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You had a super clingy BFF and just couldn’t take it anymore, so you called her out on it. You said you wanted some space, but she got majorly mad and won’t talk to you—it’s BFFs or nothing! You’d rather have something in between those two extremes, so should you try and compromise or move on?

  My (former) best friend was stuck to me like glue. Physically. I got really claustrophobic from her being around so much and I asked for space nicely because I was getting kind of annoyed. But she overreacted and said, "Fine! I will leave you forever!" We had a long argument and now she won’t talk to me.

I told her I don’t want to be her BFF but I also don’t want to be enemies—just somewhere in the middle. But for her, she has to have one or the other. Now that she won’t talk to me she thinks I’m a snob and won't make things better. Help!

  BFF Fix-it: A clingy chica is a no-no in any friend sitch. Every girl needs her space and seems like your pal doesn’t understand where you’re coming from. Sounds like she was dependent on you more than you realized and it’s hard for her to see you go—or to understand a friendship where you're not together 24/7.

If you don’t want to be BFFs again, don’t agree to it just because you feel bad. Give her some time to think things over and maybe she’ll be more open to the idea of being just friends. If she got so attached to your friendship, she prob doesn’t realize there's a medium. Time and space will help both of you think things through.

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 8/17/2009 10:27:00 AM 15 COMMENTS

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maybe she feels lonely without u. u can tell her that you were sorry you said that, u do not need to be her bff, just ask her if u can be frnds again, then instead of letting her stick to you alone, u can let her join your GROUP of friends. This way, she won't be left out, and yet she can't stick to you!!

eva.p on 1/7/2010 6:14:36 AM

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cheytai on 10/25/2009 10:38:16 AM

mod mod mod!!!!!! me and my friend lets call her j both have boyfriends t and i (who are best buddies) well i invited some girls over to hang out and i didnt invite her because she has a fab life and she rubs every aspect of it into my face and i was sick of it well she found out about it, prank called me all weekend, and told her boyfriend all about my backstabing and now my boyfriends mad at me!!! i need advice

Hey girlie,

Honestly you're allowed to invite whoever you want over to your house. It's okay not to always invite the same friends over. But you do need to deal with your issues of jealousy about your friends life. She might not even realize that she is bragging. Talk to her and tell her that sometimes when she goes on and on about how good her life is, it makes you feel like she's bragging. See what she says when you are honest with her.

Good luck!

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beach blondie on 9/23/2009 1:23:39 PM

Will someone give me some advice on this please?: ok so this girl i have went to school w/ since elementary scool moved then came back. to put it nicly, i cant stand her. she has a locker next to mine and stands w/ one foot infront of my locker so i cant get my stuff. she always makes mean comments about me and my friends and it really miffs me off. ive tried ignoring her and telling a teacher and tring to get a different locker and talking to her but it doesnt work. she also shoves me in the halls even if she has to swerve to do so. so ive gotten to where i just shove back. lately shes been hitting me and pretty soon i know im going to lose my temper and hit her. which will only get me in trouble. how can i get rid of her? sorry its so long.

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lls_13 on 8/20/2009 9:40:07 AM

wow! i had pretty much the same prob.my ex-bff said if i didn't hang w/ her all the time on wednesdays(we only saw each other at wed. church),she wouldn't come anymore.i told her i couldn't just be w/ her all the time.she said if that was how i was going to be,then the freindship was over.that was all.

morgo1300 on 8/19/2009 3:45:22 PM

Man, after reading this I understand how my BFF felt...

MathGirl98 on 8/19/2009 9:56:54 AM

Wow so much drama! but yeah just give her time and space (even though she didnt give u any) to think about it.

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SportyGal on 8/18/2009 9:15:40 AM

i have a friend just like that!

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HawaiiLuver on 8/17/2009 9:35:34 PM

I had a problem like this. There's no need for a big show about it. Just slowly distance yourself from the friend for a bit. Once she finds some new friends, you two should be able to hang again.

BubbaleeEmalee123 on 8/17/2009 6:48:28 PM

I had that kind of friend once. I eventually ended up switching schools without telling; it had gotten so bad that I was afraid that she would follow me.

Somebody on 8/17/2009 3:57:52 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD hi. ok, my prob is similar to this, but not really. im actually the clingy one sometimes. i just feel really insecure about myself, so i can kinda tend to latch on to people. i dont overreact that much, but i can tell that sometimes people get annoying by me. how can i stop feeling so insecure and have the need to cling? for example of my clingyness, i get SUPER upset if one of my friends stands me up... but i think its just because it makes me feel so low about myself, that im not worthy of their time so they just didnt bother calling or watever. how can i stop the need to cling?? thanks so much!! MOD MOD MOD MOD

Hey girl! To stop the clinging, you first need to work on the bigger problem: your low self-esteem. If your friends can't hang out, it's not because they don't want to hang with you. Try to focus on the positive. Instead of looking at all the things you don't like about yourself, concentrate on the good things. if you get a good grade or look especially cute one day, congrats to you! Spend time doing things you enjoy and that you're good at. This will keep you busy and help build up your confidence. Good luck. Kristen

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crkickgirl on 8/17/2009 3:10:04 PM

maybe she just doesnt understand how you feel. obviously she is taking it the wrong way. tell her u want to be friends or BFFs and make sure u tell her that u just think she doesnt need to be around u so much......

cutieme03 on 8/17/2009 11:29:05 AM

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