So there's this older kid on my BF's bus and he won’t leave my BF
alone! Apparently he calls him names and hits him, but my BF only tells
me and his parents.
He's getting really sick of it and his parents told
him to beat the kid up (which I do NOT agree with). He asked me if I
would be mad if he did this and I said no. But maybe I should have said
yes? Because I'm worried that he will get hurt, or in really big
What should I do? I don't think this is the right way for him
to handle the situation. I tried giving hints to him to show him how I
feel, but you know how boys are!
Violence is definitely not the answer and I’m really glad you recognize
this. Bullying is also totally not cool and your BF needs to stand up
for himself. But that doesn’t mean he has to throw any punches. In
fact, he’d probably more effective if he talked to the bullies and told
them to stop calling him names than if he were to hit them.
However, if the peaceful approach doesn’t work, then your BF needs to
tell someone in authority, such as a teacher, a coach or school
counselor. It may be a little hard for him to do this, so it’s extra
important that you be there for him and that you’re 100 percent
supportive. He needs you now more than ever. Let him know that you care
about him and that you really don’t want him to get hurt.
Hopefully he’ll respect you and respect himself enough to stand up to
these guys. Most people who are bullies have self-esteem issues and are
insecure, so they pick on other kids to make themselves feel better. If
your BF lets them know he’s had enough, then the bullies will more than
likely lose interest and leave him alone.
Lots of love,
POSTED ON 8/16/2009 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bullying 101