I could really use some help! My BFF is quite—how do I put it—well she is very conceited about her looks and other stuff. I don’t think she knows what the word modest means! Every time she talks to somebody new, she is begging to give them a picture of her. And she tells them that she is SUPER HOT, too. Sure, she is pretty, but i wouldn’t say super hot.
And she told me that she flirts with guys purposely, even if she doesn’t like them. I also just got a new BF who she thinks is HOT, and she is always telling him to call her, and wants him to see a picture of her, and she always seems to be half flirting with him, which annoys the heck out of me. He’s my new boyfriend!
And then she thinks she is the BEST singer there ever was, ever. Every time somebody mentions singing for something, she just automatically thinks she’s got a spot and would be perfect for it. Like the other day me and my friends were like lets start a band, and the first thing she says is, "I’m gonna be the lead singer," which made me soooo mad because she hits so many weird notes and everyone still likes it. I’m a singer as well, and she didn’t even consider me, at all!!!
And the thing that really gets to me is that whenever you try telling her something is wrong with her, she goes into denial mode, and her response is all "whatever," like she doesn’t care. This makes me so mad because you know she isn’t listening to what you're saying, and that if you try to say it again she’ll just get REALLY mad at you because she refuses to think anything is wrong with her, except for that fact that she calls herself fat a lot. Whenever that happens, I feel like telling her to shut up because she is sooo not fat!!! OMG! That was a whole lot, sorry, but its true!
It’s great for a girl to have confidence in herself, but sometimes it can be taken way too far—to the point of being conceited or just plain snobby. Sometimes it’s just in a girl’s personality to flatter herself or fish for attention (especially if she's actually a little self-conscious), and you just have to let it roll off your shoulders. But when a girl, especially someone who is supposed to be your friend, starts moving in on your boyfriend, that’s when you have to speak up. Tell her (calmly) that you feel like she’s been flirting with your boyfriend, and you don’t appreciate it, considering she’s your friend and all. Maybe she doesn’t realize her actions and will stop.
You might even want to talk to your boyfriend about it, too, and if it’s been making him uncomfortable, maybe he could say something to her. If he likes the attention he’s getting from her, or your friend won’t back off, you may have some reconsidering to do as far as who really cares about you. As for the singing, people sound different to themselves in their heads than they really do to others. Maybe she thinks she’s a great singer, because she hasn’t really heard herself. Try getting her to record herself singing, and then get her to listen to it. Maybe she’ll realize she isn’t the next American Idol after all. If not, the next time she tries to steal the limelight, try arranging songs that have equal singing time with several singers, that way everyone gets a chance.
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POSTED ON 7/29/2009 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bust my bestie problem, bragging bestie