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Such a sweetheart!?

 

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I don't have a backbone and I know it, but now it's starting to catch up with me. Everyone says that I'm so sweet and wouldn't harm a fly. If I talk about doing something tough they always laugh. And I'm TIRED of it.


How do I get more of a backbone?


Hey girl,

It’s a great thing that people think of you as a sweetheart and genuinely nice girl, but of course it can be tough when people don't take you seriously when it comes to standing up for yourself!


Let your friends know that you love being known as the nice girl but at the same time you have another side too—which means you need to be respected when you say NO to something.


If something bothers you, speak up; don’t let it slide. Even something small, like your friends wanting to go out for sushi when you’re so not into it. Nicely suggest doing something else. “Hey guys, I’m a li’l sick of sushi, how about we try a game of bowling instead? I heard there’s fun music on Friday nights!” Offering your unique opinion plus a fun reason is a surefire way to get your friends to understand ya.


Remember, having a backbone doesn’t mean you necessarily have to be mean. Be firm, be fair, be honest, speak up and stick to your opinions. Your friends will be sure to catch on quick and see a whole new side of you!


-Cara T.

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MOD! I have a problem. I am sooooooooooo skinny and I eat sooooo much and I don't know how I don't bareley gain much weight, but I say it all goes in the toilet. I'm 12 and I way less than 85 pounds! What's wrong with me!?

 

 

Hey girly, what do you mean it all goes in the toilet? You're not throwing up are you? I just have to make sure. If not, some girls just have a high metabolism, and are skinnier than others. You'll shape out as you get older, and you won't always be as super skinny as you are now. If you're eating healthy and being active, then you have nothing to worry about! Smile

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Becca G.

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by hscmith on 8/15/2010 10:36:45 PM

 
 

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WOR

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by crazyskater15 on 11/25/2009 4:56:06 PM

 
 

There are definatley situations that call for asserting yourself.
The next time your friends say that you don't have a backbone, tell them that you don't want to come across as mean, but you really do have your own opinions, whether they are nice or not.
The most important thing to do is to is to be straight up with people instead of sitting in the background being trampled.
Hope this helps!
ky Smile

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by ky :) on 10/1/2009 4:47:36 PM

 
 

MOD
i have the same clothes from 7th and 6th grade and im going into 9th! i want new becasue they are worn n stuff but if i get rid of my stuff, i cant get more! i dont want crappy stuff




Hey, Girl! Sorry for the “stock”  message. We’re psyched you’re here but since this is a super busy time, mods aren’t able to answer personal advice or contest questions. We’re approving your comments now so the girls can start offering feedback right away! If you still have questions, please come back, we’re happy to help…or just let the other chicas answer now! (They give awesome advice, trust us!) Love and thanks! ♥, Your Blog Patrol Babes  
alexa e.

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by happyhamsters! on 8/19/2009 7:13:06 PM

 
 

nmmn. i think that wwell, u need2 stand up
check out my profile , thanks

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by happyhamsters! on 8/19/2009 7:10:32 PM

 
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