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Group Gripes

 

Got group trouble? When you're in a close group there are always the one bestie that you never get along with. To make matters worse, if you decide to stop being friends with one pal you could lose everyone. How do you show end a friendship without breaking up the group?


I'm in this group of six friends. But there's this one girl who we all turned against last school year. That's a long story; now she's back in the group. But she still acts immature and mean, especially to me. The two of us fight a lot, and we've ended up screaming at each other a lot.


The only reason we stop is because our other friends tell us to cut it out. I think, personally, we really don't like each other. Everything mean she's ever done to me I remember, and it's been building up inside of me. I'm not sure if I want to stop being "best friends" with her, because I don't want to break up the group. I'm really confused, and my feelings have been hurt for weeks now. Can you give me advice?


BFF Fix-it: You and your crew seem like you are pretty close. This girl most likely feels vulnerable since she's been kicked out of the group before. She may hold a grudge against you because of what happened the year before even though she still wants to be in the group.


Try talking to another bestie in your group and see how they feel about the way she is acting. If she is mean to you, stick up for yourself. If your group doesn’t stick up for you either then you might need to rethink who your friends are and are not. Better yet? Make a whole bunch of whole friends. Sure, having one clique of close chicas is great, but reach out to some new girls. It'll be refreshing to have someone else to hang with outside of the group without the drama.


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BY CAITLIN R. ON 7/13/2009 7:00:00 AM 17 COMMENTS

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you should try to avoid all the drama, and you should always have back up friends on hand!

cliqegloss on 12/28/2009 1:15:27 AM

MMMMMMMMMMMMOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOODDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
I have two best friends and our boyfriends are best buds. is this a good thing or can it lead to bad things?
We Aare known as the 6 pack because we are all so close

 


Hey girl,

That's how it is for me too! There's nothing wrong with that! Don't go overthinking it, girl. Sounds like you've got the best of both worlds. Guy friends make the best bfs, in my opinion, and a super tight group like yours is fab! 


Best, Miliana

miliana b.

jessicaluvs on 8/17/2009 2:11:25 PM

mod, any ideas on how to make a notebook cute, but have the decorations stay on? I am a girly girl and I like to decorate!

 

Use fun markers and stickers...or krazy glue some stuff on so it stays put!

Caitlin R.

jayhawk94 on 8/14/2009 3:22:32 PM

MMMMMMOOOOOOOOOOOOOOODDDDDDDDDDDSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!! I'm starting at a new school and idk what to wear the first day. I'm 13 (14 in September) going into 8th grade and starting at public school. I have a sort of contemporary style and wear really out there combos of clothes (it still looks super cute together) I wear glasses (black and green..don't have to wear them ALL the time) I have long chesnut brown hair and hazel eyes. I love make-up too. I don't have a ton of money to be spending ( I love going to thrift stores and finding super cute clothes there, I like Kohl's and TJ Maxx too). What should I wear the first day of school? Please help ASAP!!! Thanks in advance! -Kat ♥

 

Hey girl,

Try something that's your style! Maybe a skirt with a pair of funky leggings and cute pair of flats. Hey keep checking GL for some super cute ideas too!

Mel

Melany T.

missgoodytwoshoes on 7/19/2009 7:34:27 PM

****MOD*****
i am having trouble with one of my good friends. she has seemed really down lately, so i asked her what was wrong. she told me it was cheerleading and that the other girls on the team are mean, so i gave her some advice and she started joking again and became her old self. then, a few days later, i saw her profile on myspace and it had this whole thing about "i'm so sad", "nobody can make it better", "i need to get away", etc. things along the depressed lines.
i have no idea what to think! she is kind of negetive already, but this is like WAY out of the ordinary for her. she can also be a little dramatic, so im thinking about just putting it behind me and talking to her again after she gets back from new york. but, then again, what if these things mean something more? i dont know if i should try to help her or to tell an adult (knowing her mom, she probably isnt even noticing) or get our other group of close friends to help. any advice?
thanks.

 

ask her! as one of her good friends, she'd be happy to know that you care, and that you're there to help her!

Katie P.

luvz2wrestle21 on 7/18/2009 9:31:01 PM

I'm starting at a new school and idk what to wear the first day. I'm 13 (14 in September) going into 8th grade and starting at public school. I have a sort of contemporary style and wear really out there combos of clothes (it still looks super cute together) I wear glasses (black and green..don't have to wear them ALL the time) I have long chesnut brown hair and hazel eyes. I love make-up too. I don't have a ton of money to be spending ( I love going to thrift stores and finding super cute clothes there, I like Kohl's and TJ Maxx too).

What should I wear the first day of school?

missgoodytwoshoes on 7/17/2009 1:53:40 PM

That's what happened to me. I eventually had to lose the whole group. Comment on my profile!

ILOVECAPECOD! on 7/16/2009 7:43:40 PM

MMMOOODDDSSS!!!

New school...what to do?

OK, so I'm thirteen (fourteen in September) and have gone to private Catholic school my whole life. But, now I'm going to public school for 8th grade and have no idea what to expect. i'm nervous cause the kids in my neighborhood that go there I don't hang out with (AT ALL) and I'm into theatre (A LOT) and music (A LOT) and I don't do sports, I'm a dancer. I have a really out there, sort of contemporary style and I'm nervous I won't be able to make friends and I won't fit in. What should I expect and what's a good way to make new friends and fit in, yet still be an individual?

-Kat

missgoodytwoshoes on 7/16/2009 2:07:44 PM

OK then.......

-Kat

missgoodytwoshoes on 7/16/2009 12:12:36 PM

MOD or anyone that can give good advice on frrinedship?????? k if you can help~~ all year i have been hanging out with the more popular girls of my group, but lately they have been really rude. They break rules (like shoplifting) and start all this drama. and recently they have been picking on me. they think its funny to make me mad. are these true friends??????

 

Hey girl,

They don't sound like true friends to me! Even you said they're breaking laws. You so don't want to get caught up in that drama. So ditch those total mean girls because they're not true besties!

Mel

Melany T.

diverchick on 7/16/2009 10:30:31 AM

OMG! totally like that too. I have two groups of friends now!

SharShar on 7/15/2009 10:53:22 PM

ya u dont have to be the bestest of freinds, just try to get along with her!

cutieme03 on 7/15/2009 9:58:56 PM

hey! Check out my profile and leave a comment please!!!

mlb.luver on 7/14/2009 4:04:16 PM

my sitch is kinda like that...us 3 girls hang out but lately the 3rd girl has been bossing us around and getting mad at us if we just joke with her, so me and the other girl mostly hang out now...

mlb.luver on 7/14/2009 4:03:43 PM

Stop being best friends if you don't like each other. Just try to get along.

Miss Me1023 on 7/14/2009 2:03:02 PM

Ur lucky that ur group is pretty close, except for that one girl but i'd totally try talking to ur other friends about this and see what they think

Check out my profile girls, and please leave a comment, thanks!

SportyGal on 7/13/2009 1:28:37 PM

Yay! 1st comment!

I have a couple of "besties" like that. Most of the time I just ignore them, or act like I have no idea who they are and what they're talking about. And if your friends won't stick up for you, I would just drop them. It's no point in acting buddy-buddy with girls you hate.

demifan1200 on 7/13/2009 11:57:41 AM


    

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