, we can just go out while u 2 are there then." so i yelled "no! u cant b there while we are! this is my special christmas date!!!!" then they were like "ok invite maxs parents n we can all go together" so i screamed "Dont u get it? i DONT Want u there! this is ME n MAXS night!! and i dont want u to ruin it! im growing up and i dont need u guys to go everywhere with me! LEAVE ME ALONE!" and then i stormed to my room. n they are like 'well if we cant go then u cant" wut do i do?! i cant sit down an talk to them! and its not like this is the 1st time theyve gone throught this! i hav 3 older sisters and 3 older brother, and a lil bro is starting to date and stuff! wut do i do?????

Try talking to your older siblings and ask them how they dealt with your parent's over-bearingness. Try seeing if your parents would want to come along on your date one night and then you and your bf could go on a date on your own at a different time. good luck! -lauren

Lauren H.

tinkgirly on 12/18/2008 10:40:56 PM

MODERATOR hi hi! I'm going to a super formal party at my bf's house (we are 16 and have been going out for almost 9 months) and i've never been to a formal party before. . . i have my wicked nice dress and all and generally i have good manners, but is there anything that i should really pay attention to so i dont make a huge fool out of myself in front of his entire extended family? ii met them once at a pool party and they liked me, but i'm just worried about doing something wrong! his family is much higher up than mine, they are very good with money, and do a lot of super nice things like this. Please give me some advice so i dont screw up the formal christmas party!!

I'm sure you'll be just fine. Don't spend your time thinking of yourself as "lower" than them because you're not. Just have fun and be kind and chatty with everyone. Good luck! -lauren

Lauren H.

GooGooDolls on 12/18/2008 10:32:21 PM

DANCING DIVA~~
you should! ive been cheering for 5 years and i LOVE IT!!
<3

Cheerleading_Cutie20 on 12/18/2008 10:27:52 PM

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