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I like this guy, and he likes me back. I think we’d like to go out together but have gotten our signals crossed and both fear rejection.

How can I give him the green light?

DAVE: Perhaps it’s time for straightforward talk rather than subtle flirting. Tell him you’d like to hang out. There’s an excellent chance he’ll go for it. Sometimes ya just gotta jump out of the plane and hope the parachute opens. In this case, it sounds like you’re probably in for a safe landing.

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Help! There's a guy friend I like. We're not exactly close, but we do get along well. So, I am in 7th grade, but in a math class of 8th graders. The only 7th graders in that class are me, my guy friend, and two other girls that I don't think he likes that much. One time, I heard someone ask him, "Hey, did you get "that girl" to ask you out yet?" After that, his face was RED. Considering I'm in that class with him and he was blushing, do you think he likes me? Or does he just blush a lot? Please reply soon!!!!

kirakira11 on 12/28/2009 12:07:05 PM

ok i need help.Theres this guy in my class that i like alot! But I think he doesnt like me back but I think thats ok. So whenever I see him with a one girl i get all jealous. How do I forget bout him and stop being jealous? Please tell me some advice

Hey girl, although it may not seem like it, there will be other guys. There will be guys out there who will feel the same way about you the way you feel about them. So when you see him with those other girls and start to get jealous, just remember your Mr. Perfect is out there.

Lynae P.

sakurakiss123 on 11/7/2009 12:38:51 AM

MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
K so there's this guy and my friends say he LOVES ME.
They think this because he stares at me, he worries about me, he said he was going to beat up his best friend just because he made fun of me, and whenever he sees me he just gets this huge grin on his face.
I think maybe he likes me but I don't know, what do you think???????
My friends also say that I should love him back? What do I say to them when they say that?
And what do I do if he does like me, 'cause I don't like him even though he's really nice and sweet and fun to be around and kinda cute...
PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey girl, sounds like this guy cares about you and that it could go both ways. The best way to handle the sitch, though? Let it go for now. Wait until he says something (if he says anything). When he does, really think about it. He may be a little bit of everything you're looking for, but if he's not, tell him politely that you like being friends. It's totes natural to care about your friends though. Wait for him to say if it's a bit more than just that.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

juliesbff212 on 9/10/2009 5:51:40 PM

I'm going through the same thing, my friends told me that I should wait until hes ready but...I don't want to have to wait...I would go for it! ask him out!

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newmooner99 on 6/21/2009 3:17:38 PM

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cutielola19 on 6/20/2009 7:01:22 AM

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cutielola19 on 6/20/2009 6:59:48 AM

Ok... so i need some mjr help from neone who might know wut to do. me and my ex have been pretty off and on, and he's invited me over sometimes to just hang and play soccer cuz we both love to. Nothin has relly happened between us, but we just like to play around sometimes, nothin serious. but we're really good friends... and it almost seems like were dating. So, i made the mistake of asking him out again, and he said no. wen we had like 3 days of school left he finally told me that he didnt want me the way i wanted him (even though he flirts nonstop w/ me), and it kinda broke my heart. I guess i was kinda getting clingy with him like he was my bf. So anyways, now its summer, and the weirdest thing is that every single day my ex has called me. EVERY SINGLE DAY. im tryin to like get over him but hes calling and seeing how im doing and everything, and its usually not short either. What do i do? i have so many mixed thoughts!!!
plz comment in any way!

hgelbie55 on 6/19/2009 7:02:14 PM

honey, i have so much bad luck with guys, i really don't know what to tell you.

dutchchica on 6/19/2009 1:35:46 PM

thanks brooke E.

fdacheerleader4 on 6/19/2009 12:49:37 PM

Bill and Dave are right chick! You need to get the trust! But also think about this "Am I ready to date?" Most girls say yes but then they freak out about every single thing with guys 4 ex: OMG he is talking to HER again!
Girls do that sometimes! Just be who you are no matter what and if he can't except it than his lose!
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Good luck chickie!
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chickiebeane on 6/19/2009 11:47:19 AM

MOD and girlies why do guys like girls that like girls? it doesnt really make scence to me! please help! thanks

Hey cutie,

It doesn't really make sense to me either! All I know is don't be one of those girls who are desperate for any kind of attention from guys! You are SOOOO much better than that!

Brooke E.

fdacheerleader4 on 6/19/2009 11:39:56 AM

see this is what i don't understand... if you like a guy and you know he likes you why cant you just ask him out? I guess its jst i'm not shy about my feelings at all

swimmerxox on 6/19/2009 7:15:08 AM

hey! i know exactly how u feel! just go for it!

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laneybug24 on 6/18/2009 8:38:46 PM

omg! i know how ya feel! try hanging out with him more! to get to know him better?

french frye on 6/18/2009 5:58:24 PM

wow! pretty much the exact same thing happened to me. just ask him if you wanna hang out sometime.

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supersweetie563 on 6/18/2009 3:22:47 PM

**MOD** Ive been friends with this guy for a while and we have gone out on a couple dates. I really like him but I feel like ever since we started dating the convesations have been stressed and I'm starting to think that we are better as friends. I'm not sure if this is how its gonna be or if its just the first date jitters. I've only been datin him for two weeks, so its probably too early to tell, but when do you think I should make the decision to continue with the relationship or tell hm that we r bettr as friends?

Hey girl! That's a tough sitch! I would wait a little longer to tell, but first instincts are generally right. Try talking to him about it. If you're close, he may understand. And if you both let out how your feeling, future dates and convos may feel more natural because you're both comfortable. Good luck, Kristen

Kristen Y.

gymgurl999 on 6/18/2009 10:00:23 AM

i love the puppy comparison! that's such a great way to look at it!

x-Synchronized-x on 6/18/2009 12:19:05 AM

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Some of my friends aren't supportive at all. Like say if i wanted to try out for soccer they would say "nah, your not that great at it. you'll just make a fool outta yourself." I try not to let them get me down, but its getting really discouraging, what should i do?
God bless~

Hey Girl, thats good that you try not to take everything they say so literally, but i think you should have a talk to them about it and let them it doesnt make you feel that great and that you would always support them no matter what. *Cara T*

Cara T.

me girl on 6/17/2009 10:22:13 PM

tell him you like him. then ask how he feels about you.

karenrocks2 on 6/17/2009 6:42:10 PM

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i have a question... okay so I'm going away for a month this summer,and I'm really gonna miss my boyfriend. i was thinking of making him a mix CD with songs like "half way around the world" and those sorta i-miss-you-cause-we're-apart songs. do you thinks this is a good idea, and do you have any song suggestions? thanks a ton

Hey girl, that's a great idea! As for song choices, you can always use any kind of romantic songs that express how much you like him. Don't limit it to songs that only say I miss you, but look at some other stuff too! <3 Jeannie

Jeannie L.

figureskater<3 on 6/17/2009 6:31:41 PM

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I made a HUGE mistake! I like this guy and I finally got the guts to tell him I love him. He was really cool about it but didn't like me back. Then he sent me an email saying that he thought about what I told him and said that he loves me. I started hallucinating because I've already been rejected before. So I asked him if he was positive and he said that he wasn't sure. I, then, told him , "If you don't know if you like me or not, then it's not true." He said it was brilliant advice and will use it but then one of my friends told asked him if he'd ever go out with me and he said, "Probably not. She stopped it before it started. I agree with what she was saying tho."
I know I made a big mistake and I regret it a BUNCH. But what do I do! I want to ask him out again, but I'm scared that he'll use my own advice on me.
Help plz!!

Hey girl, there is no way that this guy can use your advice on him because you know that you like him. Just talk to him and let him know that there was a misunderstanding because you were confused about his feelings towards you. Let him know that you really like him and you want to make it work if he's willing to (even if he's not 100% sure). After all, no relationship is perfect! <3 Jeannie

Jeannie L.

smileygrl333 on 6/17/2009 5:23:33 PM

OK so. My thirteenth birthday is in July. I'm going to have a pool party with a little less than thirty of my friends. I have a pool and we're going to set up a slip & slide. I'm having about 8 girls sleepover after in tents. My parents are even letting me buy those silicone bracelet things and they're going to say Libby's B-Day '09. It's going to be awesome. Any ideas on what to do at the party girlies or MOD????? thx..kisses.<33

LJSOCCER12 on 6/17/2009 3:31:36 PM

*MOD* *MOD* *MOD* me and this guy named andrew are really close and we call eachother brother and sister but theres a problem i like him more then a brother and he says he has a gf but i dont believe him because he wouldnt call me every night to say i loveyou sister he dont even hang around his gf or even calls her so i think he lieing because I think she would be mad if she found out or knew that he was saying that so im comfused does or doesnt he love more and does he have gf because were not really related and he says he loves me

Why not ask him straight up if he really has a gf? If you can tell he is uncomfortable while answering or doesn't have specifics like her name, interests, etc. then you know he is not telling the truth.

Brooke E.

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ClubMOD on 6/16/2009 10:32:41 PM

uh hi! i need an MOD!!!!
so idk how 2 flirt. and im shy. how can i overcome both of these???

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alexaprincess on 6/16/2009 10:08:02 PM

aww puppy love...

nevershoutnever<3 on 6/16/2009 8:58:49 PM

Annemarie
So yesterday i looked at this guy so someone in my class assumes i like him but idk if i do well i don't think i do then today i walked in and he was like look at my leg and then he was like he sparined it or something and then i was like good.
What does this mean?
Kayla xoxo

Hey, Girl! Sorry for the “stock”
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We’re approving your comments now so the girls can start offering
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daughtry fan on 6/16/2009 7:55:50 PM

Annemarie,
i text a lot but he doesn't have a cell yet
xoxo, D

laneybug24 on 6/16/2009 7:20:58 PM

*mod*

my bf alec is leaving for orlando tomorrow and we've talked twice over summer vacay so far and he's gonna be gone for over a week.

i'm really sad and don't really know if he likes me anymore. how do i stop being so glum? oh and i think that he is the first guy that i've ever actually loved.

thanx! xoxo,
D

Hey Girl, Do you text a lot? Try texting instead. Might be easier to chat with him. xo Annemarie

Annemarie D.

laneybug24 on 6/16/2009 7:07:17 PM

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There's a boy i really like and by some strange coincidence (or is it lol) I keep seeing him everywhere. At the store, he sat by me in school last year. I saw him at the pool and I even talked to him a little!! I really want to ask him out, but even if I did, it would sort of be long distance. I only see him sometimes at those few places I mentioned. And I'm not sure if we're even going to the same school together next year, which makes me kinda sad. I also really wonder if he likes me back. What should I do, and what are signs he likes me?

Hey chicky, I’m a busy bee facilitating
all the G-Blog jazz. Although I’d love to answer and chat with all
ya gals, it’s just not possible at the moment. I’m sure our lovely
bloggers here would love to help ya out with some great advice! Thanks
for understanding. ♥, Your Blog Patrol Babes

Annemarie D.

furuba97 on 6/16/2009 6:58:47 PM

thanks furuba97!

fdacheerleader4 on 6/16/2009 6:54:38 PM

Mod
Hey I have a question. When I click on, "What do other people see" on my profile, it says that "This profile is not publicly visible." How do I get people to see it and make it visible to the public? it's been like that for days. Thanks!!

Hey Girl, It could take up to a week for your profile to be visible. Be patient with the team- I think they are a lil bit behind. xo Annemarie

Annemarie D.

furuba97 on 6/16/2009 6:41:08 PM

hey cookiesandcream,

It was a smart thing to break up with him. If a boy makes u feel uncomfortable in any way, you should do what feels right. as for what to do, if u think you can face him again, I would talk to him face to face. But don't overdo it, like don't yell or anything. keep it cool and to the point. If he still doesn't leave you alone, you should tell someone, preferably an adult like your mom or dad, and really explain to them how u feel.

furuba97 on 6/16/2009 6:38:08 PM

I have a question, if ya dont mind =)

I met a boy on may 15th, and we kissed. i agreed to go out with im, and gave him my #. We texted and it was all really sweet, until he asked me to do things im so not ready to do (if you know what i mean). we had not even been on a date yet! I broke it off with him.

But, now, he keeps texting me, leaving me voicemails, telling me to give him a second chance. i told him to leave me alone once, but it still persisted. The other strange thing is that he only txts me now really late at night, like im his booty call.

my mom says ignor him. my best friend says to make up a fake boyfirend. my sister told me to tell him i had an older brother who would "take care of him". do you have any advice?

Im sorry this is so long!

cookiesandcream on 6/16/2009 6:31:23 PM

Heya about the girls liking girls thing i'm not sure why they r interested, but i guess they think things like catfights and things like that between girls r kinda hot. ya it sounds weird but i think it's the truth.

furuba97 on 6/16/2009 5:41:33 PM

MOD
why are guys so interested in girls liking other girls the guys always talk about it but whats so great about it for them??? please help!!!! thanks!!!!

Hey Babes, I'm not sure what you're talking about... ? xo Annemarie

Annemarie D.

fdacheerleader4 on 6/16/2009 4:54:05 PM

-----MOD----- I have my middle school graduation and graduation dance coming up. I'm wearing a light green dress with sparkles. I want to look really pretty, but I don't know how to do my hair. Its extremely straight (so straight people ask me if I straighten it, and I don't)so it won't curl. I might wear it in braids the whole day and take it out before graduation so its wavey, but I don't know what else to do to it after that. Also, I kind of want to wear makeup for it. I never wear makeup, but I want to look really good. I don't know how I should ask my mom if I could wear it because I don't know what she'd say. Lastly, (sorry this is taking so long) I wear glasses, but I think I look better without them. Should I ask my mom if I can not wear them? Thanks so much. <3

Hey girl,

Congrats on your graduation! Talk to your mom and see what she says about wearing makeup and your glasses. If she doesn't think you're old enough for makeup, she's probably right! As for your hair, try out different styles before the dance and decide which you think will look best with your dress! Have a great time!

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

Sadulin4495 on 6/16/2009 4:10:37 PM

One of my favorite things in GL is Bill and Dave! They make alot more sense then everything else! Peace out dudes!

roccolove05 on 6/16/2009 4:09:15 PM

omg thats sexual harassment in health my teacher said if someones bein touched in anyway that makes em uncomfortable then you could press charges for sexuall harassment. soo dont wait til the last minute because this is somthing seriouse you have to tell ur mom and make her get u to switch teachers b4 its too late & im sure u dont wanna c what could happen if u wait.

19livluv96 on 6/16/2009 2:45:57 PM

MOD!!!
ok so i have a few ?s
1. i gave this ? yesterday but it didn't get posted...is that cuz there might not have been a mod or something else?
2. ok so im friends with my crush. we smile at each other and tease each other sometimes. does this mean that we are flirting or that he might like me??
3. i have 2 classes with my crush. the first class we sometimes talk and the second class we talk a lot. we sit right by each other and my crush's bff (lets call him b) sits near us too. b said that my crush and i should go out. we looked at each other and laughed cuz the entire class saw and was listening. b asked if i liked my crush, obviously (!) i do but im a good enough actress that i could say no without blushing cuz i didn't want the entire class to know. then b said that my crush liked me. he turned bright red so did i. then he said that he didn't. (b jokes around a lot) do you think that cuz i didn't blush and i said i didn't like my crush he won't like me anymore? (btw i can't talk to him cuz this was on my last day of school...he doesn't have a phone either) also why did b do this?? i've known b for a while...
thanks so much! sorry for the long ?s

Hey chica,

To answer your questions:

1. Either it hasn't gone through yet or there was something in the question that wasn't appropriate. I hope I can answer your question now!

2. It might. To know for sure you might have to make the first move. Ask him to see a movie or hang out alone with you and see what happens.

3. It sounds like B thought he was being funny. If you want to find out how your crush really feels talk to him about it the next time you see him. Good luck!

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

Hershey on 6/16/2009 1:01:52 PM

Mod-

i dyed my hair today with an at-home thing. it turned out nice, but its not as bright as i wanted it to be. my hair is medium brown-dark brown, and i wanted auburn. my hair is pretty auburn now, but not as much as i like it... i'm going on vacay in cali next week and i will be @ disneyland when we take pics outside and stuff. will my new haircolor shine in the sun and make my hair look red? thanks!

treehugger74 on 6/16/2009 12:10:03 AM

MOD!

so 2morrow a group of friends and i r going to this amusement park. one of my friends has a huge crush on this guy going and she wants me 2 tell him that she likes him after we hang out...shouldnt she be the one telling him? idk what to do. please help. thanks

Little_Lucky_Gal on 6/15/2009 11:51:54 PM

mod mod mod!
its the sevnth grade and schools almost out! i am not coming back to the same school next year cuz i moved about 20 min. away. well me and my bffff became reallly close this year. at my farewell concert she came for me and we both cried and cried so on and so forth. i want to do something really suprising and great for her on the last day of school. i am already taking all the notes we have written to each other and cologing it and putting it in a frame i wrote her a 5 page letter but whats something really special for her. that doesnt cost alot of money??? thanks

Hey chica,

It already sounds like you've got some really great ideas! The best gifts are the most thoughtful ones. If you want to give her something else too, give her something that she can take everywhere that will remind her of you, like a necklace or a bracelet. Or you could give her some fun pens and stationary with your address already on it so she definitely won't forget to write!

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

loverbug164 on 6/15/2009 11:21:03 PM

me and my guy friend kinda know we like each other. today he actually told me he really liked me instead of my friends telling me and i told him i kinda like him cause im not sure how much i like him but i already told him im not allowed to go out i dont think so we probably wont go out anytime super soon...

prettypirate101 on 6/15/2009 8:19:48 PM

it dosen't hurt to try! whats the worst that can happen? him thinking your a complete WEIRDO for you asking that? (im not saying that you are a weirdo!)

~~~~mod~~~~

my crush is switching schools! i really liked him and never even had a chance for me to try to make him atleast like me as a good friend! well, let me just get to the point here, i cant get over it! i miss him too much! i am even nameing pretty all of my stuffed animals his name! help!

sparkleey on 6/15/2009 8:14:38 PM

Just ask him out, duh!

gladiator*girl on 6/15/2009 7:42:43 PM

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